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Cosmic Funnies
Love Begins
pixel skylines
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Lint Roller? I Barely Know Her
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"I'm Dorothy Gale from Kansas"
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todays bird
let's talk about Bridgerton tea, my ask is open
trying on a metaphor
noise dept.
祝日 / Permanent Vacation
Discoholic 🪩
Keni
we're not kids anymore.
Kaledo Art
he wasn't even looking at me and he found me
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@starrythomas
Okay I'm gone until the end of April. Goals:
Sleep 9 hours most nights
Do yoga at least twice a week
Get to 24 books read this year
Under 90 mins phone screen time per day
Start + consistently take whatever vitamins my GP recommends
Spend time in the sunshine
Progress on [redacted] adulting task
Okay I’ll be here for a few more hours then I’m taking a break until the end of June.
I’m allowed to look at friends’ blogs but ideally keep that to a minimum
Do at least a 5 minute yoga video or breathing/meditation every day
90 minutes or less of phone screen time a day (I’ll post my results as accountability…)
Uhh
Enjoy myself 👍
Reblog if you still love Robron.
Take me lost / Make me found on ao3, 10k words
Want to read probably the best pining I’ve ever written? Want to read best friends Robron living in flats across the hall from each other? Want to read Vic side-eyeing Robert’s decision to do friends with benefits with the man (Aaron) he’s in love with, but supporting him anyway?
This fic I wrote in 2021 has been on my mind recently so I figured I’d post this in case you fancy revisiting it or missed it the first time around and want to find out what made EscapingReality51 say “murder me with a blunt spoon it is so soft”
realised I could change the delay period on proloquo2go so now it responds faster and doesn’t get so mixed up if I tap several buttons quickly!!
i love fics that feel so... grown. fics about adults that were written by adults who have years of life experience under their belts who pour that into their writing. fics where you can tell this is a person who has lived through a marriage or a divorce or a child or children or parent death or any number of Huge Life Events because the way they write with an emphasis on the highs and lows of the human experience rather than an emphasis on tropes (not throwing shade) is just so. oh man, it's just so fucking good. if my blorbos are grown men, grown women, grown people, i love it when they feel like grown people, not just extensions of the (young) author's imagination. (still not throwing shade). you know?
Robert Sugden | 08.09. 2025. Emmerdale.
Okay I'm gone until the end of April. Goals:
Sleep 9 hours most nights
Do yoga at least twice a week
Get to 24 books read this year
Under 90 mins phone screen time per day
Start + consistently take whatever vitamins my GP recommends
Spend time in the sunshine
Progress on [redacted] adulting task
Here I am again. You know what that means? It’s the end of April. A lot of my goals got thrown out the window but here’s an update on them.
I was sleeping 9 hours for the time that I needed to be, and lately it has been changing (explained later)
I decided to take a break from yoga
I got to over 24 books read before the end of March and I’m now on 33 read this year. I have been RAVENOUS for fiction, which I’m faster with than non-fiction
I was about 50:50 on my screen time goal, mostly because I had a period of being at home a lot. I’ve been working on getting it back to NORMAL and every day last week except Sunday, I succeeded
I started the vitamins my GP recommended (based on bloods) and it has been helping sososo much. So much. My sleep needs have reduced and I’m less tired. I’ll need to figure out my new needs and new routine when things have settled in a bit more
Sunshine time achieved \o/
Progress on [redacted] adulting task achieved 👍
Overall a bit of a mixed bag but my day to day life is feeling a lot easier now than just from when I made this post at the end of February. I feel like I have more room to breathe within my days. I’ll be online for a few days and then I’ll decide what to do after that.
How Do You Deal With Your Partner Fucking Someone Else?
My wife went on a cute date this week with a partner she hasn't gotten to connect with recently and they both brought each other flowers. My boyfriend is completely overcome and being a useless lesbian (their words) about a cute enby who has been flirting with them via text for months but is finally in town this week.
