Aedonis

18, pan + genderqueer, he/they, loves animation (JJK, KNY, ATSV)

[aromantic-journal]

"everyone should get more aromantic" can appeal to tumblr's sensibilities but I genuinely think everyone should also get more asexual. I don't mean everyone stop having sex, what I mean is

Sex is not essential. You can live without it. Full stop.

Not having sex isn't shameful or a sign of failure. It also doesn't make anyone boring.

You are not entitled to having sex with anybody and nobody is entitled to having sex with you.

Sex is not what makes someone an adult.

Nobody's worth is defined by how much sex they have or don't have.

Sex is not equally important to everyone.

You can have fulfilling and happy relationships without sex.

You should only have sex on your own terms, not because you feel like you owe it to someone, or because you feel like you'd be incomplete without it.

Know your boundaries around sex and be firm about them. Know how to respect other people's boundaries.

The previous point also applies when it comes to discussing sex. If someone doesn't wanna talk about it or hear about it you have to back down.

Anything can be sexual but not everything has to be sexual.

[cynicjovial]

I'm putting way more hours in this game than I anticipated

[isabelopaque]

Dont unfollow me I can post about something you care even less about wait

[scarymonsters-andsupercreeps]

I’ve had enough

[aristotle0]

sometimes I wish I wasn't born aroace

like, I love being who I am, but I find it difficult to live hand in hand with it

it's painful knowing I can't feel the same way about things as other people do, but I do like not being influenced by these emotions on a daily basis

it used to be easy and fun and I'd be proud of it, but growing up these past few years I've had to come across new situations and relationships and being older brought the realisation that people in my life are also getting older and I don't feel on the same path as them

I really want to start enjoying this part of myself again

[hyperesthesias]

space ace grace

(please reblog and give credit if you use them, thank you!)

[mybloodstream-caffeine]

Time to kick a hornets nest: I wonder at what age Yuna started arranging brand deals for Shane based around his sex appeal

[perlukafarinn]

Canon divergent AU where Shane is a little more paranoid and when Hayden first comments on "Boston Lily", he decides he has to do something to break up the pattern and make it not so noticeable that he's got someone on Boston.

Not seeing Rozanov is not an option, so instead Shane picks out a few other cities to regularly go out by himself in. He'll go for a long walk, maybe sit down somewhere for a drink, and then catch a taxi back to the hotel an appropriate amount of time later. It's honestly pretty nice, unwinding by himself in this way, and now disappearing after games is not a thing specific to Boston! It's just another strange Hollander quirk!

Unfortunately, he fails to account for the guys on the team jumping on the most obvious explanation for all these disappearances, which is that Shane now has a girl in every port.

Word about this starts to spread quick, because it is so out of character for Shane, and pretty soon half the league is under the impression that he's some secret playboy.

Ilya is extremely not chill about this rumor.

[perlukafarinn]

@scunthotter

help 😭😭 ilya's playing 4d chess to keep his man to himself and meanwhile shane's like "it's so nice having ilya with me on my little walks 🥰"

[moonprismpower456]

Actually making a serious post about aro/ace segregation because I’m tired. Recently in the aspec community I’ve seen a lot of people pushing the idea that sex/romance repulsed people are the only experiences aspecs can have and that favorables are somehow infecting or taking over our community. Being frustrated with hearing about those topics frankly isn’t favorables problems and saying they can just go to allos for a community is the same shit ace exclusionists have said about all of us for years. Thinking that asexual=not having sex and aromantic=not having relationships is a stereotype people in the community have been fighting for years. Splitting up a community isn’t the solution to our problems, getting rid of favorables won’t make the aphobia you experience go away. Asexuality and aromanticism are spectrums, go do like any research if you think otherwise.

[snapcracklepop-myjoints]

im gonna need new and first-time mobility aid users to learn how to express that they want to make their mobility aids fancy or decorated without falling back on calling undecorated mobility aids ugly

[charlataninred]

Character duo where one *remembers I don’t like fitting characters into trope boxes* is a completely fleshed out and realised person *remembers treating characters as real people and not story devices written with intent is bad* who is written by the author and *remembers death of the author* uh. And *fumbles and drops my pile of queue cards* ah fuck wait no *the menacing horse* what was that.

