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[notbecauseofvictories]

A customer contacted our team with questions, and then finished their email with: "I am daunted by the complexities and unknowns." I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since.

[cameoappearance]

Reblog if you are daunted by the complexities and unknowns

[joycomplexx]

by the way it's fine to like sexual content just for the sake of it. "we can't ban porn because other stuff will get banned" "sometimes nude art has value" "the government will classify queer people as sexual" this is all true but it's okay to just like porn. its okay to not want porn to be banned because you like it.

[thesituation]

my 100% failproof way to handle reactionaries asking why i don’t shave at all is going “because i don’t want to” it works because what they really want is an argument about the merits of feminism, and they’ll draw it out and try to convince you it’s a cult or whatever, but you can avoid it all by sticking to “i just don’t wanna. don’t feel like it” and if they argue with you about it you can use your ultimate ability, which is “i’m sorry i thought it was a free country?” which, believe me, they cannot come back from. they’ll either drop it or start harping on something you didn’t say, and it’s important you don’t take the bait at that point. when they can’t argue with what you say, they assume your beliefs and attack those. and you crucially must be visibly baffled at their change of direction because it will make them seem and possibly feel crazy (which they are). “i don’t want to shave” is a perfect response because truly it all comes down to autonomy and the ability to do what you want. they’ll try to say “feminism makes you think you have to do that” and it’s important to not take that bait. to reiterate that you don’t know what they mean and you just don’t like shaving and that it’s really weird to look into it that deep. this works i promise

[cheaphalloweencostume]

if i had to give a single piece of writing advice it’s to throw the entire thought process about what specific parts future readers may find cool out the window. 90% of the time you can REALLY tell when an author was smirking to themselves while writing and going “oh yeah, now THIS is the cool part that’s gonna get quoted” and, almost without fail, that disrupts everything enjoyable about a scene or even an entire story. not only that, though— if there’s one thing i’ve learned from being a DM, it’s that the things YOU think your audience is gonna love don’t mean fucking ANYTHING. you can spend every ounce of effort crafting a perfect side character that you think of as Reader Bait. the second readers smell that, they’re flocking to a completely random once-named never-referenced background character. i couldn’t even really tell you why. i guess the same reason cats never want to play with the toys you buy, just scraps of paper and shit around the house. you can’t predict it and to hang your hat so obviously on a peg with no structure is a disaster!

[roadhogsbigbelly]

"why do men watch porn instead of just having sex with their girlfriends?" is already silly for numerous reasons, but seeing it being used as like. a feminist talking point is so crazy to me because like of the implication that being in a relationship means being available for sex all the time, which you know. doesn't feel great for women i think.

[sincenewyorks]

at some point yall just gotta join a religious group and preach bc im tired of yall acting like sex/porn/poly/etc is bad every fucking month. we are one discourse cycle away from ‘sex before marriage is bad’ like go be a mormon and gtfo

[stackslip]

there's something to say about how chatgpt and ai companies directly seek to monetize people who are lonely/struggling with no recourse, and how they tweak their ai to make it easier for vulnerable people to become dependent on chatbots to then sell and monetize their data, about the surveillance involved—and there are ways to talk about it without sniggering or implying that people with "ai boyfriends" or who use chatgpt or bots as friends/therapy/companionship/aid are some weirdo degenerates who deserved to be taken advantage of and are subhuman in comparison to You, A Well Adjusted Human Being

[nitewrighter]

Got into a conversation yesterday about how I'm not engaging with Harry Potter and the person I was talking with was like "What about published Harry Potter fanfiction with the serial numbers filed off?" And I was like "I'm not a fan of published fanfiction with the serial numbers filed off of anything. There are plenty of original stories and nonfiction I'd read before I read that. One Piece has over 110 volumes and Berserk has 383 chapters." And then they were like "what about Marauders era stuff?" And i blinked because I'm starting to realize HP fans think Marauders era is like, a degree of separation from Harry Potter just because it's largely offscreen backstory speculation and it's like, "No asshole, you're still engaging with this shit and giving JKR your time, energy, as well as continued cultural relevance. It's the same shit whether you're engaging with Harry or his dad."

[persephoneme]

i hateeee the framing of any type of media engagement that relies on juxtaposing fun, enjoyable, 'low' art (usually [m/m] fanfiction, romance novels, genre fiction, &c.) with difficult, fufilling 'high' art (usually classics, arthouse films, &c) as like. 'fast food vs. vegetables', 'entertainment' vs 'personal (moral?) development' not the least because these aren't remotely discrete categories but also because its annoyingggg

[thethirdromana]

Little accessibility suggestion: if you're organising an event where most people will be standing, and someone requests a chair, get more than one chair.

That way, whoever the seated person is talking to doesn't have to do an awkward hover while the seated person shouts to be heard. If you can supply one chair, you can supply two chairs.

Maybe you could even consider supplying more than two chairs.

[messygoku]

why does every single one of your faves has to have a monster cock. some of them are packing peanuts and that's okay, just goes to show you a lot of you equate big penises with a better sexual performance. alas, we move on

[paradoxspaceheater]

the thing about misogyny is that femininity is both devalued AND forced on women (and those misgendered as women). if you fail to meet the arbitrary standard of Womanly Charm you're ugly and unwanted and hate yourself and if you succeed you're shallow and brainless and weak. if you don't try to conform you're lazy and if you do you're vain. it is not possible to beat this system. feminism needs both "feminine doesn't mean weak or less-than" AND "women don't have to be feminine to have value", and if you are fighting for one of these the people fighting for the other are not your enemies, nor are they privileged over you.

this post is inclusive of trans people, including but not limited to trans women and transfeminine people. exclusionary sentiment is not welcome.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“be gay do crime! but sex is yucky and crime is wrong!” ass website

[cheaphalloweencostume]

literally 😭😭😭

[strictlyquadrilateral]

as always, communication is key. i started eating at a different local restaurants and one of the first times i was there a waiter came to my table to let me know that i'd have to wait a while longer because they'd have to remake my dish as someone had put croutons on it without thinking. this means that they both caught the mistake and were willing to tell me it had happened. this made me feel safer. i am much more willing to try other dishes at this restaurant because i trust them to know what they're doing most of the time and admit to me when they don't.

[harlequinides]

quick piece cos i'm seeing tgwdlm tonight!

[antarctic-empires]

Ah, a holiday classic

[undergroundwubwubmaster]

Accidental dragon daddy