Ashleigh the ISFP

19 - ISFP - Phlegmatic-Melancholy - 4w5 (451)- sx/sp  // If I follow you, it will be with the account 'ash-the-isfp-other' because i'm dumb and don't know how to make this my main account//

[random-esfp]

All shitty mbti test: “intuitives are extremely clever and observant and their intuition sometimes makes you feel intimidated wow be careful”

Actual intuitives:

*are oblivious af*

*keep living in the clouds*

*sensors need to explain them easy correlations*

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I'm an ESTJ, but I can't relate to the stereotype that we're hooked on past trends all the time. I mistyped as an intuitive a few times because I've always considered myself a future-oriented person with goals I'm determined to achieve. I've got several abstract future plans. What's the difference between the way sensors and intuitives approach the future?

The past trends thing applies more to SFJs than STJs, since Te adopts and/or adapts to any system that works better with proven results – so to an STJ, the past is dead and holds no sentimentality for how it worked, if it’s no longer relevant on a cultural level. Low Ti is more inclined to hold onto older methods, since it requires effort for low Ti to shift its thinking and adapt to new methods.

Intuitives have a less grounded or realistic expectation about the future, due to their idealism – they tend to want change too quickly and/or something that is not culturally possible or within their ability to accomplish, owing to being N… dreamers more than “aware of reality.” ENTJs do have Te and Se to ground them a bit more, but still can have too high of expectations. An ESTJ knows how the world works and how to navigate in it and sets more realistic goals based on what they know they can accomplish.

If it sounds like I am favoring sensors of late, in a way I am, because I am sick of the “intuitive bias” that continues circulating around tumblr. No, intuitives are not any smarter than sensors. In fact, they find it harder to figure out how the real world worlds in order to accomplish doing things in it. Yes, they tend to see the big picture more clearly and focus on how to bring about change, but that is not brilliantly useful unless you get some sensors on board to deal with details.

- ENFP Mod

[metamemory]

FUCK 16personalities. 

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what would a isfp 4w5 look/act like?

Emotional but subdued; 4w5 represses emotions and keeps them inside, which Fi also does naturally, so intense, deep, piercing inner emotions, tends to rationalize with the 5 wing, pull away from others, self-contained. Drawn to act on these feelings with Se, can be impulsive at times. Broody. Less broadcasting of feelings and more internal mulling on them. Physically active, especially in chasing and then pulling away from others. Fierce sense of individuality, feels broken and imperfect, separate from others, must learn to let themselves be loved and not dwell in their sadness or invent angst out of a desire to stay sad. Lots of them, character wise. Angel. Ophelia. Bella Swann.

The 4w3 is Fanny from Bright Star. Much more “sharing” of her feelings (”Mama, Fanny wants a knife.” “Why?” “She says to slit her wrists with!”), but also the 3 wing desire to impress, stand out, sell herself as unique. She spends all her free time creating her own clothing and wearing them proudly, finding some way to set herself apart in her appearance (3 + Se). A lot of clothing designers are 4w3 SFPs. Much emphasis on beauty, self-torture, depth, expression of self through clothing, “huge” emotions, the bigger the better. Same issues with darkness, self-hatred, elitism, sense of alienation, brokenness and not being wanted by others.

- ENFP Mod

[ashtheisfp]

Yes you did help me! Thx!

awesome! glad to have been able to help!

[ashtheisfp]

Do you as ISFP obsess sometimes over future? I know my Ni is running wild without seeing possible future, something I like, love, and what could be practical the same way. I can't understand if I'm looping as ISFP or am I in a grip as ESFP. Yes, ai haven't got good extrovertion and exciting things to do in a long time, but it also has to do with me not liking what I do now, and Ni with Fi screams you need a purpose and a passion for your life and this isn't it. Does this happen to you?

Oh yeah for sure! I wouldn’t necessarily say this is exclusive to any type in particular, but I can definitely see it happening in both types you’ve mentioned. What I will say is, if considering certain future paths disgusts you instantly because they don’t feel like your purpose, I would assume it’s more Fi-dom leaning. Dom-Se doesn’t have a judgment function to filter through, so there’s a lot less resistance to seriously considering paths they aren’t already emotionally attatched to.

[ashtheisfp]

Different anon but I bet my money they are refering to Taylor Swift post.

Yeah I’ve realised that afterwards. songs-and-types added that tag with their reblog :)

[ashtheisfp]

What do you mean by "her approach to music is the opposite of fi"?

Who and what post are you referring to?

[ashtheisfp]

I just saw what you mean. I didn’t add that tag, that was a tag written by someone who reblogged my post. So whoever put the post on your feed is who added that

[ashtheisfp]

What do you mean by "her approach to music is the opposite of fi"?

Who and what post are you referring to?

