Awakened Love Making

*NSFW * A compilation of my fantasies & desires. Enjoy

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Name 5 blogs you'd recommend to follow?

Shades, you definitely didn't ask but I am going to tell you anyway and take it a step further on WHY you should follow these blogs.

@daddyfuckedme I have probably been following her since I joined tumblr about 10 years ago, she's a very sweet and down to earth person and she posts a lot of out-of-pocket things mixed in with NSFW and art. I strongly suggest you checkout her website ToyDirty

@ultramonogvmy as well as his other 2 side blogs are always a riot to scroll through. Always offers great advice and is very thoughtful in how he answers asks. I treat his blog like it's the morning paper.

@onelittlekingdom He and his partner post a lot of their original content but he also gives great, in depth advice. If you have any questions about the Tumblr kink community, he's probably your best bet. His informational posts are really something else.

@satanlikedmymoxie is really sweet. You can definitely tell she's having fun posting whatever the fuck she wants and I am HERE for it. Selfies always on point. Just an all around swell person. Posts about nature and whatever is interesting her at that current moment.

@moonbeam-manic Posts a lot of her own content and it is TOP NOTCH. She always has the best outfits. Her blog is a nice mixed bag of original content, nature, relatable and wholesome posts.

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“Some people aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their needs change, so does their loyalty.”

— Unknown

[perfectfeelings]

“So, do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate? Decide. Breathe in. Breathe out, and decide.”

— Meredith Grey

[perfectfeelings]

“If flowers can grow through blankets of melting snow, there is hope for me too.”

— Tyler Knott Gregson, Haiku on Love

[perfectfeelings]

“The person you’re meant to be with will never have to be chased, begged or given an ultimatum.”

— Mandy Hale

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[carpethedamndiem]

“Woman is the sacrificial fire, the lips of her yoni the fuel, the hairs around them the smoke, and the vagina itself the flame. The act of penetration is the lighting, the feelings of pleasure are the sparks. In this fire the gods offer up semen-seed, and from this offering man is born.”

- Brihadaranyaka, Kama Sutra

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Subdrop and Aftercare

I thought I would write a little and provide some useful information about subdrop and aftercare, since I have just had to help a close friend deal with her first experience of subdrop and although she knew what it was, she did not realise that is what she was going through and did not know how to deal with it.

What Is Subdrop?

Subdrop is the emotional and physical symptoms felt by a submissive that is caused by tiring out the body and the release of adrenalin, endorphins, hormones and other chemicals that create a natural high during a scene, leading to a subsequent ‘come down’ afterwards, similar to the effects of illicit drugs.  It can leave a sub feeling exhausted, depressed, sad and very emotional. This can include feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment and other negative thoughts, but you should realise that this is simply your body’s natural response to a very intense experience, it is not your fault, you have done nothing wrong and you are not to blame.

Subs will often experience subdrop in different ways, some may feel the effects of it more intensely than others and it can last for varying periods of time, anywhere from an hour up to a few weeks afterwards, but it is only temporary and will eventually pass. It is important that you learn to recognise subdrop, because once you understand that you are feeling the effects of it, you can begin to address it and simply knowing why you are feeling that way will also help, especially when it comes to your emotions and feelings. Try to communicate, interact and stay in contact with your Dom or others, who can help you cope with your emotions and how you are feeling, by offering you support and talking you through it.  Following the other advice I have included below will also help you recover from the effects of subdrop.

For the all the Doms, Dommes, Masters and Mistresses out there, this is just as crucial for You, as it is for Your sub. Subdrop is very real and not some myth, so aftercare and helping Your sub deal with the effects of it should be just as important as what You might do during a scene, especially as You are essentially responsible for Your sub feeling the effects of it and caring for Your sub is part of the responsibility that comes with being a Dominant. Aftercare should not be neglected and staying in contact with Your sub, offering them reassurance, validation and support will help during this vulnerable time and they should not have to go through this alone.  Although some subs do prefer time to themselves, You should at least offer and ask what You can do to help, as everyone is different and their needs will vary.

