The Joy of Being Your BaggageÂ
Another Dating Advice
After a serious chat with my friend yesterday on past relationships and breakups, it occurred to me that the figurative meaning behind the act of carrying emotional baggage is much less transparent and interesting than its literal one. Â
Of course, we can say, “She carries a lot of baggage with her always”—but where is the fun in that? Try replacing that ambiguous quantifier with a number more precise and you will get an exciting declaration like: “Damn, she carries around exactly seven baggage today and boy, are they heavy!”
I am no grammar anarchist or idiom rule breaker. I simply think it’s important to know, quantitatively, how many baggage a person is carrying before you make your bed with them and eat in it, too. This information will help you answer some burning questions like: Do I need to lift weight before our first date? Can I check the baggage before boarding or will they be carry-on?
But the road to a perfect relationship doesn’t end here. Once you know the quantity, it’s time to check on the quality. There are two things you might want to consider: the type of baggage they already carry and the kind of baggage you want to become. Below is an abridged guide to The Joy of Being Your Baggage to ease you with your decision-making. Â
Suitcase with wheels: wheels are used for the occasional self-induced amnesia to forget about the actual weight of the baggage.
Suitcase without wheels: if wheels are broken, see first point then stay away. If not, this person either loves vintage luggage or I don’t have another explanation.
Carry-on: the weight is manageable but be sure, their baggage is always around for the long haul.Â
Duffle bag: the proud owner indiscriminately throws everything into this bag and is constantly reminded of how much it weighs on their shoulders.Â
Backpacking Bag: very strategic with what to put inside the bag. Compact, heavy, and ready for all soul-searching trips across Asia and Europe. Â
Briefcase: though appears lightweight, a medium to large secret is lurking inside. Or this person might just love that vintage look, in which case, introduce them to Suitcase without wheels.Â
Wallet: maybe don’t trust someone who carries around multiple wallets from past relationships.Â
Fanny pack:Â an absolute keeper. This person bravely carries their heart, credit cards, phone, IDs, keys, and passport on their sleeves and their waist.