Just some guy

Some rando who knows a variety of things about a variety of things

[tboy-cock]

dropped several sources on a transphobe in a comments section but one of the links is actually just a jpeg of waluigi. he hasnt noticed it yet. he just made up a strawman and i said "well ive given several sources to back up my claims and you've given me none". please god just notice my waluigi

[addigni]

Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals

It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals

[cabinthreeproblems]

*SLAMS REBLOG BUTTON* ASEXUALS HAVE MY VOTE //ref

[aroace-ryland-grace]

sometimes I think about space so hard I get a deep and unrelenting ache in my chest that I don't know what to do with

[aroace-ryland-grace]

augh

[wherever-whateverr]

computa make all my friends tell me how they perceive me Computa make everyone i’ve ever met tell me how they perceive me

[redstonedust]

sometimes i forget aromanticism isnt normalized until im listening to family friends complain about how relationships suck and never last and i chime in with "yeah im kinda glad im not interested in romance." and suddenly all of them turn into "oh no EVERYONE needs romance its human nature. if you think you're not interested you just need to try again." . like okay i thought we were commiserating here. i was agreeing with yall. cmon.

[sentientsky]

@queer-reader-07 once again coming in with THEE most correct and insightful takes

[the-lesbianest-batman]

[gaudygreebles]

Get jolly with it

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

it's almost almost christmas

[littlemeowmeowmaeve]

I feel like a lot of the personality disorder criteria in the DSM-5 focuses on the outward appearance of the disorder rather than what the person with the disorder is actually feeling. Npd and aspd are what I’m thinking of as examples right now, so let’s go over those first. People with any sort of personality disorder, feel free to chime in and add any thoughts you may have on how the DSM-5 represents your disorder.

Npd’s symptoms in the DSM-5 are listed as:

A persistent pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy

An exaggerated, unfounded sense of their own importance and talents (grandiosity)

Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited achievements, influence, power, intelligence, beauty, or perfect love

Belief that they are special and unique and should associate only with people of the highest caliber

A need to be unconditionally admired

A sense of entitlement

Exploitation of others to achieve their own goals

A lack of empathy

Envy of others and a belief that others envy them

Arrogance and haughtiness

The focus is on how other people might see someone with the disorder rather than what someone with the disorder might feel. As someone with npd, the main symptom of the disorder is lack of self-esteem. Someone with npd very well might experience or do these things BECAUSE of a lack of self-esteem, but I feel like the lack of self-esteem isn’t focused on enough for how much it impacts everything else. Honestly I’d go as far as to say it’s the very root of the disorder (y’know, besides trauma. But the low self-esteem is caused by trauma so, you get what I mean).

Now, I don’t personally have aspd myself, but from what I’ve heard from people with the disorder (people with aspd feel free to chime in), anhedonia is pretty much the biggest symptom? But if you look at the criteria it’s…

A persistent disregard for the rights of others

Disregarding the law, indicated by repeatedly committing acts that are grounds for arrest

Being deceitful, indicated by lying repeatedly, using aliases, or conning others for personal gain or pleasure

Acting impulsively or not planning ahead

Being easily provoked or aggressive, indicated by constantly getting into physical fights or assaulting others

Recklessly disregarding their safety or the safety of others

Consistently acting irresponsibly, indicated by quitting a job with no plans for another one or not paying bills

Not feeling remorse, indicated by indifference to or rationalization of hurting or mistreating others

And again, it’s not like people with aspd CAN’T experience or do these things BECAUSE of their anhedonia, but I really feel like that should be emphasized. Anhedonia isn’t even LISTED as a symptom. But when I listen to people with aspd talk about their experiences, the most commonly talked about symptom is generally feeling extreme boredom constantly, aka anhedonia. Again, people with aspd feel free to correct me and or add any thoughts you may have.

Looking at the criteria now, I see the same sort of issue with stpd (though I see this issue to an extent in the criteria for every personality disorder). I don’t have stpd myself so if you do, feel free to correct me or add anything, but I swear to god if I have to see the word “odd” or “eccentric” or “peculiar” one more fucking time. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!!!!! The definition of those words is going to be different from person to person. It literally feels like they’re saying “I have diagnosed you with ABNORMAL disorder.” Like…please be more specific, I’m begging. What do you mean by ODD? What classifies “odd” behavior?

Anyways, that’s my little rant. I just wanted to see what other pd havers thought about it???

