Abbiesmal

she/her ⚙ brazilian ⚙ absolute gender mess

[abbiesmal]

kita study ref photo can be found here (by marcus ranum)

[abbiesmal]

Today, just today, maybe I don't mind being visible. (Happy TDOV!)

[abbiesmal]

something's weird with my copy of super mario bros…

[abbiesmal]

would you honor me with a dance?

[abbiesmal]

remade some old art!! (2026 vs. 2023)

[miss-wizard]

It feels like you are negative towards transmascs a lot. It’s not cool to put negative generalizations on a group like that. No minority should be treated like that.

oh shit is it not all men? oh fuck?

[miss-wizard]

i once lost access to my entire network of local trans friends because i was accused of "hating trans men". what spurned this was me complaining that i never saw any transgender women in advertising material for pride month. there were no trans men in the circle where this occured.

this is not the only time i have lost entire networks over my supposed hatred of trans men. these men don't even have to be in the room for me to be deemed an intolerable threat to them. at all times, i am expected to make space within myself for transmascs, to carve little holes in my feminism for these "AFAB when convenient" men. if i do not do so, if i instead dedicate my life to the care of my fellow transfems over all men, i am social jetsam. the number of people who have stayed in contact with me after these banishments happen is so few it doesn't even reach a half dozen.

it has been proven to me, countless times over, that concerning myself with the emotional wellbeing of transmascs is a tar pit, that it will only continue to pull me deeper in and continue to ask more and more of me until everything that i am is completely submerged beneath the monolith of transmasc comfort. it has been proven to me that when you approach me with supposed concerns over "negative generalisations", you are not coming with a request; you are pointing a loaded gun at my head and asking me to beg for my continued existence. on behalf of me and every one of my fellow transfems who has been put through this shit time and time again, go fuck yourself.

[mousidy]

I don't watch dropout but I'm doing some research to try and understand the "dropout excludes transfems" discourse more clearly and it is very funny how many responses I've seen that are like "I mean I'm trans but I'd rather they hire based on talent than just try to fill a diversity quota"

indistinguishable from conservative men saying women aren't funny lmao

[mousidy]

very funny too how people think just being trans in general gives them some kind of special cred to dismiss claims made by trans women. we really are the women of women

[mousidy]

I want to be careful not to play pointless and divisive games of oppression olympics, but it does seem to me that this is one of the common rhetorical tricks that justifies the exclusion and/or mistreatment of trans women in certain spaces. we say "this space excludes us as trans women" and the response is "what do you mean it isn't trans inclusive? look at all these TMEs! you're just being a buzzkill"

I think the idea that this is divisive in the first place is kind of insidious, because our intent in this kind of situation is often to try and take down the barriers that prevent us from integrating and unifying with the larger queer community, but our criticisms of these barriers are taken as an attack, and are dismissed rather than seriously considered

transmisogyny, being a form of misogyny, is found to some degree in pretty much everyone, but those who do not want to confront this in themselves can easily wash their hands of it by saying "I'm not transphobic, I treat my trans(masc) friends well! you're just a crazy, angry feminist"

[syrenki]

your daughter is a pleasure to have on the dashboard

[bismuth-soup]

Reblog if prev is a pleasure to have on the dashbord

[abbiesmal]

new pfp!! :3

[kids-toothpaste-enjoyer-deactiv]

this is how 99% of TME people on this app (probably irl too) treat trans women & conversations around our infertility. but it’s actually worse because they fail to understand that infertility is the basis & justification for our oppression. i’ve talked about this more in depth on my page & wont stop because people are uniquely weird towards trans women & i’m tired of pretending they’re not.

[largishcat]

guys….,, being friends, like actual friends, with people you have systemic privilege over is going to involve some good-natured ribbing. it’s going to involve them complaining about [insert privileged group you belong to] in front of you or even to you. that’s not a personal attack, it’s because they think you’re cool enough to hang. it’s because they think they can express their frustration to you without you attacking them. you really want to prove them wrong?

[transsexual-feminism]

And trying to argue you don't have privilege is really uncool

[caffeicbunny]

[phoskaname]

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[headinabeehive]

small tgirl marina rant

do y’all think distortions work with like,,,, trans people. like if you believe and are able to make others believe, you can be who you are.

i had this headcanon before i finished the game and was made aware of what distortions were in the context of zato. that three years ago, marina had begged lev for a dress. i mean like, crying on the floor choking on her own saliva type of begging. like it was UGLY.

but after he gave in and bought her a dress under the guise that it was a gift for a friend’s daughter, marina… reshaped herself, so to say. before i finished the game, i thought she just got lucky enough to make people forget she was a boy at all. padding, growing out her hair, changing her social circle maybe, all that silly stuff stealth trans people do irl.

but now that i’m aware of distortions… marina said she believed that if she convinced herself something was true, then it was. which i think worked before in her favor, in a way. she believed so much that she was a girl, and then enough people followed through that it caused a distortion. nobody even remembers that she was ever a boy in the first place. marina does, and she wonders how it’s all so easy now.

i’unno just wanted to share

[unrelatedstring]

the phrase "feral lesbian" implies the existence of domesticated lesbians, which is an entirely meaningless observation because everyone knows those exist

[katiethecreature]

At a certain point accusations of being “male socialised” or having a “male ego” that are regularly thrown at transfems start to feel less like misguided transmisogyny and more like coordinated attempts to shut us up.

Don’t be too loud

Don’t be too confident

Don’t be too funny

Don’t be too sexual

Don’t be too angry

Don’t express discomfort with anything

If you or any transfem does any of these things in any context, it’s only because of your male upbringing that you feel so confident to be angry or loud.

A few months after I started transitioning I had a complete breakdown about this. I was so worried about how the ways in which I was raised would affect how I interact with others. Do I have some innate male confidence I need to destroy? This came after reading a lot of the borderline-terf rhetoric that spreads in the trans community about trans women.

After I while I discovered transfeminist writing that helped me understand my place in the world for really the first time. And then I thought, wait my childhood didn’t instil within me any kind of confidence. When I was a kid I was scared of everything, bullied, abused, terrified to speak up and completely unable to relate to any of the boys surrounding me.

It occurs to me that accusations of being male socialised are a particularly useful tool to stop transfems from discussing any of the discrimination or violence we face from non-transfem people. Any kind of advocating for yourself as a transfem can be shut down using this rhetoric.

It’s the complete flattening down of any of the complexity or interiority of transfeminine life for the benefit of shutting down conversations about transmisogyny. It’s a subtle way to say that transfems basically had the same exact upbringing as cis boys. It’s a way of portraying a confident trans woman who stands up for herself as secretly harbouring the same potential for violence that a cis man has.

And once again, like a lot of transmisogynistic sentiment, I don’t see people outright saying these things but rather implying it for plausible deniability.

Quite infuriating if I’m honest.

[coeykuhn]

An older piece I’m still not sure how I feel about? It’s been at that ‘is it done?’ stage for a few months. Figured I would just post and can always improve on later <3 Enjoy! -COEY! PRINT | PATREON _____