hi im dad

[ask-internet-dad]

Hey dad, I am in a ddlg relationship with a guy. I'm 15 and he told me he was 25 but is actually 40 years old. I know it probably sounds creepy (still love him tho). He gets very angered easily like for an example he didn't talk to me for days -cont-

-cont- and if I don't strip for him on skype, he just ends up yelling at me about how I'm not a good little and he could find a better one. He also doesn't let me have any limits or safety words because I'm supposed to make him happy and do what he wants. I love him so much and when I confront him about these things he just covers it up with "I love you but sometimes I'm just in a mood" or "I'm sorry yada yada yada". I just go along with it because I don't want to lose him. Please help.

First off, you are way, way too young to be in a relationship with someone that age.  Dump him and find someone more age-appropriate.  As much as you hate to hear this, you’re fifteen, and you’re still a child and should be dating people much, much closer to you in age.

Secondly, if he does not allow you to set boundaries and gets angry when you tell him you don’t feel comfortable or safe doing something, that is absolutely abuse.  Not to mention the fact that he lied to you about his age in order to lull you into a sense of security sends up a lot of red flags.

This guy is a pedophile, full stop.  Again, I know you really don’t want to hear this, but he is outright dangerous and you should probably let someone in an official capacity know about this guy.  He’s trying to coerce a young teenager into stripping on cam so he can get his jollies off- this is illegal.  You seriously ought to tell someone that this has been going on.

I hate to guilt you, and again, I know you probably don’t want to hear that this guy you’ve been seeing is a terrible person, but I’m not going to sugarcoat it for you.  When I was your age, I was in a somewhat similar situation being groomed by a much older man, and I regret to this day not finding out his personal information so I could tell the police, because I’m pretty confident he’s moved on to other children and I could have done something about it.

Believe me when I say that your relationship is not healthy, and you should absolutely end it as soon as you can.

-Dad

[ask-internet-dad]

hey dad. i'm a trans man and i've got my first appointment with a gender therapist tomorrow (really nervous!). i'm worried that even though i /know/ i'm a guy, i still have a lot of feminine quirks (the way i speak and walk, etc) which will make people not take me seriously. i know it's okay to be a guy and be feminine, but for some reason i still worry it makes me look "not trans enough." it's really stupid i know, but i'm not sure what to do.

First, take a few deep breaths and relax.  This is a scary point in your life, and you're going to be a little freaked out!  This is normal, you are normal.

As for mannerisms, be however you feel comfortable.  Don't force yourself to be hypermasculine if that is not a thing you are comfortable being. Even the most 'roid raging jockstrap-sniffing linebacker has a few feminine traits and/or mannerisms.  Again, this is normal and you are normal.

This therapist, as long as they are a good therapist, has seen all manner of people come through their office with a kaleidoscope of gender presentations.  What the therapist is there for is to let you unload about doubts or fears you have about transitioning, to make sure you have a realistic view of transition (whatever that may entail for you), and to give you support as you transition.  They are not there to police your gender or tell you that you're doing it wrong.  They may suggest delaying transition if you have some severe problems that ought to be worked out first, but if they are worth their diploma they should not be a roadblock, but instead a roadmap.

Once in a rare while there will be a bad gender therapist who shouldn't be practicing, but as time goes on they've become much fewer and far between.  If you don't feel comfortable with this therapist, then shop around for another.  Remember that you are under no obligation to stick with someone you don't want to talk to.  You are the one in control, and you are the one hiring them.

[ask-internet-dad]

Hi. Could you give me some advice please? So I have this boyfriend that I met through a social app. He live in another state but I know he's not a creep cuz we FaceTime. He says he loves me, but lately he hasn't been respecting me. He cuts me off when I'm talking and doesn't listen. I want us to work but I will not be in a relationship where I'm not respected and treated right. Do you think he will change if I tell him about wanting respect? I've been thinking of ending it. What should I do?

Talk to him about it very frankly and openly.  If he interrupts you, hang up on him.  He needs to be shown that his behavior is unacceptable and disrespectful, and that you are not going to put up with it anymore.  Don't deliver an ultimatum, just be very firm in telling him how much this pisses you off.

See where that gets you.  If he persists in this, then consider dumping him.  You deserve much better than what he's giving you.

You're worth someone's undivided attention.

[mypetufo]

proud of my son. good job

[ask-internet-dad]

Hi Dad. I'm a transman who still has my reproductive organs and I've decided to become pregnant as I do want children. I have no idea how to tell my family while I'm still 'coming out' in a sense to all of them about being trans AND that I'm becoming a single parent by choice. Do you have any advise?

WOW, that is a hell of a doozy to drop all at once!  You may want to divide it up just so they don't get totally bowled over with everything.

Of course, they're going to have questions re: the pregnancy thing.  Are you financially stable, will the other person have anything to do with the child's upbringing, have you chosen the donor, et cetera.  And unfortunately, hitting them with the trans thing at the same time may make them dig their heels in, because people can't handle the idea of a pregnant man for some ungodly reason.

I would say, since it sounds like you're already working on coming out to them as trans, gently slipping a few references to wanting a family in to your discussions on gender, which I'm going to go out on a limb and assume you're either having or about to have.  Test the waters a little.  Then, when you're ready to tell them that you're planning on having a child, be frank about it and have plenty of resources available.  Unfortunately, I don't know any good ones off the tip of my head, but there ought to be some decent sites with reliable info if you google around for a while.