When I have done educational work around non-monogamy a question I get a lot is basically how I cope with the overwhelming terrible feelings associated with imagining my partner having sex with other people. I struggle to answer this question because I do not have overwhelming terrible feelings when I imagine my partner having sex with other people but also I do not choose to imagine this very often. I do not have either curiosity or horror about this topic. Mostly I feel that it is generally not my business.
Most often when people say "I couldn't do that!" my answer is then you shouldn't. If you are not interested in non-monogamy you shouldn't do it. I love that my wife and her partner gave each other flowers and I love that my boyfriend is a useless lesbian. I think this is adorable. I'm having my coffee and feel warm inside because it reminds me how in love I am with both of these sweet humans. But there are many people who do not have this response and are still attracted to non-monogamy, and "just have the correct, enlightened feelings" is a shitty and too-common answer.
Another answer to this question is that I most often relate to my partners' other relationships from the stance of being their friend, rather than their lover. When my wife tells me she's in a dry spell with another partner, I am concerned because I want my friend to have a healthy and satisfying relationship, and when she tells me the dry spell is over I am excited because I want my friend to have a healthy and satisfying relationship. I do not think about what that means mechanically in the same way I also do not imagine in detail any other friend having sex.
Another answer to this question is that I think of my relationships as existing within an ecological space in which all relationships affect one another. My girlfriend's other relationships being in a good place means that our entire relational ecosystem is healthier. Her being in conflict with someone, whether it's a partner or her mom, introduces conflict into the ecosystem, so I have an interest in supporting her other relationships being healthy. Her peace and security and satisfaction are my peace and security and satisfaction. If that comes from her getting railed by some dude on Grindr, her need is my need.
Another answer to this question is that I am extremely comfortable with my own jealousy and can let it arise and pass without leaving a mess. I am not afraid of jealousy or anger or other big feelings and can acknowledge them to myself and to partners without a sense of terror or obligation or shame. I will note, good management of big feelings does not make these feelings smaller or more pleasant. I feel like I have done a good job managing a big feeling when I react in a way that does not generate a new, avoidable second problem.
Another answer to this question is that I understand jealousy as pointing to an unmet need that I have and I can generally address that unmet need without reference to the other relationship and usually without conflict. If I'm jealous that my partner is seeking casual hookups rather than having sex with me, I'm actually upset that we aren't having more sex--that ultimately has nothing to do with whether she is also cruising on the apps. I can address that by saying "I'd like us to have more sex" and then if she's amenable to that, doing things that make space for us to have more sex, like being more flirtatious and scheduling dates in ways that increase the potential for sexual connection. Reframing jealousy as actionable desire reduces resentment dramatically (this is also something I'm working on generally--what if desire is not painful deprivation but in fact the first ingredient to basically all pleasure???).
Sometimes it's not actionable. Sometimes my partner is having sex with someone else and does not wish to have sex with me. Sometimes my partner is publicly attached to another partner but unwilling to be public with me because they are not out to their parents yet. Sometimes my partner is moving in with their other sweetie and would not wish to live with me. Sometimes my partner is married to someone else and would not marry me even if it were legal or they would, but it's not. And in that situation I most often privately validate that there is grief about not having sex or domesticity or validation that I want, and I decide whether the relationship overall is something I want given that it has that feeling in it. I am clear with myself about which unmet needs I am willing to leave permanently unmet in a given relationship and overall, and I hold the responsibility for that decision, which allows me to relate to each partner on the level of what they are actually offering, without resentment. If I do not want what they are offering, I leave.
Another answer to this question is that I struggled a lot more with jealousy and resentment when I dated people who treated me like shit, and when I hated myself and felt like I was worthless. Now that I am in the habit of forming secure, trusting relationships with people who treat me with respect, difficult jealousy just doesn't come up very often. A lot of what drove my unpleasant reactions in earlier relationships was that I genuinely could not rely on my partners to be honest or kind. Now that I can, it's easier to relax.
