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law student, artist, reader, and sometimes a runner. not an autumn blog, I just really like autumn.

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Whoa, I didn’t realize that it was so deliberate, I honestly thought it was unconscious

[rainfelt]

Scary, scary.

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Gonna add on to this: From the other side of the bar, I see this crap all the time. Seriously. I work at a high-density bar, and let me tell you, I have anywhere from 10-20 guys every night come up and tell me to, “serve her a stronger drink, I’m trying to get lucky tonight, know what I mean?” usually accompanied with a wink and a gesture at a girl who, in my experience, is going to go from mildly buzzed to definitively hammered if I keep serving her. Now, I like to think I’m a responsible bartender, so I usually tell guys like that to piss off, and, if I can, try to tell the girl’s more sober friends that they need to keep an eye on her. But everyone- just so you know, most of the time, when someone you don’t know is buying you a drink, they’re NOT doing it out of a sense of cordiality, they’re buying you a drink for the sole purpose of making you let your guard down. So:

Tips for getting drinks-

1. ALWAYS GO TO THE BAR TO GET YOUR OWN DRINK, DO NOT LET STRANGERS CARRY YOUR DRINKS. This is an opportune time for dropping something into your cocktail, and you’re none the wiser.

2.IF YOU ORDER SOMETHING NON-ALCOHOLIC, I promise you, the bartender doesn’t give two shits that you’re not drinking cocktails with your friends, and often, totally understands that you don’t want to let your guard down around strangers. Usually, you can just tell the bartender that you’d like something light, and that’s a big clue to us that you’re uncomfortable with whomever you’re standing next to. Again, we see this all the time.

3. If you’re in a position to where you feel uncomfortable not ordering alcohol:

Here’s a list of light liquors, and mixers that won’t get you drunk, and will still look like an actual cocktail:

X-rated + sprite = easy to drink, sweet, and 12% alcoholic content. Not strong at all, usually runs $6-$8, depending on your state.

Amaretto + sour= sweet, not strong, 26%.

Peach Schnapps+ ginger ale= tastes like mellow butterscotch, 24%.

Melon liquor (Midori, in most bars) + soda water = not overly sweet, 21%

Coffee liquor (Kahlua) +soda = not super sweet, 20%.

Hope this helps someone out!

[greekgodohair]

Backing this up from years of bar tending.

[amayamiyaki]

Adding to this:

When I was a fresh bartender, I had a couple sitting in the corner, already drinking when I started my shift. They seemed like they knew each other really well considering how much they had their hands on one another. But I still came by and asked if they were okay. The man just waved me off while the woman said, “I need some water.”

The man laughed it off and told me, “She doesn’t need any water. She’s fine.”

She was not fine. Clearly. I decided I was going to cut the two off anyway and bring them some water. As I was filling up the glasses, I heard the woman say, “Stop. I said no. I don’t feel good.”

Her tone and attitude changed instantly. She kept pushing his hand away when he reached for her face, turned her head away when he tried to kiss her. Loudly told him, “Stop. I’m done for tonight.”

So I made sure to refill her water the moment she finished it, and I stayed within earshot of them the whole night. And every time I did, the man got mad at me, told me to leave them alone. Their friends were there, surrounding them and told me that those two always fought when they were drunk and apologized, so I relaxed a little. But the last time I refilled her drink, I heard a loud crash.

She fell out of her stool and hit her head on the floor. And he calmly drank his drink. Their friends didn’t even blink. I jumped over the bar to tend to her and he just said, “Don’t worry, I’ll take her home. She always ends up like this. She drinks too much.”

But it didn’t sound right.

Then the woman began convulsing.

I yelled for the other bartender to call 911 and when I did, the guy suddenly disappeared. I tried asking thr friends questions about him and they just blew it off as the woman being a black our drunk. And one of them said, “We’ll get her home. Don’t worry.”

But when thr EMTs showed up with the police, they all disappeared too.

A few days later the woman came with an attorney. She asked me and the other bartender who worked before me some questions. Turns out, she didn’t know any of those people. They weren’t her friends or her boyfriend. They had met that night, when the guy asked her if he could buy her a drink. At the hospital, they found traces of Rohypnol in her system.

The guy had Roofied her. And his friends were in on it.

The security camera footage showed he had put something in her drink when she left for the bathroom before my shift.

So seriously, it happens. You have to be careful with your drinks! Always watch it, don’t let anyone handle it, and take it with you wherever you go–even the bathroom. Or if you’re a regular at that bar, ask the bartender to put it behind the bar. We’ll do it.

[moonlady9]

Rb for that last add, don’t ever worry about being polite! Protect urself!

[chris-evans-indian-fanfic]

REBLOG AND SPREAD THE WORD!

[swedepea]

Never EVER trust men

[rogueemmy]

Take it one further, never, ever, trust strangers. Look, I’ve flown wing man with many a friend, gay, straight, and any other stripe of the rainbow. I’m your drink watcher, I’m the sober driver, I’m getting everyone home. Unless we’ve agreed, in advance, that you aren’t coming home with me…and even then you get a status check before you split. I’ve seen women play just as dirty as men. It’s great to have drinks bought for you, but you owe them nothing. Remember, you didn’t ask that person to buy you a drink, they just did. If you don’t have a watcher, and the bar can’t cover, either finish the drink before the bathroom, take it in with you, or simply never finish it. You didn’t buy it, you aren’t out anything! 

