AizReblogs

Moving all the things I've reblogged over here, so you will actually be able to see :) Main blog: @aizhitposts

[allmight-stuff]

Some stainmight sketches cus I love them.

[insidestory1]

When you tell someone about being mistreated because of your disability, there is a common response that goes something along the lines of, "But did you explain to them properly why you can't do x thing?" "Did you make sure they understood why you need x accomodation?" "Maybe they just didn't understand?"

For example: "Did you properly explain that the reason you don't do hugs is because of your autism?" or "Maybe they don't really understand how bad fibro fatigue is and that's why they got upset at you for concelling plans."

I hate these kind of responses. They give me the same vibe as being asked, "Yeah, but what were you wearing when you got catcalled?" They put the responsability for the problem onto the person who was discriminated against, instead of the one doing the discriminating. Disabled people should not be expected to go through grueling explanations or justify their needs before those needs are respected.

[androdragynous]

fuck it I will make this my Disability Pride Month Request: if you are able-bodied, or just unfamiliar, look up the prices of things. Look up what life-sustaining medication costs, look up what good manual¹ and any power wheelchairs cost, look up what corrective surgery and accessible vehicles and home meal delivery services and service dog training and special dietary restriction food costs. and look up how much money is available for people who can't work.

how many months of government support does it take to afford something like a power wheelchair if you're someone who needs one to get out of bed? how much expense is incurred while saving up for that, making sure you still get food, cleaning, other appointments while you're saving up? is it enough to pay rent? is it enough to still have nice meals, streaming subscriptions, a new video game? is it enough to help family or friends cover emergencies? are there resources available to help with dating, girl's nights, family events if you can't do it all yourself? how in demand are those services, how far in advance do they have to be reserved, how much do they cost?

I've had a few posts about disability get relatively well-shared at this point, and there's always an element of surprise in it - like, what do you mean there's subscriptions, what do you mean it's that expensive, isn't there something else? - and while I understand why, it would really mean a lot if people who don't know about this stuff took the initiative to find out just how bad some of this shit is on their own time

¹ and not just the folding ones on Amazon, which are still expensive, but which I can say from experience are also really uncomfortable and not suited for full time use

[phleb0tomist]

so weird when people act like physical disabilities and mental illness/neurodivergence are two groups with zero overlap and that having one means you’re somehow exempt from the other… literally all the physdisabled people i know have comorbid mental illness, often trauma or depression resulting from their disability, but often unrelated stuff like psychosis too. more mentally ill/neurodivergent people than you expect are affected physically by stuff like extrapyramidal antipsychotic side effects. plenty of autistic people have gait issues and uncontrollable stims. eating disorders can cause osteoporosis and incontinence. and of course there’s stuff like brain injuries or parkinsons which are both physically and mentally disabling. etc

my point is. physical disability 🤝 mental illness. there is so much overlap between our communities.

[eptck]

people dont get how exhausting it is to have so many different conditions. especially when theyre so heavily misunderstood and demonized in media. because even when people have heard of your conditions you still have to explain it to them & constantly correct them on shit the media gets wrong. & then you have to do it over again with the next condition. and the next. forever and ever until you die

[theravenflies]

Fun fact- when I was a baby, my parents pretty quickly started suspecting I had autism. Like, before I even hit the year mark. They got me assessed four different times. the first one was when I was a baby, and they're pretty sure the only reason their concerns were brushed off is because I was a girl, and most people thought girls couldn't be autistic. Two times were when I was a toddler, after I was talking and walking, because they noticed I was happier to sort my toys than actually play with them. Both times, that doctor (different doctor from the first) firmly decided I couldn't possibly be autistic because- get this- I started talking early. And the fourth one was when I was getting ready to start preschool, because they were really like "Okay, there's no way she isn't, the doctors must have been wrong." And again, they were told I wasn't autistic because if I was, they would know already. Since I wasn't already diagnosed, I clearly wasn't autistic. It must just be from my brain injury

I am level two autistic. I am visibly autistic and always have been. And I still got misdiagnosed as not autistic four times for complete nonsense reasons.

So no, I don't think not being professionally diagnosed means one isn't autistic.

[eyeball-jam]

another mike, he’s proving more difficult to learn how to draw than expected

[nohopethiswillallendintears]

you’ve been moving around a lot? FATIGUE!

you’ve not been moving around? FATIGUE!

you’ve been standing? FATIGUE!

you’ve been sitting? FATIGUE!

you are simply conscious? FATIGUE!

you’re sad? FATIGUE!

you’re apathetic? FATIGUE!

you’re happy? Headache…AND THEN FATIGUE!

