medicine and mayhem

Riley, 19, London, med student, trans+nb, poly, bi. (he/they/other) I have a constant queue set up so may not be around all the time despite posts. twitter @agenderangel

[agenderangel]

ngl I'm like 90% sure the water is haunted (at Alcatraz, San Francisco Bay) https://www.instagram.com/p/BmEIwnFBKNb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ju8gn5gqbt3n

[espressogal]

once you stop fantasizing about that ideal version of yourself and start working towards becoming that person by setting your alarm clock earlier and actually going to the gym and actually volunteering at places and actually eating healthier and not procrastinating and working just a little bit harder you’ll realize that it was so easy all along. becoming your ideal self will only ever exist in your mind until you make the decision to work towards becoming that person. get up!! get going!! it’s now or never!! there is no light at the end of the tunnel!! get that flashlight and pave your own path bitch bc no one else is going to do it for u!!

[pochowek]

if elon musk implies that a single party owns the media and his entire fanbase in unison goes “oh its the jews. you’re talking about the jews” and elon doesn’t address that by going “screamingkermit.jpg it’s not fucking jews you piece of shit antisemitists” but rather sits there like “…… ;)” you don’t get to say that Tumblr is projecting by implying that he claims that jews control the media. had he thought differently he would definitely notice the replies and pull up another tweet to straighten things out, which he didn’t, because his fanbase realized exactly what he meant. that’s how dogwhistling works. wheres your Logic you weird reddit rejects stuck in the notes of that post yapping like you shit your brains out years ago

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[aly-semi-archived-deactivated20]

Its funny because in a sense jordan peterson is right, that womens relative increase in social status is in many shocking ways because of technological breakthroughs with birth control and abortion. Obviously being freed from forced reproduction was crucial for advancing the cause of womens liberation by freeing women from the ways that such reproduction creates dependency on men, etc. 

But, because peterson is a moron and a fascist, this isn’t seen as a good thing for him. He uses this as an example of how biology means patriarchy makes sense, and says “oh hey look you have to suppress biology to overcome patriarchy so patriarchy is natural” but its like bitch fuck nature, fuck biology, yeah we overcame that shit. We made cool new technologies that have changed how biology functions because biology and nature aren’t the static things just like out there that we either ignore or comply with, they’re things we are always already participating in. Birth control is a biological modification. It is us as natural creatures interacting with natural processes. It’s not us “ignoring nature” but rather us participating in nature by changing it, which is something that most animal life does in various ways.  

He’s literally just so fucking stupid and so wedded to the idea of a deterministic biology and nature outside politics somewhere, secretly haunting us through myths or whatever, that he can’t see that we are creatures who natural alter and interact with our world and that sometimes that leads to new social formations and thats not a bad thing just because it threatens his social power as a man.

jesus fucking christ he is dumb

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[gayknight]

tips for having sex with trans mlm

Okay, since it seems this question pops up a lot from cis mlm who are interested in having a sexual relationship with trans men, I decided to compile a list of tips for approaching safe, enjoyable, non-dysphoria inducing sex. Sorry about the length:

1. Ask about terminology:

This is such an important first step and why I listed it first: if you don’t know what to call a partner’s body part–ask them! Don’t assume they’re totally fine with one thing or the other. Getting it wrong can be awkward at best, incredibly dysphoria inducing at worst (and a relationship ender right off the bat). Some guys like to call a part of themselves their “clit”, while others prefer to call the same part “dick/cock” or just “junk”. The best way to phrase this question is to make it neutral, something like “what terms do you use for your body parts?” rather than something like “what do you call your vagina?” which implies that one term is already more valid/”real” than another. Of course, this is after you’ve already established that sexual stuff is going to ensue–don’t make this your first message to the guy on a hook up app.

2. Ask about boundaries:

Especially if you are dealing with a dysphoric person, but also just in general, knowing which parts are okay to touch, which parts are 100% off limits, and which parts may have certain conditions for interacting with them is a must. Again, communication is very important. Maybe your guy really likes using his front hole, but butt stuff is off-limits. You never know until you ask, and maybe you have boundaries as well you want to go over.

This goes the other way too! Don’t just automatically assume something will make your partner dysphoric–it may very well be something they actually enjoy.

