Aromantic Blog

Hello! This is a spot for aromantics, questioning aromantics, and fellow alloromantics who would like to learn more about aromanticism. Feel free to drop me a message for information, advice, or to have someone to talk to. Hope this is of use!

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platonic valentines!

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happy arospec awareness week!

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HAPPY AROSPEC AWARENESS WEEK!

(plus 1 ace from outer space)

The shorty squad are here to let you know that you’re valid, your feelings are real, and you’re perfect just the way you are! 💚💜

(You can find out more about Arospec Awareness Week, and about aromanticism in general, by clicking here!)

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shoutout to arospec people who experience low empathy as a result of mental illness and have to deal with stigma surrounding being neurodivergent/mentally ill, low empathy, and arospec

you are not wrong or bad for being mentally ill and having low empathy and being arospec

you are not responsible for the demonization of mentally ill people as heartless and unable to love

you are not responsible for the demonization of low empathy people as heartless and unable to love

you are not responsible for the demonization of arospec people as heartless and unable to love

you are not wrong or bad, you are allowed to exist as yourself

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“Am I Arospec?” PowerPoint for Arospec Awareness Week.

Transcript below.

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It’s aromantic awareness week!

An aromantic person is someone who doesn’t feel romantic attraction. This is the briefest description ever though, so if anyone wants to know more about it just shoot me a message and I’d be happy to answer any questions!

Note: Obviously not all aromantic people value friendship or other relationships more than alloromantic people (people who DO feel romantic attraction), and those aro people are just as valid and nice! <3

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Yayyyyyy aro selfies!!!!!

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Some crappy aromantic and asexual Valentine’s Day cards, for all your anti-Valentine’s Day needs

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You: Valentines day

Me, an aromantic intellectual: Chocolate goes on sale tomorrow day

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I just apologized to a lot of people for being offline for so long, but I want to formally apologize to all of you. I always say I’ll be back soon and start working harder, but then mental health and personal problems always hinder me. I feel terrible for leaving so many questions unanswered and for abandoning your dashboards. 

I’m back for an important time, though! Loads of arospec people, including me, have a really hard time on Valentine’s day. For that, I promise to answer any questions and chats, and if anyone wants to help me out and submit to my blog, it will very likely make it and make me happy. 

Would you all be up for a Valentine’s day support chat? I made an aro chat at this time last year that helped a lot of people out and would totally be up for setting another up or posting a link to the old chat. What would you all like?

Thank you all for tolerating my absence. I promise to be here at least for the next couple days and as much awareness week as I can. I’ll be painting my cheeks green and am hyped to be aggressively aro this february!

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Right, so I started identifying as aro/ace very recently, and it really just feels right for me. But, my main reasons for being aro/ace are kinda convenience reasons. Such as, I don't want to worry about another person constantly, I want my private life to be entirely private, I don't want somebody else interfering with my life, etc. Is this a thing aro/aces feel or is it just me? I'm confused

Those are totally valid reasons for not wanting romantic relationships! Usually attraction and actual relationships are differenciated, as in how many arospec people want relationships but don’t feel the attraction or vice versa, but they definitely don’t have to be. 

And don’t worry, loads of people feel the same way towards romance. A lot of people call this romance repulsion or aversion, but the feeling doesn’t have to be as strong as the terms suggest, it usually just emphasizes that someone also does not want a relationship!

You are 100% valid and cool, you do you! 

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Sometimes being an aromantic person is hard. When i look into the eyes of a person who loves me, it's heartbreaking because i know i can never return it. And no matter how much i apologize, he only says that it's enough he can love me. TT.TT

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Please don’t feel guilty. You really don’t owe them anything, and have the right to be yourself. I hope you never force yourself to pretend to be allo, as I know a lot of arospecs do. Platonic love is just as important, and more important than that is yourself. <3

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I think i'm both asexual and bisexual... Ugh. Idk what to call it. Like, i'm interested in sex but doesn't want to really do it with anyone. Could you like give me a more appropriate term? I feel like i'm insulting ace and bi when i say this. XOXO

Hi!! I’m so sorry, I don’t know how long this has been sitting here, but I am certain that it was far too long. You have all my apologies.