Be a little gentle with them, since they may be in a weird place mentally from you coming out as trans to them.  Families always tend to be a hassle when it comes to restructuring their expectations of who and what you are.

Good luck!  Hope everything goes smoothly, and I hope you keep me updated on how the child-having saga goes!  I know I have more than a few trans followers, and I'm sure some of them would like to know what to expect when you're trans AND expecting.

[ask-internet-dad]

how do i tell my hardcore christian parents that i'm gay when there's a 99% chance ill get disowned/kicked out?

In that situation, you may have to face the idea that it's just best not to tell them until you're on your own.

It's hard trying to sneak that kind of thing past them, and may result in you not having any relationships until you move out, and you could wind up pretty miserable for a while.  Thing is- and this is speaking as someone who spent a couple months homeless as a late teenager/early twentysomething (enough time has passed I can't quite remember which)- you want to ensure your own survival above all, and there is nothing quite as miserable as being homeless, especially if you live in a place with cold winters.

If you have a place to go, people to stay with that are ready to take you in should you be kicked out, a way to ensure food in your belly, clothes on your back, and a warm place to sleep, then telling them is a much less terrifying prospect.

But if you have no contingency plans in place, then you should really make them before you even BEGIN to think of telling your parents.

As for the actual telling- if that's what you decide to do- be blunt.  If you only offhandedly hint about it, or leave any possibility of misinterpretation, your coming out will be totally ignored or treated as a teenage phase.  Be blunt, yes, but also be kind about it.  They're scared.  It's something that is treated very poorly by a lot of conservative or evangelical Christians, and the reason for that is that people fear what they don't understand.  Explaining that it wasn't their parenting, etc, that "made you this way" (whether or not you personally feel that is true) may alleviate some of the terror they may feel.  It also may not do anything to help.

I have family members I haven't come out to, even after all these years.  I will probably never come out to them.  There may be family you never tell.  You may have to cut ties for your personal safety.  You may lose people you care about.  Or they may accept and love you for who you are and really surprise the hell out of you.

It's terrifying to come out as a minor.

Weigh your options, make your plans, and all you can really do when you decide to come out is to expect the worst and hope for the best.

I really, really hope for the best for you.

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A dad explains why he tells dad jokes http://best-of-imgur.tumblr.com

[cassandraemeraldsong]

my father, the man who contributed his dna to my creation, just took a fart noise maker in one hand

and a star wars sound effect maker in the other

and jogged leisurely in a continuous circle around my house with a blissful expression, smiling and eyes closed as if he were galloping through a field, pressing buttons from both simultaneously, again and again and again and again

"Remember… the force will be with you, always"

[FART]

"Do, or do not…"

[FART]

"…there is no try."

[FART]

[lightsaber sounds intermingling with farts]

and i just

sat and observed

as he made loop upon loop around our first floor

so many loops

here’s looking at you, dad

[tastefullyoffensive]

Illustrated Dad Jokes by @swatercolour Previously: Funny and Cute Illustrations by Jaco Haasbroek

[lisjonok]

Omg

saljamka

[ask-internet-dad]

i'm not sure if you're still around but i feel like i need to get this out somehow. i'd been feeling weird about identifying as a girl for a few years and i recently learned about nonbinary genders and it makes so much sense. but both of my parents are hardcore christians and i know they wouldn't understand if i told them...i actually mentioned it to my dad but he just kind of shrugged it off as "you kids think too much" and i'm not entirely sure what to do anymore...i'm a little scared.

Fortunately, you don't need parental permission to explore gender expression and identification!  Try things in a safe space (even if it's just online) and see what you feel most comfortable with.  Any exploration is good exploration as long as you feel safe doing it, and the only person who HAS to be happy with your gender is you.

Unfortunately, you'll find a lot of opinions like your dad's among his generation- it's only been fairly recently that it's become more acceptable to question your gender, so it's outside of a lot of peoples' worldview.  But as I said, your opinion on your gender is the only one that matters.

[cakemadeofbees]

I made a thing for my father for his birthday tomorrow! I’m so excited I have to post it now! 

Watch as I slowly grow older and angrier

[jigglykat]

I LOSE IT EVERY TIME I WATCH IT.

[prattprattprat-deactivated20181]

so as i was going through my blog i noticed a few posts about dads

[the----empress-blog]

Dad jokes: Stepping it up since I was a child.

[canadad-deactivated20171111]

im adopting everyone im tired of seeing people suffer bad experiences due to their shitty parents. i am your dad now

[ulibeanzz]

i heard a kid say “but DAAAAAD” and his dad said “DID YOU JUST CALL ME BUTT-DAD? YOURE GROUNDED” I HAVE BEEN LAUGHING FOR 3 YEARS

[airframeextender]

i cant wait until im the dad. then my son will have to do the respectful thing and let ME be the one who empties the salad kit dressing packet onto their salad 

[ask-internet-dad]

keep dreaming, kiddo

[papa-nier]

trust me im a dad

[chongotheartist]

100 daddies

[thatsnothowitworks-blog1]

Not the turn I thought it was going to take.