If You do neglect aftercare and ignore subdrop, then the effects can begin to outweigh the benefits and enjoyment that Your sub may feel during a scene with You, which can cause problems for Your relationship with them and even end it. It is also worth pointing out that Dominants and switches can also feel a form of ‘drop’ after a scene, which I won’t address, but You can read more about it in the links I have provided at the end of this article.

So What Is Aftercare?

Aftercare is the name given to the process of being there with a partner for a sufficient amount of time, so they can feel safe, regain their emotional equilibrium and recover from the effects of a scene. It is equally important to recognise that aftercare is for both the Top and bottom, Dominant and submissive. If either person leaves too soon, then their partner may feel abandoned or a loss far exceeding the pleasure they might have felt during the scene.

Aftercare can include practical things such as making sure a sub is physically taken care of, treating any injuries, keeping them warm, allowing them to rest and making sure they have enough to eat or drink. Aftercare should also include attending to the emotional needs of a sub by offering them support, reassurance and validation.  This can include showing them affection by cuddling or holding them, even gentle and loving sex, as well as asking how they are feeling, talking through the scene with them and their experience, answering any questions they might have and giving them a lot of positive reinforcement, such as saying how proud You are of them. This can continue after you have parted ways and for several days afterwards, by staying in contact and checking on their recovery.

Although like subdrop, everyone has a different experience and needs when it comes to aftercare, some for instance may want to be left alone to process this on their own and there is no right or wrong way, it simply involves doing whatever is necessary to help them recover.

How To Cope With Subdrop

A few ways you can help your body recover and deal with the effects of subdrop include:

ACE which stands for aftercare, contact with your Dominant and expression of positive reinforcement by the Dominant.

Drink plenty of water or a sports drink like gatorade, which help replace fluids, salts and potassium in the body that you have lost during a scene.

Eat foods to replenish the nutrients in your body, while you might crave comfort foods and sugary treats, which will not only replace the sugar and energy you have lost, but obviously give you some sense of comfort, the effects will be only temporary and will only leave you craving more, which is not ideal.  Instead try to eat whole grain bread, meat, cheese and vegetables, while avoiding any foods that are white in colour, although milk is also very helpful.

Take some vitamins, especially the B-complex group that include folic acid, vitamin B6 and B12.

Be active and interact with others, even if you do not feel like doing so, as subdrop often leaves a sub feeling ashamed, depressed, isolated, confused and alone, so being by yourself and trying to cope on your own will only make those feelings worse. Even spending time with your pet can be helpful. Most importantly stay in contact with your Dominant and try to talk to them about how you are feeling, so They can help you cope.

Exercise will help release more endorphins, lessening the effects of subdrop, which is partly caused by the release of endorphins during a scene and the subsequent ‘come down’ that occurs afterwards.

Try keeping yourself occupied, with a hobby or other activity which will allow you to clear your head or express your feelings.

Aroma therapy, warm baths, meditation and listening to soothing music is also helpful.

Try to stay warm.

Treat and care for any injuries you might have sustained during the scene, such as scratches, bites, welts or sore bottoms. I am not a doctor and I could not possibly hope to cover every potential scenario in this article, but generally applying basic first aid techniques and vitamin E cream will help your skin recover more quickly.

Rest and get plenty of sleep.

Try to get yourself ready before a scene, by getting plenty of sleep, trying to stay focused and preparing yourself for the experience.

Additional Reading

You can find a useful article on the subject of subdrop here. While these are an excellent series of very extensive articles on aftercare and subdrop for submissives, Dominants, switches and also emergency self-administered aftercare.

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Another essay on aftercare and sub drop.

Take what you need, or fits for you, and leave the rest.

