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Next year, I humbly request for someone to please remind me NOT to go overboard with the fucking gingerbread.
Do NOT go overboard with the fucking gingerbread!
more on writing muslim characters from a hijabi muslim girl
- hijabis get really excited over pretty scarves - they also like to collect pins and brooches - we get asked a lot of questions and it can be annoying or it can be amusing, just depends on our mood and personality and how the question is phrased - common questions include: - ânot even water?â (referring to fasting) - hijabis hear a lot of âdo you sleep in that?â (we donât) and âwhere is your hair?â (in a bun or a braid, usually) - âis it mooze-slim or mozzlem?â (the answer is neither, itâs muslim, with a soft s and accent on the first syllable) - âee-slam or iz-lamb?â (itâs iss-laam, accent on the first syllable) - âhee-job?â (heh-jahb, accent on the second syllable)
- âkor-an?â (no. quran. say it like koor-annn, accent on the second syllable) - people tend to mess up our names really badly and you just get a sigh and a resigned nod or an awkward smile, maybe a nickname instead - long hair is easy to hide, short hair is harder to wrap up - hijab isnât just covering hair, itâs also showing as little skin as possible with the exception of face, hands, and feet, and not wearing tight/sheer clothing - that applies to men too, people just donât like to mention it ( i wonder why) - henna/mehendi isnât just for special occasions, youâll see people wearing it for fun - henna/mehendi isnât just for muslims, either, itâs not a religious thing - henna/mehendi is not just for women, men also wear it, especially on their weddings - there are big mehendi parties in the couple of nights before eid where people (usually just women and kids) gather and do each otherâs mehendi, usually just hands and feet - five daily prayers - most muslim kids can stutter through a couple verses of quran in the original arabic text by the age of seven or eight, it does not matter where they live or where theyâre from or what language they speak natively - muslim families tend to have multiple copies of the quran - there are no âversionsâ of the quran, there has only ever been one. all muslims follow the exact same book - muslims have no concept of taking Godâs name in vain, we call on God at every little inconvenience - donât use islamic phrases if you donât know what they mean or how to use them. we use them often, inside and outside of religious settings. in islam, it is encouraged to mention God often and we say these things very casually, but we take them very seriously - Allahu Akbar means âGod is Greatestâ (often said when something shocks or surprises us, or if weâre scared or daunted, or when something amazing happens, whether it be good or bad; itâs like saying âoh my godâ) - Subhan Allah means âGlory be to Godâ (i say subhan Allah at the sky, at babies, at trees, whatever strikes me as pleasant, especially if itâs in nature) - Bismillah means âin the name of Godâ and itâs just something you say before you start something like eating or doing your homework - In Shaa Allah means âif God willsâ (example: youâll be famous, in shaa Allah) (itâs a reminder that the future is in Godâs hands, so be humble and be hopeful)
- Astaghfirullah means âi seek forgiveness from Allahâ and itâs like âgod forgive meâ - Alhamdulillah means âall thanks and praise belong to Godâ and itâs just a little bit more serious than saying âthank godâ (example: i passed my exams, alhamdulillah; i made it home okay, alhamdulillah) - when i say we use them casually, i really mean it - teacher forgot to assign homework? Alhamdulillah - our version of âamenâ is âameenâ - muslims greet each other with âassalamu alaikumâ which just means âpeace be on youâ and itâs like saying hi - the proper response is âwalaikum assalamâ which means âand on you be peaceâ and itâs like saying âyou tooâ
As a Muslim this post is so very important and it makes me so happy that it gives the small facts and details that one might be unaware of or confused about.
NOTE TO SELF-SLOW THE FUCK DOWN!
Age-old advice which is more relevant nowadays rather than less. This is the second iteration of it though. The original version is: âNever write anything in a letter you wouldnât want to see in print.â Advice handed down by my mother from her forbears.
From the IT department. We archive EVERYTHING. And Outlook autosaves every couple seconds.
âDance like no one is watching. Email and text like it will one day be read in court.â
And please, for G-dâs sake, donât air the union drama on the company server!
