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The weird thing about feminists is that instead of analyzing the reasons why women are becoming uncomfortable with the term or the movement, they just go “wuuut i don’t understand these silly stupid women lol don’t they want equality lol??? clearly any women who don’t identify as feminists are wackos who don’t believe in equal pay and bodily autonomy”
The reason is that they want to be popular with men. It’s the same as when anyone says they agree with you to get you to like them.
How would you go about being more likeable, then?
If you are aware that you are unlikeable, you probably understand why that’s the case. I feel like this is a weird question, we know what qualities are valued by the vast majority of society, kindness, honesty, compassion, humor etc.
That’s what’s advertised, but most people seem to prefer that you agree with them and never call them out on anything. You can be aware of being disliked without knowing why.
"Choose to be likeable/not be unlikeable" is as unhelpful as it comes. Why didn't you just say "bend over backwards to please people whose dislike for you probably ought to be mutual"?
Are the only people you find likeable ones that “bend over backwards” to please you?
How do you “choose to be likeable”, then?
Drew some tried-and-true halloween math jokes today for Math club!
Hard to source these, though! You just end up hearing jokes and remembering them throughout your life.
A Harry Potter themed comic from Existential Comics, exhibiting Russell’s paradox in logic and set theory.
sorry to bother but some people have told me when they catch me stimming they notice that i go cross eyed... does this happen to you to? or others? i feel like im the only one because i cant find anyone else who does it??
Yes, my eyes also do this! I didn’t know about it until I saw video of myself stimming.
My eyes also cross a bit when I look at something closer than an arms length away from me, like, more than other people I think? I actually have to look “past” the camera when I’m filming a video, or my eyes cross. I’m very nearsighted and have severe corneal stigmatism in both eyes, so maybe that is a part of it.
Followers, anyone else experience this?
Sometimes I’ll space out when I am tired and overloaded, and I’ll feel my eyes go out of focus.
Getting home from your last class of the week
Being not a dick is way more important and impressive than being intelligent
I'm not so sure. If I can't take it for granted that you won't be a dick, then yes, no amount of showing-off will impress me. But it's hardly cookie-worthy. As I said, I want to be able to take it for granted.
when you occasionally question the validity of your autism because you don't have very prevalent special interests like your friends and family say you should.
When you try to find your way back to the interests of your youth that your family crushed and stepped on.
AAC does not replace nonverbal communication
This is a continuation of a series on why I think it’s a mistake to ignore nonverbal communication in an attempt to force someone to use AAC. (The short version: it’s disrespectful, it undermines someone’s ability to communicate, and it prevents people from developing a valuable skill.)
One reason nonverbal communication is important for AAC users is that you always have your body with you. That is not necessarily the case for AAC devices.
AAC best practices say that someone should have them available constantly. In practice, people don’t. This is for several reasons. One is that it’s not practical to take a device to some places (for instance, most people are not willing to take a high tech device to the beach, and low tech devices are a lot more limiting.) Another reason is that sometimes people forget, or vastly underestimate how close a device needs to be in order to be immediately available. Or any number of reasons, some innocent and some horrifying, and many a mixture of both.
Also, people take devices away from AAC users. They shouldn’t, but they do. Sometimes it’s accidental; sometimes it’s on purpose. It’s never ok, but people do it a lot. If you’re teaching a nonverbal child to communicate, you need to keep this in mind when you’re considering what to teach them. You can’t assume that people will always treat them appropriately, and you can’t assume that they will always have their device. If they are capable of communicating with their body, it is an important skill for them.
Whatever else happens, someone always has their body with them. People can do a lot more if they can use their body to communicate. Communicating in body language can make it possible to communicate in a swimming pool. It can make it possible to communicate with dirty hands. It can make it possible for someone to indicate that their device isn’t within reach and that they need it. It can make it possible to communicate about pain in medical situations. It can make it possible to communicate when someone else doesn’t want you to, and has taken your device away. It can make friendship possible that otherwise wouldn’t be. And any number of other things, all of which are important.
And in order to be able to communicate with body language, people need opportunities to practice and develop this skill. If you ignore someone’s nonverbal communication to encourage AAC use, you’re making it harder for them to develop comprehensible body language. That’s not a good idea, because comprehensible body language is important. People won’t always have access to their device. They will always have their body.
tl;dr Nonverbal communication is important for nonverbal people, but parents are often encouraged to pretend not to understand it in order to encourage AAC use. This makes it harder for people to develop body language that others can understand. One reason this is a problem is that people don’t always have access to their devices, but people *do* always have access to their bodies. Nonverbal people should have support in developing nonverbal communication, because it is an important skill.
“Look, our child is trying to connect with us. Let’s crush all her hopes of connecting with anyone ever again!”
when there is something in your mom's voice that just makes your brain hurt so much and she keeps thinking you just hate her and/or are being a brat
This. So much.
[murder tw] tfw u tell ur mom abt what happened to issy stapleton because u were so shocked by reading an article abt it and u need to talk abt it, but then she just keeps defending the mom like "what if she hadnt been able to sleep for a MONTH?!"(1)
shes just “do u know how HARD people with autism are to live with? how can u know if that girl was ever HAPPY? think abt what the MOM must have been going through!!” and u feel rly scared but u don’t know what to say to explain why shes wrong(2)
I really really cannot fathom what causes parents to think it is ever okay to murder their children. I am really really frightened by parents who sympathize with murderers/would-be-murderers of autistic children, because there is always an alternative to murdering a child, even if that alternative is giving up custody.