[hans-garden]

the notion that autistic people with "stereotypical" presentations of autism have ever been respected in society or are no longer in need of advocacy or representation would be laughable if it weren't so harmful

[mayonaizs]

maybe we shuold make really round car to balance out the cybertrucks

[hungry-hobbits]

"get ready for video games to become unaffordable" video games haven't been affordable for the last 10 years

[rock-kandyshark]

Yeah I'll kick the hornets nest: you should not be making egg jokes about strangers, especially to their face. These kinds of jokes are potentially damaging to closeted trans people, because you don't know someone's situation. Maybe they already know they're trans, but are in an unsafe situation. Maybe they just aren't ready to address it. Maybe they'll start doubting if they actually want to transition or they only think they want to because a bunch of people told them they do. And it's especially bad if, say, you're making a transfem egg joke to a trans man who isn't open about his transness, which could lead to serious dysphoria (and vice versa for trans women). Not to mention how terrible it is to do this to nonbinary people. Do not joke about a nonbinary person being a binary trans egg, it's extremely disrespectful and transphobic to do so. And it's hard not to notice how implying someone is an egg only extends towards binary genders. Imagine someone is doubting their gender, and everyone is telling them they're obviously a trans man egg. They might end up forcing themself into that binary because they think that's what everyone wants.

All of this isn't to say you can't kindly and respectfully say "the things you've been saying sound very similar to the trans experience, I think it's possible you may be trans, but ofc it's up to you to decide whether or not to look into it". I very much encourage that, especially if the person is your friend and seems to be struggling. The thing that's really bad is making jokes at the possible closeted trans person's expense, or thinking of "cracking an egg" as something to brag about and not something to help someone through because you care about them

[flowercrowncrip]

“Inclusive community arts festival!” “Everybody welcome!” “Events for all!”

No access info for any of the venues

Box office is inaccessible

Google “[festival name] accessibility”; get info on their “accessible pricing” (pay £1 less if you want to). No mention of free tickets for essential carers

Do a lot of disability detective work; most venues don’t have wheelchair access

One claims to be accessible, look inside: “we’re an accessible venue. There are three steps to get in, but we can help you with those”.

“Everybody welcome*”

*excludes wheelchair users, you can get fucked

[mixelation]

we as a society have GOT to accept that it is okay if we get blocked. you do not have the right to interact with every single person on the internet. "but then i can't interact with their content" yes that is the point "but i didn't do anything" no one owes you an explanation and you don't have to have "done something" to be blocked. let it go

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

People with skin conditions deserve better. People with acne, eczema, psoriasis, hidradenitis suppurativa (HS), and other skin conditions do not deserve to be treated like we're contagious or an eyesore. We deserve to be in public and show our skin and not feel ashamed because there is no shame in having a medical condition. We deserve to be free from insensitive questions and unsolicited advice. People with scars, including but not limited to those from burns, surgery, self-harm, injury, illness, and acne also deserve to live life without worrying about rude comments and questions. Don't comment on people's skin, especially strangers'. Even if you think you're being tactful.

[kommunistkaitou]

It also genuinely really bothers me how so many people's "pro fat" posts are along the lines of "Yeah, fat is fine/good, eat whatever you want as much as you want!" Like yes that's a good sentiment and yes fear of fatness is what causes so many people to eat less than they otherwise would. I Understand This. But it's important to me that people understand. Someone being fat does not actually mean they eat more than a thin person does. Just because you're ostensibly defending or praising the fat body does not mean you aren't partaking in dangerous stereotyping

[caffeinewitchcraft]

the first man to call me mean was my father who muttered the accusation into his broccoli before then, satisfied with the sound of the words, loudly declared them to the table at large

and his words struck me deeply because i had already softened the story that had earned this verdict, wrapped cotton around the reality of my fists and slashed all the swear words out of the script before telling my family about the theater and the boy and the darkness from earlier that day

"I-- he wasn't allowed to do that," i stuttered.

and my father said that he just had sympathy is all. one red-blooded american male to another. that i could have said yes. could have given the boy a chance.

the next time i told my family a story at the dinner table, i'd learned my lesson.

"i hit him," i said. i saw my father's face contort out of the corner of my eye. my heart raced. i smiled through my trembling chin. "he kept doing it. so i hit him again."

"that makes you a bully."

this label fit me better. "only to people who bully me first."

"you can't--"

"i think he deserved it," my brother said and fist bumped me over the bowl of mashed potatoes

"me too," my sister said. she watched my dad with interest, learning her own lessons. "im glad you hit him."

"you can always tell a teacher," my step-mom said, diffusing. she offered my dad more wine. "that should be the first step."

"you're going to kill someone one day," my dad said.

and, angry and fourteen, i hoped he was right.