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This is the funniest and most thoughtful Iâve ever seen an organization use a meme and itâs good people with good goals who donât just want your money on top of it
For those of you who arenât aware the Monterey Bay Aquarium is actually a really cool place!
âą they are non-profit
âą they have a living kelp forest!
âą it focuses on local ocean wildlife
âą they were the first aquarium to get a great white shark to eat and they are the only public aquarium to display a great white shark for more than sixteen days
âą they have a seafood watch program where they promote sustainable seafood
âą they are actively fighting against ocean pollution
So yeah support them, theyâre awesome and I love them
They also have a tumblr @montereybayaquarium
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If you are anti-darkfic, you are anti-survivor
Iâve had a bee in my bonnet since this incident the other day, and I figure itâs probably time to get it out of my system.
Darkfic is not a new phenomenon. Itâs as old as the hills. For as long as there have been fic writers, there have been fic writers using the medium to explore themes that are taboo in mainstream fiction. Torture and gore, death and destruction, rape and sexual abuse. Every author has their own motives and inspirations for the content they produce, and thereâs no âaverageâ darkfic writer. But what I can tell you - anecdotally, from a full decadeâs worth of experience drifting in and out of various darkfic communities - is that when you involve yourself with these authors, you start meeting survivors. Lots of survivors. In what I think itâs fair to call a statistically significant concentration.Â
For some, their survivor status is incidental to their controversial interests; for others of us, past trauma and mental illness are intrinsically tied to what we read and write. Darkfic can be a lifeline, a validation, a liberation, a profound and unbeatably intense catharsis for the shit weâve got stored in our heads. Darkfic enclaves within fandom are places where we can air our darkest and most desperate fears and fantasies in a safe, supportive environment, in the company of others who remind us that we are not broken or defective just for wanting the things we want.
And hereâs the thing: literally no one in these communities wants to force outsiders to join us. We recognise that our content is stuff that the majority of people donât want to see, and we do our best to protect the rest of fandom from involuntary exposure by using appropriate trigger warnings. We donât want to hurt anyone, we donât want to ruin anyoneâs innocence - we just want to be left alone to do our thing. But tumblr callout culture has taught people that âspeaking outâ against things they donât like is cool and brave and socially progressive. It has created an environment where virtually the automatic response to distress, discomfort or personal offense is to look for a perpetrator, a culpable oppressive villain to whom the offended party can deliver a vicious âsmackdownâ while their friends look on and cheer.
Iâm not going to argue just now about whether thatâs ever an acceptable way to treat people. Regardless of anyoneâs personal feelings on callout culture as a whole, thereâs an intersection between darkfic and trauma survivors that you guys all need to understand before you go targeting darkfic authors as convenient representatives of everything you think is wrong with the world. So let me lay this out as simply and clearly as I can:
When you oppose darkfic because it âharms survivorsâ, you are talking directly over large crowds of survivors who will tell you they find darkfic to be a validating, healing experience.
When you claim that darkfic is self-destructive and unhealthy, you are privileging your personal beliefs over the lived experience of other people.
When you accuse darkfic authors of glorifying and supporting real-life abuse, you accuse survivors of glorifying and supporting their own abusers.
When you blame darkfic for supporting rape culture, you are making victims responsible for the actions of their oppressors.
When you set conditions around the creation and enjoyment of darkfic - aka âitâs only okay if youâre a survivorâ - you create a culture of coercive disclosure, where survivors are expected to trade their right to privacy for the right to live free of harassment.
When you criticise darkfic authors for using survivor status as an âexcuseâ, you are locking us out of our own communities and denying our past traumas for the sake of a political argument.
If you are anti-darkfic, you are anti-survivor. Iâm sick and tired of watching vulnerable members of my community get harassed and bullied by people who claim to be acting in the interests of survivors. Iâm sick of being told that survivors like me arenât survivors at all, that our very existence is toxic and harmful, that we have no right to speak and be heard on an issue that affects us so intimately.Â
Anti-darkfic fans, you need to pull back. You need to realise that your comfort and safety, while important, are not more important than the comfort and safety of other people. You need to understand that it is your responsibility to learn how to peacefully coexist alongside people who experience the world differently from you, even if their experiences make you unhappy or uncomfortable. You have no right to ask us to stop existing so that you can feel at ease. You have no right to demand that we prioritise the needs of some survivors over others. You donât own fandom, and you have no right to dictate who does or doesnât get to participate.