Another answer to this question is I have worked pretty hard to base my sense of self worth on something other than being sexually desired by others and to construct relational spaces where everyone feels like they can assert their genuine needs, even when it means not connecting intimately. When I felt like my entire worth as a person was whether I was fuckable (to everyone at all times), sexual or romantic rejection felt like being totally worthless as a person and a dry spell was catastrophic to my well-being. So did anyone's interest in not-me, because why aren't they interested in me? Now I am able to accept someone declining sex or rescheduling a date or not wanting to date me at all or wanting someone who isn't me without it feeling like a total judgment of who I am as a person.
Another answer to this question is that there are times when jealousy clouds issues in ways that make it difficult to judge what to do, especially in the case of abuse within the relational ecosystem. Controlling relationships seem to generate more jealousy than healthy ones--jealousy can justify isolation tactics, and isolation can generate jealousy. But subjectively it's hard to distinguish "I feel jealous about the time you're spending with this person" from "this person is intentionally undermining your relationship with others, and I happen to be one of those people." The best answer I have for this is that I try to cultivate relational spaces where jealousy and fear and unmet needs can get discussed without generating blame or obligation, and where there's a high level of trust that a person is raising issues honestly and not to manipulate. But honestly, when there's an abusive relationship in the ecosystem, it fucks everything up for a while, and there's probably no way to respond that makes that not happen.
Often people lean toward things like strict rules to manage difficult feelings in non-monogamy and tbh I think often if you're having a really hard time with your non-monogamous partner, the first step is like, does this person consistently act like they like you and want you to be having a good time? A TON of the time when I see people struggling to make non-monogamy work and generating baroque communication strategies and rulesets to fix their relationship, and especially when they say that actually this is just How Responsible Non-Monogamy Is, it seems like their main problem is that they are dating total assholes. Healthy non-monogamy should not require hours-per-week of bomb defusal, and if you are constantly marshaling delicate, white-knuckle effort to get your partner to stop hurting you, you should consider not dating them anymore.
was plan make new tote bag 4 aac go on wheelchair. Thought 'would be cool if design like computer keyboard' because fun silly have Radio's words in. Next thought 'if be computer keyboard could use as low tech AAC. Should then probably have yes/no symbols.' Then plan got out of control and now want 2 embroidery low tech AAC board for fashion (silly) and practical use.
not will rush make, just enough have project work on.
[ID: canvas bag with low tech AAC symbols and words embroidered on. Examples include feelings, 'lift' and 'toilet'. On reverse side is embroidered computer keyboard, yes/no symbols and words 'please', 'thank you' and 'sorry.' /end ID]
3 half months to finish, very very happy with result. Bag good and sturdy. Take bit of figuring out to make. Strap piece wrap all way around bag so more support for heavy AAC. Strap long enough for wear cross body.
full list of symbols & words: - happy, sad, tired, surprised or anxious, angry or frustrated, overwhelmed. - safe, unsafe. - too loud, too bright, too many people, too many choices. - lift, toilet. - love, stop - i need, to lie down, help, space, to leave, company. - I don't understand, please explain what's happening.
these are for communicate with strangers who not know sign or when body brain too tired for effective signing and as alternative to electronic AAC.
Such a cool idea!
Disability aid positivity post!
366 Days of AAC
I've created a calendar with 366 days of AAC prompts! The days are numbered, but you are able to really start anywhere you want.
The prompts are somewhat aligned to national days, but I tried to keep things varied and they might not always line up with a national day. I also did my best to make them relatable where I could, but you might not always have a strong answer for a question.
Enjoy!
