I excel in being alone. Might toast with myself, and celebrate independence.
So when you’re in your early 20s, have just graduated from college, trying to resolve which career path you’d like to take, and trying to resolve your personal issues.. I guess, being in a relationship is the least you need. Oh well, at least for me. I am 20, have just graduated from college, trying to resolve which career path I’d like to take, and trying to resolve my personal issues. And in being alone, it’s something I excel on.
6 reasons as to why I excel in being alone
1. I’m starting my career. Okay, we all know it’s not a fairy tale after college. The real world is bigger, and there a lot more things I need to focus on. Maybe start a business, get my MS. Or both. But one thing is for sure - I won’t forever be in the office, reporting from 8AM to 5PM. And with the given situation, and my frame of mind, my relationship would have to take the back seat.
2. Dating is fun. And dating, nonexclusive. Meet new people, hear new stories, and experience new things. And being in a commitment bugs you down to one man. Not that you’re not satisfied, it’s just that these years and days are better spent with many people. I’m not thinking of settling down, and being a mother. Eh. So, yeah.
3. I like leaning on bus windows. Not on anyone’s shoulders. I just enjoy looking outside, see the cars and the people we pass by. And comes with is hugging my bag and my shoulders tight. Not hugging anyone else. Just myself.
4. I like quiet places. Where I can have a cup of coffee or a glass of milk tea. And where I can also read a good (preferably Haruki Murakami’s) book. I don’t like to go to fancy restaurants, and sit in front or beside someone, and keep him company and listen to his stories. It’s not that I don’t want to listen to his stories, it’s just that, I like reading alone better.
5. I don’t want someone telling me what not to do and what not to wear. I appreciate the concern, but when it gets way too far as to telling me to go back home and find a work there.. That’s another thing. I have my own mind, and my own desires. So yeah. I would like to keep my decisions, and decide for myself.
6. I am independent. Not from my family, as I still live with them. But I am independent because I don’t need a man. Never will I need a man. And a man should never need a woman. Two people should stay together not because they feel incomplete without the other. They should stay together because in being together, they decide that life will be a lot better.
And my list could go on, and I could even talk about petty things in life as to why I excel in being alone.
But I know. One day. Someone will come and catch me off guard. And all my reasons will just be a good early 20s reasons.
And I know, we’ll both decide that life will be better if we be together.
Even if we’re independent. Even if we have a career to pursue. Even if we have our own weaknesses. Even if we find many reasons not to.