You are not brave heroes speaking out against the spread of moral degeneracy in fandom. You are bullies, deliberately and systematically targeting trauma survivors with your abusive tactics. It really is that simple. And it needs to stop.
WELL FUCKING PUT. Addendum: coercive disclosure is not the only reason itâs a terrible idea to draw a line in the sand between survivors and non-survivors liking darkfic. Fiction is a way to explore various aspects of a theme or situation in a controlled, safe environmentâincluding aspects that could never be explored in real life without harming real people. Itâs a way to explore, dissect, understand, and rehearse traumas that could befall anyone. For those whoâve actually experienced something similar, it can help them process it, or be an outstretched hand and a voice saying âyou arenât alone; either I know that feel, or I can imagine having that feel if I put myself in your shoes.â For those who havenât, itâs an outlet for anxiety, a mental preparation, a âwhat if?â and a âhow might someone react toâ?â And even the most twisted, fucked-up darkfic is usually an exercise in empathy: empathy for characters we already care about thrown into terrible situations, and also a space outside of actual RL horrors where we can take a deep breath and attempt the kind of radical empathy that lets us understand what drives people to do abhorrent things. As far as the first one goes, I certainly donât think anyone should be compelled to partake if it distresses them, but I do think that actively discouraging and shaming people for trying to empathize with anotherâs sufferingâeven if they go about it badly or the execution is shoddy and distastefulâis utterly toxic behavior. As for the second, the kind that consists of trying to imagine your way into a perpetratorâs shoes: it may make you wildly uncomfortable, but understanding the reasons for a thing is among the best tools for recognizing and preventing real-world evil. Beyond that, dehumanizationâeven of villains, bullies, and abusersâis a dangerous impulse. No oneâs required to empathize with the people whoâve hurt them, but making a fucking policy out of attacking everyone who tries only plants the seeds of further evil and abuse. And we need these stories. Desperately. One of the reasons noncon/dubcon fic in particular has such a staggering variety of weird, fucked-up, iddy tropes and clumsy/insensitive/offensive executions is that weâre fucking marinating in rape culture and have very few scripts or outlets to talk about it. All of it. Even the ugly, unsavory parts, the impulses we know are wrong, the desires we hate or feel guilty about and canât discuss without being accused of straight-up validating whatever heinous cultural messages planted them in our subconscious. Even the dumb, unrealistic power fantasies of fighting off rapists, taming rapists and making them love and respect you, walking away unaffected and being able to laugh it off as a wacky misadventure, being comforted by someone whose love (and/or healing cock) will magically fix everything. One personâs insensitive is another personâs escapism; one personâs offensive is another personâs âthank god, Iâm not the only one broken enough to have that awful thought.â Fictionâparticularly the communities that have formed around fanfictionâis one of the very few no-holds-barred places where we can Fucking Talk About It, without the pressure to speak only in hushed tones and behind closed doors where decent people wonât be exposed to it, or to uphold the image of a perfect model victim who never has ugly, unacceptable thoughts about the ugly mess left behind by an unspeakably ugly act. When you shame and police darkfic in fandom, you are taking that space away from the people who need it the most. You are telling them to their faces that theyâre filthy, abnormal, tainted and contagious, and that they need to either shut the fuck up or keep it in the shame closet where it belongs instead of sharing it in public with other people who might understand. You are, in other words, doing the exact thing thatâs tied with âI donât believe youâ for first place on the list of What Not To Say To A Survivor Opening Up About Their Abuse. Survivors arenât the only ones with a tangle of conflicted thoughts, feelings, and neuroses about sexual violence and rape culture who benefit from exploring it in fiction, but you can be damn sure theyâre a major constituency. The absolute last thing they need is some white-knight âantiâ bullying them into silence with concern-trolling about whether their âcoping mechanismsâ are âhealthyâ or whether theyâre setting a sufficiently good and wholesome example for teh childrens. The âonly if youâre a survivor using it to cope!