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Return to Sender.

Texting an ex-girlfriend out of nowhere at 3am when she is asleep & you're all up in your feelings asking to "talk about things" the next day is not cool. Period. And then when she responds the following afternoon, despite her better judgement, radio silence. Like what even is the point? Who were you trying to make feel better? Certainly not her. She wasn't looking for, nor did she need your much belated "apology" full of condescending "compliments" of how amazing + worthy of a gal she is & how she deserves someone who adores her - someone better than you. Trust me, she knows. It's YOU who didn't. It's YOU who still doesn't. Changed actions. Now that's an apology. You care about her? BE the "better" she deserves OR here's a novel idea: leave her alone, get over what you feel for her, and let her move forward so she can find the "better" she deserves with someone else. PICK ONE. CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE. STOP PLAYING GAMES. STOP DRAGGING HER HEART AROUND. A boy will say: You deserve better than me. A man will say: I will make myself a better man to deserve you. #2DamnOld4This

Accountability.

It is astonishing how little we hold our friends & family accountable for their actions. Treating others with respect should be the baseline standard for every human being on this planet. Period. By holding your loved ones accountable for their bad behavior, you also hold yourself accountable. It takes a village. Both to build someone up & to watch as they self-destruct. We have to stop stroking each other’s egos & encouraging said behavior. It’s not okay to be okay with continuous bad behavior & it never will be. Stop letting your friends get away with shit. Hold them accountable or else the cycle will continue.

And if you’re that guy or gal getting called out, look in the mirror - learn to accept constructive criticism & mature as an individual. Hold on tight to the friends who support you, make you a better person, hold you accountable (quietly when able & forcefully when necessary), & tell you to your face when you’re being an asshole & disrespecting someone. Those type of friends are hard to come by. If you can’t see my words as a learning opportunity, that’s on you. Be better.

We're all in this crazy little thing called life together - sometimes we get so caught up in our own busy lives that we forget to show up for one another. I know I can do a better job of supporting my support system & being present for them. To those who not only hold me accountable, but continually look out for me, even when I'm not looking out for myself (you know who you are) - thank you.

... & that's all she wrote. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

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Written by: Ben Affleck & Matt Damon

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Chitown.... I miss it so.

Last year....silly girl.

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I don't want to be the filler if the void is solely yours

*steps up to the microphone*

*tap tap tap*

um yes... h-hi...hello, is this thing on?!

I am a lot of things - some awesome, some good, some not so great - but I am NOT a placeholder, a proxy, a surrogate, a backup, a rebound, an option, a fill-in or a substitute. I am not a doormat, I am not a stepping stone for you to climb over. If you don't know what you want - don't include me. My time, energy, and all encompass being is worth more than your indecisiveness.

It's fine to need encouragement and support, but there are limits that should be respected. It's not fine to use a girl as an emotional crutch, always expecting her to be there when its convenient for you, but never doing the same for her. I am not a licensed therapist. I am not your emotional support animal. Get a puppy. Better yet, sort your own shit out, and learn to talk about your feelings like a god damn adult. Be better.

You’re a coward if you lead someone on. Grow up. Hurting a good person who genuinely cares for you is the most ignorant and selfish thing you could do. Just because you’re damaged and don’t know what the fuck you want doesn’t mean you get a free ticket to fuck me over. People are not for your consumption and disposal.

I'm done reaching out. If you want me, come and get me. I no longer have time for you to weigh the pros and cons of having me in your life, while you also weighs the pros and cons of other women. I've bent over backwards to make things work when & where I can, but the problem is you've never done the same. I'm no longer comfortable with receiving a half-assed, kind-of like from you. If you aren't willing to see a good woman when one is staring you in the face, well, that's on you, bud.

Once more for the people in the back:

Stop using people

Stop leading people on

Learn to talk about your feelings like an adult

GROW THE FUCK UP

Thank you, goodnight!

*mic drop*