ME MANIFESTING THAT EVERYONE WHO SEE THIS POST GETS WHAT THEY WANT.
Stranger Things
Monterey Bay Aquarium
Mike Driver
No title available

Janaina Medeiros
cherry valley forever
sheepfilms

roma★

Origami Around

titsay
h
will byers stan first human second
"I'm Dorothy Gale from Kansas"

JBB: An Artblog!
art blog(derogatory)
Xuebing Du
Peter Solarz
d e v o n
Misplaced Lens Cap
KIROKAZE
seen from United States
seen from United States

seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States

seen from Malaysia

seen from Malaysia

seen from Peru

seen from United States
seen from South Africa

seen from Germany
seen from Sri Lanka
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States

seen from United States
@altyexcray
ME MANIFESTING THAT EVERYONE WHO SEE THIS POST GETS WHAT THEY WANT.
The ever amazing @ladylilithprime let me adopt a truly dark prompt 4 years ago, and *hahahahahaha* I'm a little fucked in the head and figured.. WHY THE HELL NOT?!
My demons are LOVING this prompt, and the chance to delve into mental health issues we live with daily.
It's not easy.
I am NOT OK.
But writing is cathartic, yea?
Doing my best with what I know, and have an amazing support system.
Without much ado..
The first story I've written since Fall 2021!
Sorry not sorry.
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
Gonna link this ko-fi shop from a fellow member of the @indiesellersguild because he's recently started making these door hangers requesting (or demanding, if you like) that no one enter the room before putting on a mask.
He's said that you can message him about getting them for less if you need to.
It was originally made for medical appointments, but you can really use it anywhere.
This post specifically isn't turning up in searches, which is irritating when you're specifically trying to boost someone's work. I've made a bunch of edits and can't figure out why. :c
From The Little Girl from the 1981 Lego Ad Is All Grown Up, and She’s Got Something To Say.
“Toys are supposed to foster creativity. But nowadays, it seems that a lot more toys already have messages built into them before a child even opens the pink or blue package. In 1981, LEGOs were simple and gender-neutral, and the creativity of the child produced the message. In 2014, it’s the reverse: the toy delivers a message to the child, and this message is weirdly about gender.”
HOLLA!!!!
A lot of people don’t realize, but the Friends and Elves themes are actually LEGO trying to fix the massive mistake they made with gendered marketing in the ‘90s.
LEGO panicked in the ‘90s. They were losing money hand over fist as video games and movies occupied more of kids’ time. In response, like a lot of toy manufacturing at the time, they took a sharp right turn into highly gendered marketing. They made sure that all the new parents of the Reagan/Bush era knew that LEGO was safe and not challenging for their little boys’ masculinity. ALL of their advertising went to promoting LEGO as a “boys toy”, and they invested in “action” themes and cartoons for boys, like Clutch Powers and Bionicle. Even plain, non-themed bricks were advertised exclusively by and for boys. They even reduced the number of different colors and the vibrancy of those colors to make sure the bricks seemed masculine enough.
This came back to bite them, as naturally it should. They, along with the other toy companies in the ‘90s, pressed so hard with the gendered marketing, that there was literally no crossover market in most areas anymore. They had alienated half of their customer base. Those Reagan/Bush parents they were so worried about bought into the gendered marketing hook, line, and sinker. Many of these parents (especially the conservative ones with more money to spend on toys) wouldn’t even consider allowing their little girls to shop anywhere but the “pink aisle”. I know many women who grew up in the ‘90s have stories about that, of parents and other adults telling them they couldn’t shop anywhere else. There are parents all over, but especially in conservative markets like the Bible Belt, that will still not buy a toy for their girl unless the box is pink.
Because LEGO had remade itself as a “boy’s toy,” it had now been purged from the market of girls’ toys entirely. They tried to get back into the “pink aisle” with the Belville line, but Belville was shit, because they were made to appeal to the conservative parents rather than the kids. They were mostly about big, awkward dolls with almost DUPLO simplicity to the build aspect, most pieces were incompatible with regular LEGO system bricks, and they were just not fun.
Then, in the late ‘00s, someone at LEGO had the brilliant idea to actually ask little girls. They spent 5 years and millions of dollars doing hundreds of focus groups with girls with their parents not in the room to influence what they were saying. The resounding response? The girls wanted the exact same brick their male siblings had, but with more color variation, detail work, and also could we have people that look like people instead of blocks with arms?
LEGO Friends is the result of this feedback. Released in 2012, it has been the best way for LEGO to sneak past conservative parents and into little girls’ hands again. Friends is all LEGO brick, but as the little girls requested, it comes in more, brighter colors, has more small, storytelling-themed details, and features characters that look more like people. The sets were a bit tentative that first year, not a particular challenge to build, but have since gained complexity rapidly as the line took off. If you look closely and actually build the sets, you will notice that while the boxes are pink, the builds are usually another color. Still generally “cute”, but rarely exclusively pink. The pink is mostly the box to get it past the parents who see nothing but the box.
