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sweet-and-sick -> aug-15

Old blog from before me & my wife moved into together. New blog: @ponczek

[girlfig]

It would be so nice to be in an apartment right now with really big open windows and lots of bright light pouring in and and long curtains and the smell of rain floating through it

[aug-15]

im such a different person than who i was when i first started this blog

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[mydarling-suggestions]

My girlfriend surprised me by posting a painting she did of me here for me to see after work ;;;;;;;;; she PAINTED it. Like an impressionist painting. Hhhhhhhhh I'm so in LOVE. I dont think I could repay her???? -🌻🌹

oh my gosh no way!!! that’s amazing wow, and i’m sure she’s not expecting anything in return, but you could always give her extra kisses or something <3

[mydarling-suggestions]

(sunflower&rose anon) !!! i love her!!! we actually didn't make it through the whole week, she was missing me way too much. But it really helped me figure out some stuff on why I doubted my feelings in the first place. So thank you!!!!! but i absolutely love her with my whole whole WHOLE heart and she is just the sweetest. Things are tough because we've been so busy, but I'm trying to not let it get the best of me

oh my gosh yay!!! that’s wonderful to hear omg, you have no idea how happy i am to hear that <3 

[mydarling-suggestions]

Idk if I should add the ** to this or not??? I'm anxious but i can wait idk. Whatever u feel like doing! So I kind of need advice from an outside perspective. Cuz I've tlked to my gf abt this already but idk I still feel anxious. I love her. And I say I love her. And I feel like I love her but I feel like... I'm faking it? We r ldr so maybe that's a reason? Maybe I'm just desperate for attention? Or I'm faking it and dont realize it? What if what I think is love isnt actually love? ^^; idk -🌻🌹

hmmm, those are some tough questions, and there are so many different types of love that’s for sure. you can love people but not be in love with them u know?

but i think i’d start off by asking yourself things like when you imagine your future do you see her in it? if you do, does that make you happy? when something good or exciting happens to you is she the first person you want to tell? can you imagine being with someone else? do you hate the idea of that or does it make you happy?

so ask yourself things like that, and i think you’ll be able to figure out some things based off how you answer. 

and the other thing i suggest is to stop speaking with her for a little while, especially if y’all talk everyday. so maybe a week? maybe a little longer if u don’t normally speak as often? idk, but i feel like having no contact, especially because you’re in an ldr, can tell you a lot. 

so for example, say you do this and don’t speak for a week, during this week take note of things. does it feel like time is passing incredibly slowly? even though it would just be a week or so does it feel like a year? maybe by the third day in you’re missing her terribly and want to text her desperately? maybe you don’t even last the week. if these things are true then i feel like there’s a very good chance you DO love her, and if they’re not true for you and you’re able to handle the no contact pretty well then maybe, maybe not.

also idk if you’ve had the chance to meet irl yet, but the fact that you’re ldr might factor into it a bit idk. like i know it can be a bit harder to gage things and all in an ldr, and- i can’t explain it jsdcfjv but maybe because (if you’ve only engaged over text) then it can feel a bit fake i guess?? idk if that will make sense but djfjgvbh i hope some of what i’ve said helps you to figure things out a little ♡

[firstlovesuggestions]

How possible do you think it is for LDRs to last? We both want to be eachother so bad but we're so far apart and she's going to college soon. I just don't know if it could work for much longer.

I think LDRs are very possible! My brother and his now-fiancée have been together for 8 years, and two and a half of those were spent long distance when she went off to college. I’m in my own LDR of nearly 7 months and we clicked so well and have grown so much over the past 6 months and are preparing to move in together. If there is love, there is life.

However, it takes the right kind of people to make them work. Some people naturally desire more physical connection, others don’t have the patience for waiting for replies, and it definitely takes a grand amount of trust to make it work, so for those with trust issues, it can be especially difficult.

However, like I said, they’re just as viable as in-person relationships to me. Call each other often, send gifts, make plans for future visits, play online games together, binge watch a TV show on Rabbit… as long as you communicate, are honest, and are willing to put in the time and effort to make them work, you can definitely have a very happy long-distance relationship. 

A special quick word of advice; cold shoulders will be the end of your LDR. Because the two of you have no way to at least communicate with body language, it’s way too easy for the flame to go out when one or both of you refuse to communicate and work things out. That’s not to say you can’t take a bit of time to cool down from something, but TELL them first. You will prevent so much heartache this way.

Good luck to you!

[mydarling-suggestions]

My girlfriend was crying bc she missed me and i started humming songs to her until she fell asleep and- idk guys i think im a little gay -🌻🌹

HELP THIS IS SO CUTE

[softlovelythoughts]

My heart!!! 😭😭❤️❤️

[mydarling-suggestions]

Yall r literally the sweetest. I like to gush under 🌻🌹/🌹🌻 and ask how yall are under anon and yall just have such sweet responses??? You're all amazing, thank you so much for this blog

this means so much, thank YOU for being here and staying!!!

[mydarling-suggestions]

🥺love yall

oh my god i come back and this is what is at the top of the inbox yall... i physically teared up i love you guys so much!!! thank you all for sticking around. life has been crazy, but this warmed my heart! 💛

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