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"this would be so good if it was good" might just be my favourite sentence to use when analysing any media
because it's not a meaningless thing to say
some things will always be mid at best, but sometimes things that suck could be so good, if only they were good
I dropped in today (to Tumblr) to catch up with the AAC tag. I enjoyed. I have looked at friends' blogs but haven't logged in for about 6 weeks, so it only lets me see a few posts at a time. This time I'm going to leave until the end of February and try not to look at blogs at all. So here are some things that I'm planning to do by the end of February, and I'll check back and tell you how successful I was:
Sleep 9 hours most nights
Yoga every day
Strength workout twice a week (climbing counts)
Read 12 books (at least 2 from my "tbr shelf")
Do 2 [redacted] adulting tasks
Go to new nearby BSL group at least once
Under 90 mins phone screen time per day
Hello it's the end of February.
Still looked at friends' blogs regularly but didn't spend a lot of time there and didn't log in at all
Slept 9 hours most nights
Yoga/stretching/breathing every day
Not strength workout twice a week
Read 16 books! By the end of Saturday it will probably be one or two more
Progress made towards [redacted] but not yet achieved
Did not go to the BSL group
Doing a great job with my screentime:
Will pop in and out for a couple days.
If you are on a Windows 11 computer, pause everything you are doing for one minute and:
Open computer settings
Click on Accessibility on the left-hand menu
Scroll down the Accessibility menu and click on the Keyboard Option
Under the "related settings" tab, click "Typing" which should have a description of "spellcheck, autocorrect, text suggestions."
Turn off the AI "correct misspelled words"
and most importantly: turn off Typing Insights.
[ID: a screenshot of the above mentioned Windows 11 settings, showing that Typing Insights is now turned off, with the following description from Microsoft: "Windows is using artificial intelligence to help you type To help you save time and type efficiently, Windows can learn to suggest words, autocorrect spelling mistakes, and interpret swiped typing. Take a look at the insights below to see up-to-the-minute stats on how Windows has learned to improve typing for you. These stats are stored only on this device and Microsoft does not collect the typing insights data." End ID]
"But Mx. November, it says right there Microsoft doesn't collect the typing insights data!"
I mean, yeah, it says that..... for *now.*
It also only specifies that Microsoft themselves don't collect it, and they wouldn't have made this something that I was automatically, secretly opted in for without my knowledge if they didn't have something to be gained by me not knowing it exists!
I only found this because a cat walked on the keyboard and turned on Filter Keys and while trying to figure out why my keyboard was just making chirping noises instead of typing, I happened to click on "typing insights" by accident.
Generative AI, and especially AI that is used to "personalize" and track your activity across the web and on your computer are never going to be in your best interest, it is always going to serve these companies in whatever way will line their pockets the most, and all it takes is updating their terms of service once, and then all of that data they promised they weren't collecting suddenly all belongs to them.
this isn’t what i normally post here but firefox just switched ceos and this “anthony” dumbass is trying to put more “ai” slopware into it, meaning more bloat and privacy loss
if you use this browser you should go to their support forums and complain about it
Link to the support forums so you can leave your feedback. Posts are being removed from there, and I have found some posts redirecting people to this forum instead. If you want to add to someone else's post instead of starting your own, here is a handy search with relevant results.
Also, how to remove AI features from Firefox:
irritatingly, the list of AI settings in Firefox has grown. to kill them all as of today (Nov 20, 2025), go into about:config and set all of these to false (yes, you’ll have to copy and paste them one by one):
browser.ml.enable
browser.ml.chat.enabled
browser.ml.chat.menu
browser.ml.chat.page
browser.ml.chat.page.footerBadge
browser.ml.chat.page.menuBadge
browser.ml.linkPreview.enabled
browser.ml.pageAssist.enabled
browser.tabs.groups.smart.enabled
browser.tabs.groups.smart.userEnabled
extensions.ml.enabled
browser.search.visualSearch.featureGate
in addition to nuking AI, it’ll also speed up your browsing
has anyone figured out how to turn off the thing where you love your pet so much it slides inexorably into grief-borrowing