[antares-b]

I was googling something for a class and guess what the top recommended search was

[esthermika]

sorry but I don't see how this is transandrophobic or even transphobic for that matter? it's a legitimate question to ask, there *is* a disparity in what types of people detransition, why they do it, etc. interrogating the causes of detransition is an important aspect of trans advocacy, and that necessarily involves a study of the demographics of detransitioners.

[antares-b]

You’re right that this question wouldn’t be transphobic if asked in a scientific context, but this isn’t a scientific context, and that’s not an actual question. This is a suggested search on a popular search engine, and the “question” itself is a transphobic dogwhistle so overused that I immediately know the “answer” they’re looking for before whatever right winger is using it even gets done asking. 

The “answer” they’re getting at is of course that trans men don’t actually exist, that we are all just confused, autistic girls misguidedly trying to escape misogyny by “cutting off our breasts” and “ruining our fertile wombs” or what have you. That all trans men are misguided women who are seconds away from detransitioning. This idea, that transgender men are just women who are too stupid and weak willed to live as women, that we are destroying our worth to other people and to society at large by removing our ability to carry children, and that none of us were ever men in any way that matters, is transandrophobia. There’s also a healthy helping of misogyny here, and usually some ableism too (the whole “poor autistic girls being duped into transitioning” schtick). 

The more general transphobia emerges when the above idea is used as a cudgel against other trans people. The whole “We have to protect The Women™️, so we must eradicate Gender Ideology (all transition care and transgender people) from society!” That I’m sure you’ve probably seen before. That’s just plain ol transphobia.

So basically it’s not the words in the question that are transphobic, it’s the connotations and cultural background surrounding it that do. I hope that made sense, I’m not the most eloquent person on the internet. 

[antares-b]

I was googling something for a class and guess what the top recommended search was

[opossumartss]

Do any other otherkin/ wingkin have a tail like this?

[boybeetles]

They should make sugar free candy that doesn’t taste bad and also doesn’t make you shit. Why are those the two options for sugar free candy. Either bad (sugar free gummies) or make you shit (sugar-free Reese's, sugar free hard candy)

[depsidase]

[inbabylontheywept]

In the D&D campaign I'm running with my wife's siblings, one of them learned about how trolls regenerate within minutes of any damage not caused by fire or acid, and then asked why people don't just like. Cage them and eat them, forever. Why there aren't troll meat dungeons in the king's castle as a safeguard against sieges or famines.

And you know, I thought it was a fair question, so I said that if you eat enough troll meat, you start getting troll-y. And then I went further and just treated it like troll flesh is a general contaminant - if you eat enough troll, you'll turn into a troll, but if you bury enough dead troll flesh in a forest, the trees will start growing in strange ways, and will scream and heal and bleed when you hit them with axes.

I liked this idea. So as we played further, I just played around with the idea of Troll Origins, and I came up with something sort of like the Odyssey, but instead stealing Helios's cattle, it was Hathor's, and the horrible, awful, unending immortality was her curse of the army that pillaged her lands. A god of healing does not condemn you to die, she condemns you to live.

And then I got this fun idea for maybe the king that led the army is still kind of alive in the troll taint. Like a sort of literal fisher king. The kingdom is sick because he is, literally, the kingdom. The trees that bleed, bleed his blood and their screams are his screams. He is both the faintly green bear running down the mountain and the faintly green deer and there is no way past this without suffering. He is the entire ecosystem, and he eats nothing but himself and he dreams nothing but death and yet still, on and on and on and on, he lives.

Anyway they're traveling next session so I'm throwing this shit at them. I already have some gross ideas for like. Describing everything like it's a body (flowers red as blood, white as bone, pink as meat, grass fine as hair) then finally throwing horrible living things at them. Trees that grow eyeballs that turn and stare at them, or flowers with teeth instead of petals and trolls that speak in long dead tongues about how they wish they'd never tried to rob a god.

Anyway I'm passing this on because this is my new troll lore and I want it to become canonized in the way that all D&D lore becomes canonized: By having eople read it and go "oh, neat" then start doing that too.

[powerbottombrucespringsteen]

Reflection from Mulan was so crazy she literally sang “If I were truly to be myself I would break my family’s heart” and 8 year old proto-gay me was like “I don’t know what you mean but I know what you mean”

[our-queer-experience]

YOU CAN BE A GUY EVEN IF NO ONE SEES YOU AS ONE