Advice & Tea

Hey there! I am Viola (But you can call me VI)and I've been told that I give pretty good advice so I decided to make this blog because, well, I absolutely love to listen, advice and help people. So come'ere, tell me your issues, confessions, problems, etc and I'll try our best to assist you. ♥

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UPDATEE

Hey Lovies :-) I’m Dea, Vi Cousin. So lately me and Vi have recently made a new tumblr advice blog which both of us will be able to easily access from both our tumblr accounts, allowing us to answer your concerns more frequently :)

www.adviceandsushi.tumblr.com

Love, Vi & Dea

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So I like this guy who is a year older than me and we started talking and I think he is attracted to me but I'm afraid that if we go into a relationship all he would want from me are hjs and oral but Idk if I would comfortable with that bc he has received that kind of stuff a lot and says that the only way he will keep a relationship would be if it was an equal balance of sexual stuff and affection but I really like him and don't know what to do to keep our relationship strong if we had one

Hun, in my personal opinion, I would move on and find someone else. I know you like him but I don’t see a reason as to why you should do things you aren’t comfortable with just so you can keep him around. 

If he’s willing to compromise and talk about it then it’s fine but if he’s adamant on what he told you.. I suggest you think twice before making any decision. 

I personally would move on if he’s not going to compromise with me, mainly because I don’t feel the need to do things I’m not comfortable with just so that the person I like would be happy.

I do hope he's willing to compromise and whatnot with you, dearie! And feel free to update me on what happened yeah!

- Admin Vi

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My boyfriend wants to break up with me because his family do not approve of me because of where I come from. We both live in the UK and both originate from the same country but different parts - so culturally we are pretty much the same, However his family are insisting he be with a girl from the same town as them, why does this matter if both our families live in the UK anyway and we still come from the same country? I don't want to break up, what should I do?

Hello love,Let's analyze the situation. Is being together what you and partner wants? Are you both financially independent? If yes, then follow your heart in whether continuing the relationship or living together in the future. However, we can't skim through the surface of the situation, we need to look through the details.Has ur boyfriend's parents address the issue to you directly?(if you have met them) If not, your boyfriend maybe using this as an excuse to break up with you. Ask him what he wants, does he still want in? Is he always avoiding the topic of this issue? If he does shows signs of these sorts, you should reconsider your relationship. ----Do update us on your situation! - Admin Dea

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You've been gone so long :(

I am back now though, dearie! <33 I'm sorry I disappeared for quite some time >_<

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(part 1) Im worried about my friend, she has an unusual but obsessive addiction to running, its compulsive and I she cant control her need to run 6-8 hours every day. She has been running this much every day for ages and its negatively impacting her health. She physically cannot eat enough to keep up with the calories she burns running and because of that she is extremely underweight and she is always exhausted.

( part 2) When she is in a situation where she can’t run (say a long train journey as an example) she gets really physically agitated and panics, its quite scary to see. It all has bad effects on her self-esteem as well: she hates her body and gets angry and upset because shes so underweight, but no matter how much she forces herself to eat its never enough to make her gain any weight and running less is not an option to her. I don’t know how to help her, any advice is greatly appreciated! xx

hello love,

well running is a form of exercise, so technically its not bad. However the thing that is negatively impacting her health is her diet. I suggest you and her have a sit down and look through her eating schedule. 

Also, make sure that she keeps this in mind : if she can’t stabilize her eating habits, she may not be able to run anymore as she’s overworking her body and her body will stop functioning. 

Check out this fitblr with your friend, she maybe able to help your friend :-) 

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Admin Dea

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Hi there. I have a friend who recently told me she needs a boyfriend. It's been a while since her last boy, but, the reason she finds it hard is because she's an unhygienic person who can't seem to present herself nice. I've tried to help her style and makeup many times but she always reverts back to her "old" self. I'm at a frustrated point with her now and feel like being blatantly honest no matter her feelings. How can I once again approach this with her since she NOW wants my help? xx

hello love .

i would suggest you giving her a beauty guide book, its the best way to avoid being blunt and straight forward without hurting her feelings. i would recommend Michelle Phan’s book : Make Up: your life guide to Beauty, style and success.  (click to access the page )

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love, Admin Dea

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How do you get over a crush? I just found out that mine likes someone else, I feel terrible. How do I get over him?

get tubs of your favourite ice-cream flavour, get your favourite comedy films ready, voila :-) 

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Admin Dea

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How are you today, Vi? Btw I love your blog, you give really good advice.