I know far more about aromanticism than asexuality, but what you are describing sounds like the definition of autochorissexuality. 

Autochorissexuality, also more recently known as aegoromanticism for reasons that can be read about here, is an asexual spectrum identity. It is the separation between oneself and sexual desires, sort of. People who identify as this often experience sexual attraction and enjoy the idea of sex, but do not specifically place themselves in these desires. I’ve heard a lot of aegosexuals describe their experience as imagining sex and enjoying it, though it is ever really “them” in the context. 

I feel confident that this would be a good identity for you, but I am definitely not an expert on asexuality, so I would definitely seek other advice and sources

(If you still need it after this probably like a month)

I apologize again and hope you gave things figured out!

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sometimes i feel like i really like someone and i totally convince myself that a romantic relationship is what i want, but when the person and i actually start a romantic relationship, i realize this isn't what i want AT ALL and i panic and end it and feel guilty. i'm not really sure what to do, because sometimes i'm like yes i really want a romantic relationship, but i KNOW the minute it actually happens, i'll be uncomfortable and running to the hills. help???

I hope you found your answer before my looooooooooonnnnnnnngggggggggg overdue response. I am so sorry and promise to get back to you if you need anything else. 

This basically sounds like the definition of Lithromanticism.

Lithromantic people desire romantic relationships and may feel romantic attraction until it is reciprocated, upon which many lithromantics begin to feel guilty or uncomfortable. I can absolutely explain more if you would like,  but I am hoping you found an answer in my absence. 

Sorry again, hope you are well!

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There has been a lot of backlash on a recent post of mine about using the "h slur." Could someone explain? I hate to be ignorant, but i've never heard a gay person say that homosexual is a bad word

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I'm bisexual aromantic but instead of not wanting romance, I love all of my friends and would do "romantic" coded things with any of them which is why I can't have a relationship because nobody is special and it's confusing, any advice??

Hi! I think a good term for you to know is queerplatonic. A queerplatonic relationship is like a friendship, but it can also include conventionally romantic coded things like kissing, hand holding, and sex. It’s unconventional, and so the terms can be custom-set with whoever is involved. People can have several queerplatonic relationships while still being 100% moral.

An identity that you remind me of is lithromantic, describing someone who does experience romantic attraction, and may engage in romantic acts, but does not want a romantic relationship.

(I also would like to add, have you ever considered polyamory? That also reminds me of you, so I think it would be something to think about)

I do have some more ideas on how to help, so those suggestions don’t help, you are absolutely welcome back to my box! I’ll hopefully try to answer sooner!

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however, i'm not sure i ever necessarily experience romantic attraction. i love my partner a lot and i enjoy doing romantic things with them but again i would be perfectly content in our relationship and i feel like nothing would change if we were not in a romantically labeled relationship. am i grey romantic? demi? full aro?? (2/2)

Hello, thank you so much! Don’t worry about it, I run the blog to help people with these kinds of questions!

I think this is a case where labels should be used to your comfort - you could certainly fit into any of those categories, so it may just be good to identify with what you feel closest to.

It is totally possible to be full-aromantic (not to mean arospec people are less valid just like completely no attraction you know what I mean) while enjoying romantic things or being in romantic relationships. You could also be aro and wanting a queer-platonic relationship (a friendly relationship that can also encompass romantic or non-conventially-platonic things like hand holding, sex, etc.). Needing close platonic bonds before romantic attraction happens is basically the definition of demiromantic. A lot of people who are unsure of an exact identity or feel connected to multiple identities go with grayromantic, and that’s totally fine, too.

If I were you, personally I would probably go with grayro, but I would absolutely say to do whatever label you feel describes yourself and makes you the most comfortable.

You’re welcome back to my inbox if you have other questions, hope I could help!