cishet trans dude

hi my name is addison/ethan and welcome to my discourse side blog (he/him or xe/xym) yes i am dysphoric please don’t say i’m a trender banner credit: @lesbi-vauge

[addiscorse]

i kinda forgot this blog existed and everytime i get a notification i groan bc there’s a 50% chance it’s discourse and i don’t feel like dealing with that shit

[addiscorse]

it’s kind of sad that one of the main reasons feminine things make me dysphoric are because of transmeds. i like being gender nonconforming! my gender is masculine but so what if i like to wear feminine clothing! i don’t feel dysphoric in feminine tops and bottoms until i realize that there are people out there who will completely ignore my gender and who i am as a person just because of a shirt. and if a stranger misgenders me, that’s alright. i’ll be upset, but it’s understandable. i’m talking about people who fully know that i’m trans and know my pronouns but claim i’m “trending” or “nondysphoric” just because i like flowery tops.

[astraldemise]

my attempts at drawing frogs

[astraldemise]

you guys just see something vaguely froglike and hit reblog huh

[addiscorse]

the difference between presenting feminine and female

this is my take on this matter

w some badly drawn examples (plus the difference between being male and masculine)

it’s as simple as that! do you identify as a female? no? then you aren’t presenting as a female!! let people wear what makes them happy!

[wetmeadow]

Church: Homosexuality is a sin

Psychologists in the 70s: Homosexuality is a mental disorder

Tumblruser terfslying, an intellectual: 

[coffee-catter]

Hmmm? I Wonder what they think about asexuality or does this only apply to homosexuals @terfslying?

Anyways penises are gross and I am not an abuse survivor and I don’t need to be to be repulsed by a body part? I am also repulsed by feet… Like? Me not wanting to shag your dick isn’t oppression. Stop being stupid!!!

[terfslying]

It applies to neither homosexuals nor asexuals because I wasn’t talking about sexuality. I was talking about phobias.

Also: I don’t have a dick love, I’m a cis woman

[goth-unicorn-supreme]

Ah, I love it when people put their foot in their mouth. OP and their lackey won today’s award for excellence in ignorance.

[terfslying]

A star for our winners

[sammyclassicsjwfan]

oof heres another hot take

btw this is raine and i fuckin love him

[casual-transmed]

nice drawing,

it’s not as much as an expectation then it’s just that most trans guys want to be as gender-conforming as possible because of dysphoria, which you need to be trans. you can have a low level of dysphoria so you might not need to conform as much but if you have dysphoria you would still want to try.

[sammyclassicsjwfan]

hey, i actually dont wanna try to appear cis, bc being trans fuckin slaps

watch me be an androgynous god not giving a flying fuck abt gender roles

[casual-transmed]

it ‘slaps’ ? no. it doesn’t. having a mental condition doesnt “fucking slap”. being trans is terrible and i would give almost anything just to be cis. is it really that fun to look in the mirror and feel detached from what you see and feel completely wrong in your body and hate every minute of being in it ? is it fun to think of how you missed out on your childhood because you didn’t get to do all the things the cis kids did and didn’t get that childhood experience ? yeah, being trans is an experience, but it sure as hell isn’t a good one. its kinda like saying its fun to have depression.

I’m glad you feel comfortable in your body, and I’m glad you found something that fit, but being trans does not “fuckin slap”, its not remotely fun, its mentally tolling and painful if anything.

[sammyclassicsjwfan]

good 4 u, not everyone is a self-hating little shit who wants trans ppl to be ashamed of ourselves tho

sometimes it sucks, and sometimes we hate our bodies, but thats bc of transphobia and cisnormativity ruining our lives

we are allowed to love ourselves and our trans-ness, bc thats a beautiful thing that defines alot of our experiences

being ashamed and licking boot gets us nowhere

so anywho, being trans fuckin slaps

[official-cisphobe]

being trans is awesome!!

[trainwreckbisexual]

"good posts from terfs" are not made in a vacuum and cannot be divorced from the context of their beliefs. those posts were written through the lens of transmisogyny and if you deliberately ignore it, then what you read/reblog is something vastly different than what the post/op actually intends to say.

yeah. a post might say “can creepy men stay away from vulnerable girls” n that would be fine on its own but if the post is by a terf it completely changes the context. they could be talking about trans women using women’s bathrooms or anything like that

[bering-strait-deactivated202005]

Story time: I’m a trans guy. I have an identical twin. We’re both tall, androgynous, and have naturally deep voices

