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女の子は妄想しちゃうんです

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Suspenders & Bowtie

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You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.

Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love (via quotebook-in)

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Was a pleasure working with KaedeNYC. Check out their IG at KaedeNYC for more information about their instameet.

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that one time I was pretending to be a model with my best girl friend

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A little tip for parents with children in school (or for children in school to show their parents)

My mom gave me and my sister two days every semester that she called “mental health days.”

Those were days, that for ANY reason, and without having to tell my mom the reason, we could skip the day of school. We’d just tell her we were taking a mental health day and she’d call the school and let them know we were not coming in. 

#1 This helped keep our grades up by lowering our stress levels. I never got a C in any grade school class. The majority of my classes I received A’s. I also took 4 AP classes and they were not weighted. Trust me, it made a difference.

#2 I never felt the need to skip school. I knew if I ever wanted to or needed to my mom would help me. 

Your kids are young and need time to recover. They need some days where they can do nothing but stay in bed for no reason. They need their own space where their privacy is respected. It will make a huge difference.

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Will do this when I have kids

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I would like to add something to this for the teachers too! (I may have already told this story on tumblr but OH WELL I’m telling it again)

One of my math teachers in high school had a policy called The Red Beanbags of Don’t Bother Me. He kept a pile of red beanbags on his desk, and at any time of the day you could go over and take one. From that point on, as long as you were in his classroom with a beanbag on your desk, no one could bother you. He wouldn’t call on you to answer problems, no students were allowed to talk to you, and perhaps most importantly, no one could ask why you took a bean bag that day. The only caveat was that if you used the beanbag more than three times in a semester you had to go talk to the school counselor about it.

I only used the beanbag a handful of times during those 4 years, but it was a godsend when I needed it. I knew people who would camp in his classroom during lunch (or even skip class and stay there all day) under the protection of the beanbag. As a teacher there’s not always a lot you can do for a student suffering mental illness/emotional abuse/ other struggles, but giving them some space and privacy in your class can make a HUGE difference.

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This is totally awesome - I know my Mom switched from thinking that perfect attendance meant a reflection of her ability as a parent as we all got older and by the time I was finishing up high school, would more or less simply trust us if we said we couldn’t go to school that day as long as we didn’t let our grades drop or miss any major exams. 

I know that gave me some critical, much-needed coping time to decompress even though it made several of my teachers very angry that I missed their classes. To be honest, their judgement was one of the reasons I struggled with school so much - and yet, I still finished with tons of AP courses under my belt, near perfect grades, and some of my literary work published. And I graduated a semester early - to get away from all of it. The last part isn’t to brag but to point out that I knew how to handle myself and how to manage my life so I could achieve “traditional” grade success in even in the most difficult courses our school had to offer so I really, really wish the school wouldn’t have been so critical or heavy-handed in when I needed a day to unpack my emotional baggage and recover. 

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THIS. I need this in my life

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Jen Kirkman (x)

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seen on rebloggy.com/children

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I think here in America, we celebrate pride, ego, and individuality. but in this season I am learning lessons about humility, community, and love. I think true leadership is when you are willing to do the work that no one would want to do voluntarily. become the servant if you want to lead.

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New Ride! :) 

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taken with Sony a5000, aka my new toy

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Da Bae.  angry-coffee

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I love my job but I am unbelievably stressed out. I need to learn to toughen up if I actually want to make a career in coffee. I can’t have people thinking I can’t handle this. I have to show that I can be a leader. except first I need to learn to survive this hot season at rockefeller without going batshit crazy