dang gay

lesbian ☆ 20 ☆ same sex attraction isn't a choice nor transphobic ☆ nb transmed ☆ certifiable trash ☆ hell people are trash ☆ i'm as gay as i am unlikable by the masses ☆ this is just where i say whatever i want

[raudrfox-remaking-deactivated20]

Not to be That Guy™ but a Gay man Movie isn’t a “Queer movie”

A lesbian event isn’t a “Queer event”

A trans movement isn’t a “Queer movement”

Not every LGBT related thing has to be available to every LGBT person, they aren’t queer by default. Sometimes it’s just for one group and that’s ok!! It’s ok I promise!!

Moonlight and Love, Simon were called “Queer movies” but hey! Actually! They’re GAY movies. For gay men. Stop trying to be progressive or whatever by calling things more ~loose~ and ~open~ terms. Love, Simon isn’t about a Queer Boy, it’s about a Gay Boy. Moonlight isn’t about Queer poc, it’s about GAY and BLACK men.

Stop being afraid to call things what they are. Call them gay. Call them lesbian. Call them trans. They’re not dirty words.

[kiss-my-piss]

Resources for Male Victims of Abuse

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone] (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: [phone]

National Sexual Assault Hotline: [phone]

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: [phone]

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: [phone] (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: [phone]

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: [phone] (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)

[spooky-luka-deactivated20200830]

this might be a question that youve gotten before, but whats your opinion on antisocial personality disorder and narcissism? with all other mental illnesses (that I know of) the symptoms are solely harmful to the person who has the mental illness, but with those two it kind of doesnt seem that way. Im probably missing somethings so thats why I asked, looking it up just brings up the definition and what they are and stuff. not really what Im looking for. sorry if im bothering you or being rude

People with aspd or npd are not inherently abusive people, especially when they have a good professional support system

They’re included when I talk about how badly we need more accessible mental health resources

[discyours]

This is hard to talk about without feeding into the idea that mentally ill people inherently harm others just by existing, but “symptoms solely harmful to the person who has the mental illness” is a really vague concept. Anything that affects you probably affects the people around you too. The important thing to remember here is that the mentally ill person is the one that’s the most directly and most severely affected, and ASPD and NPD are no exception to that. 

ASPD is not the cause pain to everyone around you for the fun of it disease, NPD is not the be a self centred prick disorder. The only reason people focus solely on the presumed harm these disorders cause to people not directly suffering from them is because they’re ableist. 

The emotional dullness and chronic boredom caused by ASPD are fucking hard to live with and it’s what people are stuck dealing with even when they don’t act in ways that are harmful to others. That last part can take a lot of effort when you lack the emotional signals that guide most people who don’t have ASPD. Everyone’s probably experienced having to be there for a friend when you’re honestly too emotionally exhausted for it at some point - you can still do it because you know it’s right, but it takes a lot of effort and as an imperfect person who makes mistakes, you may have responded insensitively as a result. In people without ASPD this is seen as normal and the effort is applaudable. On the other hand, when a person with ASPD is frequently put in comparable positions due to their disorder they are seen as inherently evil for having to put in that much effort instead of having it come naturally. That’s detached from any mistakes made, though if/when they are people with ASPD are judged much more harshly and it’s thrown in their faces as proof that they can never live without hurting people. 

NPD does not make people excessively confident and unreceptive to criticism. It makes people desperate to uphold an unrealistic sense of self, which makes criticism or even a lack of extreme admiration deeply painful. It is not fun to feel like your world is going to fall apart every time someone sees you as anything short of the embodiment or perfection. Having an intense emotional reaction to any and all criticism is miserable. It affects all areas of life and just because relationships are affected too does not mean that the other half of said relationships is the only person deserving of compassion. A person with NPD having a breakdown over criticism is seen as a fun fucking joke - a shitty person getting what’s coming to them. Not a mentally ill person clearly going through immense suffering. 

If you take the time to look at these disorders from the perspective of how they affect the people who actually have them, it becomes clear how ridiculous it is to put them in a different category than all other mental illnesses. 

[britp0p-deactivated20210628]

u may not like ur arms but they can carry babies and puppies and kittens

and u may not like ur hands but they can hold flowers and other hands and help braid hair

and u may not like ur nose but it helps u smell nice candles and the earth after it rains and the nice lotion u put on

u may not like ur eyes but they help u see pretty people and cute dogs and cats and all the bright colors around you.

you may not like ur legs but they can help u walk through fields of flowers and through cities full of beautiful buildings

and you may not like ur tummy but it’s a good pillow and it helps u digest good food and u may not like ur body but it loves u so much!!! ur body is beautiful and some days may be hard but u have to take care of urself!! i’m rooting for you!!!

