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My saga continues 💁🏻

haven-in-writing

And she strikes again

haven-in-writing

Y’all I’m not gonna stop 😂💁🏻

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This is too much fun 😂😂

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Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting

Square cash warning

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language

Master guide: Body language linguistics

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot?

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

forthesugaruk-blog

this is amazing, like major thankyou !!!

newbiecaramelsugar-blog

this is GOLD .

ahighfructosebaby-blog

a few useful sites for my sugar sisters:

I don’t know if anyone is unfamiliar with these, but I have a few helpful links for all you babies out there.

http://www.emailsherlock.com/

(www.emailsheriff.com is a good secondary site as well. secondary. my results have been much better with email sherlock.)

www.tineye.com

(you can use this to reverse image search any photo a POT sends you and hopefully you’ll get a match. I verified my SD because he sent me a headshot that linked back to his Executive profile. cha ching.)

https://images.google.com/

(similar to tineye. upload your image by clicking the camera icon at the end of the search bar, enter/upload, and await your results.)

http://www.ipaddresslocation.org/

(you can look up IPs here, but don’t get crazy)

a few helpful tips:

you can use http://exifdata.com/ to determine how long ago a photo was taken. exif data is also the main reason you want to turn geotagging options off ON ALL YOUR DEVICES. That info may pop up as well.

if a man mentions being a fan of a restaurant, look up the yelp page and see if anyone with his name or photo has left comments/tips/reviews on it.

facebook can also be very useful! if the POT says his name is Marcus and he lives in Chicago, you can type in phrases to aid your search, like “people named Marcus who live in Chicago”, or “people named Mark who went to UCLA and live in Ohio”.

be safe, be well, and be spoiled!

vanesastudies

How I Use OneNote for University

Hey, all! I thought I’d share how I use OneNote, for any students who might want to use it for school organization. I have used this since the beginning of my university career and have found a method that works for me, after nearly three years.

I provide templates for what I use as .one files that can be imported into OneNote, and you’re free to use & modify them however you wish.

Semester Calendar Template: Download

Customized Syllabus Template: Download

Cornell Outline Template: Download + Outline inspired by How to Use Cornell Cornell Note-Taking Method on OneNote by @strive-for-da-best

As a student with learning disabilities, I found that using a computer, rather than writing everything out, is the best method for me to learn. I type up notes in class so as to not worry about keeping up with a professor, handwriting, or neatness. OneNote is my favourite note-taking application for this, because it’s essentially an upgraded version of Word that’s free and syncs automatically across devices. When my computer crashed, I was still able to access my notes online.

OneNote isn’t all typing. You can use it on a tablet or use a drawing tablet, in my case, to handwrite notes for a more natural feel. A very efficient way of taking notes is to import the lectures slides in OneNote and to write directly on them. I found that very useful in math-heavy courses, such as statistics and chemistry. The equation tool, while nifty, isn’t efficient.

By no means whatsoever is this the only way to use OneNote! In fact, I’d recommend you find a way that works for you, because while this may be highly organized, it takes a bit of set-up time and is tailored specifically to my needs. You can use my example as inspiration, but play around with it! The beauty of OneNote is that it can be used in a variety of different ways.

Download OneNote for Windows | Download OneNote for Mac

the-girlygeek

one of my favourite posts!!

westafricansuga

Sugar Baby Reads Part One

This is a collection of books I have seen recommended in the sex workers community. I found some the books (links include), along with discussion and summary post. Whatever is bolded is what I could not find and you may just have to end up buying. ***Not all scribed links may work, noticed this after I finished.

