Ace/Aro Musings

thoughts and affirmations from a bamboozled little bean -- I can't find the profile image again but I will credit if I know!

[veggieconfusion]

Marylin Monroe was asexual. Pass it on.

Also have this edit I made:

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

You don't have to have the same feelings for your partner that they do for you. As long as your dynamic is working for you, that's all that matters.

[tbalderdash-art-blog]

HONK!

[greykolla-art]

💕Can you even CONCEIVE how much I suddenly love them???💕

I think they were strolling around town after having a drink together. And that ends in a little cuddle!😂💕💕💕

Dialogue from The Aristocats, of course.💗💗💗

[velvet-games]

this sucks ass but I had to get it out of my system cause I've hallucinated it like 50 billion times

[gummy-axolotl]

The QPR of all time

[cheesy-cryptid]

Sharing a recent commission that holds a very special place in my heart 🥹🫶

My commissions are still open!!

[ukk0]

🖤💜 Happy international asexuality day! 🖤💜🐀

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity 🖤💜

[ablackswansweet]

Had to share this gem from my twitter tl

[wrenhavens-deactivated20170720]

i don’t trust asexuals because their brains are not distracted by the matters of the flesh.

where is all that brain power going.

i bet it’s going to the overmind, where they are gathering strength to consolidate their hold over the world

[loudst]

you know too much.

[yeehawpim]

having a ponder about being aromantic and the kinds of friendships or qprs I might want to have

[lemonycranberries]

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY 💜💜💜

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

My thoughts on being in love vs romantic feelings.

The phrase “in love” can be connected to a bunch of things, often seen as romantic but also like when people get really excited over something beautiful or adorable, for example people “falling in love” with a cute baby, a cute animal, a beautiful sunset or moon or mountain or whatever.

Anyways in regards to falling in love with a person, it does not have to equal romantic feelings. It can sometimes, but not always.

This is what “being in love” with a person feels like to me, it’s this happy, contented, peaceful, at-home feeling I have with someone and knowing that there’s the unconditional love and support between us. Is it romantic? Not for me. For me, romance and “being in love” are two completely different things. They can overlap, but they don’t always.

What bugs me tho is that when you say you’re in love with a person, people assume it’s romantic. Not necessarily! If I say I’m in love with a full moon, are you assuming I’m romantically attracted to the moon? Like if you can be in love with things other than people and it’s not romantic then, why does it have to be romantic when you’re in love with a person?

~wolfyboi

(I feel like I’m kinda rambling and just saying nonsense so in my defense it’s 2am as I’m typing this lol)

Very much, agreed! I feel like saying that being 'in love' can only be about romance is so limiting, love is so much more than romance, and so are ways to be in love.

Thanks for sharing!

[that-bisexual-deactivated202409]

If you don't think cis asexual people, cis aromantic people or cis aroace people are valid you can unfollow me right now.

[asexual-noot]

With Valentines coming up, I've found myself worrying and over-analysing my ace-allo relationship.

Don't get me wrong, my partner is great. He's incredibly thoughtful and respectful to my needs and I trust him entirely. He's very careful about consent, more than I ever expected someone would be. He's also a lot of fun to spend time with and we coexist very nicely. He adores me completely and loves going over the top with sweet gestures.

Sometimes this can be very overwhelming to me, because while he often tells me how wonderful/ beautiful/ attractive I am, I find myself just saying thanks or nodding or trying for humour. When we find ourselves staring at each other after a kiss, I start to feel awkward quickly. I feel a lot of pressure that I am supposed to reciprocate in some way, by returning compliments or talking about him. But nothing ever comes to mind. I don't find him physically attractive, or particularly aesthetically attractive either. But that never matters to me until that very moment. And suddenly I'm lost.

He insists it's fine, but I'm not 100% convinced.

Whenever I'm having any doubts about my relationship, I always remember what my best friend said to me when I was just beginning to date this guy: "make sure you're not just settling for the first person because they're nice". I know they meant no harm, but because of my hesitations, it makes me worry that I'm lying to myself.

I think it's important to always remember that every relationship between humans is unique, and goes both ways. If I'm not "doing enough" or "feeling the right things", the only people concerned are the two of us. Our feelings are the only ones that matter. And if there's any internalised external expectations, then I need to work through it and decide for myself whether they matter.

[boo-topia]

BABE WAKE UP NEW ACE ICON JUST DROPPED

[modmad]

*takes a deep breath*

duck time