All feelings are valid - but that does not mean that every potential reaction to said feelings is acceptable and justifiable. You are allowed to feel whatever you feel but you still gotta behave.

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All feelings are valid - but that does not mean that every potential reaction to said feelings is acceptable and justifiable. You are allowed to feel whatever you feel but you still gotta behave.
im doing my laundry which means im not mentally ill anymore!!!!!!! see y'all depresseds later!!!!!! you bitches can't even SPELL neurotypical!!!!!!!!!
I wasnt loved as a child so now I'm evil and dont go to bed on time
You are doing better than you think you are.
When I was a kid I had a reputation for faking sick because nothing much seemed to be wrong with me. Years later I found out my symptoms were psychosomatic due to the constant stress of untreated mental health issues. I spent 20 years in chronic pain because the adults around me just saw a child who didnât want to be in class
Listen to your goddamn kids.
Pain happens for a reason. When you tell kids to âsuck it up and stop complainingâ, when you accuse them of lying, you are training them to ignore their pain. You are setting them up to damage themselves in the future by ignoring the signs that something is wrong, because youâve taught them that itâs ânormalâ for them to be unhappy and in distress. They will have serious preventable medical emergencies, resulting in breakdowns, hospitalizations, or other major life disruptions, because you taught them to allow things to get worse. Because you taught them to suck it up, so they did, and it almost killed them.Â
Do not do this to your children.Â
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SELF-CARE TIPS FOR COLLEGE
- Have at least 8 glasses of water every day, donât forget to eat, and take your medications.
- Energize and take 20 deep breaths every day.
- Love your life every day.
1 - Do what you love:
What brings you joy? Â What youâre passionate about? Take time to tap into your humanity and your creative side, every day.
2 - Reevaluate where you are in your life.
Is this where you want to be? Â Shape your own career path. Â Academia is not the end all be all for any of us. Think about your short- and long-term goals every day.
3 - Set priorities and boundaries â without apology.
Remove toxic people from your life. Block out times to take care of yourself and make self-care just as much of a priority (or perhaps even more so) than other aspects of your life.
4 - Get new role models not role-martyrs.
Stop glorifying people who gave it all until there was nothing left a long time ago. Â Make your role models people who make time for themselves, for family, and for friendships.
5 - Create a wellness manifesto and community.
Hold yourself to this mantra, and check in with a community that keeps you accountable.
6 - Treat yourself
A cookie, a cup of coffee will do.
7 - Unplug for a few hours
Social media can be fun, but it can be too much of a distraction. Try to unplug your phone, laptop and iPad for an hour. Try to read a book or spend time with friends.
8 - Sleep enough.
Your health is important, prioritize yourself.
9 - Spend time outside
It helps clear your mind, helps you focus on the positives. You return calmer and more focused.
10 - Be with loved ones.
They make you feel better, and give support. You deserve to be surrounded with people who make you happy.
11 - Spend some time by yourself.
Everyone is different, you might want to spend time with people, and some time by yourself. Read a book, ride a bike, take a shower, doing things that make you feel like yourself. Admire your accomplishments and celebrate with aromatherapy every day. Hum for short intervals of time every day. Itâs very calming and supports heart health.
12 - Add what helps you âŠ
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one of the first laws that needs to go when we abolish the police nationwide is loitering laws. thereâs absolutely no reason the state should be able to arrest and fine me for like. existing in public.
and it goes without saying that these laws are used to target black people as well as the homeless
And laws against sleeping in cars. Not only is it used to target homeless people who may have no choice but to sleep in a car, it is also very dangerous and promotes driving while tired.