-Taylor B. Jones (Has a podcast)

The Sugar Daddy Formula: A Sugar Baby’s Ultimate Guide to Finding a Wealthy Sugar Daddy http://thesugardaddyformula.com/download/FormulaBlueprint.pdf

Simply Irresistible by Ellen White

Dita Von Teese -Your Beauty Mark: The Ultimate Guide to Eccentric Glamour -Burlesque and the Art of the Teese: Fetish and the art of the teese

G.L. Lambert -Ho Tactics Uncut Edition: How to Mindfuck A man https://www.scribd.com/doc/315829009/Ho-Tactics-How-to-MindF-k-a-Man-Into-Spending-Spoiling-and-Sponsoring-G-L-Lambert -Men Don’t Love Women Like You!: The Brutal Truth About dating, Relationship, and how to go from placeholder to game changer -Solving single: How to get the ring, not the run around

See Meet the Rich by Ginie Sayles

In Favor of the Sensitive Man By: Anais Nin

Song of myself by Walt Whitman -https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45477/song-of-myself-1892-version -http://www.shmoop.com/song-of-myself/

The Host by: Stephenie Meyer -http://www.readersstuffz.com/downloads/ebooks/Novels/Stephanie%20Meyer%20-%20The%20Host.pdf

-http://www.manybooks4u.net/sf/e5641.html

The Swordsman

Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

-http://www.cslsedona.y2webbuilder.com/f/Think-And-Grow-Rich.pdf

-https://www.liviupasat.ro/downloads/cadou/NapoleonHill-Think-and-Grow-Rich.pdf

Feeling Is The Secret by Neville Goddard

-http://www.law-of-attraction-haven.com/support-files/feeling-is-the-secret-neville-goddard.pdf

Lazy Ways To Make A Living by Abigail Bosanko, Time Warner Books The Secret book/DVD

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SWER Media Club

MANGA & COMICS

Rent Girl by: Michelle Tea

Paying for It: a Comic Strip Memoir About Being by: Chester Brown

Sex Criminals by: Matt Fraction

PINK by: Kyoko Okazaki

Delivery Cinderella by: NON

MAGAZINES & ZINES

strip-magazine

$pread

KINDLE HOW TO’s

Ho Tactics: How to MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring

A Gold Digger’s Guide: How to get what you want without giving it up

Blueprint for an Escort Service

Blueprint for an Escort Service 2: Beyond the Original Blueprint

The Courtesan Handbook

The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 1: The Foundation

The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 2: Advertising and Marketing

How to Start an Escort Business I

How to Start an Escort Business II

How to Start an Escort Business III

Digital Sex Work: How Your Webcam, Cell Phone & Pedicure Can Make You Rich

Cam Girl 2.0: Make Boss Money at Home While Keeping Your Panties On

Start Earning Over $40 an Hour as a Webcam Model Now!

How To Succeed As A Webcam Model

Talking Dirty: Getting into the Phone Sex Industry and Staying There

Greedy: A Guide to Financial Domination

The Mistress Manual: A Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance

The Sugar Daddy Formula: A Sugar Baby’s Ultimate Guide to Finding a Wealthy Sugar Daddy

Sugar Daddy 101: What You Need to Know if You Want to be a Sugar Baby

Make Money Stripping: how to make money as an exotic dancer tonight!

Stripping: Your Guide for Making Money in a Tough Economy

The Nerdy Girl’s Guide to Stripping: A 10-Step Guide for Stripping Your Way to Success

The Pole Position: Is Stripping for You? And How to Stay Healthy Doing It

Zen And The Art of Stripping: A Very Naughty Tale

Secrets of The Lazy Stripper: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 1

How to Make More Money in the Gentlemen’s Club: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 2

The Successful Stripper: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 3

Lap Dance: The Ultimate Guide to Being the Best Exotic Dancer: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 4

