Grade A

In life good things come to those that hustle In love keep loyalty top priority. In all things keep God first and trust your beautiful struggle....

[ancanada]

I have literally never thought that I could believe in a man the way that I believe in him…. You see I lost hope in men a LONG time ago…. But this man he restores my faith that there is still good floating around somewhere in this world he makes me believe in me, in him, in us…. He is literally everything I have ever asked God for and more. There is power in prayer! He has become my best fran and biggest supporter. Just when I gave up hope he marched his way into my life!!! That’s my baby I got his back until the end 😘😘😘

[heyfranhey]

These Are The 29 Black Women Who Help Run The White House

Black Girl Long Hair writes:

Featured in the November 2015 issue of Essence magazine are the 29 powerhouse black women charged with keeping the Obama Administration running. Aptly titled, “Women of the White House,” the feature not only pays homage to these ladies, but also shares with the readers the secrets to their success.

“Never take a job that doesn’t terrify [you]. Those are the jobs worth doing.”

— Adaeze Enekwechi, Associate Director for Health, Office of Management and Budget

Women have always played vital roles in the presidency, however, this is the first time we’re seeing such a dynamic group of black women openly sharing their experiences as key proponents of the executive branch. Ranging in age from 23 to 60, these women are role models, history makers, and examples of the “Yes We Can” motto for which the Obama Administration is known.

Meet these incredible women.

[spiritualinspiration2]

[ancanada]

My perfect distraction and my Dutch Man 😍

[thesentimentalmisfit-blog-deact]

My mom carried me for nine months. She felt sick for those months with nausea, then she watched her feet swell & her skin stretch. She teared. She struggled to climb stairs, she got breathless quickly and she even suffered many sleepless nights. She then went through excruciating pain to bring me into this world. Then, she became my nurse, my chef, my maid, my chauffeur, my biggest fan, my teacher & my best friend. She's struggled for me, cried over me, hoped the best for me and prayed for me. Most of us take our mom for granted. Reblog if you love your mom more than anything else in the world.

[ninthwardjawn-deactivated201902]

There are 6 type of niggas in ya phone.

1. The ‘snooze’ ass niggas ——-> this is the nigga that hits u up first all the time but NEVER is talking about anything remotely interesting. talking to this nigga is like watching paint dry. he hits u with boring ass replies and is often clueless as to why u stopped texting him mid conversation. it’s because ur fucking boring nigga! u ain’t talking about shit!!!!!

2. The ‘pop up’ ass niggas———> this nigga will hit u up periodically and ask u how u been. this type of nigga is infamous for hitting ur phone during holidays. he usually hits u up like he didn’t stop talking to ur ass for 2 months. he pops up in and out of ur life so many times that u probably have his number deleted and when he hits u up, u have to pretend like u know who it is. 

3. The ‘send me a pic’ ass niggas———–> a lot of niggas fall into this category but this category is specifically for niggas that press u about nudes. u could have sent this nigga a million nudes and he’s still greedy for more. this nigga has seen ya body from multiple angles and he still ain’t satisfied. he usually sends the worst dick pics with horrible lighting. most of the time this nigga usually stays far away from u. a local nigga doesn’t need this many nudes to keep him satisfied. 

4. The ‘wyd? where u at? who u wit? boy or girl?’ ass niggas——–>this nigga ain’t even ur man and he sweating u like he is. he STAY asking questions about who ur with and ur where abouts. he doesn’t contact u just to talk, he is contacting u to keep an eye on u. he’s also infamous for hitting u up with that ‘wyd’ or ‘why u ain’t replying fast enough’ when u step away from ur phone for too long. he’s a double texter. he often asks possessive ass questions as if u two are in a relationship. shut the fuck up nigga. 

5. The ‘why u never call me’ or ‘hey stranger’ ass niggas——-> these niggas are constantly bitching and complaining about why u haven’t hit them up. u go one day without contacting them and they hit u with that ‘hey stranger’ text. these niggas spend more time asking why u haven’t hit them up than actually holding a conversation with u. amazing. 