3. Don’t make assumptions about our bodies or preferred positions.

I’ve already said it multiple times already, but open communication rather than making assumptions is really key. I’ve seen many cis guys who have assumed that all trans men want to strictly bottom, and even a few who thought the exact opposite. The reality is that trans men have as much variety in sex preferences as anyone else–some bottom, some top, some are verse, some don’t enjoy penetrative sex at all. And for those of you wondering how a trans man could top, or worrying that it might be less enjoyable for either party than a cis man topping–don’t knock it till you try it. There are plenty of toys, strap-ons and other sex technology wonders that you have yet to explore, not to mention that many trans men do have flesh and blood penises that they are more than happy to use. 

4. If you use toys, strap-ons, and prosthetics:

Don’t assume everything is a “toy”. For some trans men, their prosthetic is a natural part of their anatomy, and it can be upsetting and disorienting to refer to it as a toy.

If shopping for toys or prosthetics, make sure it’s something your partner actually wants (again don’t assume!) and make sure your partner actually likes what you pick. I know it can seem nice or sexy to surprise your partner with a gift, but toys and prosthetics can be extremely personal, so whoever is using the product should have a say what it’ll be like. If you still want to go for the surprise element, think about giving them a gift certificate or an I.O.U. for a sex shop instead. Then you can make it a fun outing together.

5. Don’t ask them about surgeries, hormones, or their life “before”: 

This should be a no-brainer, but unfortunately too many guys make this mistake immediately upon meeting a trans person. Maybe you’re going into a very committed, long-term relationship with the guy. Maybe just a one night grindr hook up. Doesn’t matter. If he wants to talk to you about it, he will. Otherwise it’s none of your business.

6. Don’t bring up passing.

Really, the amount of guys that think they’re being helpful when they tell us how we “look so much more manly than other trans guys!” or how we’d “pass so much better if you just did x”. It’s obnoxious and upsetting. Trans people know a hell of a lot more about the intricacies of passing than whatever you think you do, and we don’t like back-handed compliments that come from comparing us to other trans people. You’re not winning any brownie points from these comments, they just make you seem ignorant and rude.

7. We are not an encyclopedia of trans knowledge.

If we’re on a dating website or app, we’re there for the same reason as you: to meet people for sex, romance, friendship, etc. We’re not there to answer questions that you have about trans people, especially when almost all of them are easy to answer on a cursory google search. We don’t want to be asked to help write your gender studies essay, or asked how we feel about [insert trans celebrity]. Really, just don’t do this. It’s an immediate block for most people.

8. Don’t tell us we’re brave.

Kinda on the same note as the last one, don’t tell us “we’re so brave” for existing or that you’re “proud” or even about the trans sibling cousin roommate friend neighbor teacher etc that you have. We don’t need cringe-y condescension when we’re trying to hook up. And c’mon, you should know this already from when straight people tell you this.

9. We’re not your experiment.

Don’t have sex with us just because you want to “experiment” with having sex with a trans person, and especially not because you see us as some kind of stepping stone to having sex with “real” men.

10. Don’t assume we all think the same.

Again, should be obvious, but it unfortunately isn’t. Just because you dated a trans man in the past that was comfortable with x, doesn’t mean your new partner feels the same way. We aren’t a hivemind. Trans people are individuals with varied experiences, pasts, preferences, and levels of dysphoria. Follow all the above steps again every time you engage with a new partner.

11. You won’t always know you’re having sex with a trans person. And that’s okay.

Yes, you read that right. This is something that actually happens. Some trans men are “stealth”, meaning that they live their lives with little to zero people aware that they are trans. This doesn’t mean they’re trying to “trick” you, and this doesn’t make them a bad person. Many trans people do this for a variety of reasons, such as safety and their own comfort–some guys just think of being trans as part of their medical history, and not worth mentioning. Regardless of reasons, it is an incredibly personal decision. Don’t be offended if a trans man chooses not to come out to you. He has his reasons, and you should respect that.

12. Have fun with it.

Seriously, this may seem like a terribly long list of responsibilities, but almost all of these are things you should be doing with any partner. And once you’ve got them down, they become surprisingly more natural than you’d think. Remember that you’re doing this because you want to share an enjoyable experience with another person. And yeah, you might occasionally slip up, but we know that, and it’s usually pretty obvious when you’re trying. So relax and have fun.