FICTION

After Dark by: Haruki Murakami and Jay Rubin

Around the World in 80 Men by: Brandi Ratliff

Bitter Sweet: A Controversial Crime Thriller by: Mason N. Forbes

Black Girl in Paris by: Shay Youngblood

Changing His Game by: Justine Elvira

Dance Dance Dance by: Haruki Murakami

Escorted by: Claire Kent

Evocronik 1.0 by Jc Weatherby

Gutterboys by: Alvin Orloff

Heaven by: Kimberly Cain

I Am Not Myself These Days by: Josh Kilmer-Purcell

In Lucia’s Eyes by: Arthur Japi

In the Company of the Courtesan by: Sarah Dunant

Kushiel’s Dart by: Jacqueline Carey

Mistress of My Fate by Hallie Rubenhold

Private Dancer by Stephen Leather

Safe Houses by: Lynne Alexander

Six Moon Dance by: Sheri S. Tepper

Slammerkin by: Emma Donoghue

Southern Discomfort by: Rita Mae Brown

The Balcony by: Jean Genet

The Butterfly Trap by: Dennis Jon

The Crimson Petal and the White by: Michael Faber

The Dress Lodger by: Sheri Holman

The Gargoyle by: Andrew Davidson

The Handmaid’s Tale by: Margaret Atwood

The Past Never Ends by: Jackson Burnett

The Submission Gift by: Solace Ames x review

Tipping the Velvet by: Sarah Waters

FANFICTION

Underland by: jellyheart84

Creamsickle by: Rhiannon Argo

Harry Potter Porn Star by: Reverie Wilde

Innocent Games by: Wynja

Dating Backwards by: RemainNameless

Escort Services by: Tempest-2455

In Which Tess Hires Teen Prostitutes by: Incidental Vegan Cannibal

Personal by: Incidental Vegan Cannibal

BIOGRAPHIES

Unrepentant Whore: the Collected Works of Scarlot Harlot by: Scarlot Harlot

Cop to Call Girl: Why I Left the LAPD to Make an Honest Living as a Beverly Hills Prostitute by: Norma Jean Almodovar

Working: my Life as a Prostitute by: Dolores French

Woman at Point Zero by: Nawal El Saadawi

Strip City by: Lily Burana

Spent by: Antonia Crane

In My Skin; a Memoir of Addiction by: Kate Holden

The Story About Me: a Hijra Life Story by: A. Revathi

Bare: the Naked Truth About Stripping by: Elisabeth Eaves

a Piece of Cake by: Cupcake Brown

Ordeal by: Linda Lovelace

Dominatrix on Trail: Bedford vs Canada by: Terri-Jean Bedford

Conertina: the Life and Loves of a Dominatrix by: Susan Winemaker

The Mayflower Madam: the Secret Life of Sydeny Biddle Barrows by: Sydney Biddle Barrows

Madam Inside a Nevada Brothel by: Lora Shaner

How to Make Love Like a Porn Star by: Jenna Jameson

Inside Seka: The Platinum Princess of Porn by: Seka

The Best Kept Boy in the World by: Arthur Vanderbilt

Belle du Jour by: Belle du Jour

Insatiable; Porn a Love Story by: Asa Akira

Rent Girl by: Michelle Tea

The Little Black Book of Griselidis Real: Days and Nights of an Anarchist Whoreby: Jean-Luc Hennig

Naked in The Promised Land by: Lillian Faderman

The Last of the Live Nude Girls by: Sheila McClear

Indecent: How I Make it and Fake it as a Girl for Hire by: Sarah Katherine Lewis

Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys: Professionals Writing on Life, Love, Money and Sex

Johns, Marks, Trick and Chickenhawks: Professionals and Their Clients Writing About Each Other

SOCIOLOGY

$pread: The Best of the Magazine that Illuminated the Sex Industry and Started a Media Revolution by: Rachel Aimee

Brothel: Mustang Ranch and Its Women by: Alexa Albert

Encyclopedia of Prostitution and Sex Work by: Melissa Hope Ditmore

Flesh for Fantasy: Producing and Consuming Exotic Dance by: Merri Lisa Jhonson and Danielle Egan

Global Sex Workers: Rights, Resistance, and Redefinition by: Kamala Kempadoo and Jo Doezema

Global Woman: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy by: Barbara Ehrenreich

