How to Leave an Arrangement
Well this can be tricky, mostly depending on the situation. There are many reasons why you’d want, or have to leave an arrangement. Maybe you’re moving, or starting a career you need to focus on. Maybe they aren’t paying you enough, or you just don’t like seeing them anymore. Whatever the reason, it is valid. So I’m going to give you some advice.
•You are allowed to leave.
This is super important to realize, because I understand how arrangements can start to feel obligatory to uphold. However you are your own person, and you’re allowed to do what makes you happy and comfortable.
No need to dance around the subject if it needs addressed. It can be hard to bring up, but no matter what, it still needs to happen. Here are some examples to get you started.
“So, I’ve had a lot of fun with you lately, and I owe it to you to be honest-”
“I would like to talk about the future of this arrangement-”
“You seem like a great guy, but there are somethings in my life right now that are going to make continuing our arrangement a little difficult.”
Wow, when do you ever hear that, right? But sugaring, especially out of your own home, can be dangerous, and if for any reason, you feel it would be unsafe to tell them the truth of the situation, I suggest you don’t. Here are some ideas.
“I was recently offered a job position that I am really excited about taking, however it would leave me with little to no time to continue our arrangement.”
“I have had a few close calls with family finding out about me sugaring, which would not end well, and unfortunately I think it’s best if we didn’t continue.”
“I plan on starting school soon and really need to focus on my classes and grades. My education is very important to me.”
You get the idea, and of course, these are just examples. You know your situation, and your daddy the best.
•It’s Okay to Tell the Truth
Im not trying to confuse you here. You know your arrangement better than anyone else. You know the character of your daddy and how he may respond to these things. If it’s genuinely because you have life things getting in the way, or maybe you’re trying to phase out of the sugaring community, or hell, you’re not getting enough money, and you think he would be open and understanding to the situation and discussion, then my all means, tell the truth. Honesty will be well received by a good man. No matter which route you decide to go, there is no wrong way, as long as it’s comfortable for you, and gets the end result you need.
Whether he deserves it or not, because the last thing you need is to piss off a man who knows where you live. The goal is to get him out of your life. Additionally, if your daddy is a genuinely good person, an apology might be appropriate. Examples.
“I am truly sorry, I know this is inconvenient for you.”
“I wish this wasn’t the case, and I apologize for the situation.
I don’t like apologizing to people who don’t deserve it, and I’m sure you don’t either, but I rather you seem sympathetic and be safe. Safe is the goal if you’re dealing with a bad daddy.
If he is a good daddy, he will be understanding and forgiving of the situation, no matter what it is.
Does this mean he can’t text you anymore? What if he just wanted to grab lunch sometime? Are you interested in adjusting your arrangement to accommodate your reason for leaving?
Let’s say you’re moving, and that is the only reason you have to end things, because truly, the two of you get along quite well. Maybe you can set up a long distance arrangement.
Or maybe you became friends with him and he’s asking if he can check in once and awhile to see how you’re doing, but he wants to make sure you’re okay with that.
Just be clear on exactly what ending your arrangement means. Especially for bad daddies. Does this mean he can’t text you anymore? “Yes, I’m sorry, I think it’s best if we didn’t keep in touch.”
Be firm in what you want and and don’t want, and don’t be afraid to say it. Tactfully if necessary, but remember to say it.
Every situation is different and I hope I covered enough to help out in some. Be careful when dealing with bad daddies, please! Those sort of situations can get tricky. And as frustrating as it might get, please do your best to be safe.
Ending an arrangement can be stressful but once the taken care of I hope you have the chance to breathe and relax a little bit! 💕
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