If any other trans mlm have something to add, feel free to contribute.

ok for cis people to reblog! (please do)

[crpl-pnk]

i also want to talk about how dysphoria can fuel eating disorders to an the point that thinness maintained by a restrictive eating disorder can feel like an integral part of gender expression for trans people & how the demonization of fatness in our culture can hugely hinder the recovery even of people whose eating disorders always revolved more around dysphoria than the fear of being fat

i want to talk about how the culturally enforced ideas of thinness as the epitome of androgyny, thinness as the epitome of femininity, & “maybe not thinness but definitely a lack of curves that can sometimes only be obtained by thinness” as the epitome of masculinity poison our thinking as trans people & contribute to an overwhelming epidemic of eating disorders in our community disproportionate to even the epidemic in wider sociey

i want to talk about how controlling our food to control our bodies & to control our minds & to feel like we have some control over circumstances that are wildly out of our control is horrifyingly commonplace in the trans community & no one is talking about it

[pumpkan]

Me: waiting for any form of public transport

Rain: starts

Some deep dark part of my brain that never forgot the first night vale episode: 👀🕐🚌🌧🌧🕐🕐🚌🌧

[reidvezz-deactivated20180501]

I’m so excited for the defenders :)

[if-i-was-a-wyrm]

Someone’s missing. Where’s Claire

[reidvezz-deactivated20180501]

SHIT YOU’RE RIGHT

there we go

[dailymarx]

When one individual inflicts bodily injury upon another such that death results, we call the deed manslaughter; when the assailant knew in advance that the injury would be fatal, we call his deed murder. But when society places hundreds of proletarians in such a position that they inevitably meet a too early and an unnatural death, one which is quite as much a death by violence as that by the sword or bullet; when it deprives thousands of the necessaries of life, places them under conditions in which they cannot live – forces them, through the strong arm of the law, to remain in such conditions until that death ensues which is the inevitable consequence – knows that these thousands of victims must perish, and yet permits these conditions to remain, its deed is murder just as surely as the deed of the single individual; disguised, malicious murder, murder against which none can defend himself, which does not seem what it is, because no man sees the murderer, because the death of the victim seems a natural one, since the offence is more one of omission than of commission. But murder it remains.

Engels - Condition of the Working Class in England 1845 (via dailymarx)

[leightum]

[algernonmoncrieff]

I made him gay

[trainthief]

there was no stonewall in the batman universe because george clooney personally rendered it unnecessary 

[enoughtohold]

Barbara Pilgrim (right), and her partner of 57 years, Gerri, at the GRIOT Circle dance at Brooklyn’s Restoration Plaza in October. They were the first couple in line at the courthouse in Brooklyn after the passage of the Marriage Equality Act in New York in 2011. “I’ve been gay since I was 12,” Barbara says. “My people are West Indian, and to them that is a mortal sin. I didn’t know what the word lesbian meant for many years. Lesbian? What the hell is that? We were known then as butches. I didn’t care if they called me floor polish. I didn’t bother anybody and I didn’t allow anybody to bother me. If somebody comes with some nonsense, I say, ‘Sweetheart, no, no, no, let’s not discuss. Because you are not supporting me, and I’m very sorry, but I have no conversation for you.’”

Photo by Ethan James Green, via Vogue.

[birlinterrupted]

A thing that frustrates me abt the way talking abt trans women and stonewall is that like, the reason people wanted to highlight trans women’s presence was to show how gay and trans liberation have historically been linked, but the general trend has been to still talk abt it in this adversarial gay vs trans way that talks abt them like they are two separate groups like “trans women gave gays their rights, cis gays had nothing to do w it” (besides being untrue and focusing too much on one event) misunderstands why it’s important to reintegrate trans women into these historical narratives (and to highlight their race/class): to show that they’ve been a part of the communities and actions, and that transness or race or poverty were always a central part of gay lib (not just things to add onto it)

[goobra]

someone: i could never date a trans woman

me: nobody asked

someone else: yea nobody asked!! but i’m a cis bi/pan person! which means that i’ll date the transes! i’m attracted to men, women, and transes! hearts not parts! i’m not transphobic like that other person!

me:

[tsundernova]

This is ridiculous, we’ve been apart too long.

Ayyyy first official taz fanart from me, we’re ignoring the upsy i drew on twitter earlier today it’s a travesty and I should not have done it.

[latenightcornerstore]

Something about the dark. Something about queer bodies and the way we find one another. Something about the place where fear melts in the mouth and gets lost in kisses and under fingernails. Something about the sanctity of trust, of midnight confessions, of held breath let out on a sigh like a smoke signal, a safe harbor. Some kind of magic. The kind that’s only for us.

QUEER GOSPEL AND TRANS HYMNALS by Ashe Vernon (via latenightcornerstore)