G-Strings and Sympathy: Strip Club Regulars and Male Desire by: Frank Katherine

Honey, Honey, Miss Thang: Being Black, Gay, and on the Streets by: Leon Pettiway

Legalizing Prostitution: From Illicit Vice to Lawful Business by: Ronald Weitzer

AIDS, Drugs and Prostitution by: Martin A. Plant

Live Sex Acts: Women Performing Erotic Labor by: Wendy Chapkis

Love For Sale: A World History of Prostitution by: Nils Johan Ringdal

Making Work, Making Trouble: The Social Regulation of Sexual Labour by: Deborah Brock

Men Who Sell Sex: International Perspectives on Male Prostitution and AIDS by: Peter Aggleton

Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration by: Audacia Ray

Negotiating Sex Work: Unintended Consequences of Policy and Activism by: Carisa R. Showden

Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work by: Melissa Gira Grant

Policing Pleasure: Sex Work, Policy, and the State in Global Perspective by: Susan Dewey

Prostitution and Feminism: Towards a Politics of Feeling by: Maggie O’Neill

Prostitution and Sex Work by: Melissa Hope Ditmore

Selling Sex: A Hidden History of Prostitution by: Raelene Frances

Selling Sex: Experience, Advocacy, and Research on Sex Work in Canada

Sex at the Margins: Migration, Labour Markets and the Rescue Industry by: Laura Maria Agustin

Sex For Sale: Prostitution, Pornography, and the Sex Industry by: Ronald Weitzer

Sex Slaves and Discourse Masters: The Construction of Trafficking by: Jo Doezema

Sex Work and Sex Workers

Sex Work Matters: Exploring Money, Power and Intimacy in the Sex Industry by: Melissa Hope Dittmore

Sex Work On The Streets by: Neil McKeganey and Marina Barnard

Sex Work Politics: From Protest to Service Provision by: Samantha Majic

Sex Work: Rethinking the Job, Respecting the Workers by: Colette Parent, Chris Bruckert and Patrice Corriveau

Sex Work: Writings By Women In The Sex Industry by: Frederique Delacoste

Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to SlutWalk by: Malinda Chateauvert

Strip Club: Gender, Power, and Sex Work by: Kim Price Glynn and Charles Andrain

Taking the crime out of sex work: New Zealand sex workers’ fight for decriminalisation

Temporarily Yours: Intimacy, Authenticity, and the Commerce of Sex by: Elizabeth Bernstein

The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure

The Prostitution Prism by: Gail Pheterson

The State of Sex: Tourism, Sex and Sin in the New American Heartland by: Barbara G. Bents, Crystal A. Jackson and Kathryn Hausbeck

The Story of Jane Doe: a Book About Rape by: Jane Doe

Times Square Red, Times Square Blue by: Samuel R. Delany

Trafficking and Prostitution Reconsidered: New Perspectives on Migration, Sex Work, and Human Rights

Vindication Rights Of Whores by: Gail Pheterson

Whores and Other Feminists by: Jill Nagel

Working Sex: Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry

TELEVISION SHOWS

Masters of Sex

Deadwood

American Horror Story: Freak Show x review

Firefly

The Playboy Club

The Client List

Secret Diary of a Callgirl

Satisfaction

Hung

Dollhouse

Underbelly The Golden Mile x summary x watch season one

DOCUMENTARIES

Daddies Date Babies

9 to 5 days in porn

American Courtesans

Aroused

Bettie Page Reveals All

Client 9

Live Nude Girls Unite!

Hookers at the Point

Mutantes: Punk Porn Feminism

Paris is Burning

Screaming Queens

Whore’s Glory

Buying Sex

Stripped

Bangladesh: Brothel Justice

Meet the Fokkens

The Great Happiness Space

Scarlet Road

MOVIES

Working Girls

Leaving Las Vegas

My Akward Sexual Adventure

Chloe

Milk Money

Welcome to the Rileys

Gypsy

Showgirls

Mighty Aphrodite

Emotional Truth

Remedy

Magic Mike

Lovelace

Lost Highway

Klute

Inland Empire

The Frozen Ground

Afternoon Delight

Elles

Pretty Woman

Closer

The Best Little Whore House in Texas

Memoirs of a Geisha

Priceless

Baise Moi

Blaze

The Player’s Club

Nathalie

Lap Dance

Breakfast at Tiffany’s

Student Services

The Girlfriend Experience

From the Head

The Center of the World

This Girl’s Life

The Pornographer

Flashdance

The Babysitters

Sweet Charity

Sleeping Beauty

Black Girl in Paris

Stripteaseh

Moulin Rouge!