â bullshit is also noxious because fiction lets us handle difficult issues through several layers of distance and displacement, isolate particular aspects, transpose them into different but related situations, etc. Just because someoneâs not a survivor of the exact thing theyâre reading or writing about doesnât mean they donât have very real pain theyâre trying to process. And again, empathy. I donât give a shit what your sexual-assault history is; if you read my fucked-up Hydra Trash Party porn about Steve Rogers getting gang-raped by Crossbones & co and staggering away still shouting âFITE ME U PATHETIC ASSHOLESâ even though he wants to die inside, and it hits you where you live, Iâm fucking glad you found it. If I read your fucked-up Hydra Trash Party porn and hit a line that makes me feel like youâve plucked something ugly and painful and private directly from my brain, frankly Iâll be even more impressed if it turns out you were extrapolating rather than writing from personal experience. And if your badwrong noncon porn is directly at odds with everything Iâve experienced re: rape and its aftermath? I donât live inside your head, dude. I donât know what youâre drawing on or what demons youâre exorcizing. I donât even know whether youâre writing from firsthand experience thatâs dramatically different from mine. All I know is that whoever your target audience is, it ainât me. One final note on noncon fic specifically: it works on the exact same principle as consensual nonconsent play IRL. No, the character(s) didnât consent; neither did the persona being acted out by someone playing the victim in a con-noncon scene. The consent that distinguishes it from real-world violation isnât between the characters in the fantasy; itâs between author and reader. The back button is the safeword. And in contrast to one of the dangers of IRL con-noncon play, itâs a safeword the author has zero power to override or ignore.
The back button is the safe word.Â
dark fic can also and should also exist for its own sake
yes, it can, and often does, explore trauma - to make this anonymous Iâm going to use the movies of Clive Barker, because like itâs as dark as mainstream cinema gets [its not french new extremity but it would have been if the sfx had been available]
Hellraiser explored his own trauma at being raised catholic and gay, his own feeling that his sexuality made him monstrous and beyond redemption and his awe at the leather daddies and bdsm doms who appeared to him to have his shit together whilst continuing his own monstrousness, the idea of enjoying his own suffering and the juxtapositioning of catholic guilt
does that mean everyone who enjoyed Hellraiser had to have that specific conflux of trauma? - judging by the terrible sequels no
Candyman explored the generational trauma of poverty [and race and slavery in the movie] does that mean only black poor people can watch it - no
what about the midnight meat train - he was riding the tube late at night and thought this train could go anywhere and who would know and it made a fantastic film about identity and corporate oligarchy by a Japanese director who almost certainly never took the 3am tube through angel islington
so does a fifteen year old girl in a middle class house reading the books of blood finding comfort about exam stress suddenly get excluded because the violence is not about history or sexuality
dark fic represents different things to different people at different times and all of those are valid
maybe you had a shitty day at work and want someone torture your fave, maybe you are having a great day and just want the post dark fic comfort
it doesnât matter why you read darkfic, are you accosting people at Waterstones reading James Patterson or Shaun Hutson about their trauma? Dark fic exists because at some point we want it, and that is more than enough reason to write it, and you know what else is a great reason âbecause i want toâ
saying dark fic only exists because of survivors is doing both dark fic and survivors wrong, itâs almost fetishing other peopleâs trauma and is just as puritanical bullshit as it shouldnât exist -
they exist because there is a place for them and that is really only the reason they need
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Voted wettest sounding video on tumblr
Me: wettest sound?
*turns on sound*
Me: oh. Yeah. Thatâs a wet sounding video
I need an umbrella to watch this video
NOTHING could have prepared me for when i unmuted
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i hate when the teacherâs like âwrite about a bad time in your lifeâ like i ainât tryna get a social worker up my ass, thanks tho fam
This ainât no joke I had to write a essay about what your scared of so I did it (I was scared of growing up and where my life was going) it was great got a 100 but then I got sent to councilors office and was sent to therapy cause they thought I was suicidal and on the verge of breakingâŠApparently they ment like spiders or some shitâŠ
Also like, not everyone finds that at all useful or cathartic.