loitering and vagrancy laws are rooted in the black codes that were enacted mainly in 1865-6 following the civil war explicitly as a means of arresting free black people and incarcerating them as a source of involuntary unpaid labor to replace the institution of slavery that had just been abolished
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Letâs play, âwas I abusedâ game! Reblog and bold the things your parents have done to you! Italicize if youâre not sure. (copy paste it all and then bold)
Physical abuse
parent slapped me to prove their point/teach me a lesson
parent spanked me as a âpunishmentâ saying it was for my own good
parent pulled on my hair to force me to move
parent threw things at me while angry, things heavy enough to hurt me
parent trapped me into a room/corner so I couldnât escape them
parent hit me when I wouldnât obey them/tried to confront them
parent used a twig/stick/belt to lash at my body
parent grabbed me to force me to pay attention to them
parent pinned me down and physically prevented me from escaping
parent brought me into situations where I feared for my life
parent made it painfully obvious for me that Iâll obey them or suffer injuries
parent threatened to beat me if I wouldnât do as they say
parent forcefully fed me something I refused to eatÂ
parent made an attempt at strangling/drowning/burning me
parent banged my head/body into the wall/furniture
parent forced me into sexual activities
Emotional abuse
parent called me derogatory names and slurs more than once
parent said my name mostly with hatred and scorn in their voice
parent degraded and humiliated me in front of others for fun
parent insulted and devalued something really important to me
parent deprived me of something that meant the world to me
parent yelled and swore at me in anger more than once
parent blamed me for things that were out of my control/not my fault
parent shamed me for my physical appearance
parent guilt-tripped me for not pleasing them well enough
parent regarded me as a burden, and shamed me for needing them at all
parent insisted I couldnât take a joke after I got hurt from their insults
parent never comforted me/got angry if I reached for comfort
parent punished me for crying/showing fear/showing trauma symptoms
parent humiliated me for showing excitement and happiness
parent subtly let me know that my feelings and my problems donât matter
parent got angry at me for feeling depressed/angry/tired/suicidal
parent blamed me for feeling depressed/angry/tired/suicidal
parent compared me to cousins/other children to prove how Iâm the worst
parent decided for me how I feel when it was convenient for them
parent told me that I was crazy/delusional/need to be locked away
parent threatened me with kicking me out/sending away if I donât change
parent refused to accept my sexuality/tried to force it to change
parent required for me to act normal to protect familyâs reputation
parent isolated me from family activities they all enjoy
parent assured me that nobody will ever want meÂ
parent insisted that I was lucky and that I could have had it much worse
parent made me responsible for their well being and made me the caretaker
parent insisted that their harmful acts were all made âout of loveâ
parent demanded me to be available for their requests at any time
parent punished me for trying to establish boundaries
parent destroyed my belongings as a revenge
parent made inappropriate sex jokes and comments in my presence
parent denied doing any of this and insists that all the blame is on me
Psychological Abuse
parent kept pointing out my flaws as proofs that I wont achieve anything
parent called me stupid, incompetent, ignorant, while withholding information that I needed to know in order to complete tasks
parent would change their side of the agreement in crucial moment and then pretend it was obvious from the start
parent stalked me/distrusted me without any reason/invaded my privacy
parent attacked my insecurities and vulnerabilities in any argument
parent forced me into degrading actions while they watched me do itÂ
parent threatened to leave me
parent accused me regularly of behaving the way they did
parent never acknowledged, praised or approved of my actions
parent always demanded they are right without any proof/explanation
parent insisted that theyâre a great parent using financial support as proof
parent insisted that I should be grateful for how good they are to me
parent gaslighted me and tried to make me believe my memories werenât real if I confronted them with what they did
Neglect
parent didnât notice I havenât been eating properly
parent didnât notice I was sick/didnât care for me while I was sick
parent didnât notice I was injured
parent didnât notice I didnât have clothes/shoes I needed for school
parent didnât notice I suffered from traumaÂ
parent didnât notice I was anxious and stressed
parent didnât notice I was depressed
parent didnât notice I was cutting myself
parent didnât notice I was suicidal
parent didnât notice I was being sexually abused
parent didnât notice I was being bullied
parent failed to get me medical attention when it was needed
parent failed to teach me the very basics of self care
parent didnât seem to notice any of my needs and feelings except the absolute minimum I required to survive
when I notified them of these things, they denied it, accused me of lying, decided it wasnât happening and/or blamed me for it
Financial Abuse
parent made me feel ashamed for needing money
parent made me feel like Iâm a financial burden to them
parent only gave me minimal money to surviveÂ
parent made sure I never have a decent amount of money on me
parent took the money I earned from me
parent used the money to blackmail me (if you continue this way letâs see who will pay for your bus ticket!)
parent insisted since they âpay for my stuffâ they have the right to control my behaviour and actions
parent had enough money for luxury but kept me without anything
parent refused to get my medicine/get me medical attention because itâs too expensive while they got everything for themselves
parent would keep me anxious over if they would pay my expenses or not
parent would make me do as much work for them as possible before they would pay for a necessity
parent kept me in the dark over family finances even when I was of age
parent would make sure I never have enough money to escape them
If you bold more than 5 things, you have been through abuse. For some particular ones, even one true thing on this list means youâve been badly harmed by your parents. Also this list is not complete, there are many more abusive behaviours not listed here, feel free to add!