Les Miserables non-musical and musical

Zombie Strippers

For a Good Time Call

Byzantium

Call Me: the Rise and Fall Heidi Faleiss

Dancing at the Blue Iguana

The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things

Mysterious Skin

The Machinist

The Wrestler

Sin City

Sucker Punch

Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me

House of Pleasures

I Know Who Killed Me

Someone seriously needs to appreciate the effort, the days that it took for me to find and organize all this information into one place, don’t be shy show me the love.

I AM STILL LOOKING FOR FANFICTION WITH A SEX WORKER AS THE MAIN CHARACTER AS WELL AS ZINES! IF YOU HAVE KNOW OF EITHER PLEASE GIVE ME THE LINK.

theescortbunny-blog

WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS BEAUTIFUL

beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019

SB Financial Advice.

Don’t wait till you get money to save it.

I’m building a habit of going the savings bank with change. If you have a dollar put the dollar in the account. Be proud of that dollar, build a habit. That constant depositing $1.00 will eventually be $10.00 + including interest.

I’m sharing gems because, you see a lot of Sugar Baby Allowance on Tumblr but they never have enough money when the arrangement ends? Discipline yourself. I’m 24 and I’m DEBT FREE. I’ll say this again I’m DEBT FREE. When I had a job for my first degree, I wasn’t that smart with my finances. I shopped whenever I had a check. I graduated and received the bill for loan repayment fees. I paid towards the principal. If it was $50/month I paid $75.68. I used to put change amount so whenever it was a new month I went to my piggy bank my checking account or my mother would add $200 here or there. Paying towards the principal decreases the interest.

I don’t own a credit card…not until I graduate. I go to school full-time and do freelance work. That’s not consistent for credit card payments. Once I receive my salary job, I will open a credit card account and automate my payments.

Here’s a secret

Mr. B is in the banking industry, Mr. J is in the marketing industry. Guess what they are always talking about? Their job! Who you do you think I’m going to do mock interviews with me? Who do you think loves giving financial advice and wants his allowance to be properly used? Guess who is going to help me with my 30 second pitch? Allowance, salary and residual from the LLC.

I’m getting funding to be that b**tch. To be that young black woman who manages a department in a corporation with a LLC on the side.

BUILD A RAPPORT WITH YOUR FINANCES. USE YOUR SDS AS PRACTICE EMPLOYERS. THEY WILL LOVE TO KNOW THEY CONTRIBUTED TO A GO GETTER!

cherrybabe101-deactivated202004

Thanks for posting! My advice to you and other SB’s would be to open ONE (singular) credit card to build credit. Buy what you already would buy and pay it off EVERY MONTH.

I’m 22 and I’ve been approved for apartments/cars, because of my 750 credit score. I have zero debt as well.

Tips from Wells Fargo bankers.

sculpturesix

vexxedvixxen

Strippers, you can’t take us anywhere.

shrinkingblonde

The Full Potential Challenge

Ever wonder what your life would be like if you lived up to your full potential? Would your body be healthier? Your skin clearer? Bank account bigger? I think about these things all the time, and, judging my a previous post, you guys do to. Below is a chart designed to help all of us live up to our full potential. I’ve broken it down into time frames to help keep you from getting overwhelmed. Write the chart down and hang it someplace where you can see it all the time. I will be starting this challenge tomorrow, 9/8. I’ll check in with you guys every Sunday to track my progress. I have specific goals in mind for myself, and you guys should make some too! I really want to know how you guys are doing. Tag your progress posts with #sbfpc so I can track it and take a look. Let’s get to it!