LEGO Friends is the third most popular LEGO theme of all time, after Star Wars at #1 and LEGO City at #2 (mostly because City has been there forever). Think about that. Five years, and it has beaten the sales numbers of most other LEGO lines in the last 80 years since the company was founded. Additionally, the LEGO Friends theme has entirely shifted LEGO’s statistics. In 2010, surveys indicated that the gender breakdown of end-users of LEGO products across all themes was 90% boys, 10% girls. In 2013, one year after Friends was released, it had shifted to 60% boys, 40% girls. That’s across all themes. Some quick market research discovered that little girls would get a Friends set or two, and then expand into other themes. Because obviously my town with a juice bar and a cupcake shop has to have a police station or a pirate fortress too, mom.
And LEGO added the Elves theme last year, specifically because older girls wanted to tell more complex and fantasy-themed stories with their LEGO builds. Elves is targeted at a slightly higher age group than Friends, and the complexity of the Elves constructions rivals any Star Wars set of similar size. Every single development with “girl” LEGO in the last 5 years has been at the express feedback of actual girls.
LEGO still has a long way to go to fix the mistakes of the ‘90s. There are still marketing people in the company who don’t fucking get it, and think that they’re just shilling “girl LEGO.” There are still a lot of old white men in very high positions in the company who don’t understand what’s going on, they’re mostly just coasting on what market research and focus groups are telling them. And some themes, like Ninjago, are still very clearly marketed for boys while Friends and Elves are marketed for girls. They have a long way to go to fix what they broke.
At the same time, if you’re unwilling to allow a pink building toy to be a gateway to other building toys just because it’s pink, the problem is not the pink building toy.
LEGO Friends I’m sorry for all that I said about you
I drew this based on the view from my living room window. I saw two crows sitting on birch trees and felt like it needed to be remembered.
[ image id: a digital illustration of birch trees in a forest. there are two ravens sitting on two different trees. the sky beyond is dark with white stars / end id ]
Anatolian shepherd dog puppy in training
(Source)
hot girl throwing up in a dumpster outside the club
okay so decided to reverse image search and it's apparently a memorial to unborn babies lost during or immediately after pregnancy due to genetic defects (website says trisomy 18 specifically)
so as much as I love to make a joke on here, I'm going to retract my last comment and replace it with:
fuck you, that's absolutely ghoulish behavior to co-opt someone else's grief, strip it of context, and warp it's meaning to fit your personal beliefs i hope you die in a car fire
Ok, I've seen this sentiment before, but the amount of Kindle Unlimited ads I've been seeing is forcing me to repeat it-
Kindle Unlimited is offering two free months of unlimited ebooks. As a trial. Which will then become a paid subscription.
Your local library is offering unlimited ebooks all the time. Forever. No contracts, no predatory practices, no tracking of how long you spend on each particular page in the hopes that information about your habits can be sold for a profit.
Use your library. They want so badly to give you all of the things for free.
If it helps, it's not even technically a "for free hand out," your taxes and/or the taxes of your fellow community members paid for it. So all you need to do is go in and ask for a library card (always free, because taxes already paid for it) which is really you just proving you live in the area (or in an area the library has a reciprocal relationship with. Depending on these relationships you can totally have multiple library cards, advanced library-ing.)
A Checklist Of Possible Reasons I Am Upset, To Review When I Can't Seem To Figure It Out:
did not eat
new hyperfixation and no time for it
have not done a creative in 24 hrs
Bad Sounds
clothes are touching my body
cold
people
one (1) comment is stuck in my brain like a popcorn kernel
last time I drank water was ??????
nervous nervous nervous nervous
got a Slightly Worse grade than expected
last hug was ??????
slept a full 45 minutes
lonely ............
guts are shredding (again)
have not seen sunlight in 24 hrs
stuck inside
too much screen time
Yay Overwhelm
room is disaster area
have not talked to Person in a while
bored
imposter phenomenon (again)
no current routine
how long have I been working???
Too Much Socialization
and then. and THEN. I may consider:
something is actually wrong
“how do walkable communities help disabled people” as if wheelchair users don’t need safe streets or autistic people don’t need well marked road crossings or people who CAN’T DRIVE, who are often disabled and poor, don’t use sidewalks and transit………………..
“oh yes my car centric city that kills hundreds of people annually is the height of accessibility because infrastructure for walking and rolling are ableist actually”
I can’t count the number of times I’ve seen people in wheelchairs forced to go into the road itself because there’s literally no sidewalk and they can’t go through the grass, or if they could, they can’t even get to the grass because when the sidewalk ended it did so with a foot and a half drop into the dirt.
I am trying to find a Jewish therapist in a city with a dozen+ synagogues. And my options are the woman who bait-and-switched me and 2 out of network people. Meanwhile every other counselor wants to tell me how their Christian values won’t get in the way. Get fucked.
Hi @dancinbutterfly!
I'm taking advantage of this post to reflect on the subject, hope you don't mind. Again, mix of me putting my thoughts in order and asking questions.
