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ily, menswear guy

"getting even with women they can't have"

Why do men hold this anger for women they can't have? Why tho? I genuinely don't understand having such vengeful rage towards someone I can't have. At most I get a little bitter, but I don't have this... huge raging vengeful anger where I want to "get even" with them. Why do men feel this way? The thing is that even if porn was banned, men would still have this anger towards us so it won't like, solve the problem. This thinking or belief system or whatever it is didnt come out of thin air. Why tho. Is it bc of male entitlement? It's not solely just hatred of women bc I can hate someone but not feel I have to get even with them bc they reject me.

antiporn-activist

I find this baffling as well.

honeyapplebutterfly

I’ve been working on discomfort testing. I think it’s important for anyone who grew up super chronically online (or everyone really). Basically I try to put myself in situations where I’m uncomfortable with increasing severity. If you think you’re “lazy” because you just can’t force yourself to walk every day or you just can’t force yourself to clean your room or something like that you might wanna try discomfort testing.

I have big and small tests. A small test can look like: setting a 10 minute timer and cleaning as much as I can within that time. Walking around the block and seeing how many times I can tell myself “just one more block.” Forcing myself to read and pay attention to the most boring book I can find in my local library (they don’t usually end up being as boring as they look).

Big tests are like: forcing myself to go to a party where I know my ride is dependent on someone so I can’t leave until they do. Spending an entire day on a boat with no escape. Giving a speech in front of a room full of people.

Sometimes it’s not things I have to do but am too lazy to do but rather it’s about just testing my utmost boundaries to remind myself that I am strong and I can do things that feel hard or impossible. Last week I dunked my whole body in ice water. It was fucking scary. I lived.

Life is a series of forcing yourself to do difficult things. Start young and small and it’ll be easier to do the bigger things when you’re older.

antiporn-activist

Great work!

You aren’t reading too much into the flower emoji! Lol it was intentional. Sending good vibes to you and your boyfriend, from me and my wife. ☺️

I was just recently wondering how you were doing! I'm so happy for you, sending good vibes back to you both :)

#anon

Another person who thought of you and came across your blog after a long while here. It makes me happy to hear how well you are doing. The passage of time and the way things change is wild and beautiful. I hope nothing but the best for you. 🌷

I wonder if we've personally interacted or if I'm reading way too deep into the flower emoji. I hope you're doing well too ❤

#anon

We didn't personally interact, I only occasionally sent anon q's here and there about topics spoken when I was deep into all this stuff, these days my Tumblr dash is just a handful of mutuals and memes. But sometimes I check out old blogs I knew of. Anyway I'm glad you're doing so well, I remember you talking about difficulties often so it's great to hear you're in such a better place! Keep living and thriving, I wish you nothing but the best 🫶

Thank you ❤❤❤

#anon

Sooo, how's life? I used to follow you way way back and suddenly you popped into my head again.

Life is pretty good! Still in a very happy relationship and living together. Moved to a new city however many years ago which has been great for my mental health compared to where I used to live. Back in therapy for CPTSD but starting to actually live life rather than just waiting to be healed, going out and socializing a lot more. Writing a lot too but I don't see any reason to do so on this blog because I've changed so much there's really 0 overlap with my old audience and I don't find anywhere near as much enjoyment in getting into arguments as I used to.

I like my life, like the choices I've made, even like myself I think. Thank you for asking. Since you just said you used to follow me idk if we ever personally interacted but I hope you're good too!

#anon

tragbarerpanzrabwehrkomplexfagot

idk this rubs me the wrong way, this idea that it’s mainly feminists’ fault for saying men are trash and causing women to stay with bad men because they can’t get anything better than him is just another cope to blame women and feminists who are hostile to men

I get that. I would never say that it's mainly feminists' fault, especially since men themselves were saying that it's in men's nature to be cruel and violent long before there was an established feminist movement. Feminists aren't big evil meanies for repeating the things men are already saying back to them and taking it as a reason to stay away from them.

I just think that, if you're not practicing seperatism, the mindset that it's to be expected for men to suck can be harmful. To women who then don't hold their partners to any kind of standard and accept abuse because "that's just the way things are and I signed up to marry a man" or whatever else. I think women who are partnering with men need to hold them to high standards which involves believing that those standards are achievable. That's not putting any particular expectation on what feminists who avoid men do or don't get to say, nor saying anything about how saying men suck hurts men's feefees.

#anon

sorry if this is annoying you don’t have to answer if u don’t want to but what do you think about this?

https://www.tumblr.com/theangryman/806485039950036992/black-pill-feminism-which-falls-for-hetero?source=share

I kind of agree. I'm in a long term hetero relationship and I find that I'm more or less anticipating that it'll eventually get abusive rather than expecting (and demanding) better. There is a feeling that I know what I signed up for and won't get to complain when it inevitably happens. I think radfems are tradfems are on opposite sites of the same coin when it comes to the way they view men, but tradfems are complacent and accepting and radfems are angry and want everyone else to be too. There's just not much to be done once that anger runs out.

#anon

what do you think of the trend or just the amount of people especially women coming online and saying their female managers and supervisors and female leadership in general sucked and made their lives miserable and male managers are so much better. This isn’t just trad women or right wingers either women of all ages and political leanings saying this

I think that's just misogyny, though I don't know to what degree it's misogyny altering people perception (male and female supervisor say the exact same thing, male supervisor is a good leader and female supervisor is a bitch) and to what degree it's misogyny affecting people's actions (female managers and supervisors feeling like they're under more scrutiny, leading to increased micromanaging etc making them less pleasant to work under).

#anon

Ilysm

❤

#anon #idk who this is but I've gotten nothing but antifeminist instagram reels in my inbox lately so I appreciate you lol

un-monstre

Hate it when TikTok farm cosplayers and cottagecore types say stuff like "I'm not going to use modern equipment because my grandmothers could make do without it." Ma'am, your great grandma had eleven children. She would have killed for a slow cooker and a stick blender.

un-monstre

I’ve noticed a sort of implicit belief that people used to do things the hard way in the past because they were tougher or something. In reality, labor-saving devices have historically been adopted by the populace as soon as they were economically feasible. No one stood in front of a smoky fire or a boiling pot of lye soap for hours because they were virtuous, they did it because it was the only way to survive.

jimmythejiver

Taking these screenshots from Facebook because they make you log in and won't let you copy and paste:

draconym

I just saw an acquaintance use "👖🛝" in place of the word genocide and. like. at what point are we going to decide that this kind of self-censorship is too degrading to abide anymore.

draconym

"grape" "sewer-slide" "the panini" I feel like I'm surrounded by Rugrats who overheard the grown ups talking about the news.

draconym

I'm tired of seeing people excuse algospeak because "corporations are making us do it." Why are we all letting them do that. The Internet is real life. Get mad about it.

unmooredonasundayevening

writing tip: don’t tell us your character’s backstory. don’t tell us what your character is thinking. don’t tell us what your character is doing. don’t tell us anything. the reader should simply look at a blank page and be suddenly overcome with emotion.