God, grant me the Serenity..no literally, the ship

Lots of bits and bobs of geekery (Marvel, Star Trek, Doctor Who, Good Omens, etc.) along with an undercurrent of angst and a side of anxiety. 27. She/them. Queer. Thespian. Artist. Whole host of mental disorders. Enjoy.

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its important to me as a detrans woman to be vocal about it. its important to me as a detrans woman who initially only had radfems to talk to about detransition, because i couldnt find a single trans inclusive detrans person for over a year, to make sure other people know they have options.

radfems arent your aly if you're questioning your gender. they dont have your best interest at heart. they dont care about helping you explore who you are, theyre only interested in sucking you in to be another transmisogynistic pawn for their violent ideology.

if you're trans/nonbinary now, but are wondering if it isnt right for you, know that you have options. you can talk to me. there are people who have not done a 180 into bigotry who are here to support you.

please reblog, do not just like, this post.

i dont have a large platform. i want this to get spread. i want to remove terfs from the forefront of detrans/reidentification awareness & support. they cannot continue to be the first contact for questioning people.

i am begging you, yes you personally, to please reblog this, and comment or reply in the tags if you're a safe, trans-inclusive detransitioned or reidentified person to approach.

[neckspike-deactivated20240222]

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with giving something a try and deciding “ah, this isn’t right for me after all.”

Humans are messy and complicated, it’s fine.

[anxiousangstyangel]

You learned a thing you didn't know before. Yay! That's exciting. Keep learning and growing, comrade

[skunkes]

if you dislike your art that much why do you keep making it?

hope this helps

[rolodextra]

[honeysucklebuttons]

People taking testosterone:

Hi! Wanted to share an important experience I had recently that I think you should know about, especially if you’re a fellow petite trans guy or similar!

I just got an awesome gynecologist who works with all sorts of people, including trans guys and such. She made me feel very safe, comfortable, and heard! One of the things she asked me during my visit was if I had anyone in my family who has/had Osteoporosis - a condition that makes your bones weak and brittle.

I had no idea why that would even matter, but both of my mom’s parents did, and I found out later that my mom has Osteopenia (sort of a halfway point between healthy bones and Osteoporosis). My doctor nodded and then explained that since 1) Osteoporosis runs in my family, 2) I am a trans guy taking weekly testosterone, and 3) I am petite at 5′0″ and 100-110 lbs, I should get a bone density scan done. Huh??? Why???

Did you know that estrogen actually protects your bones by suppressing reabsorption of the bone itself?? It works with the osteoblasts needed to create new bone! She explained that those of us with smaller bodies naturally have less hormones, and thus less estrogen to begin with, and when you start taking testosterone for a long time, it stops the estrogen, which stops protecting your bones. Damn!!!!

Now, because studies on trans bodies, especially over long periods of time, are in a growing field, we become part of the data. There’s not a lot to read on the subject yet, just like the similarities between being on testosterone and going through menopause. 

My doctor looked at me in all my confusion and said, 

“I bring all this up because I have a couple of trans male patients who have developed Osteoporosis by the time they’re 30.”

Let that sink in. (I’m almost 26.)

The scan took all of 5 minutes, completely harmless, got to keep all my clothes on. A few days later and I get a result that my pelvic bones are fine, but that my spine has “MINOR Osteopenia” and that I should do the following things to prevent worsening:

Take Vitamin D3

Take Calcium (preferably with food, but supplements are okay too)

Do weight-bearing exercises (“In regard to weightbearing exercises, we think the best is walking and/or running, hiking, and yoga. Swimming or biking is not recommended as a weightbearing exercise.”)

While this looks like a simple “eat better, get more sunshine, exercise more!” bit, (which I guess it sort of is??) it’s also… a little scary? Research on trans bodies has never before led me to this possible conclusion, and I wanted to make sure other people knew about this possibility as well, so they can ask their doctors questions to stay healthy!!

If for no other reason than spite, trans bodies have to keep living!!! STRONG BONES, LACTOSE INTOLERANCE BE DAMNED!!

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

you will also need vitamin k for calcium absorption which you can handily get by eating like a cup / 150g of cucumber. if you’re lactose intolerant you can get calcium fortified soya products & it’s also present in kale, okra and cucumber again but not in large amounts

[vaspider]

I deeply deeply hate cucumber and if you do too, you can get Vitamin K from pretty much any leafy green or brassicas like broccoli and Brussel sprouts. :)

[reachingfortheday]

vico ortiz i am obsessed with you

(source)

[logichotline]

Trans Fashion tips

These are actually non basic clothing tips that can definitely help you

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CC:

[So, when you want to put together outfits that feel more androgynous, it’s important to consider not just what you’re wearing, but how you’re wearing it. Depending on the way you place pieces of clothing on your body will determine whether they’re masculinizing or feminizing and how that works with the rest of you.

A hat worn against the back of your head is far more feminizing because it frames and circles your face, where as a hat worn across the brow jars your features more, thus making you feel more masculine. 

A shirt that is not tucked into your pants may give you a more feminine shape because it softens your silhouette, where as one that is, sharpens it. 

It’s also important to consider that large glasses will feminize your face, whereas small glasses will masculinize it.

