the secondary self

lifestyle, thoughtful ramblings, growth

[alter-shego]

i've mastered the art of being unbothered, control your emotions control your life

[wiiwheel]

Everyone is bloomscrolling in my beautiful internet garden

[underwelmed]

source

[oatymilks]

brianna pastor

[alter-shego]

girl get up, remember who the fuck you are

[emmaharwoods]

ANOK YAI — Met Gala 2026

[scorpionlafemme]

Every version of you was necessary. Even the ones you’re ashamed of.

[partying]

ig: kelsey_diprima

[keptandkind]

every time you hesitate, someone less talented takes your spot. the world rewards audacity and confidence, NOT potential alone.

[gentle-cottage]

[gumuhit]

you’re going to love again, find a job again, create art again, do what you love again, feel powerful again. you’re going to be back on track. i don’t know when, but you are going to feel like yourself again, eventually. this isn’t the end. hang in there.

[kafkaesquegf]

they should invent a high ponytail that doesn’t give me a headache and they should invent a low ponytail that doesn’t make me look like a miller’s apprentice going off to enlist in the continental army

[alter-shego]

This past week felt like a checkpoint for my career. I was invited to be a panel speaker for an industry event by a former colleague. I had assumed that the audience would consist of a good number of people, but even I was surprised at the turnout. I estimate there must have been 500 people in the audience.

It's been a while since I last spoke in front of a large crowd. I did a company-wide presentation just a little under a year ago, in front of a few thousand people. Over the past few years, my position as a project owner allowed me to become really comfortable presenting in front of others since I was forced to lead so many meetings. If freshly-graduated me could see me now, she would never believe her eyes.

After the panel, I had so many people come up to me to applaud me on the talk and how much they could relate. I also ran into a former coworker who's the same age as me. He reached out to mention how much my drive had inspired him all those years ago and how proud he was to see me on stage.

I concluded the week by meeting up with one of my mentees who happened to be in town.

Looking back, I've grown so much over the past decade. I've become a person confident enough to take public speaking opportunities and become a mentor to aspiring young professionals. Despite all of this, I feel like my journey has only started, and I have so much more to learn.

I'm really proud of myself, and I'm excited to see what the next decade will bring. :)

[alter-shego]

I love a good weekend reset. Was busy with social commitments tomorrow but I've got the whole day ahead of me today! Spent the morning tidying up the apartment and the husband suggested shopping later in the afternoon. Will restock on some household needs at the no-waste grocery store and then maybe we'll go to the mall for some makeup and clothes shopping!

[oatymilks]

faringso huset

[everythingfox]

Perfect fit

[undinesea]

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