I'm fine, thank you! <3 Am so glad you like my blog! I truly appreciate your kind words <3 c:

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Vi how are you? You haven't posted I a long time :(

I'm fine, thank you! I had so many RL stuff going on so I couldn't come on. I'm so sorry, darling!

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Viola, where have you been? :(

I am here, dearie! I am so sorry! I was so busy with RL stuff that I ended up not checking this blog for a long time :( Do forgive me! (But am finally back and ready to answer some questions alongside my cousin who'll be helping me out!)

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PSA

Firstly, I am back guys! <3 Yes, the idiotic girl who ended up going on a long indefinite hiatus. I truly am sorry for disappearing and whatnot but I'm back and ready to answer all your questions <3

Secondly, I have a co-admin to help me out! She's actually my cousin and she'll be going by the alias of Dea. 

And lastly, we now have a new page called adviceandsushi so I suggest sending whatever messages y'all have to that blog instead of this one!

Love, 

           VIola

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Viola are you still here?

hey this is admin dea (vi's cous) ,Vi has been on a hiatus.

however, me and Vi will be replying to all the remaining msges :) do check out our new page, it will be more convenient for us to answer more efficiently.  

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1/2 So, my boyfriend has a female best friend. He's with her every day. And he refuses to call her her actual name and always calls her "Thunder buddy" It's strange to me and makes me uncomfortable. And he didn't bother telling me, but it's his ex girlfriends cousin who is his thunder buddy. And I don't think she likes me at all, obviously because she's on the side of his ex. And the first time I met her (He took me to her house without telling me) her friend pushed me in a pool without

2/2 … without warning and I totally smashed my face on the side of the pool! Not to mention I had all my clothes on. But I felt like public enemy #1 right there and got dirty looks the whole night through an awkward card game. I talk to him about how it makes me uncomfortable and he almost ignores me. I don’t want to tell him not to see her but I don’t know if I can deal with such a huge connection to an ex girlfriend, especially when she’s not on my side at all. :(

hello love,

i feel that ur bf doesn’t take you seriously enough to even listen to you. I applaud you for not overreacting and confronting him about the issue. i don’t he deserves you, if you feel uneasy about the situation and continue with this relationship, keep in mind you’ll be seeing his bestfriend’s face for a long time.

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love, Admin Dea 

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Have u ever met someone that doesn't want to kiss or hug cos Of his religion?

nope , sorry 

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Admin Vi & Admin Dea

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I made a Test Week at another School and didnt Tell anybody. But somehow my best friend found out and now she hates me. I'm so sad and Angry! I Hate her, because she always Wants to know everything and then Tell it EVERYBODY, i can't Trust her anymore and she either. I don't know what to do now...

hello dear,

she’s not a good friend. she sounds like a tattle-tale, so i suggest that you should find a new best friend, whom you know you can trust.

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love, Admin Dea

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I really want to start dating again. But the guys who live in my town are super gross so a lot of the guys I wind up liking live in a major city near me. The issue is that it's about and hour and a half by car and two hours by train. This has been a dealbreaker for some of the previous guys I liked (some I liked A LOT). I plan on moving to the city this summer, but I'd rather date someone now. What should I do?

hello love.

whats the rush? enjoy being single while you still can. dont rush into any relationship just because its the ‘trend’ nowadays. 

live life to the fullest, get into a relationship when u know damn well you’re ready to commit.

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Admin Dea   | grammatically corrected by Admin Vi

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My guy friend said " Why cant u see that im attached to u" and i dont know what that means help T_T

i think he is in-directly confessing to u. but do clarify if he's confessing / showing possessiveness, cos that may become an issue…

Sincerely,

Admin Dea