[ashtheisfp]

the worst part of mbti personality tests is that they add in questions like "do you find yourself lost in deep philosophical thought?" as points towards being intuitive and every damn person who's ever had a thought in their life goes "why yes, I suppose I do!"

[ashtheisfp]

I can’t believe there are still people on this hell hole of a website that think Taylor Swift is an INFP...

the fact that she harassed her parents into moving from Pennsylvania to Nashville and harassed record labels to listen to her demos (and kept going even after they’d reject her) as a preteen AND succeeded is really evidence enough of her ESFJ 3w2-ness.

[istj-hedonist]

Visual Typing - Instinctual Variants

sp/so

- probably most common type irl - really kind eyes and kind smile, slightly cheeky/mischievous, but always genuine looking - smile mostly with closed lips in public, smile more openly when they feel comfortable - abundance of round and soft features (e.g. eyebrows shaped in a gentle bow, round full cheeks) - men can appear quite feminine - for white people smile wrinkles can be already seen in their late 20s - look trustworthy, like they would be good parents - the kind of people you would ask for directions if you were a tourist in a foreign city

so/sp

- very open eyes (you can see a large portion of the sclera) - blink rarely - open smile that somehow looks fake, nervous, awkward or robotic (“Stepford smile”) - share the same round cheeks with sp/so - can easily appear possessive - many hectic gestures - nervous laughs to fill awkward silences - if they get angry it feels really theatrical

sp/sx

- can you guess how many of the pictured people are smiling? hint: it’s more than one - resting bitch face #1: somewhere between grumpy and bored - open smiles look -really- uncomfortable on them so they avoid it like the plague - mostly straight deep-set eyebrows - calm, monotone, often really deep voices - just a really calm presence in general, nobody is able to rush them, quiet self-confidence - women appear pretty masculine even if they dress femme - practical simple hairstyles - clothing is simple but elegant, muted colors

sx/sp

- never look nervous - challenging eyes (often slightly squinted as if they target their prey) - just like sp/sx: smile with closed lips, but unlike in sp/sx you will never see any hint of uncomfortableness in sx/sp - eyebrows either straight and/or with sharp angles - resting bitch face #2: “mess with me and you are dead”-edition - mysterious and attractive even without makeup

so/sx - extremely wide and teethy smiles (almost joker-esque) - eyes manage to look both squinted and openly staring at the same time - depending on how strong the sx is can look more nervous/confused (Britney Spears: weaker sx) or more aggressive (Tom Cruise & Fran Drescher: stronger sx) - loud and manic laughs - women somehow love really big hair? - beauty pageant persona (will act more extreme/dramatical the more people are watching)

sx/so

- (extremely common type for female celebrities) - can look deceivingly sp-ish in single pictures - you need to watch several pics to see the wide range of expressions - pro at flirting with the camera, know their best angles - bold fashion choices - when they smile it looks cute and smug at the same time - either flamboyant, hypersexual or just extra™ in some way, but always in a way that it charms people instead of scaring them off

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General advice:

- watch the people in motion if you can: videos of interviews are more telling than random photos, photos taken by strangers are more telling than selfies - so-doms will (un)consciously hide their nervous look in selfies, trying to go for a cuter look (and they love myspace angles) - sp/sx will avoid smiling in selfies because they know it looks miserable - good make-up can fake a sx-dom look even in sx-blind people (Katy Perry and Tyra Banks are good examples of this), so if possible search for pics without makeup also see this overview: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/content.php/265-Instinct-Stacking-Face-Composites

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What Stereotypes Think Se Is Like: WOOOOOOO! MONEY! FLASHY AS FUCK!! SEX!!!! PARTAAYYYY!!! FAST CARS?! HOW FAST!?!? MAKE IT FASTER!! FIGHT ME BRO! SPORTS! I DON’T HAVE TWO THOUGHTS TO RUB TOGETHER! LOL BOOKS?! THEORIES?! WTF ARE THOSE!? LOL NO IMAGINATION WHO NEEDS THAT WHEN YOU HAVE ROCKS YOU CAN THROW AT WINDOWS AND PEOPLE!?

What Se Is Really Like: Oh, man, they don’t even realize that water bottle is going to tip over. Yep, there it goes–nvm got it! And I saved the phone next to it. Nice! Here you go, bud, be careful with that fine piece of equipment… . That shifty dude hanging out on the opposite wall, the well dressed light-haired man with the pressed sports jacket and other non-identifiable clothing, he’s been eyeing us like a hawk for the past few minutes. It’s probably hard to see because of all these flashing lights and people, but he’s got the eye of a predator, see the way he stands so stock still. And his buddy across the room. They’re trading signals. No, don’t look directly. We need to lose them, they’re bad news. I’ll keep us safe. There’s a bouncer over there, the lines in his face are smile lines, that furrow in his brow isn’t permanent, he’s physically imposing but see how gentle he is with the softer crowd? He’s good news, he’ll be on our side… . Listen to the way the sea crashes against the shore. It’s a constant rhythm, the most centering thing you’ll ever hear. The motions sort  of sinks into your soul, doesn’t it? And the sand beneath your feet? Every little piece of sand is a broken part of the earth, or coral, older than you and me, cool and refreshing just above the shore. But oh, smell that? Come on, boardwalk. Let’s go. That’s about to be the most savory meal you’ve ever had… . This decision is the most realistic at this very moment. Look, we can get to this ideal future, but we have to act on it now. Watch the way people and the environment respond to us. We’ve got this… . VOLUNTEER?! To be your demonstration dummy!? Oh hell yeah! I’m going to perfect this! I’m not passing up this opportunity… . I really enjoy your conspiracy theories, I’ve got mine too when I’m paranoid lol, but like??? I know they’re also not realistic??? Let me tell you all of the business-y and people-y ways in which this is possible though.

