#validity

[nonbinarynow]

Reminder: Nonbinary struggles go much further past us being "valid." I wonder sometimes that the fixation on our validity is a convenient distraction from addressing our oppression and subjugation.

[the-aspec-enby]

day one of telling different a-spec people they're valid

aromantics are valid! asexuals are valid! aroace ppl are valid! alloace ppl are valid! aroallo ppl are valid!

[adelaide-the-carer]

your regression is valid !

whether you're a pet regressor or an age regressor, a permaregressor or a temporary regressor, a voluntary or involuntary regressor, a baby regressor, a toddler regressor, a preteen regressor, or a teen regressor, you are valid !!!!

-miss ada <3

[hazy-daffodil]

"Your feelings are valid!"

Valid =/= rational.

Valid =/= more important than others'.

Valid =/= an excuse for your behavior.

It honestly took me many years to learn this.

People spout a lot of toxic positivity with regards to feelings, and it definitely impacts how we handle conflicts. That is, negatively.

This is because people fundamentally misunderstand what valid means in this context. When it comes to feelings, "valid" means that they are real and that you have the right to feel them.

I'm gonna tackle the three points I made above here:

Valid =/= rational:

Just because your feelings are valid does not mean they are based in facts or logic. We cannot control our feelings. They are often rooted in subconscious biases. This is why they say our feelings are not us.

Valid =/= more important than others'.

Just because your feelings are valid does not mean they are the only important feelings in the room. Other people's feelings matter, too.

Valid =/= an excuse for your behavior.

Just because your feelings are valid does not mean that you get to do harmful things because of them. It is true that our feelings inform and influence our actions. However, the difference between the two is simple: we cannot control our feelings. We can control our actions. Our actions are our responsibility.

I hope this information helped you like it's helped me. It's given me a much healthier outlook on life, and has allowed me to treat my loved ones better.

[jaxplode]

rant and question relating to the antonym of androgyny below

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i dont have reddit. never planning to get it. so ill look for info here since no search engines will offer it to me.

nonbinary here, i identify as completely excluded from the gender binary. not in between, completely outside.

so, my question.

the term "androgynous" means in the middle of femme and masc. so whats its direct opposite? i dont mean the term "gendered", no, i want to push it. the exact opposite. not in the middle, not at the ends, but completely outside of the limits. outside of the box. whats a word someone could use to describe someone with neither masculine of feminine traits? not inbetween, not both, but completely neither.

i really want a word like this to exist, you see, since it would be far more gender-affirming

thanks for anyone willing to help! sorry if this didnt make sense or somehow came off as offensive in any way, im just trying to find words to make me feel comfortable in my skin.

[thetendertongue]

episteme — knowledge or understanding.

in the context of Foucault: the underlying framework that defines the conditions of possibility for knowledge in a particular historical period. not just about what people know, but about the rules and structures that determine how they come to know it. each era has its own episteme that governs the production of knowledge (e.g., think of how differently we understand biology, economics, or linguistics compared to those in the 18th century). these frameworks operate beneath the surface, often unconsciously guiding what is considered valid knowledge.

shapes the discourse of the time, influencing language, concepts, and categories used in various fields of study. helps us recognize what we consider "truth" or "knowledge" is not universal or timeless, but instead shaped by historical and cultural contexts

[fancykoalagirl]

just saw a muslim girl tiktoker say, nail polish is allowed and doesnt invalidate whudu bc the khuf is the same thing; something over the actual limb but wiping over it is sufficient for whudus validity. she also said, that it disadvantages women because men can leave the foot unwashed while women cant leave their hands unwashed.

and my argument is, its not abt whudu, its abt ghusl of the mayyit; ghusl isnt valid unless water touches the body, khuf is easily removable (just a zip) while polish isnt (polish remover and scraping), harm and aggression cant be done to the body. and we can die at any time so theres no predicting when thatll happen so rather dont do nail polish for the sake of those who'll bathe ur body for the last time. return to ur Lord the same way He made u: clean and pure; u were not made with polish on ur nails 🩷

this is a lesson for me first, and by no means am i criticising or insulting any scholar or religious opinion. im merely giving my own view and take on the matter 💅