demisexual describes individuals that only develop sexual attraction after forming an emotional connection.
Disclaimer: Reminder that the definition is based on what I could gather from various queer wikis and may or may not be completely accurate :) If there's anything missing, please let me know :)
greysexual describes individuals that see themselves as "in-between" asexuality and allosexuality. What exactly constitutes as "in-between" is highly individual.
Disclaimer: Reminder that the definition is based on what i could gather from various queer wikis. In this case specifically, there is a wide variety on the exact definitions, but the "in-between" or "not quite fully asexual" or something along those lines seem to be the common denominator. So if this is not fully accurate, or if there's something missing please let me know :)
I Am Not Human, I Walk In Eternity - An Aspec Lense on Doctor Who’s Desire and Humanity
A big deep dive into Doctor Who, amatonormativity, compulsory sexuality, asexual and aromantic coding and aspec identity in the whoniverse.
Intro Cw//: anti-asexual and anti-aromantic rhetoric, discussions of sex and romance and sexual assault will be discussed throughout the ent
Chapter 1 looks at the history of asexual and aromantic coding in the Doctor in Classic Who and how it worked as an early aspec character template.
Chapter 2 looks at how the Doctor became a more conventionally romantic and sexual character in nuwho, the "end" of the Doctor's asexuality and aromanticism and addressing the Steven Moffat aphobia allegations of 2012 :)
Chapter 3 addresses the (jarring) amatonormativity of nuwho, the way it represents romance and the harm that can cause.
Chapter 4 showcases a bunch of thoughts and experiences of ace and aro Doctor Who fans including my own on the show's representation and treatment from the fandom with the help of some cool people from the Doctor Who Ace and Aro Survey!
And last but not least, Chapter 5 covers some ace and aro readings of the Doctor and other characters and concludes my overall thoughts on the issues covered.
I think one of the funniest ongoing fandom debates is when people try to “disprove” the idea that the Doctor could be asexual or on the ace spectrum. Like, someone will say, “They can’t be ace—they made a horny joke once,” or, “But they said they had a wild summer with Houdini!” And every time I hear it, I just want to cup my hands over my mouth, close my eyes, and sigh in deep disappointment.
Because, first of all:
a) Asexuality isn’t a binary switch. Ace people can and do have sex, enjoy it, and make dirty jokes. Being ace doesn’t mean you’re allergic to the concept of horniness—it just means your relationship to it is different.
And b) Have you met any ace-spectrum people? Because some of the filthiest, most shamelessly raunchy individuals I know are ace or demi. Myself included. I’m demi, one of my best friends is ace, and the sheer number of cursed, unhinged conversations we’ve had would make Casanova blush.
People get so wrapped up in the idea that being ace means being emotionally distant, sexless, or repressed—and that’s just… not true. At all. The Doctor could absolutely be ace, demi, gray-ace, or anything else on the spectrum and still flirt, make suggestive comments, or even engage in relationships. One doesn’t cancel out the other.
Ace folks contain multitudes. So does the Doctor. Let’s not pretend those things are mutually exclusive.
Doctor Who Ace and Aro Survey (2025) - The Results
Ace and Aro Survey (2025) Results Created by @leikeliscomet
Its finally done lads! 223 ace and aro doctor who fans took part in this!
Here are some highlights i found from the data:
In terms of which Doctors fall on the asexual and aromantic spectrum, Twelve got the most votes on both questions for being an asexual doctor (104) and an aromantic doctor (95).
In the asexual group, asexual lesbians were the most likely to vote for Thirteen as an asexual Doctor (54%). Ace lesbians were also the most likely to vote for Fifteen as an ace Doctor too (31.%)
In the aromantic group, non-SAM aromantics were most likely to consider Thirteen and Fifteen as aromantic Doctors (100% - one person!)
Aces and aros of colour were more likely to vote for Fifteen as an asexual Doctor (17%) than white aces and aros of colour (13%)
60s Classic Who got the most votes for representing the Doctor as an asexual character the best (81) whilst 70s Who got the most votes for representing the Doctor as an aromantic character the best (77)
Despite his comments claiming otherwise, the Moffat era received the most votes in nuwho for representing the Doctor as asexual (68) and aromantic (41)
In the ace group, aroaces were the most likely to consider all Doctors to be asexual (56%)
In the aro group, gay aros were the most likely to consider all Doctors to be aromantic (67%)
Most participants think we could get an openly asexual doctor in the future (39.5%) and maybe an openly aromantic Doctor (38.6%)
Thank you to everybody who took part in the survey! I was never expecting there to be over *200* of us 😭😭 And thanks to everyone for leaving those nice messages in the closing comments. 🥲 I'm glad i helped make aces & aros feel more seen here 🙌🏾
Crazy idea, BBC confirms The Doctor is Demi making The Doctor the longest existing Asexual character in media. Every asexual whovian celebrates and we all have a big party of only ace people.
my headcanon is that the doctor views sex as "fun experiment time with my partner" bc they like figuring out the mechanics of sex and find it academically interesting, so they dont mind participating in it.
Disclaimer: some of these characters have other identities as well (bi, aro, etc.) but we're focusing on asexual flags today
Canon Ace characters, we have Breanna (Leverage Redemption), Sherlock Holmes, SpongeBob, Jughead Jones (new series), Jughead Jones (older series), Saiki (Saiki K), Max (Miraculous Ladybug), Perry the Platypus (Phineas and Ferb), Yelena Belova (Thunderbolts), Scraggs (Solve-It-Squad), and Tatiana (Spies are Forever)!
We also have asexual 4th, 6th, and 11th doctors as well as a greysexual 10th doctor!
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