[demonprincex]

why do we talk more about the trauma of being 'gifted' than we do about the trauma of being in special ed

[autistic-coded]

i have a question, is it okay to self diagnose? i’m wondering if i have adhd but when i think that i feel like i’m being a “pick me” but when i want to see a professional it costs way too much money. is it okay? what do I do to help myself figure it out?

self diagnosing is absolutely okay. professional psychiatric/mental health diagnoses are so incredibly hard to get and expensive, not everyone has the privilege to get diagnosed. im self diagnosed myself. generally the only thing i'd say in general: more research is always better. look through diagnostic criteria, talk to other ppl with adhd, etc. self diagnosing is always ok but you still want to make sure you do research.

[the-angry-autist]

Autistic support needs labels (Part 1)

If you’re seeing this post, you’ve probably heard about “support needs labels” for autistic people. Throughout this post, I will be abbreviating the term “support needs labels” as SNL.

What are they?

Support needs labels are ways to indicate the way an autistic person navigates the world; they have been presented as an alternative to “functioning labels” and “severity labels”. SNLs include low support needs, medium support needs, and high support needs.

These labels are based on how the autistic person experiences autism: how many aids the autist needs, which accommodations they need, how independent they can be, which ADLS/iADLs they need support for.

The biggest distinction between SNLs and other labels that attempt to “rate” someone’s autisticnesss is that support needs labels aren’t focused on how well the autistic person conforms to allistic-normative society. SNLs aren’t about how the autistic person appears to an outsider, they’re about what the autistic person needs.

What does each term mean?

Good question! In my following posts, I will be discussing what each specific label means. When I’ve finished, I will link them here.

Part 2: Low Support Needs

Part 3: Medium Support Needs

Part 4: High Support Needs

[aromanticduck]

If neurotypicals are so good at picking up hints, why do they never seem to notice you leaning away when they try to touch you?

[tallysgreatestfan]

If neurotypicals are so empathic and social, why do they not notice when they are mean as fuck?

[aromanticduck]

If neurotypicals are so adaptable to change, why won’t they make accommodations for neurodivergent people?

[naamahdarling]

If neurotypicals are so good at recognizing faces, why are we so invisible to them?

[tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva]

I really wish ocd intrusive thoughts weren't so stigmatized and misunderstood even in "anti ableism" communities because the thoughts alone can ruin your entire life. You see yourself as unsafe to even people you love--I know of a mother who refused to be around her own children because one of her intrusive thoughts was that she's a pedophile and a danger to children. Like this shit makes you want to die but you can't talk about it because everyone reinforces the idea that you are in fact actually dangerous which is...already what people with intrusive thoughts think about themselves. No one knows how horrific ocd actually is to deal with because no one can talk about it. It's even worse for abuse victims whose intrusive thoughts are related to abuse THEY experienced...anyways.

[neurodivergent-noodle-deactivat]

internalised ableism and self-doubt be like:

internal issues? I’m faking because look how well I’m hiding the fact that things are bad! if it was that bad, more people would notice!

external issues? I’m faking because look how dramatic I’m being! I’m being too loud and selfish and disruptive on purpose!

there’s no winning. it’s ridiculous

[noonlight-stims]

source

[fluffygif]

Sand art 🎨

[ofbetterbodies-deactivated20250]

Autistic people (self diagnosed included) rb this with a special interest in the tags and a fun fact about it

[yehudah]

im going to say something that white neurodivergents are not gonna like

[yehudah]

being hyperfixated on racist media/content creators is literally not an excuse lol. you being able to like something that is racist has everything to do with you being white and is still privileged. yes hyperfixations can be somewhat random and seem "uncontrollable" but they dont exist in a vaccuum!!! you still benefit from supporting racist media/people and having adhd or whatever the fuck is no excuse LOL

[enbycourse]

Online autistic communities/advocates really seem to forget that it isn’t exclusively “uwu cute hyperfixation hehe stim break hand flap.”

