Really want to complain about my roommate on main (my insta/tiktok) but we share all the same friends so I cantttttt and it's driving me crazyyyy so I'm just going to do it here and if you're the irl who isn't related to me you keep this between us and France k
So my roommate has this new boyfriend (that she got like a month after breaking up with her last boyfriend. And I'm not the only one who thinks that's odd) and he's like. Fine. A huge step up from the last guy for sure but I also know nothing about him. What's his major? Idk. What does he do for work? Idk. What are his hobbies? Coming to my apartment and bothering me idk.
But the main reason this boyfriend is upsetting me has nothing to do with him and moreso to do with the way my roommate's been treating me.
When she was dating her last boyfriend we got into this big fight bc I was lowk shittalking her on insta (which yeah that was mean of me.) BUT a big reason I was complaining on my story was because she would just invite him over and give me the heads up like 2 seconds before they walked in the door. Which shouldn't really be a problem except our apt is really small. Like we have separate rooms and all but walls are thin and living space is not very livable. So whenever bf (past and present) comes over I tend to lock myself in my room to a) give them space and b) not have to make small talk with bf bc I am an introvert and I VERY MUCH value my alone time.
So I told her that upset me and she agreed to give me very advanced notice whenever she'd invite bf over.
BUT with this new bf??? She apparently just forgot that we had that fight bc for the past THREE DAYS she'll come waltzing into our apt with him and just not tell me??? Like the first two times I brushed it off bc she probably thought I was in class those times but TODAY??? I don't have class on Fridays and she KNOWS this so imagine my shock when she brings her bf over WITH NO WARNING. GREAT. COOL. IT'S FINE. I'LL JUST SIT HERE AND STARVE WHILE YOU GIVE YOUR BF AN EPI PEN TUTORIAL. I didn't want to eat lunch anyway. Whatever.
(Now, could I have gotten lunch anyway? Yes, but that would be awkward and I'd rather not feel awkward in MY OWN HOME.)
And I thought that was the last of bf for today. Wrong.
I was sitting in my room, making really horrible eeveelution miis for my tomodachi life island and when all of a sudden I get a text from my roommate. (Who, BTW, is literally NEXT DOOR)
"Hey bf is staying over tomorrow night if that's okay with you. My eczema is really bad so I can't be around his cat."
Another thing that we fought over during her last relationship was that I didn't want him to stay over bc i didn't know him. But the thing about the last bf is I did KNOW things about him, because we have the same major. (Theatre, very tight-knit group) This new one??? I know NOTHING ABOUT HIM. What if he snores? What if he sleepwalks? What if he wants to use my shower? What if he's secretly a creep and breaks into my room to assault me? MY DOOR DOESNT HAVE A LOCK.
Also, notice the way she broke this news to me. "If that's okay with you". Okay, fine, she's giving me an out. But here's the thing. When she used to give me prior warning about bf coming over, she would text me "hey bf is coming over." There were no outs to those texts. So, using my context clues, she is probably only giving me an out to save face, when deep down we both know I don't have a choice.
The 2nd half of the message, with the cat and eczema thing, is the part that REALLY pisses me off. Okay, I'm sorry she's going through a flare-up, those suck. BUT. Nobody is forcing you to spend the night with your boyfriend. Nobody is forcing you to sleep in his bed. Nobody is forcing you to be together ALL THE TIME. NOBODY IS DOING THAT EXCEPT YOU.
Unless he is. And if that's the case, we have a whole separate problem on our hands.
Anyway, I find it really hard to understand why she thought it was good idea to have bf spend the night when she KNOWS. FOR A FACT. THAT IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE.
And it's not like those two have been depraved of seeing each other! Oh, no, she spent the night at his place LAST NIGHT. Again, NOBODY IS MAKING YOU DO THIS!!!
So I was originally going to leave her on read when I got this text, as I usually do when she tells me that bf is coming over, but I figured that she'd probably want an answer to her fake consideration for my feelings, so I wrote back "thanks for letting me know"
And i thought this was really passive aggressive bc. You know. She hasn't been telling me as of late.
But she wrote back "yeah of course"
"Yeah Arnie, of course I'd tell you about my bf staying the night bc i absolutely care about your happiness in our shared home!"
That's what it sounded like to me at least.
So either a) she's gaslighting me into thinking she cares or b) she genuinely believes that she has always kept me in the know this entire time
I'm starting to think it might be b.
So, anyway, that's where we're at right now. Looking forward to another night locked in my room and pretending to not exist tomorrow. Yay.
