Why do white people need to do anything differently about kinks with racialized histories? If you don't feel comfortable calling a white person master or being whipped by one, shouldn't you just tell them you don't want these things when you are discussing kinks and limits? It seems like proper communication resolves all the issues involved here.
You are 18 so I’m going to answer this in good faith.
Unless you are racist and plan to never date anyone non-white, or are monogamously partnered to one person your entire adult life, if you do not consider the boundaries and histories of your kinks even if you still perform them, you WILL eventually at best say something horrifically offensive to a partner/potential partner without their consent, or potentially harm them worse with unconsidered bigotry.
To give a non-racial example that happens to me a lot, I’m going to mention Caning. I’m disabled, and use a cane any time I’m not at home as a mobility device critical to my ability to exist. I’ve had several potential partners, and far too fucking many strangers, ask me some variation of “oh it would be so hot if you caned me with that, will you?”
There is nothing wrong with caning as a form of impact play. However, this always, ALWAYS comes off as fetishization of my disability. There are ways to ask/talk about mobility devices being used in kink that aren’t ablest or nonconsensualy fetishizing! But they require the person not using a mobility device to have actually thought about the ways that bigotry could inform their kink and how to ask without being ableist.
It’s similar with race. To continue the maid fetish example, there are colonized countries like the Philippines whose main export is their people into service industry outside of their home country, especially into domestic work. Many of these jobs are modern day slavery, and people in diaspora may have people in their direct families affected by this. To bring this up to them without their consent due to your own ignorance would be you asking if you can fetishize the suffering of their people, even if you weren’t doing it with intent to harm. Filipinas in particular are often flooded with ads/content marketed towards whites specifically trying to promote the enslavement/kidnapping/assault of Filipinas while trying to interact with their identity both within and without nsfw spaces. (As a note, I am not Filipina, this was written with input from my Filipina friend)
So yes, you do gotta know what’s going on with your kinks and ways you interact with them even if you’re white - you don’t have to stop fuckin doing them, you just have to know how to mitigate potential harm, which is a bare fuckin minimum for participating in a kink with other people.
My mother, Filipina, was the only Asian woman in a many-mile radius in 90's backwoods Tennessee, and she was only there because she'd been strongarmed* into a teen marriage with a white husband who was even younger than her—
*I am not yet enough at peace with my memories to use a stronger word for it. I hope it comes soon.
—and he didn't want the marriage either but that didn't stop him from raping her (conceiving me!). Her English was terrible, she couldn't drive and there was nothing you could walk to through those woods, all she had was a couple white-woman friends at church to keep her going. And they called her Lingling.
And... I derive sexual enjoyment from doing housework for white partners. But I do not enjoy reciting all that ^ damage for them. I do not bear the moral responsibility to educate an endless train of bitches.
So I need them to come to the negotiation already understanding the titanic weight, the millions of deaths, of why a Filipina woman might want to do their housework. Of why she's going to start crying partway through, and why that's part of what she wants out of it.
Being inadequately critical of your desires makes you at best tedious to the people who might want to play with you, but more likely it will make you dangerous. I could have made this point better but I'm mad.