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Hi! I've been wondering about the so/sp/sx aspect of the enneagram. I've been assuming I'm sp/so, because I'm aroace and thought that meant I had to be sx-blind, but I really don't relate to any sp stuff I've seen--like, at all. Is it possible to want a sx-bond that has nothing to do with sex or romance? And how do you tell the difference between the so desire to maintain an image and social anxiety? (If it helps for reference, I'm an INFP 9/5/maybe 3, no clue about wings)

Let’s simplify it in terms of, how do you survive?

Soc: Like a Lion

Lions are social cats. They bond together to ensure the survival of the pride. Soc thinks in these terms – I survive in relation to my position within the group. What group it is depends on the person who uses soc. Soc for one person might be their peer group, their social contacts at work, their friends (I can always call on one of my social contacts when I have a need, and they will meet it), or their family. As a soc-first, my own mindset is “if the family survives, I survive.” I am willing to give up resources, time, and effort to ensure the survival of my family. I am “family first,” everyone else second. That’s my soc.

Sx: Like a Wolf

You know that wolves mate for life, right? They choose and stick with the wolf that attracts their eye. They are fierce but also dependent. If you feel like having a partner is essential for your survival in the outside world, it’s likely you have sx. Sx is not always about “finding a mate,” it’s about a wolfish instinct about who you are drawn to, who is “your kind of person,” who you have instant chemistry with, who maintains your interest the most, and who you can pull energy from, on a one-on-one basis. Like a wolf seeking intensity from their mate. If you feel incomplete without a romantic partner, you likely have sx.

SP: Like a Bear

Although mother bears are highly protective over their cubs, sooner or later the cubs leave to have their own life. Bears are not very social. They live alone and roam over enormous swaths of land. Their look after themselves first. It’s all about storing up enough fat to survive the winter through hibernation. SPs are like bears. It’s about their physical, emotional, and financial needs. Those come before anything else. SPs want total independence and usually maintain it. They shut out anything that threatens to infringe on that. I care for myself.

Which combination are you?

You should have a sense of identity with one of those right off the bat, which means it is your core. To determine the second instinct, look at what you would do “next” in order to survive. Which one would you gravitate toward first? Some Enneagram teachers (including Rohr, who I think is the best) believe you use all three instincts in terms of those three areas of your life (soc in social groups, sx in romantic relationships, and sp in independence), but that your first instinct comes the most naturally to you, and your second is where you would go if you couldn’t use the first one.

As an example, I’m so/sp. I know this because when I think how I intend to survive if my soc (family) ever fails (financially, or they all die), I instantly think about independence vs. a romantic partner. Given a choice between sx and sp, I would choose sp / independence – I would find it more instinctive to look after myself (and already do) than to find a partner.

Does that help you understand it better?

- ENFP Mod

[naughty-nanny]

Don't Panic

Not every highly intelligent person is an INTP. In fact, not every intelligent person is an a Thinker or an Intuitive or an Introvert.

In fact, Kiersey identified ISTJs as the default “scientist” type.

So don’t panic, there are highly intelligent sensors and Feelers all the time.

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MBTI Deviant Roles

1. The De-Individualizers (SJ)

ESTJ: The Fascist

ISTJ: The Hall Monitor

ESFJ: The Earth S-mother-er

ISFJ: The Mob Enforcer

2. The Selfish Thrill Seekers (SP)

ESTP: The Con Artist

ISTP: The Contract Killer

ESFP: The Narcissist

ISFP: The Tortured Artist

3. The High-Functioning Sociopaths (NT)

ENTJ: The Dominatrix

INTJ: The Supervillian

ENTP: The Mad Scientist

INTP: The 40-Year-Old Virgin

4. The Self-Righteous Do-Gooders (NF)

ENFJ: The Cult Leader

INFJ: The Svengali

ENFP: The Bomb Thrower

INFP: The Martyr

[ashtheisfp]

I just made the mistake of browsing the #MBTI tag and seeing all these inaccurate memes and biased profiles makes me wanna go inactive again