EVERY MORNING

Stretch. First thing. Really give your body enough time to wake up. Touch your toes. Roll out your shoulders. Do not hit snooze!

Do your full skincare routine. I have mine detailed here, but do whatever works for you and your complexion. Be gentle and consistent.

Brush your teeth and floss. I used to be a big floss-skipper too, but you’d be amazed at how dig of a difference it makes. Rinse with a whitening mouthwash. I use one by Crest, and I notice a major difference in my teeth’s overall whiteness in just a few days.

Give yourself enough time to get ready. Whether you’re a wash-and-go kind of girl, or someone who spends an hour doing a full contouring routine before class (and either one is fine!), make sure you aren’t rushing. If you need to wake up a few minutes earlier than normal, so be it. Rushing sets an awful, stressed-out tone for the rest of the day. Allow yourself to be relaxed before taking on the day.

Eat something. I’m not going to say eat a big breakfast, because some people (myself included) just can’t eat in the morning. But you should eat, or at least bring a little something with you to work or school. If you can’t eat a full breakfast, grab a fruit! You won’t be as hungry come lunch time, making you less likely to gorge yourself.

Shower. You can do this at night, in the morning, whatever. Again, this is something you should allow some time for. I don’t wash my hair every day, but I do condition it every day (from the ears down). Scrub yourself with a delicious-smelling body wash. If you shave, make yourself as smooth as a dolphin, dude. If you don’t, then don’t and don’t ever ever ever let anyone make you feel bad or weird about it. When you get out of the shower, wrap yourself in a fluffy towel and totally slather your sexy self with lotion. Top to bottom. Do it as soon as you can post-shower so it can really sink in.

Put leave-in condition throughout your damp hair and comb it through.

Put on an outfit that makes you feel good! So important!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Take a look at your daily to-do list. Knock out the most pressing stuff first. Take pride when you cross things off your list.

Make your bed! Oh my god, make your bed. Do it. Do it. Do it.

EVERY AFTERNOON

Follow the “touch it once” approach. This is a truly life-changing thing. When a task is in front of you, no matter how big or small, just do it right then and there. How many times have you gotten a work email or homework assignment and thought, “Eh, I’ll do it later”? And then later never comes? Once something pops up, do it once. Squash it and be done. Cross things off your list and feel like a badass.

Try to go for a walk at lunch. Even one little lap around the block or campus will reenergize you like nobody’s business.

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Be present. This is so hard for me too, but you have to make a major effort to be present in whatever you’re doing. Be engaged and plugged-in and just exist in the moment. Give 100 percent.

Be friendly to friends and strangers. A smile goes a long way.

Eat something. Eat what you packed for lunch (see below) and take a break from working while you do it. You need “you time”!

EVERY EVENING

Take your makeup off as soon as you’re in for the night. Wash your face with your full routine and let your skin have a break.

Workout. You can also do this in the morning. Whatever works for you. Make a great playlist and go hard af. Get your cardio in. Get your strength training in. Earn every freaking sweat bead forming on your forehead. Earn your shower!

Knock out your homework. Life is infinitely better you don’t have anything hanging over your head. Half the time, the energy and emotion you spent dreading/putting off your work is ten times worse than the work itself.

Make a list of what needs to be done tomorrow. It’ll set you up for success the next day, and you won’t forget anything!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Lay out your clothes for tomorrow. This will save you SO MUCH TIME in the morning omg I can’t even tell you how important this is.

Eat something great. And once you’ve decided to be done eating for the night, be done. Brush your teeth so you can’t eat again.

After brushing, do a whitening treatment. Whether it’s classic baking soda, a Crest white strip, or a laser. Do something. And floss! Retainers in too, ladies 0:)

Relax! Take a few hours to do what YOU want to do. Scroll through Tumblr, binge on some Netflix, FaceTime gossip with your friends, anything. Do whatever makes you happiest.