[ellidfics]

Non-alcoholic drinks that look like booze:

Seltzer water or club soda with a wedge of lime or lemon

Ginger ale or Sprite with a splash of grenadine (aka Shirley Temple)

Spicy V-8 or tomato juice

Coke and grenadine (aka Roy Rogers)

Iced tea and lemonade (aka an Arnold Palmer)

Kombucha

Sparkling cider or grape juice

You can also ask for virgin mojitos, daiquiris, or pretty much any fancy cocktail - bartenders have plenty of simple syrups and juices they can combine for something spectacular without a drop of alcohol.  

[netbug009]

Reblogging for this last list especially because guys, don’t assume how much alcohol you can handle if you don’t know. 

[wild-cabins]

James Lloyd Cole

[inritum]

[hedgehog-moss]

The light on Christmas day felt really kind and dreamlike. I did not meet a single soul on my walk but every house I could see in the distance had its chimney smoking and it contributed to this calm feeling, to making the whole landscape feel like a home.

[sartorialadventure]

The Wodaabe (Fula: Woɗaaɓe) are a small subgroup of the Fulani ethnic group. They are traditionally nomadic cattle-herders and traders in the Sahel, with migrations stretching from southern Niger, through northern Nigeria, northeastern Cameroon, southwestern Chad, western region of the Central African Republic and the northeastern of the Democratic Republic of Congo .The number of Wodaabe was estimated in 2001 to be 100,000. They are known for their elaborate attire and rich cultural ceremonies.

1. Wodaabe couple 2. Young Wodaabe women 3. Wodaabe hairstyle 4. Niger by Annie Leroy 6. Wodaabe woman from Niger 7. Wodaabe nomad woman pounding millet, Niger, by Victor Englebert 8. Wodaabe by Marie-Laure de Decker 9. Wodaabe man, Niger, 1997 10. Wodaabe brides

[hedgehog-moss]

“Beauty is the convenient and traditional name of something which art and nature share, and which gives a fairly clear sense to the idea of quality of experience and change of consciousness. I am looking out of my window in an anxious and resentful state of mind, oblivious of my surroundings, brooding perhaps on some damage done to my prestige. Then suddenly I observe a hovering kestrel. In a moment everything is altered. The brooding self with its hurt vanity has disappeared. There is nothing now but kestrel. And when I return to thinking of the other matter it seems less important. And of course this is something which we may also do deliberately: give attention to nature in order to clear our minds of selfish care.”

— Iris Murdoch, on beauty as an occasion of ‘unselfing,’ The Sovereignty of Good (Routledge, 2013)

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Paper Cut Art Light Boxes

Abracadabox on Etsy

[lionofchaeronea]

Ancient Egyptian faience figurines in the shape of jerboas.  Artist unknown; ca. 1850-1640 BCE (12th or 13th Dynasty, Middle Kingdom).  Thought to come from Heliopolis; now in the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

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Hedgehog Figurine

This hedgehog figurine is made from Egyptian faience, excavated from tomb 655 at Beni Hasan, Minya, Egypt. Middle Kingdom, 12th to 13th Dynasty, ca. 1976-1793 BC. Now in the Fitzwilliam Museum.

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Father and Child with Christmas Tree, Haarlem, Holland, 1949. Photo by Henrik Hilterman

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Christmas Tree by Boris Groh

[violetsandshrikes]

This fund is to install water purifiers for indigenous families in Canada, where there is a water crisis and desperate need for safe water sources. There are currently 58 long term water drinking advisories across Canada, which does not include short term ones (eg ones that are under 12 months long)

Since the beginning of the year it has only reached $2547 out of $10000 (as of December 21st 2020). If you can donate or share this, please do!!

[the-exercist]

Diet companies will be hitting hard this year. Be prepared to hear repeated sentiments of "It's time to get rid of that Quarantine 15" and "In these hard times, commit to taking care of yourself with healthy living and weight loss."

This rhetoric is going to be everywhere. And due to the nature of modern advertising, the vast majority of it will be coming from people online who just look like they're trying to share some good advice with the followers that they love so much. You'll barely be able to see the money getting thrown at them from the weight loss industry.

Don't reward them for using these manipulation techniques - Buying their products and losing weight isn't going to make your year any better, or erase the stress of the pandemic, or be the first step in self-care.

Please please please see these ads for what they are - A way of preying on your insecurity and trauma in order to make money.

[malcolm-f-tucker]

I wish people would stop saying “It’s July. Well done for wasting half a year.” Did you make someone smile in the past six months? Did you stroke a cat or throw a stick for a dog? Did you learn a new fact or teach someone a new joke? Did you laugh, cry, scream or sing in the past six months? Because if so, congratulations for not wasting your time at all.

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I really needed this

[theradicalace]

I’m bringing this back for December to remind everyone.

You did not waste your year.

If you made it this far, that’s already not wasting your year.

You made it through the year, you laughed, you cried, you smiled, you saw the sun and felt the rain, and most importantly, you’re still here.

You did not waste your year.

You mad it this far, and I’m proud of you.

[gallusrostromegalus]

Bringing this back for 2020 to tell you:

DUDE.

YOU SURVIVED A MOTHERFUCKING 

PANDEMIC.

You lived through what is, and I’m not exaggerating, a fucking apocalyptic event.  DURING a major political crisis to boot! This year, still having a pulse is a major accomplishment, and I’m so glad you’re here.

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Littlefoot!