In high school a rumor was spread that one of us was trans. For years, everyone in school had convinced themselves that my twin was “the trans one”. She rolled with it to keep me safe, and said it felt like a compliment to be mistaken for a trans woman since she looked up to a lot of trans women. That didn’t stop the bullying, but it’s easier to deal with when it’s directed at the wrong person. I’m engaged to a feminine cis guy who is several inches shorter than me. I have 20-30lbs on him and I can dead lift him. He’s more delicate and soft both physically and socially. He cries during sad movies, owns half a million stuffed animals, and clings to my arm when he’s nervous or it’s cold out (oh yeah, also he’s adorable) Whenever the topic of being trans comes up, cis people tend to think he’s the one who is trans. Direct all “what do your parents think?” comments onto him. Completely ignore me. Ask him invasive/transphobic questions about his body. Tell him “you pass so well!” through grit teeth. Like with my sister, I get pretty pissed about this, but there’s not much I can do about it. I have had to argue with cis people to establish the fact I’m trans because they don’t believe me & think I’m joking. they’re like “but he’s - no, she’s trans!” and frantically point fingers at my fiance and sister. Because there’s no way an adult cis woman could be taller than 5′9 and choose to be bare-faced, and an adult cis man could love How To Train Your Dragon 2 with a fiery passion, enough to watch it 3 times in the theatre.  Terfs take one look at us and try to convince my sister she’ll never have a uterus or that she’s “appropriating women’s spaces”. Transphobes say my boyfriend will “always be a girl” and call him gendered slurs. They talk over them, block them, and grill them about what genitalia they have online. Completely unknowing that they’re talking to two cisgender people who are gay and gnc. @ young, closeted, scared trans people: any cis person who insists they can somehow “know” your “birth sex” by looking at you because “it’s so obvious!” is full of shit. people come in all shapes and sizes regardless of gender. Not only are they being transphobic, but they’re being homophobic too.

[i-will-rant]

Stop calling gnc trans people trenders. That includes trans men who don’t mind having boobs. Not every trans person has top dysphoria much like how not every trans person has bottom dysphoria.

[sistertaxon]

fucking shut up i’m trying to complete the ritual

[sistertaxon]

thank you. snakes are gay now

[addiscorse]

trans tea:

you need to stop wishing to be cis. you were born as you are, and unfortunately that can’t change. instead, you need to celebrate and love yourself for who you are, not mourn what is impossible. i get it, i really do, if i was a cis girl or boy life would be So much easier, but unfortunately, i’m not. and if you’re trans, you aren’t either. don’t treat being trans as if it’s a horrible illness though, you’ve been blessed with an experience to help and change the world so others like you can live their life. you’re wonderful, you’re transgender, you are you and that is a wonderful thing to be. dysphoria sucks so much and if i could switch into a cis body i would, but until that is possible i’m going to do my best to work on loving myself and the body that i’m in.

[spill-the-gender-tea]

God. Thanks this cured my dysphoria! Wowie! Thanks ! That’s all I needed! I no longer am sad! Thanks for this riveting discovery! Just love yourself! :) ! That’s all I need! Thanks! That sooo helped me!!

[bizarrolord-deactivated20241123]

“Accept yourself as trans, it’s hard to admit but you’ll never be cis”

Okay, go on…this is like me accepting I had Tourette’s, so this is familiar territory for me…

“you’ve been blessed with an experience to help and change the world”

NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE. Number one, I don’t think I’ve been blessed. I don’t call “compulsive eating”, “suicidal ideation”, “getting beat up by my family members”, “being underemployed for my educational level (to be fair, this is the disability as well)”, “incidents in which I was denied a form of medical care”, or “numerous incidents of harassment and bullying” a blessing. Number two, I don’t owe anyone anything just for existing; I can help and change the people around me but that’s because I actually like them and can trust them. I can’t change the entire fucking world and how it works, and to think that one can is really fucking naive. I don’t really appreciate this condescending, mindless positivity bullshit, because I’m sick of getting it from “progressives” for being disabled as it is, and I’ll be damned if they try to do this to me again for being trans.

This is one of the reasons I am stealth IRL. I hate being mindlessly showered with condescending praise from progressives as much as being mindlessly bullied by bigots. To me, in the end, they’re the same damn thing.

[addiscorse]

well, that’s alright. you’re allowed to have your own opinions. i personally believe that everyone has the power to change the world, just by existing, and that every desicion they make helps the world on its path towards whatever ending we’ll get. you’re allowed to be stealth in your community, as that is your choice, but i like to use me being trans as a way to help others feel safe. of course you don’t owe anything to anyone, this is all a personal preference! i definitely worded this post in a strange way, and so i’m sorry for it coming off as me telling you that you had to make a difference. also, you tagged this as “ableism”, was that something that i had done? if so, can you tell me what exactly i had done so i can avoid it in the future? thank you!!