6.The ‘wyd at 2 am’ ass niggas——–>this nigga will only contact u during booty call hours. this nigga will seriously ask what u are doing at like 3:44 a.m. and then proceed to ask if u can come thru. he wants some pussy. he never sincerely wants to know what ur ass is doing sis. 

[ninthwardjawn-deactivated201902]

like this is probably one of the most accurate posts i have ever made? like this was really spot on????

[lavendersucculents]

Truly

[ancanada]

Sometimes it takes time and consistency!!! On my way!!!!

[zaidammari]

An Early Twenties Struggle...

Success…

What does that word exactly mean? Defining that simple word has been quite a challenge. This small word has been on my mind for quite some time now and in turn, has put me through waves of frustration and disillusion.

A year and a half after I walked that stage and obtained my bachelor’s degree, I’m still lost trying to define success. I am still living with my parents. I am earning a salary that is just enough to support myself. I am twenty-three and have not been on a date in almost two years. I have yet to find an outlet for my passions and turn that into a promising future. By any secular standard, I have failed to achieve success.

I could detail the accounts of how God directed me to stay with my parents, to not take up a high-salaried job that pressured for compromise, and to stay single rather than waste time with the wrong woman… but to be honest, knowing that I had trusted God in those decisions lent little comfort amid the struggle of feeling that I had somehow missed it. I resented the sacrifices I had made to walk obediently, and struggled as I let my heart and thoughts fight against each other.

Psalm 73:3 described the man I was perfectly –  “I was envious at the foolish, when I saw the prosperity of the wicked” 

Comfort came during my reading of Paul’s words through Philippians; 

Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith – that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death…

…Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

- (Philippians 3:8-10, 13-14).

Reading and meditating on this scripture made me realize that every little thing that I do to achieve earthly success is considered a loss, a complete and utter waste, in light of the surpassing value of knowing Christ. I learned that knowing Christ is to be the only standard of my success: not the attainment of the American dream, a professional achievement or anything society deems successful . As long as I am pursuing the world’s lies of success and still attempting to succeed in God’s eyes, I will always struggle and become a man that is unstable in all his ways. I need to put my mind and my heart on the things above and I must always remember that my citizenship is in heaven and not of this world.

[jetaimeraitoujours]

8 Not-So-Stereotypical Things Every Girl In Her Early 20s Should Know | Elite Daily

Your young 20s isn’t just about renting your first apartment by yourself or graduating college. It’s knowing you’re free and understanding your freedom.

applies to everyone, not just females

[stringingthewords]

In being alone, I excel

I excel in being alone. Might toast with myself, and celebrate independence.

So when you’re in your early 20s, have just graduated from college, trying to resolve which career path you’d like to take, and trying to resolve your personal issues.. I guess, being in a relationship is the least you need. Oh well, at least for me. I am 20, have just graduated from college, trying to resolve which career path I’d like to take, and trying to resolve my personal issues. And in being alone, it’s something I excel on.

6 reasons as to why I excel in being alone

1. I’m starting my career. Okay, we all know it’s not a fairy tale after college. The real world is bigger, and there a lot more things I need to focus on. Maybe start a business, get my MS. Or both. But one thing is for sure - I won’t forever be in the office, reporting from 8AM to 5PM. And with the given situation, and my frame of mind, my relationship would have to take the back seat.

2. Dating is fun. And dating, nonexclusive. Meet new people, hear new stories, and experience new things. And being in a commitment bugs you down to one man. Not that you’re not satisfied, it’s just that these years and days are better spent with many people. I’m not thinking of settling down, and being a mother. Eh. So, yeah.

3. I like leaning on bus windows. Not on anyone’s shoulders. I just enjoy looking outside, see the cars and the people we pass by. And comes with is hugging my bag and my shoulders tight. Not hugging anyone else. Just myself.

4. I like quiet places. Where I can have a cup of coffee or a glass of milk tea. And where I can also read a good (preferably Haruki Murakami’s) book. I don’t like to go to fancy restaurants, and sit in front or beside someone, and keep him company and listen to his stories.  It’s not that I don’t want to listen to his stories, it’s just that, I like reading alone better.

