Aegosexual Weaver

This is a blog for posting things I don't want directly tied to my main accounts. I plan to use it primarily to discuss the overlap between asexuality and smut. I'm aroace, and specifically like the label aegosexual... hence the blog name. I use he/they pronouns, but don't really care that much; gender is something I have, not something I care about.

[aego-weaver]

Who am I

Hi, I'm Aego Weaver. Let's break down who I am and why I'm here.

I am an aromantic asexual (i.e. aroace). More specifically, I identify as aegosexual, meaning I enjoy sexual content and the idea of sex, but not the idea of getting involved myself.

At time of writing, I have no practical experience with sex. I am rather curious about it, but without any attraction involved, it's not something I expect to happen any time soon.

I'm also aplatonic, lacking any form of platonic attraction. I do have heavy aesthetic attraction towards feminine individuals, be that girls, fem-leaning enbys and even the occasional feminine guy.

I'm a cis guy, for all that matters. I ascribe about as much importance to my gender as I do to my hair color; it doesn't really define me or matter. For this reason, I quite like the label of cassgender.

I also don't feel my gender that strongly, so I've recently adopted the agender spectrum, namely the label libramasculine.

On that note, my pronouns are either he/him or they/them; I've been using he/him for my whole live, but I don't really feel a strong connection to any pronouns.

I am both autistic and have ADHD (someone please invent an adjective form of that). I was formally diagnosed as a child and mostly forgot until recently.

I was born sometime in the 1990's and live somewhere in the state of Ohio. Further information is not available here.

I am interested in the very narrow space of asexual characters in erotic material. Specifically, any such material that actually respects their identity along the way... I'm not currently aware of any such material, but if I find any, I will recommend it here.

The Essays

Because I am a massive nerd, I'm going to write essays about stuff. I'll link them here once completed. If there's no link, it's an essay I plan to write later.

Asexual Characters Getting Laid

What is Gender Anyway?

Through the Mirror: Aegosexuality as I see it

Labels: What They're Good For

The Best Posts

This is a collection of my favorite posts I've made other than the essays.

If Love Is: a song

[starrylighter]

Love is an art, and some do not consider themselves artists. That is to be respected.

[aspecmemesdaily]

Source | Day 174

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I 👏 am 👏 non 👏 partnering 👏

Stop expecting me to be in any sort of relationship. I will never be in one and I love that about me

[gayafsowhat]

Liked this and got it to 404 notes and my first thought was "404 partner not found" and I hope you find this funny

[aego-weaver]

I just need to brag about this somewhere.

[thegreatyin]

underrated fallen london lore fact is the masters canonically putting drugs in the water to turn londoners gay

like actually. fully unironically.

[thegreatyin]

imagine having your house fall thousands of miles beneath the surface of the earth and you start getting dreams about how much you love to kiss men.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Because some are confused

Aesthetic attraction: occurs when someone appreciates the appearance or beauty of another person(s), disconnected from sexual or romantic attraction

Romantic attraction: Romantic attraction is often described as a desire for romantic contact or interaction with another person./refers to a sense of interest and/or desire for romantic intimacy or a romantic relationship with someone

Sexual attraction: is feeling a deep-seeded desire to engage in sexual intercourse or any other sexual act with another person in order to experience arousal and/or orgasm. They feel drawn to another individual or are motivated to initiate a relationship based upon the desire for sexual intimacy or satisfaction.

Sensual attraction: the desire to interact with others in a tactile, non-sexual way, such as through hugging or cuddling.

[benjaminallhope-fulltimemind]

just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

/Edit: I forgot to give credit this is a screenshot from a video made by a content creator called Lily Orchard you should check her channel out it's amazing

[agressivelyaro]

cishet aces are queer. cishet aros are queer. stop seeing aspecs as not queer unless we fit a specific criteria, unless we're "good enough" for you. we belong in this community

[evolvedclown]

my aromantism really shows when my coworkers are talking about getting engaged and married and i’m just like “oh yeah congrats. so anyways-“ i honestly couldn’t care less. like. cool 👍🏾

[77pink-prin-cess77]

Please don't forget about loveless people this pride month. Love doesn't make us human. People don't need to love in "other" ways to be valid. Some people are aplatonic, some afamilial, some asensual, some are heartless. They still belong. Abolish conformity and the idea that someone needs to be something specific to belong at pride.

[madam-bugdoctor]

seeing as it’s pride month , this is your friendly reminder that straight people can be queer too

[acollectionofas]

I just said the most devastating thing in therapy today, while discussing why I forced myself into a relationship as a teenager when the relationship made me miserable and made me feel like I had no agency:

"I wanted to be worthy of a story."

And that, my friends, is why representation is so fucking important.

[heart-of-alex]

I wish everyone an happy Pride Month!

To those who are sure of their identity, to those who are still questioning, to those doubting their place in the community

And a big hug to the aromantic and asexual community

Remember: Be proud of yourself, you've gone such a long way already, and the way ahead is too long to be ashamed

[aspecmemesdaily]

Source | Day 186

[writinrealslow]

I haven't been able to stop thinking about this one part of the game and had to get it off my chest.

It makes me so happy to see such good representation in a game like this!

[bloggingboutburgers]

Thank you so freaking much for your sex repulsed ace comic. I don't understand why being a virgin is seen as shameful or bad, I think the logic behind it is that "you were such a failure that you couldn't even get a single person to be intimate with you", but that's just stupid. It ignores all other forms of intimacy. Having sex, for me, would mean that I failed in asserting my boundaries and succumbed to my people pleaser tendencies, doing something that would wreck me in the process. Or, it would mean I was raped. I DO want to die as a virgin, thank you. I will, if all goes to plan.

I will add that, as a person with a womb, the thought of getting pregnant is horrifying. It would already freak me out, that my body would respond to sex despite me not wanting to at all, but the idea that more unwanted changes would come from that terrifies me. There's already plenty of humans on the planet. Adoption sounds lovely.

Amen, and amen. My spouse wants kids someday, but a big part of why I'm comfortable with the idea in the first place is only because I wouldn't be the one mothering. I also just can't fathom the thought. And body agency should be respected as what it is.

Regarding having sex meaning that you failed, and how that contrasts with the narrative that's most often pushed on to us, I absolutely agree too. It also has so many unfortunate implications. I can imagine how it can feel liberating for a lot of people, but I also shudder at the thought of how many people might have been pushed to force themselves into something rushedly when they weren't ready or not necessarily with the best partner for them, or... Yeah, most notably for us, sex-repulsed asexuals who go through with it anyway because the pressure is that overgrown. It's kinda messed up.