Shut the electronics off an hour before you want to go to bed. Put your phone on sleep mode. If you stare at the screen, it will keep you awake and alert and you won’t be able to fall asleep. A good night’s sleep is crucial for weightless and general happiness lol

Do a quick sweep of your room and see if there’s anything you can put away real quick. A clean space is a happy space.

Crawl into your bed (aren’t you happy you took the time to make it?!) and read a book by lamplight for a while. When you start to feel sleepy, go to sleep. Don’t push it. You kicked ass today and you deserve rest.

EVERY WEEKEND

Do something with your friends. It just has to be one thing. Even if you’re just hanging out at the coffee shop, spending time with your squad will make you a better, happier person.

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Do something just for you. Set your laptop up in the bathroom and watch a Netflix marathon while you take a bubble bath. Buy an old school bottle of Mr. Bubbles ($3 at Target!) and really just soak. Relax. Light a candle.

Do something creative. You can read a book, write, blog, draw, code, anything. It just has to be something that speaks to your passion.

Track your progress. Just do this once a week so it doesn’t become all-consuming. And remember that non-scale victories are just as important as shedding pounds.

Take the time to be grateful. Tell your friend how much you admire her taste in music. Mention to your mom how much you love her cooking and how happy you are that she takes care of you. Thank your teaching after an especially interesting lecture. When you do something awesome, take a moment to admire yourself. Be grateful for even the little things.

Anything I missed? Reblog + add yours! Don’t forget to tag your progress!

mermaidstripperhoe

starting this Monday!

sugarluxuriabr-blog

I’ll just reblog and fav cause I need to read this in the morning!

pinksherry

Get on that grind!!! 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

highertheheelstheclosertogod

Need. To. Do. This

shrinkingblonde

Shrinking Blonde's Guide to a Flawless Face

Quick Tips

Get naked. Thoroughly wipe every last bit of makeup off of your face before hitting the pillow. Even if you’re up late and are utterly exhausted, you have to make this happen. I keep a pack of unscented makeup removing wipes in my nightstand as well as in my bathroom so if nothing else, I can swipe it across my face before I hit the hay. A naked face lets your skin breathe!

Be a lover, not a fighter. While abrasive scrubs and exfoliates may feel like the best thing for your skin, overdoing it can lead your skin to think it’s deprived of oil and it will overproduce it leading to nasty breakouts. Exfoliating treatments should be done (at most) one every other day. Any more and you will agitate your delicate skin,

Drop some acid. I couldn’t resist writing that haha. Use a face cleanser with salicylic acid to combat breakouts and even out your skin color. Focus on your t-zone for a squeaky clean face.

Tone up. Toner plays an absolutely crucial role in minimizing pores and smoothing your complexion. Squeeze some onto a cotton ball and wipe your entire face using upward strokes. Let it air dry.

Clean up your act. Clean your makeup brushes every day! Yes, I know this is a pain in the ass, but it is absolutely crucial to getting that flawless complexion. You can use a special spray to spot clean every day and then when you have time on the weekend, rinse the brushes with baby shampoo and water to thoroughly cleanse them.

Treat your self. This step is crucial. When you stress over school, boys, weight, etc. all you do is cause breakouts. Try stress relieving exercises like yoga, meditation, or journaling. Practice good eating habits, get lots of sleep, and really pamper your skin. Apply luxurious moisturizers, take bubble baths, and do clay masques on weekends to achieve that perfect glow.

My Skincare Routine (Morning and Evening)

Use a Clarisonic Aria with Josie Maran argon oil cleanser all over face for one minute.

Wipe Burt’s Bees alcohol-free toner all over my face in upward strokes with a cotton ball. Do this delicately as to not stress your sensitive face skin.

After allowing face to air dry, apply 100 percent pure argon oil all over my face (this will not cause breakouts!)

Dab a tiny bit of topical acne treatment on breakouts (if I have any).

Makeup Tips for Faking Perfect Skin

Use only non-comedogenic makeup with added SPF to avoid clogging pores. I like MAC Studio Fix foundation. A great drugstore alternative is Revlon 24-Hour foundation.

