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SUFFOLK U GRAD // philly living // be nice

[actually-clueless-blog]

[ironperennial-deactivated201810]

Atelier Rue Verte

[gutter-guy]

You shouldn’t be treating nb people like the secret sexy 3rd gender. Nb people don’t look like a mash of male and female, they’re not sexy androgynous twinks

[gutter-guy]

white skinny androgynous nb people reblogging this and saying shit like “Well this is what I look like! So I feel represented!” Are literally part of the problem. I’m not saying that no nb people are white/skinny/andro, I’m saying that those are the only type of nb bodies that get represented 

[quixoty]

its nice, isnt it, when nonbinary people are visibly distinct from binary people? its easy, isnt it? you can remember to use “they” for people who have no visible breasts or beards, right? no need to challenge the notion of male vs female if nonbinary people have their own look, isnt that right?

its time to step the fuck up and really understand that nonbinary looks like anybody. nonbinary looks like you. nonbinary looks like your family and friends and it looks like the strangers who you thoughtlessly call “he” or “she” because of their appearance.

really supporting nonbinary people means understanding that theres no visual tell - you wont recognise all of us as nonbinary on sight. you have to actually LISTEN to us. you have to BELIEVE us. and it means challenging your assumptions about gender, starting with the assumption that youre an ally to trans people while youre still doing puerile shit like gendering body parts and clothes.

NONBINARY LOOKS LIKE ANYBODY. ANY BODY CAN BE NONBINARY.

[kibblesandbitch]

Here’s something to chew on.

[coldasaslab]

about me.jpg

[whistlenotes]

honestly

[poesieplease-deactivated2020061]

In case you wanna read the article this quote is from: http://rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2016-05-daughter-know-ok-angry/

[cygnaut]

Adaptable girls find socially acceptable ways to internalize or channel their discomfort and ire, sometimes at great personal cost. Passive aggressive behavior, anxiety, and depression are common effects. Sarcasm, apathy, and meanness have all been linked to suppressed rage. Troublesome behaviors, such as lying, skipping school, bullying other people, even being socially awkward are often signs that a teenager is dealing with anger that they are unable to name as anger.

Girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.

Anger is so successfully sublimated that girls lose the ability to understand what it feels and looks like. Is her heart racing? Does she feel flushed or shaky? Does she clench her jaws at night? Is she breaking out in hives? Does she cry for no reason? Laugh inappropriately during difficult conversations? Fly off the handle over something that seems inconsequential? You can see where I’m going here…those crazy girl hormones, right? Better to just think of it as a phase.

For too many women, however, the phase never ends. It’s lives spent never expressing anger at all and believing that they don’t have the right or ability to do so without great risk.

[gimmeur-tots]

Ok this is important. I feel like this all the time.

[seriouslyamerica]

My life is just years and years of (barely) suppressed rage.

[tangerinebonfire]

My boyfriend hates when I laugh during fights. Maybe I should yell or hit things instead?

[89584957294589425-deactivated20]

Psychologists often find that parents treat baby girls and boys differently, despite an absence of any discernible differences in the babies’ behavior or abilities. One study, for example, found that mothers conversed and interacted more with girl babies and young toddlers, even when they were as young as six months old. This was despite the fact that boys were no less responsive to their mother’s speech and were no more likely to leave their mother’s side. As the authors suggest, this may help girls learn the higher level of social interaction expected of them, and boys the greater independence. Mothers are also more sensitive to changes in facial expressions of happiness when an unfamiliar six-month-old baby is labeled as a girl rather than a boy, suggesting that their gendered expectations affect their perception of babies’ emotions. Gendered expectations also seem to bias mothers’ perception of their infants’ physical abilities. Mothers were shown an adjustable sloping walkway, and asked to estimate the steepness of slope their crawling eleven-month-old child could manage and would attempt. Girls and boys differed in neither crawling ability nor risk taking when it came to testing them on the walkway. But mothers underestimated girls and overestimated boys–both in crawling ability and crawling attempts–meaning that in the real world they might often wrongly think their daughters incapable of performing or attempting some motor feats, and equally erroneously think their sons capable of others. As infants reach the toddler and preschool years, researchers find that mothers talk more to girls than to boys, and that they talk about emotions differently to the two sexes–and in a way that’s consistent with (and sometimes helps to create the truth of) the stereotyped belief that females are the emotion experts.