- metapianycist
I heard good things about Bones (autistic character anyone?) and it’s on Netflix so I decided to give it a shot. It was going okay until the fourth episode of the first season when things got suddenly weirdly racist against natives. Like, as soon as I saw the park ranger I knew it’d be bad but man, it was terrible. And there was also a lot of misogyny and sex shaming with the vet? And the fetishing of the delivery woman?? AND IT WAS SO ABLEIST. I no longer consider Booth a redeemable character either, so I give up.
*crosses Bones off of potential series to love*
She is awful, and most of her character development is just her learning extremely basic lessons about empathy and companionship. She is indeed ableist, she has some sort of superiority complex linked to her high IQ which seems to manifest mainly as competitiveness. I don’t know if it helps humanize us in the eyes of NTs, but there is hope.
What’s so irredemable about Booth, though?
is it normal with autism to have trouble processing one sensory input thing when there's too much of another? like for example i have to turn my music off when i'm smelling the milk to figure out if it's gone bad, and sometimes i have trouble processing what people are saying if there's too many tactile things and smells and whatever going on, even if it's completely quiet other than their voice
I have seen a few autistic people write about experiencing this. It’s definitely in the realm of sensory integration and processing atypicalities.
- metapianycist
Interestingly, not true for senses I was never told are separate when I was little.
If anyone wants to think for a living, I won’t try to stop them.
About schools hiring "specialists" who know nothing it makes me think of what my school did to me once I was diagnosed with AS. Instead of encouraging me to be what I wanted, they noticed I'd taken an interest in drawing and convinced me that I had to do that instead of possibly being a teacher or marine biologist. Perhaps we are not encouraged to help others by becoming "specialists" in our own disorders. However my mother thinks that it would be beneficial. Sorry if this is not clear.
What the heeeeeeeck that makes! a lot sense! I don’t know why I never really thought about it before but it’s probably very true that they steer us away from being teachers and such, probably for a lot of reasons but all ableist in nature. And it becomes a vicious cycle because they’ve been misinformed, and so won’t allow the next generation proper information because of it! Dang……
-Brother Cat (who’s in a bit of a conspiracy theory mood now…)
6, 23, 27? :3
6. What are your special interest(s)?
X-Men, herbalism (for medical purposes, not magical, but I respect that too), and skincare/makeup, with an emphasis on Korean makeup and skincare. AND Marvel’s Daredevil. This one is very intense right now, but I also have the feeling that it will pass relatively quickly.
The X-Men has been since I was a tiny Amythest (like, seven or eight?), the herbalism since I was a young teen, and the Korean makeup/skincare is new in the past year and a bit. I have other interests and things I like to do, but none I would classify as a special interest or hyperfixation.
23. What do you dislike about being autistic?
- Sensory overload (bad sensory SPD experiences in general)
- Meltdowns/shutdowns
- Motor dyspraxia
- Aphasia (expressive, receptive, anomic)
- Speech dyspraxia (and going nonverbal, which is in some kind of a Venn diagram with the speech dyspraxia and the aphasia)
- Autistic burnout
- EXECUTIVE FREAKING DYSFUNCTION
27. Which ‘social rules’ do you often have trouble with?
- People are going to say wrong things. Really wrong things. Like, “You walk by six serial killers in your lifetime”, or “If the sun were even 100 kilometres closer to the sun we would all burn up”, or “Cyclops is the best member of the X-Men”. People will also dislike it when you correct them, so it’s going to hurt and drive you to distraction, but you gotta just keep it to yourself.
And you have to correct someone, don’t say, “No, that’s wrong, it’s actually [correct information]”. Try, “Actually, I think it might be [correct information]“ instead. But you should really only do it one or two times per conversation at most, or people get defensive and call you a know-it-all.
- Many (most?) humans prioritize feelings over reality. This means that people will say really silly things and do even sillier things, sometimes knowingly, often knowing what the true or real things is but living willfully in denial. Making any effort to point out cognitive dissonance, irrational behaviour, and decision making founded upon emotions rather than thought or consideration will be met with further frustrating amounts of denial, further retreat into emotion, and self-deceit. Or anger. People also get angry about this.
- When confronted with the immediate threat of physical contact, the thing to do is to take a slow step back, smile, and say something like “Haha I’m not much of a hugger” and just hope for the best. If you are like me and you’re so startled and scared of those arms coming at you that you panic, be prepared to apologize profusely. Lots of people take it personally and get hurt when you kind of squeak and jump away and stare at them wide eyed while stammering incoherent excuses.
*Disclaimer, I don’t actually believe in or support these “social rules”. These are just the most common things that I have gotten trouble for lately.
Cyclops isn’t the worst member of the X-men, though. That would be Emma Frost.
Oh, the huggers. I mostly pretend to be a statue for however long it lasts. I’ll claw skin of my face if there’s lips or spit or other grossness.