Aftercare is mandatory, as is caring for any subsequent subdrop, but one size does not fit all. Tailor it your sub/bottom.

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Signs of a fantastic Dom

We always talk about “signs of a terrible Dom” so let’s talk about some signs of an actually good Dom

They ask you about your day: They show compassion and actually want to listen about how your day went

They ALWAYS want to keep fields of communication open: Whether you’re in the middle of a kinky-as-fuck scene or you two are in a heated argument, the means of communication is ALWAYS open. Once you give your safe word, IT IS DONE

Aftercare is a top priority. No matter what this is for you in particular, they put a lot of emphasis on aftercare (cuddling, movie watching, bath time, etc.)

They aren’t afraid to scold you when you actually mess up. Sometimes we fuck up, both with our dynamics or we screwed up something at work or school. Doms will scold you, put also help cheer you up and might even offer ways to make it positive

Sex might be apart of the dynamic, but it’s not the focus. I get the fact some people get involved with other BDSM partners for the sole reason of sex, but outside of those VERY SPECIFIC DYNAMICS, sex is NOT the sole focus. It might be a fun “add on”, but it’s NOT the primary objective (penetrative sex or other forms of sex acts).

They are concerned for your safety, but don’t overdo it. They want you safe, but don’t take it to the paranoid level where they need to track every little thing you do.

They respect your privacy. EVERYONE has secrets (”skeletons in your closest”), even among romantic partners who have been partners for a long time, people have stuff they just don’t feel comfortable confessing every little thing in their life. A respectful Dom understands this and doesn’t need to go spying on you or attempt to invade your privacy (track internet history, track phone usage, track where you’ve been, etc.)

They trust you. A Dom who doesn’t trust you will purposely try to fuck up the relationship/dynamic, they will show severe jealousy, and other negative aspects. A Dom that trusts you will respect YOU as a person as well as you to keep your word on different things.

When disagreements happen, they use constructive language. There is not a healthy relationship on this earth that is 100% argument/disagreement free. However, whenever these do happen, it is NOT a “me against you” style argument (”I WON THE ARGUMENT”, none of that). It is done in a way with minimal accusatory/hurtful statements

They respect your hard limits. Doms know hard limits don’t mean “convince me”. They know to stay the fuck away from hard limits with a ten foot freaking pole.

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Boost 👊🏻

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[futuro-heroi]

“A gente se apaixona por esses tipinhos banais que vivem rindo. E a gente se pergunta: que é que ele tem que brilha tanto? Que é que ele tem que quando chega ofusca todo o resto?”

— Tati Bernardi. 

[dzenwitch]

Gemstones & their meanings: 40 stones for magick and meditation

Looking for stones for your magickal toolkit? Here’s a crash course in 40 of the most commonly available crystals and gemstones. Working with crystals can improve your personal energy, amp up your spellwork, and help you create the life you desire. This handy guide will help choose the right crystals for you, whatever your goals might be.

After you’ve read these crystal meanings, I encourage you to spend some time gazing at and handling your crystals. Crystals are a hands-on, eyes-on, heart-on hobby. One of the best ways to study them is to visit with them. It sounds kooky, I know—but many stones will tell you all about themselves if you take the time to listen.

Collecting crystals is a blissful and transformative experience. Here at Grove and Grotto, our own crystal work has undeniably changed our lives for the better. But I never recommend crystal magick as a substitute for medical care. If you’re seriously ill or distressed, get qualified help before rock shopping, mmmmkay?

Here they are, in alphabetical order, 40 magickal stones and their metaphysical uses:

Amazonite 

Sea-green Amazonite carries all sorts of positive meanings: Serenity, creativity, and brave self-expression. It is one of the best talismans for artists and performers. It clears self-doubt and inspires love of beauty. Amazonite is found in a pale celadon hue (see picture) in Brazil, China, and Africa. The bright turquoise variety is a new discovery and comes from Madagascar. 