[allosexistnonsense]

accepting aros and aces in the queer community must also mean accepting that the attraction we might feel is different from the allo mainstream, that if we have other orientations like lesbian, pan, het, bi etc., they might be defined by attraction types other than romantic or sexual, or may not specify attraction type at all, that were accepted into bi+/gay communities even if our attraction doesn't follow the allo norm.

accepting aces is more than accepting we feel little to no sexual attraction and "well, they wanna date x gender so they're fine". accepting aros is more than accepting we feel little to no romantic attraction and "well, they wanna fuck x gender, so they're fine".

accepting aros and aces also means accepting us into bi+ and gay communities if we identify as such, even if our attraction isn't about dating or fucking, even if our attraction isn't action-driven, even if our attraction is vague, hypothetical or hard to define, even if sexual and romantic attraction aren't present at all.

aro/ace inclusion is more than just welcoming us into the general queer community, it's also welcoming us into orientation subcommunities we might be part of.

ultimately truly accepting us into the queer community means dismantling allonormativity.

[mckendrickslove]

[garfieldsladybird]

just wanna mention for every fandom.

Start reblogging. Reblog.

Why are you not re-blogging? You think the fandom is dead, that no one’s interacting anymore, no one’s doing anything, no one’s writing, no one’s posting. ‘Everyone was so hyperfixed on that character, Where is the writing?’

People are writing. People aren’t reblogging. People aren’t giving some good feedback to motivate the writers that are putting their hard work, time, effort into making this piece that you were reading.

‘oh, it’s just too much work. You don’t wanna click that button and then click a few tags.’ Then you’re gonna have to suffer and not see a lot of writing from a lot of people because the only way this fucking app works is if you reblog.

I see so many pieces of work with 59 likes and 1 blog, I just saw one that had 690 likes and it had 9 reblogs. Even 1,000 likes and only 59 reblogs too. It’s devastating to see for the community of Tumblr. And I’ve been here for like five years, the way this app works is if you re-blog.

There’s so many people that are writing. There’s so many amazing things that I see and I try my best to reblog every single one that I read. That’s what I love doing because sharing someone’s piece of work is just beautiful because it allows me to show it to more people.

I reblog. And the beauty of it is;

I get notifications that this person liked it and this person liked it, and then that post continues to get more views, more likes and reblogs. All just because one person, reblogged it.

so please, if you are a part of Tumblr and you love reading your favorite writers fics, or love reading about your favorite character, please do your job and reblog it.

And if you don’t like re-blogging because you don’t want to do that on your account, then you can make another account and put all of the things that you read on that account. You can do separate things, like fic recs.

You can figure it the fuck out if you want people to actually be writing for a character you love. The writers are writing, you ain’t helping them share their work.

Reblog. It ain’t hard.

[e-cryptid-deactivated20180601]

It’s okay to not want to have sex ever. It’s okay to never even try it.

[thefisherqueen]

I was 23 before it even occurred to me that not starting with sex ever was an option. The feeling of relief was so great I actually cried. 

You don’t have to if you don’t want to. You can have a fine live without ever having sex, I promise you. 

[impostoradult]

Also, it’s okay to never date anyone ever. It’s okay to never even try it if you don’t want to. 

I wrote a master’s thesis on intentionally single people, and the number of them that said in various ways, “I didn’t know not dating people was even an option at first” was absolutely tragic. They honestly thought they had no choice and it never occurred to them that opting out was even a possibility available to them.  

People honestly believe these are life experience you are required to have AND THEY ARE NOT.

You can just not have sex. You can just not date people. You can completely by-pass one or both of those things. Neither of those things are required to be healthy, happy, normal, mature, fulfilled, or any of the other bullshit notions that get attached to these things. 

[zeddzer00]

How to celebrate Pride from withIN the closet

[oversteeped-tea]

i think stories without a romantic subplot are so important actually because i didn’t even realize how much internalized aphobia i had rolling around in there until i saw ryland grace be genuinely happy and fulfilled by platonic relationships