Be sure to apply your makeup to a freshly-cleaned face. If you don’t, you’re basically just adding gunk on top of gunk.

Use a primer that’s right for your skin type to ensure your foundation/concealer stays put. Smashbox makes an amazing line of primers for all kinds of skin problems including redness, color correcting, and pore minimizer.

To cover acne, use a concealer that’s one to two shades lighter than your skin tone. It will even out the color so your foundation applies perfectly on top.

Stay strong, shrinking beauties!

huckleberryb

icanthearyoudude

need me a freak like that

beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019

No warning or direction just pour pancake syrup on his d**k or in you are in dinner just ask the dessert to go, go home and smear the dessert from his belly button to his balls. Take my tongue and an ice cold spoon so I can randomly rub it on his head and scoop the frosting and enjoy my food. Night night!

♡

To All SBs with an iPhone!!!

I just recently updated my phone to iOS11 and noticed this. If your SD or POT has an iPhone which he may use to FaceTime/Skype/Video Chat, he could possibly record you without you knowing. Here’s how:

Go to Settings > Control Center > Customize Controls > Add Screen Recording

Once you enable that, it’ll appear like this in your Control Center:

This allows you to record whatever is on your screen. So if he’s talking to you, he can possibly be recording you. Be careful girls!!!

thebibliosphere

I’m wandering around Whole Foods unattended (left the bae sleeping) and there’s a person here doing a demonstration on the uses for essential oils around the home and I may have to fight them.

Just for the record, tea tree oil is toxic to dogs and cats and you should not “drop a few drops on their bed to disinfect it”. Tea tree oil is only safe for your pets when thoroughly diluted, the safety range being a dilution of 0.1 to 1%. Most tea tree oil bottles come at 100%.

You are potentially dropping liquid death onto your pets bed where it will certainly come into contact with their skin and may be ingested when they lick themselves or their bed. Also never ever orally administer tea tree oil to your pet, I dont care what that one blogger and their nice clean aesthetic said, tea tree oil is toxic to dogs and cats and you will make them sick or possibly even kill them. It should only ever be used topically but only ever at the correct dilution and after the consultation of your vet who will most certainly have a better non lethal solution for your furry friend.

Now. If you’ll excuse me, I’m off to fight a Young Living sales rep. Hold my cart.

thebibliosphere

Their response when I quietly sidled up to them (I’m not an actual asshole who yells at people while they are doing their job) and informed them that some of the information (all of it, actually) was wrong, the sales rep looked immediately remorseful, told me they knew it was wrong, but that they had a script to follow in order to maximize sales, and that if they didn’t make their target goal they didn’t get paid.

So just in case you give a shit about ethical business practices and your pets (not to mention yourselves!): Do Not Buy Young Living Essential Oils.

Not only do I suspect they are synthetic based (meaning myself and several others with respiratory allergies have reacted badly to them, in ways we do not react to actual pure oils which are obtained through either steam or cold press. I do not trust their “authentic” claims, and I have worked with a lot of essential oils over the last decade and a half. Also, the whole “therapeutic grade” things doesn’t actually mean shit. It’s not a standard recognized by any official regulating authority in the US, AUS, UK or other parts of Europe. Always dillute your oils with a carrier oil for topical application and for the love of god stop drinking them. You want the supplement not the essential oil, it’s a separate thing!) they also do not care that they are offering dangerous consumer advice, but are actively enforcing it. Do not buy into their pyramid scheme. Do not buy or sell from them.

I had to be That person who asked to speak to the manager of my local WH today because holy shit this, could have straight up murdered someone’s cat or caused their dog to have seizures. Their response to my concern was a befuddled “but it’s natural…” and I had to respond with “so is arsenic but I don’t see you selling it in the supplements aisle as a vital mineral”. She had to straight up think about that for a second before it clicked.

Natural =/= safe. Be careful and educated and always double check your sources.