When piecing these things together it can really make a difference about how your outfit is read

But keep in mind that your appearance has nothing to do with your gender identity, these are just some tips]

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[professional-chaotic-dumbass]

you just met hank hill

[seawitchkaraoke]

Ozai is so pathetic, like that “take his bending away haha he’s harmless now” trick would never have worked on Zuko, if you took his bending away he’d just grab his swords and come at you twice as hard, Azula doesn’t have swords or anything but she’s pretty good at hand to hand and amazing at talking her way out of problems, Iroh bust himself out of prison with no bending at all, meanwhile Ozai? Gets his bending taken away and then just collapses, doesn’t even try anymore, then just sits in prison and tries to get into Zuko’s head some more, he could have trained up and tried to break out too! But no! Bet he can’t break steel bars with his bare hands. Bet he can’t kick a steel lever in two. Bet he can’t even do a flip.

Also we never really see him do any really impressive firebending apart from when he has magic comet power, I guesss he shoots some lightning at Zuko, but that’s it and Azula is still better at the lightning thing. Azula has blue flames. Zuko can do firebreakdancing and bend with his swords. Does Ozai, who is not 14 years old, have blue flames? No he doesn’t.

He didn’t even do his coup himself, Ursa had to kill Azulon for him! Could have just challenged Iroh to an Agni Kai for the throne but he didn’t bc he knew he’d lose.

And then he only ruled for like 6 years! He lost a war that had been going on for 100 years bc of a bunch of kids.

Loserlord indeed

[clickingecko]

Imagine:

Batman is doing stuff around the Cave and suddenly gets a good idea. A tiny version of the Bat-Signal appears above his head.

[mioxenoblade]

🍜🍥🍜

[the-tree-line]

i forgot what the post was gonna be……. i made these n then my brain stopped after that step

[commodorecliche]

[kabaks]

this website is annoying on a fundamental level bc the tagging sytem will periodically forget tags you use every day for no discernible reason but you’ll spell “photography” wrong once in a tag and for the rest of your life it’ll ask “photgrapy??? photogopy??? photograp???? is that it???? potogap???? you fucking idiot?????”

[dissociativedoe]

sending love out tonight to everyone who is progressively losing their abilities, whether that's movement, ability to walk, eyesight, or hearing.

it's hard to come to terms with the fact that you can't do things that you used to be able to do. I'll be honest, it feels like you're losing control of your life. it can feel very isolating and hopeless. its scary and overwhelming, and it's so hard to deal with.

you are not less than just because you can do less. im proud of you for still being here, and i wish you ease with adjusting to new ways of life. please take care of yourself, i love you.

[anxiousangstyangel]

I needed this. I'm scared and angry but learning to accept my limits

[the-winter-witcher]

Oh no…

Do you think he’d wear it in bed? 😅

[darkfrog24]

HE DID!!

“It’s not just a role to him. He wanted, for instance, for the armour to look like it had been worn for years and years. So he made breakfast in it and he would sleep in it.” (And this is a guy who literally played Superman.)

Cavill was method acting, but he wasn’t being mean or putting dead rats everywhere, so no one noticed.

[istezada]

Cavill, like the rest of us born in the ‘80s, got to watch the LOTR films as a teenager and hear about Viggo Mortensen spending the night camping in his costume on location shoots and fishing for his breakfast and just generally existing as Strider… and went “Oh. That’s cool.”

And now here he is…

[commiescummie]

i’ll literally never have enough of that dylan b hollis dude cause like. hes a college student who just.,.blew up on tiktok. he has the soul of a man who has lived for 60 years in the body of a twink. he cooks and is surprised every single time. he goes CINAMIN everytime he uses cinnamon. he has the kitchen of a 60s house wife and cooks like hes going to kill someone

[teacupfulofstarshine]

other favorites include

- “moo juice!”

- E G G - G I E

- BUTTER GO BRRRRRRRR

[only-in-movies]

- Floof powder

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F I R E

[xanthumn]

[sepulchritude]

I’ve cracked the code. Next time you correct someone on your pronouns and they respond with that generally positive but slightly defensive vibe like “oh sorry, I’m new to this so it’ll take me a while” just hit em with one of these:

“No worries, I’m practicing at reminding people and you seem like a safe person to practice with”

Boom. Took the perceived blame off their shoulders and made the connection for them that being corrected = being trusted. Rinse and repeat. It’s also not a lie, correcting people on my pronouns is stressful and personally I really am super cautious about it

I figure some angry people will jump into the notes on this one so let me clarify: trans people do not have to be nice or coddle cis feelings. Some of us like living low-conflict lives though, so get off our dicks about it

[sepulchritude]

Cis people if you would like to avoid having this interaction in the first place, try “thank you for correcting me”

[ruffboi-mags]

“[correction]”

“oh right, thanks, [carries on whatever they were saying but with the correct pronouns this time]”

^That is the best way to handle it. Cis folks take notes.

That said, I deeply appreciate having a hack for if I correct someone irl and they make a thing out of it, so thank you OP you are a treasure for sharing this Cis Hack.

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y e s

[anxiousangstyangel]

...I just needed to say, somewhere, to someone...I LOVE BEING POLY 🥺🥰