So, I'm agnostic and culturally catholic (which is the literral translation of the expression I use in french when talking about theology, so I find your "Culturally Christian" perfectly suited and relevant) and I find this snippet of everyday life experience quite interesting because very often we don't question how universal truths (that are only universal from our cultural background point of view) affect our way of thinking. I guess that is the position of the therapists you came across.
I had the opportunity to discuss with a practising protestant friend about the way the variation in both credo made our worldview diverge (for exemple the matter of whether you are "saved"/"a good person TM" because of your faith (protestantism) or your actions (catholicism) has quite a lot of ramifications especially when considering "bad" actions supposedly made for the benefit of faith). A lot of things I was hearing about american protestant christians made sense then and that was only between two branches of christianism.
So question :
Would you have any ressources/interesting post or would you be interested in developing your thoughts on how the difference between judaism and christianism affects the way things are perceived in the context of therapy or in any other context that inspire you ?
A few posts I already found related to the subject, (if you read them, I would be interested in your take) :
- The problem with redemptive suffering: A Jewish Evil Regal perspective, (thank you very much @eshusplayground for this post and the next one ! I really liked this one, because the virtue of suffering and "what doesn't kill you, make you stronger" is a pattern of thought I sometime recognised in my life. It can be conforting at times but it also has so many negative effects)
- Redemption arcs and Christian hegemony in fandom (very interesting to consider the difference between redemption and atonement)
- your own on being the "other" in a full in-your-face-christianity society
Hope the depressive episode you mentionned in your Kinnporsche/Saezuru fic post is on its way out,
Have a very nice day.
You delight me and I adore you. So I don’t have anything specific but @prismatic-bell @tikkunolamorgtfo @athingofvikings all have a lot of stuff to offer and people who they reblog do too.
when will tumblr users learn to make posts spreading information without guilt tripping people
Fun fact, if you add “you had better not scroll past this” or “everyone has to reblog this” to the end of your post, that’s guaranteeing I’m not touching it, no matter how good the information presented in the post is.
If I do something good because it makes me feel like a good person, is that technically selfish?
no, only if you’re choosing to make others suffer to make yourself feel good
enjoying making other people happy is a great thing
There is a Jewish story about a wealthy man who came to his rabbi and said “I have decided to build an orphanage, can you put me in touch with the relevant people”
The rabbi was delighted to do it, and introduced the man to some charities. After a few weeks, the man came back to the rabbi.
“I have decided not to build the orphanage,” he said. “I realised that I was only doing it because I wanted to be admired as a philanthropist, my motives were selfish.”
The rabbi answered, “do you think the orphans will care what your motives were? Build the orphanage!”
this… makes a very good point.
According to ongoing studies into happiness in the psych department at Berkeley, making yourself happy by making other people happy is how it’s meant to work
I feel like this is such a common idea, and I just want to extrapolate it to its logical conclusion. If it is wrong to make others happy or do objectively charitable things when it also makes you happy, then in this moral model, you are MEANT to be miserable. Not only is your own happiness weighted negatively, it’s given such a large weight that your unhappiness is more important than the happiness of many others. So the most moral thing anyone can do is actively make themselves unhappy, with no regard for anyone else. That is… not a world I want to live in.
Light it up, Blue! happy autism acceptance month, don’t support autism speaks!
based on this iconic image
Remember kids,
Arson can solve a lot of things, very quickly
[Image ID: The first is fanart of Blue from Blue’s Clues standing on her hind legs with a button on her chest that is the symbol for autism, a rainbow infinity symbol, on a black background and a close eyes smile on her face, throwing a Molotov at Autism Speaks’ blue puzzle piece that’s already on fire. The background is a simple beige with a darker beige acting as the ground. On the picture is white text reading “Light it up, Blue!” and a soft light comes from the burning puzzle piece
The second image is clip art. It has an image of Blue on her hind legs, looking up and holding out her paw. A moltov cocktail flies from her hand going for the, this time much closer, blue puzzle piece. On the bottom of the puzzle piece is darker blue text also reading “Light it up, Blue.”/ end ID]
“if somebody becomes panicked when you accuse them of lying theyre obviously not telling the truth” shut up ugly im a survivor who got punished for shit i never did all the time of fucking course im gonna panic when im blamed for something i didnt do
since this post is actually getting attention rn i really want to emphasize this-
many of the “tells” of lying are traits commonly found in abuse survivors and mentally ill/disabled people.
stuttering, averting eye contact, panicking, raising your volume, fidgeting, and other similar traits are actions performed commonly by these groups, especially in situations of heavy stress- such as being accused of doing something we didnt do, especially if we are afraid of being punished for doing nothing.
im honestly begging people to think critically when accusing somebody of lying for small traits like these.