Physical abuse
parent slapped me to prove their point/teach me a lesson
parent spanked me as a âpunishmentâ saying it was for my own good
parent pulled on my hair to force me to move
parent threw things at me while angry, things heavy enough to hurt me
parent trapped me into a room/corner so I couldnât escape them
parent hit me when I wouldnât obey them/tried to confront them
parent used a twig/stick/belt to lash at my body
parent grabbed me to force me to pay attention to them
parent pinned me down and physically prevented me from escaping
parent brought me into situations where I feared for my life
parent made it painfully obvious for me that Iâll obey them or suffer injuries
parent threatened to beat me if I wouldnât do as they say
parent forcefully fed me something I refused to eat
parent made an attempt at strangling/drowning/burning me
parent banged my head/body into the wall/furniture
parent forced me into sexual activities
Emotional abuse
parent called me derogatory names and slurs more than once
parent said my name mostly with hatred and scorn in their voice
parent degraded and humiliated me in front of others for fun
parent insulted and devalued something really important to me
parent deprived me of something that meant the world to me
parent yelled and swore at me in anger more than once
parent blamed me for things that were out of my control/not my fault
parent shamed me for my physical appearance
parent guilt-tripped me for not pleasing them well enough
parent regarded me as a burden, and shamed me for needing them at all
parent insisted I couldnât take a joke after I got hurt from their insults
parent never comforted me/got angry if I reached for comfort
parent punished me for crying/showing fear/showing trauma symptoms
parent humiliated me for showing excitement and happiness
parent subtly let me know that my feelings and my problems donât matter
parent got angry at me for feeling depressed/angry/tired/suicidal
parent blamed me for feeling depressed/angry/tired/suicidal
parent compared me to cousins/other children to prove how Iâm the worst
parent decided for me how I feel when it was convenient for them
parent told me that I was crazy/delusional/need to be locked away
parent threatened me with kicking me out/sending away if I donât change
parent refused to accept my sexuality/tried to force it to change
parent required for me to act normal to protect familyâs reputation
parent isolated me from family activities they all enjoy
parent assured me that nobody will ever want me
parent insisted that I was lucky and that I could have had it much worse
parent made me responsible for their well being and made me the caretaker
parent insisted that their harmful acts were all made âout of loveâ
parent demanded me to be available for their requests at any time
parent punished me for trying to establish boundaries
parent destroyed my belongings as a revenge
parent made inappropriate sex jokes and comments in my presence
parent denied doing any of this and insists that all the blame is on me
Psychological Abuse
parent kept pointing out my flaws as proofs that I wont achieve anything
parent called me stupid, incompetent, ignorant, while withholding information that I needed to know in order to complete tasks
parent would change their side of the agreement in crucial moment and then pretend it was obvious from the start
parent stalked me/distrusted me without any reason/invaded my privacy
parent attacked my insecurities and vulnerabilities in any argument
parent forced me into degrading actions while they watched me do it
parent threatened to leave me
parent accused me regularly of behaving the way they did
parent never acknowledged, praised or approved of my actions
parent always demanded they are right without any proof/explanation
parent insisted that theyâre a great parent using financial support as proof
parent insisted that I should be grateful for how good they are to me
parent gaslighted me and tried to make me believe my memories werenât real if I confronted them with what they did
Neglect
parent didnât notice I havenât been eating properly
parent didnât notice I was sick/didnât care for me while I was sick
parent didnât notice I was injured
parent didnât notice I didnât have clothes/shoes I needed for school
parent didnât notice I suffered from trauma
parent didnât notice I was anxious and stressed
parent didnât notice I was depressed
parent didnât notice I was cutting myself
parent didnât notice I was suicidal
parent didnât notice I was being sexually abused
parent didnât notice I was being bullied
parent failed to get me medical attention when it was needed
parent failed to teach me the very basics of self care
parent didnât seem to notice any of my needs and feelings except the absolute minimum I required to survive
when I notified them of these things, they denied it, accused me of lying, decided it wasnât happening and/or blamed me for it
Financial Abuse
parent made me feel ashamed for needing money
parent made me feel like Iâm a financial burden to them
parent only gave me minimal money to survive
parent made sure I never have a decent amount of money on me
parent took the money I earned from me
parent used the money to blackmail me (if you continue this way letâs see who will pay for your bus ticket!)
parent insisted since they âpay for my stuffâ they have the right to control my behaviour and actions
parent had enough money for luxury but kept me without anything
parent refused to get my medicine/get me medical attention because itâs too expensive while they got everything for themselves
parent would keep me anxious over if they would pay my expenses or not
parent would make me do as much work for them as possible before they would pay for a necessity
parent kept me in the dark over family finances even when I was of age
parent would make sure I never have enough money to escape them
Iâve Survived Every Bad Day Iâve Ever Had, Motherfucker!!!
The thing I hate most about depression is that it tricks you into thinking you donât have depression. It makes you think that nothing is wrong with you, that you just feel this way because you lack value as a person. Whether thatâs in your relationships, your academics, or a view of yourself, it makes you think you arenât good enough for any of that.
âItâs not the illness,â it says, âYou feel this way because itâs who you are.â
âMental illness is like fighting a war where the enemyâs strategy is to convince you that the war isnât actually happening.â
Me: I canât get out of bed today, what is wrong with me. Iâm so lazy and terrible and I am a huge flake and there has got to be something wrong with me. My brain: There is no war in Ba Sing Se.
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