[fuwaprince]

US Helplines:

Depression Hotline: [phone]

Suicide Hotline: [phone]

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: [phone]

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253

Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453

UK Helplines:

Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected]

Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111

Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected]

Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 [email protected]

b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: [email protected]

b-eat youthline (for under 25’s with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)

Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: [email protected]

Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600

Drinkline: 0800 9178282

Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected]

Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight

India Self Harm Hotline: [phone]

India Suicide Helpline: 022-27546669

Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868

FREE 24/7 suicide hotlines:

Argentina: 54-0223-493-0430

Australia: 13-11-14

Austria: 01-713-3374

Barbados: 429-9999

Belgium: 106

Botswana: 391-1270

Brazil: 21-233-9191

China: 852-2382-0000

(Hong Kong: 2389-2222)

Costa Rica: 606-253-5439

Croatia: 01-4833-888

Cyprus: 357-77-77-72-67

Czech Republic: 222-580-697, 476-701-908

Denmark: 70-201-201

Egypt: 762-1602

Estonia: 6-558-088

Finland: 040-5032199

France: 01-45-39-4000

Germany: 0800-181-0721

Greece: 1018

Guatemala: 502-234-1239

Holland: 0900-0767

Honduras: 504-237-3623

Hungary: 06-80-820-111

Iceland: 44-0-8457-90-90-90

Israel: 09-8892333

Italy: 06-705-4444

Japan: 3-5286-9090

Latvia: 6722-2922, 2772-2292

Malaysia: 03-756-8144

(Singapore: 1-800-221-4444)

Mexico: 525-510-2550

Netherlands: 0900-0767

New Zealand: 4-473-9739

New Guinea: 675-326-0011

Nicaragua: 505-268-6171

Norway: 47-815-33-300

Philippines: 02-896-9191

Poland: 52-70-000

Portugal: 239-72-10-10

Russia: 8-20-222-82-10

Spain: 91-459-00-50

South Africa: 0861-322-322

South Korea: 2-715-8600

Sweden: 031-711-2400

Switzerland: 143

Taiwan: 0800-788-995

Thailand: 02-249-9977

Trinidad and Tobago: 868-645-2800

Ukraine: 0487-327715

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[uie-deactivated20230402]

ALWAYS REBLOG WHEN YOU SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS PLEASE; ITS SO MUCH MORE THAN IMPORTANT TO PEOPLE. IT MEANS EVERYTHING TO SOMEBODY AND EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT SEE THIS IN THE SAME LIGHT, SOMEONE MIGHT. INFACT YOU REBLOGGING THIS COULD STOP SOMEONE TAKING THEIR LIFE TONIGHT.

[kitten--aesthetics-blog]

I noticed there isn’t one here for Ireland, so

Irish free suicide helpline: 01-116 123

[thescientificviolist]

last time i reblogged this, i got this ask:

so please, please reblog. this could actually save a life.

[catchymemes]

[yassss-black-diaspora]

Only those kinds of strip clubs should exists and only those

[anger-homo]

If you tell me that it doesn’t turn you on, You’re lying.

[watane-deactivated20200822]

pussy4pussy

[logarto]

empathy can be learned… people gotta stop justifying being assholes with “i have low empathy” like its just not acceptable. learn to be nice to people. grow up.

[spooky-luka-deactivated20200830]

Some of the people who have treated me the worst are highly empathetic people with low compassion.

[a-trashbian]

I really hope people can learn the difference between empathy and being compassionate soon. Like...empathy, as part of how someone feels and thinks, isn't the only aspect of being caring... People with high empathy can still opt to be really terrible and people with low empathy can still opt to be considerate and at times have helped me the most.

[catchymemes]

[skovenshemmeligheder]

I hate journalists so much it’s unreal

[fletcher413]

Calling people who work for the daily mail “journalists” is blatant misrepresentation of the truth. Which is why it’s not surprising when they call themselves that

[i-remember-there-was-mist]

April Fool’s Day is in a few days, and I just wanted to make this clear.

This blog is safe, and I can promise you no screamers, nothing emotionally abusive, no fake posts, and nothing to intentionally trigger disassociation. You are safe here.

[wingleader]

ditto

[kelpforestdwellers]

healthy people, do you understand that many US state governments are officially gearing up to murder disabled people on your behalf?

i wish i were exaggerating.