[addiscorse]

me, someone who hates arguing and confrontation: i should start a discourse blog

[standing-at-the-gate]

No one:

Truscum artist: REAL trans men ONLY ever wear grey or otherwise dull-colored hoodies

[trainwreckbisexual]

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

you need to wear hoodies to be trans

[closet-keys]

I feel so much safer whenever gnc folks are around. butches, effeminate gay men, androgynous nonbinary folks, unapologetic visibly trans folks, thank all of you for just existing and walking around and making public spaces feel more like home

[addiscorse]

trans tea:

you need to stop wishing to be cis. you were born as you are, and unfortunately that can’t change. instead, you need to celebrate and love yourself for who you are, not mourn what is impossible. i get it, i really do, if i was a cis girl or boy life would be So much easier, but unfortunately, i’m not. and if you’re trans, you aren’t either. don’t treat being trans as if it’s a horrible illness though, you’ve been blessed with an experience to help and change the world so others like you can live their life. you’re wonderful, you’re transgender, you are you and that is a wonderful thing to be. dysphoria sucks so much and if i could switch into a cis body i would, but until that is possible i’m going to do my best to work on loving myself and the body that i’m in.

[spill-the-gender-tea]

God. Thanks this cured my dysphoria! Wowie! Thanks ! That’s all I needed! I no longer am sad! Thanks for this riveting discovery! Just love yourself! :) ! That’s all I need! Thanks! That sooo helped me!!

[trans-boy-diaries]

I get what they’re saying, but they sound like someone who’s never actually experienced gender dysphoria.

Yeah all trans people have to opportunity to further medical science regarding trans medicine and treatment, but I dont think an actual trans person is going to celebrate their transness, at least not in the way this person is saying we should.

I also understand self love bit, but like I said before, it’s like they’ve never experienced gender dysphoria.

[addiscorse]

hi!! i’m suicidally dysphoric!! i’m trying to find the parts about myself that i enjoy so i don’t feel the constant urge to want to harm myself!!! i understand what you mean by saying that it sounds like i don’t have dysphoria, but maybe it’s just that i’m a natural optimist that o try to look on the bright side of things? so yeah, being trans isn’t necessarily something to celebrate, but i think that celebrating the ability to change the world just by surviving and being happy is wonderful. maybe that’s just me! i really didn’t mean to make anyone upset while making this post, although i should have expected that lol.

[trans-boy-diaries]

Yeah, no, I get it, and I appreciate the clarification, the first post just sounded a bit weird I guess. I didn’t mean to come off as a dick, my bad.

[addiscorse]

yeah, it definitely wasn’t worded in the best way!! i did write it pretty late at night, and probably should have looked it over before posting lol. i really do understand why people are so upset about it, and i wish i had clarified more in my original post. it makes me personally dysphoric when people talk about how being trans is so horrible because i know that i won’t be cis, and that i’m always going to be like this. so i made this post while feeling dysphoric and that was probably a bad idea.

[nonbinaryhaunt]

i got my dyke boots on & i’m out there loving and supporting trans women

[addiscorse]

trans tea:

you need to stop wishing to be cis. you were born as you are, and unfortunately that can’t change. instead, you need to celebrate and love yourself for who you are, not mourn what is impossible. i get it, i really do, if i was a cis girl or boy life would be So much easier, but unfortunately, i’m not. and if you’re trans, you aren’t either. don’t treat being trans as if it’s a horrible illness though, you’ve been blessed with an experience to help and change the world so others like you can live their life. you’re wonderful, you’re transgender, you are you and that is a wonderful thing to be. dysphoria sucks so much and if i could switch into a cis body i would, but until that is possible i’m going to do my best to work on loving myself and the body that i’m in.

[spill-the-gender-tea]

God. Thanks this cured my dysphoria! Wowie! Thanks ! That’s all I needed! I no longer am sad! Thanks for this riveting discovery! Just love yourself! :) ! That’s all I need! Thanks! That sooo helped me!!

[trans-boy-diaries]

I get what they’re saying, but they sound like someone who’s never actually experienced gender dysphoria.

Yeah all trans people have to opportunity to further medical science regarding trans medicine and treatment, but I dont think an actual trans person is going to celebrate their transness, at least not in the way this person is saying we should.

I also understand self love bit, but like I said before, it’s like they’ve never experienced gender dysphoria.

[angelcake-retsu]

Thanks for the dysphoria op! Fuck you! :^)

[addiscorse]

i’m very sorry for triggering your dysphoria!! do you think there’s anything i should tag this as? maybe #tw dysphoria? multiple people have commented this and as someone who experiences horrible dysphoria, it definitely wasn’t my intention!!