Amethyst

One of the most magickal stones on Earth, Amethyst is a favorite of witches, healers, shamans and seers. Purple is a color that is seldom found in nature, and Amethyst has an exquisite vibration to match its rare hue. Amethyst is great for meditation and for managing the emotions. It calms anxiety and balances fear and excess. Amethyst gently stimulates dreams and visions, inspiring you to become your highest self. There are countless colors and shapes of Amethyst, each with slightly different properties.

Angelite

A lovely stone with a lovely name, Angelite is formed by the compression of Celestite over millions of years. (Yes, it is actually condensed heaven!) Angelite is soothing and uplifting. It is a popular choice among Angelic healers, channelers, and lightworkers. Angelite can assist in making contact with ancient guides and smoothing the way toward higher states of awareness. Don’t get Angelite wet—it didn’t wait all these millennia just to turn into calcite in your jacuzzi, thanks. 

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🔯Healing the Chakras🔯

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Chakras: Signs You Have An Imbalanced Sacral Chakra

The second chakra, svadhishthana otherwise known as the sacral chakra is the energy centre that governs our fertility, sexuality, pleasure and creativity. It is situated approximately one to two inches below the belly button. When this chakra is imbalanced, it can cause numerous issues within the physical body as well as in the energetic body, and this is what I am going to talk about today. In this post, I will be listing physical and emotional symptoms of an under active sacral chakra and an overactive sacral chakra. I am also going to include crystals, herbs, yoga poses and specific foods to help get it back into balance again.

The Sacral Chakra - Signs you have an imbalance

Signs of emotional imbalance (Under active): Sexual prudence; fear of intimacy; insecurities; jealousy; low self-esteem; depression; anxiety; lack of interest in creative tasks and activities; guilt; shame; lack of passion and excitement for life; poor social skills; fear of change; resistant to letting go of the past; self-doubt, aloofness and a lack of self confidence.

Signs of physical imbalance (Under active): Infertility; impotence; loss of libido; PMDD; Manic Depressive Disorder; PMS; miscarriage; dysmenorrhea; endometriosis; failure to reach orgasm; pain during sex; amenorrhea; ovarian cysts; bleeding between periods; ovulation pain; ovarian cancer; menopause; hormonal imbalances; lower back pain, degenerative disc disease and PCOS.

Essential Oils for Sacral Chakra: Jasmine, tangerine, sweet orange, tuberose, champaca, frangipani, vanilla, gardenia, ylang-ylang, damiana, ginger, ho wood, rosewood, myrtle, neroli, star anise, clary sage, rose, lotus, geranium, bergamot, petitgrain, agarwood, fennel, amber, galbanum, black pepper, clove, plai, nutmeg grapefruit, wild orange, cinnamon bark, lavender and sandalwood.

Herbs for Sacral Chakra: Saffron, Korean ginseng, damiana, maca, horny goat weed, ginger root, chasteberry, red clover, musli, gokshura, bindii, nutmeg, Thai ginseng, ashwagandha, Russian ginseng, ginkgo biloba, catuaba bark, rhodiola, Sri Lankan cinnamon, oatstraw, and hibiscus.

Essential Oils for Under Active Sacral Chakra (Aphrodisiacs): Ylang-ylang, damiana, orange, clove, nutmeg, bergamot, galangal, geranium, ginger, clary sage, gardenia, rosewood, tangerine, grapefruit, cinnamon bark, myrtle, petitgrain, sandalwood, rose, tuberose, champaca, lotus, ho wood, black pepper, may chang and jasmine.

Crystals for Under active Sacral Chakra: Orange garnet, orange carnelian, tugtupite, fire agate, amber, pink tourmaline, aragonite, citrine, red jasper, orange sapphire, orange zircon, rhodochrosite and orange tourmaline.

Herbs for Under Active Sacral Chakra (Aphrodisiacs): Damiana, ginger, horny goat weed, vanilla, ginger, Panax ginseng, oatstraw, maca root, Thai ginseng and nutmeg. 