âWrite about some difficulty youâve experienced personally.â âAight fam let me just break down into tears and skip the rest of my classes.â
Yes! I had a psych professor ask us to discuss outloud the hardest thing that ever happened to us literally two days ago and I said âyou realize the position youâre putting us in? I feel obligated to lie to not only save my peers the awkwardness but also because I will find no relief in answering honestly but rather anxiety. The hardest thing in my life is having people repeatedly tell me I should find some sort of catharsis in reliving my trauma so someone else can feel pity for me!â
The whole class backed me up because they didnât want to either! Those kind of exercises are only helpful for people who donât have any real past/current issuesâ which is no one btw.
On par with this are those fucking self-assessments where they want to to be optimistic and positive about the future. Youâre sitting there drowning in college stress and anxiety so bad you canât look another human in the eye, fighting depression so that you can eventually achieve a piece of paper that might get you a better job if the economy doesnât tank itself (guess what, it did), and the most optimistic thing you can think of is that the class ends in 20 minutes.
#why do they do this though ~ @inqorporealâ
OH! I KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS!
Thereâs a WIRED article that explains the history behind this practice.Â
Basically, this guy named Jeffrey Mitchell had a traumatic experience, then after months of PTSD, he told a confidant about the event that traumatized him. Retelling the event to a confidant was so cathartic for Mitchell that his PTSD went away after. He did a bunch of research to see if his personal experience of catharsis and relief could be replicated in other people suffering from PTSD. Years later he published a paper proposing a formalized psychiatric treatment revolving around this idea that expressing a traumatic experience helps relieve it. The paper was so influential that the whole psychiatric community adopted âcritical incident stress debriefingâ (CISD) as a standard treatment for PTSD.
Unfortunately ⊠itâs bullshit.
Not only does the CISD treatment program Mitchell came up with not help the majority of patients who try it, but it actually makes PTSD worse in the majority of patients who try it.
The WIRED article explains why:
CISD misapprehends how memory worksâŠ. Once a memory is formed, we assume that it will stay the same. This, in fact, is why we trust our recollections. They feel like indelible portraits of the past.
None of this is true. In the past decade, scientists have come to realize that our memories are not inert packets of data and they donât remain constant.Â
âŠthe very act of remembering changes the memory itself. New research is showing that every time we recall an event, the structure of that memory in the brain is altered in light of the present moment, warped by our current feelings and knowledge.Â
Basically, Mitchell waited until he had some emotional distance before trying to recall the memory, and he had full control of the situation. It was fully his decision. Nobody was pressuring him to talk about it. So he felt safe. Thinking about the memory from a place of safety allowed his brain to re-contextualize the memory as harmless.
Conversely, pressuring a patient to recall a traumatic memory, particularly when itâs still fresh in their minds, makes the patient feel very unsafe. Recalling a bad memory in this unsafe context only serves to re-traumatize the patient.Â
[link to the whole article]
basically, thereâs a big damn difference between choosing to confide in someone you trust and being pressured to make a public spectacle of your trauma
THIS JUST IN: Forced Public Recalling of Trauma Not As Helpful As Voluntarily Processing Trauma In A Safe Space
disturbed by how little ppl acknowledge the secondary health risks of vampire bites. if your vampire lover is drinking your blood you MUST be up to date on your tetanus shot. puncture wounds are at especially high risk for tetanus infections. just because your partner was born in 1312 doesnât mean you have to die like it.
moreover they should be prepping the bite point with an alcohol wipe.
and while Iâm at it, Iâve noticed a blithe disregard for health & safety when it comes to blood pacts. canât believe I have to say this but you should absolutely NOT be cutting your palm open with the pocket knife from your belt holster (??????)
if youâre expecting to be in a blood pact/oath situation please just pick up some sterile finger lancets from the pharmacy. cannot stress this all enough.
Please yâall!! tetanus is NOT caused by rusty metal. Itâs a bacteria found damn near everywhere, and wounds infected with saliva are especially high risk for tetanus infections.
itâs also a common misconception that vampire saliva is antiseptic. Vampires spread that myth on purpose. They also CAN cross running water. Make them bathe and brush their teeth!!!!
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