You’re not advocating for autism if you don’t include the weird kids who have strange interests and are socially awkward, but not in the cute way. The ones people often describe as creepy, or call freaks.

Or the nonverbal special education students who groan and scream in the hallways at school while people in classrooms hold back laughter because for some reason they find it funny.

Or the violent aggressive autistic people who cause damage to themselves and everything around them at one minor inconvenience and will never live independently.

Or autistic adults with picture perfect families and lives, who do not relate to the autistic “culture” that’s now been portrayed online.

Or autistic people who don’t benefit from stim toys, who don’t look at it as a huge factor in their lives, who went through therapy to help them learn skills that they struggled with.

If you don’t advocate for the scary cases and symptoms, the weird autistic people, the incapable autistic people, you’re not advocating for autism. It’s a spectrum and it’s not going to be pretty sometimes. If you don’t acknowledge and include those cases, especially if you’re autistic yourself, can you really say you’re advocating for autism, or is it just yourself?

When you refer to the autistic community, you’re talking about them too. Remember that.

[lifeishapy-deactivated20230901]

I agree this some pepole think i am funny in a bad way because i' cant cotrol my body and i have else freinds that gets call creepy and bullyed because them not do cute things and i think more respect autistic comunity

[autistic-af]

Ever been sitting in the quiet, but it's the wrong kind of quiet???

Like... The overhead light is too loud kind of wrong. Or you can hear the tv is on, even though the screen is blank.

[starrythomas]

Questions to help break through a ‘I can’t do the Thing’ wall

I’m not doing the Thing, but if I were to do the Thing, what would be the first bit to tackle?

eg: I’m having trouble washing up. I’ll start by just getting all the dishes into one place and emptying the drying rack.

Often, you might find that the first bit was what you were stuck on, and now you’ve done that, you feel ready to do the whole Thing. But if not, that’s fine, you’ve set things up to be easier later! Similarly:

What can I do to set things up for when I’m ready?

eg: I need to apply for a job vacancy I’ve seen. That feels really overwhelming and I don’t have the energy right now. I will create an email with the correct address in and open the files I’ll need for tomorrow.

Half-done is half more than you had before, and it will make things easier when you come back. Reduce the friction and complexity as much as you can.

Will this task actually be any easier if I do it later?

eg: I need to re-spray my waterproofs. It’s sunny today but it’s going to be raining all week, so it would actually be easier to do it now so I can do it outside and let them air. ‘Kay FINE, guess I will.

or: I want to make progress on my Creative Endeavour. I’m having a lot of trouble focussing at the moment but tomorrow I’ll be better rested and my Creative Group will be meeting. It will genuinely be easier then so I should stop worrying about it for now.

Sometimes, you realise that it would legitimately be easier to do a task later. Other times, you realise it would suck more to put it off, and that can help give you a nudge to do it sooner. It also helps reframe it in your head from “will I do the Thing?” to “when will I do the Thing?”

These are some questions that I use myself and I thought I’d share them to see if they’re handy for anyone else!

[autistic-coded]

whomst in the adhd crew are you :eyeemoji:

mayhaps I will link this blog in my room on there :iamlooking:

[thatadhdmood]

ADHD CREW

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ADHD CREW is a discord for people with adhd,

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Self diagnosed adhd is valid and welcome

Its just a fun place to chat i made that has

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And has been around for over 2 years now

Feel free to join if ur 16-19 and have ADHD!

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[autie-j]

Happy Autistic Pride Day! I wish all my fellow autistic people a wonderful day today!

[autistic-coded]

I agree with anon that said the Membrane family are all autistic AND wanna add that so is Zim and the reason why all the random side characters’ actions seem so incomprehensible is because they’re neurotypical and we’re seeing everything thru Zim’s or Dib’s eyes so ofc their weird, confusing social rituals don’t make sense

YESS big agree, great take