Yoga Poses for Sacral Chakra: Bow, Cobra, Upward Facing Dog, Child’s Pose, Revolved Triangle, Half Happy Baby, Happy Baby, Seated Forward Fold, Seated Straddle, Monkey Pose (Front Splits), Frog Pose, Reclined Cobblers Pose, Double Pigeon and Tortoise Pose.

Signs of emotional imbalance (Overactive): Risky behaviour; addiction; overspending; addicted to pleasure; cravings, participating in unprotected sex; sexual harassment, rape; hypersexuality, arrogance, anxiety, excessive gambling, aggressiveness and anger, sexual obsession, emotional instability, sexual manipulation and codependency.

Signs of physical imbalance (Overactive): Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PSAS), sexsomnia, menorrhagia, bladder incontinence, premature ejaculation, priapism, kidney disorders, ovarian cysts, STIs, and STDs.   

Essential Oils for Overactive Sacral Chakra (Anaphrodisiacs): Camphor, Sweet Marjoram, Chasteberry and Hops.

Crystals for Overactive Sacral Chakra: Orange Calcite, Wulfenite and Bronzite.

Herbs for Overactive Sacral Chakra (Anaphrodisiacs): Licorice, Chasteberry, Sweet Marjoram, Heracleum, Rue, Mashua, Hops, Soy, Salix, Coriander and Wild Lettuce. 

Yoga Poses for Overactive Sacral Chakra: Child’s Pose, Corpse Pose and Easy Pose.

Foods for Overactive Sacral Chakra: Carrots and orange sweet potatoes.

Well that’s it for the sacral chakra and I hope this article helps you with balancing your second chakra and making you feel happier and more at peace within yourself.

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“…in China the character wu, used to designate a person who exercised the arts of magic in a strict or ‘shamanic’ sense, was originally applied only to females. The techniques employed by the wu to contact supersensual forces were sometimes ascetic and at other times orgiastic; in the latter case it seems that in the beginning the wu officiated wholly naked. The wu had to have youth and fascinating beauty as preliminary qualifications for her work, and the meanings of the characters yao and miao as `queer’,`disquieting’, and 'mysterious’ refer to the type and qualities of the wu.” Julius Evola “The Metaphysics of Sex” Sphinx by Franz von Stuck, 1904.

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A tantric Painting of Shiva - Rajasthan, North India - 19th Century

The awakening through the love of Tantra… The male energy goes to the cosmic mind out of samsara circle, after being enlighted from the female winsdom.

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Next time? Be more aware.

Real love is not product of the physical realm, and only the physical realm is affected by time. Time affects the physical realm, because it is the core foundation of it. Real love is beyond time, space and togetherness, it’s astral.

If you think you love someone, and if you think when you are not together, time will take care of it and like everyone else that has come in life before, time will make you forget it. That very belief that with time you can stop loving someone is entirely wrong. Time might take away the expectations, the romanticism but time otherwise will only increase the longing, make you more rooted, more in love.

But if time goes on and you stop loving someone, then know you have not loved that person at all. You couldn’t penetrate that deeper core of love at all. Then if it had ended, it’s fortunate that it had ended. Otherwise, you would have gone on wasting your energy, your time.

Love is like a wind, the wind can come and go. Wind is only an intensified version of air, the intensity is variable, only the intensity of love is variable. But the air that is love continues to be there. Time cannot take air away, if it does, then that’s the end then. Everything will disappear. Life will cease to exist.

So if you think that with time, you will stop loving someone? Then it was only a thought that you “love” someone. It wasn’t anything more than that, and yes time will take care of a thought, because a thought is temporary. But love? Love is the only divine thing there is, how can it be temporary?

Now if the thought appears, be relaxed. There’s nothing wrong with it. Next time, when you feel in love? Be more aware.