New York state, for example, has implemented a policy that they will take ventilators away from people who needed them BEFORE COVID if they come to the hospital.

please read that again. if you needed a ventilator to breathe before this pandemic, they will take it away from you if you seek medical care.

a committee who never meets the patient will then decide who gets the ventilators based on 'likelihood of survival' and this will be reassessed every 48 hours. if you don't meet their standards, they extubate you and you die.

there's a word for deliberately leaving people without lifesaving medical care. the word is 'murder.' no matter how bad it gets, i can't seek medical care. do you understand how that feels? my choices are: die at home, or face 'fatal extubation.'

healthy people, are you happy to survive by murdering others? if not, you must stand up and tell your state government not to do this on your behalf.

[myfootyrthroat]

Is there a source for this?

[kelpforestdwellers]

it comes from a very long document, the New York state ventilator allocation plan.

this twitter thread summarizes some of the relevant parts.

[kelpforestdwellers]

two weeks ago: "don't worry, only vulnerable people will die!"

now: "... because we will do everything in our power to ensure they do."

[columbidaae]

when did we as a society decided that asthma was a nerdy embarrassing thing, as opposed to, like,,,, a genuine chronic illness?

I don’t know how many times I’ve just sat and pushed through an asthma attack because I didn’t want to pull out my inhaler in class. i was already socially ostracized, I was already a ‘nerd’- I didn’t need people seeing my inhaler.

can we talk about this?? why is every representation of asthma I’ve ever seen some nerdy kid in a sweater vest and glasses, using his inhaler as a visual gag? laugh at the nerdy kid, laugh at his potentially dangerous chronic illness.

[madasthesea]

I would also add allergies. Apparently it's the height of pathetic comedy to have someone swell up with hives after being exposed to something they're deathly allergic too? Not to mention how often allergies are paired with asthma to make the nerdy, lame, socially awkward character even nerdier, lamer, and more socially awkward. Because that makes sense. Allergies are definitely a chosen trait, just as much as asthma is :/

[sprite-truscum-pepsi]

What I find weird about non-dysphorics pretending to be trans is how this is the only case I can think of where instead of pretending to have the symptoms, they try to redefine the condition.

If a kid’s pretending to have the flu to get off school, they fake a cough or claim to feel nauseous. They don’t say ‘actually the flu can also mean feeling kinda tired and wanting to play video games’.

That’s what makes non-dysphorics dangerous to trans people. Redefining the flu would mean the flu can’t be identified and treated, and people would get hurt - same for transgenderism.

[neighbourhood-truthscum]

👏 I can’t believe I haven’t thought of it this way before. Damn right, OP.

[meangirlnurse]

in real life you will probably not respond to harassment in a sexy, clever, scripted way where you come out with the upper hand and everyone claps. you will freeze up and your moment will pass, or your voice will shake when you tell them to stop and you’ll realize two minutes later that you’re gross and sweaty and sticky from the adrenaline. maybe you’ll be on the ball and answer in a way you actually think is pretty smart and get ignored, or they’ll get more aggressive when you mouth off to them. you almost never will walk away feeling victorious. you walk away feeling uncomfortable and relieved that it’s over. you’ll think about it later and imagine that maybe you could have said something else. maybe you’ll feel ashamed that you weren’t quicker-witted, weren’t able to cut them down to size, weren’t able to avoid that lingering sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, as though there’s some kind of magical words you could have said that would have left you feeling less powerless. there really aren’t. 

[gwynndolynnequincy-deactivated2]

Honestly this is such an important lesson to learn. If someone threatens, belittles, or verbally assaults you, you will likely feel bad, no matter how you respond. Please don’t beat yourself up for feeling emotions that are perfectly healthy and justified. 

[slopaganda]

when are we gonna stop using the word “abusive” as a synonym for “just being an asshole”

[slopaganda]

hate 2 break this 2 yall but the world isnt split up into nice people and abusers. being cruel or manipulative in the absence of an observable pattern of behavior and an established power dynamic isnt abuse. sometimes people are just shitty

[dankmemeuniversity]

[fifty-shadesofgay]

i just astral projected back to 2009

[teainawineglass]

Holy shit

[lovelessblade]

The more time that passes the funnier this gets because a lot of people won’t understand it.

[tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva]

why can’t people accept “the media is over-hyping coronavirus” and “coronavirus is concerning given the lack of knowledge surrounding it” are both true? like can I order some nuance

[spooky-lord]

and also "stop panicking about dying because most deaths will be due to previous immunocompromisation" and "we should work to reduce the spread as much as possible to keep those immunocompromised safe" are both true