5. I don’t want someone telling me what not to do and what not to wear. I appreciate the concern, but when it gets way too far as to telling me to go back home and find a work there.. That’s another thing. I have my own mind, and my own desires. So yeah. I would like to keep my decisions, and decide for myself.

6. I am independent. Not from my family, as I still live with them. But I am independent because I don’t need a man. Never will I need a man. And a man should never need a woman. Two people should stay together not because they feel incomplete without the other. They should stay together because in being together, they decide that life will be a lot better.

And my list could go on, and I could even talk about petty things in life as to why I excel in being alone.

But I know. One day. Someone will come and catch me off guard. And all my reasons will just be a good early 20s reasons.

And I know, we’ll both decide that life will be better if we be together.

Even if we’re independent. Even if we have a career to pursue. Even if we have our own weaknesses. Even if we find many reasons not to.

We still will. :)

[sixteensmallstepstohappiness]

1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise. 2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable. 3. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else. 4. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything. 5. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice. 6. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small. 7. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full. 8. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle. 9. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck. 10. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog. 11. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through. 13. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything. 14. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends. 15. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

(via elauxe)

A self care list. I’ve been working on this. I promise it’s worth it.

(via sweetbloodsomalia)

[quoteessential]

The obstacles in your way don’t have anywhere to be, but you do. The world is yours. Never stop. Never settle.

Nasir Jones (Nas)

[inkskinned]

“You left me, and that hurt. You didn’t say anything, and that hurt the worst.” // r.i.d

[diasporadiva]

Loyalty isn’t grey. It’s black and white. You’re either loyal completely, or not loyal at all. And people have to understand this. You can’t be loyal only when it serves you.

Sharnay pimp-decisions  (via lovequotesrus)

[kushandwizdom]

If there are occasions when my grape turned into a raisin and my joy bell lost its resonance, please forgive me. Charge it to my head and not to my heart.

Jesse Jackson (via kushandwizdom)

[1993diaries]

By the time you see this, I’m probably on a plane right now leaving to fulfill my dreams. For some, you may look at this as very small and petty. But for me, it’s a big step and a huge leap for me. The last two weeks (after I posted this entry) had been an extreme roller coaster ride for me. Preparing for my big day are all physically, emotionally and mentally straining and exhausting me. There are nights when I’m picturing myself not making it. I must admit, I will be in terrible heartbreak if I don’t get in. Cos if I don’t make it, all the expenses incurred will all go down the drain. And for my family, finances are kind of tight right now and I don’t want to add to the burden. Second, if I don’t make it, I still have to look for another job or company to apply to which is very exhilarating after being rejected for n times. Third, if I don’t make it, I will be saddened and my belief in my dream might fade. And I don’t want that to happen.

That’s why I’ve been helping myself to think of more positive outcomes. Positive thoughts attracts positive vibes right? And I’m really thankful I stumbled upon kushandwisdom's profile. Of course, somehow it helped me ease the anxieties and the doubts I have lingering in my head. With these words in mind, I only have to hope for the best. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. So, this is one big chance. One big leap to achieve what I really want in my life. 

Praying makes things better. And I have been talking to Him for some guidance. I’m pretty sure He has already heard my prayer. I’m entrusting everything to Him to make things work out, not in my time but in His time. I realized that if things go from light to dark, I must never lose hope. I must believe in His reasons and in His plans. Because He is all knowing and I must have faith in Him. 

Thank you for all my readers here. You have been with me all this time. And I hope this time that I need you all the most, I really wish you could stay by my side til the end. I don’t need luck. I need your prayers and positive thoughts. Thank you. It’s not too late to dream, so dream big.

[proverbs31v25]

The longer the tea bag sits in the cup, the stronger the tea. The more God’s word saturates our minds, the clearer our grasp on whats important to him and the stronger our prayers.

Joni Eareckson Tada (via proverbs31v25)