Being the "Black Sheep" in the family, this reminds me so much of my family. I've been dealing with colorism in my family for some time. Why is that?! I wish I knew the answer. What I do know is that even though they talk hella shit about me, they secretly want my life. How is it that you can bully me, criticize me, body shame and bash me, yet get upset when I choose not to spend time with you?! Please tell me, how does that make any sense!? Our families, I've learned that they can be our first bullies in our lives. And when you point it out to them, to them it is "tough love". That's not tough love. Let's be real about what it truly is! It is manipulation, narcissism, jealousy, insecurity and straight out hate that people project onto you because they aren't happy. I've been reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The second agreement is to not take things personally because the person who is doing all the negative things is projecting their true feelings towards you. I let what someone says go into one ear and out the other a lot. I refuse to get myself hurt because of others actions, words and energy. Their pain has nothing to do with me. I love my family but I can admit I don't like a lot of them. I set healthy and safe boundaries to protect myself. I don't know who this may resonate with. I hope you know that you are great the way you are. Just because your family may treat you in a certain manner, doesn't mean you are suppose to be ok with it. Set boundaries and if that me separating yourself for a while, then please do so! Please know that You Matter! Keep fighting!
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