I'm a disability advocate (I think you should be disabled)
really though a lot of people put themselves through a lot of pain or inconvenience because they have decided they aren't Bad Enough to need help with something and it sucks. so I truly do want to encourage identifying as disabled. you can get a cane if you think you'd only use it on the really bad days or if the deciding factor is that it's your favorite color or if you think maybe it would make one single task a little easier. you can use a screen reader if it's more convenient to hear text spoken to you rather than reading it. you can get cut-proof gloves, or a chopping gizmo, or pre-cut ingredients if it would make you feel safer when cooking because you're a little clumsy. you can use a wheelchair if it would just make you less tired.
as someone who struggled (and struggles) with feeling Bad Enough to justify the tools I need: it's okay if you don't think you need them. A want is enough. A passing "oh, that would be useful" is enough, especially if it keeps happening. you're allowed to want things to be easier and you are allowed to make them easier. I love you.
@yuri-puppies how dare you hide this in the tags
I'm crying cause that's actually what it feels like! You put into words exactly how I feel about my disability and gender!
I know of at least two people who got a walker after I did, and old people ask me about getting one all the time. I'm nonbinary because the gender binary is bullshit (and cause it's hot and queer).
I'm holding your hand and telling you that all these systems and their rules are nonsense! You can just be! You are enough! You don't have to destroy yourself trying to fit into their perfect little boxes! You don't have to suffer! The pain isn't worth it! You deserve joy and love and support! Let's get them together 💕