Cordelia Fine, Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference (via komentajaleksa)

[mezzodical]

one round/action in D&D is 6 seconds so anything you could accomplish during a vine you could do during your turn

[theorynoodle]

Rogue: “I’m back at it again at Krispy Kreme.”

DM: “Roll an acrobatics check.”

[lovelylovelyartist]

Fighter: I want to see my little boy

DM: roll a perception check

*nat 20*

DM: here he comes

[z-nogyrop]

bard: toss me my keys

*rolls a 1*

DM: i thought you said printer

[spiritednug]

Fairy: I still haven’t found my berries

DM: roll a perception check

*rolls a 9*

Fairy: BUT! *holds up an orange* I found this.

[bemusedlybespectacled]

Druid: I am the sand guardian, guardian of the sand.

DM: Roll an intimidation check.

*nat 20*

DM: Poseidon quivers before him!

Druid: Fuck off!

[redwoodriver-deactivated2018042]

Dm: can you read this for us?

Fighter: rolls a nat 1

Fighter: what up im Jared im 19 and I never fuckin learned how to read

[lubadalu-blog]

[polyglotplatypus]

le mythe, la légende, j’ai nommé: pusheen, dictateur russe (fameux). 

[hell-and-pepsi]

я одобряю

[ithelpstodream]

[klaviergavinwiki]

me throughout the year: if only i could justify buying this Thing :/ Maybe christmas or my birthday.

my mom: give me a list of things you want for christmas/your birthday

me: i have never wanted for anything ever in my entire life

[haiku-robot]

me: i have never wanted for anything ever in my entire life

^Haiku^bot^6. I detect haikus with 5-7-5 format. Sometimes I make mistakes. | Who do I read? | Contact | HAIKU BOT NO | Good bot! | Beep-boop!

[hoemami-deactivated20171229]

[stutterhug]

The Kennel Lad and The Scaly Puppy

(A story that probably needs a sequel, but for now please enjoy this tale of wierd looking dog rescue)

((Patreon))

[angrypunkandtrans]

[starsleeps]

A praying mantis ghostwrote this

[historicaltimes]

Mugshot of John Wojtowicz who was sentenced to 20 years in prison for robbing a bank in order to fund his partners sex change. August 23rd 1972, New York

via reddit

[ladygolem]

the only good lgbt ally

[lids-flutter-open]

also when they made dog day afternoon and bought the rights to his story he used the money to help fund edens surgery so he ended up able to help after all (after serving six years in prison for the heist)

[jackmarlowe]

other great facts:

- he based his bank robbery plan off The Godfather and Al Pacino ended up playing him and John Cazale played his accomplice - referred to himself as ‘the gay Babe Ruth’ - when he got out of jail he applied for a job as a security guard at the same bank with a T-shirt that said ‘I robbed this bank’ and put Al Pacino down as a reference - the robbery attempt was broadcast on TV and a crowd of LGBTQ activists came to cheer him on

[wandering-around-the-world8]

chaotic good. 

[chanelbagsandcigarettedrags]

[mrgolightly]

[isohels]

Do you know what I hate??

When I was growing up any time my brother upset/hurt/was rude to or downright nasty to me I was told “he’s just doing it to get a rise out of you” “he’s just doing it to annoy you”

Like??? I know?? I know he’s being mean to upset me. I know he’s saying horrible stuff to annoy me. And guess what?? I’m annoyed!!!!

I was literally told not to be upset, because his intentions were to upset me????

How is that not upsetting? Especially to a young girl??

[randomstabbing]

THE GASLIGHTING STARTS EARLY.

[paradeofproblematicfavs]

“Sweetheart, its easier for you to just bear it than it is for us to teach him to stop. Mkay?”