(Part 1). I recently started a job at a movie theater and I have been working there for three months. One of my managers treat me massively different then he does the other employees. With everyone else, he has casual conversations with them but, with me, he explains my job to me over and over again. When I am working in the concessions stand, he is always there working with us and, the entire time, he micromanages over me. Like today he was on the other side of the concession stand & I was
(part 2) heading to the microwave to make someone a hot dog. Then my manager tells me the time for how long I am suppose to cook the hot dog from the other side of the concession stand while dealing with costumers. He also restates things that I say to the costumers to my other employees. I feel like he thinks I am stupid because he micromanages me and is always around whenever I mess up and laughs. However, he will tell me that I know things at the same time. He also tries to compliment me.
(part 3) The only time he has been casual with me is one time whenever he tried to pull pranks on me during our shift together. I am just very confused by him. I told him just last week that I thought he hated me. He told me he didn't hate me and that he didn't dislike me. I don't know how to respond. Why does he talk to everyone like they are his friends while with me it's two extremes? My mom said that she think he likes me but I don't feel that's what he thinks of me, due to him constantly
(part 4) micromanaging me. I thought that when someone micromanages you it is because they don't trust you/your capabilities. I am so confused. Is it more of what my mom thinks regarding him having a crush and he is trying to keep some professional distance or is it because he actually hates me? I have been confused about him for months and I don't know how to respond to him by this point.
I don’t think your manager hates you.
However, I do feel like his behavior is a little inappropriate. If he treats you differently than the other employees, there might be a reason. The frustrating part is that you might never know why.
It sounds like you’ve tried bringing this up with him, and he brushes it off.
I think what you need to do is figure out how important this is to you...
Does his treatment affect your ability to do your job safely?
If not, I hate to say it but you may have to learn how to tolerate it.
On the other hand, if you feel uncomfortable, threatened, or unsafe because of how he treats you, that’s when it’s time to get others involved.
You can get in touch with HR (human resources) and report his behavior anonymously. They will most likely investigate the incident, and respond accordingly.
Personally, I think what I would do is try to hang in there for a little longer, and see if the situation improves. Perhaps he will realize over time that you don’t need to be micromanaged, and your relationship with him will be better. Unfortunately, everybody has dealt with a bad boss at some point or another in their life - it’s almost unavoidable.
Finally, if you can’t find a reasonable solution and things don’t get better, you may want to consider finding a new job.
I hope things work out for you! Take care~