i’ve been saying this for years. FOR YEARS!! it’s the reason why i always laugh at women who complain about men who complain about the friendzone with that “he doesn’t value my friendship” simple bullshit reasoning. you should NOT have a friendzone to begin with. neither man nor woman.
the idea of the “friendzone” should be insulting to both women and men because it implies that a man does NOT have strictly platonic feelings for you but is instead pretending, staying around, hoping for a chance to bed you, hoping to change your mind about them. that’s fucked up and you ladies should NOT want that and neither should a man. and yea women get friendzoned all the time too.
i have female friends in my life who are strictly my friends and that was my vibe with them from the moment we met. no pretending. no forcing. no. from jumpstreet, we were friends and that’s it. i’ve also met women who from the moment i saw her, i wanted to fuck her. doesn’t mean i don’t respect her humanity. doesn’t mean i don’t respect her mind, her goals, her aspiration but coupled with that is a desire to eat that pussy and tap that cervix. just like ladies who see a dudes and from the moment they lay eyes on him they want to fuck. they may want to also know his backstory, where he went to school, what his life goals are but along with all that, they want that dick. i point this out to make it clear that this sexual desire thing isn’t just a male thing like so many women love to pretend that it is. if she’s not down, i leave. i’m not going to force myself into a set of feelings that aren’t naturally there for you. that’s ridiculous. that’s also a very selfish request. that’s what he means by “emotionally blackmailed.” y’all trying to force someone to feel something for you that they don’t and when they don’t you try to manipulate them (usually through guilt and/or attacks on his manhood) into doing your bidding. naaaaah. if a man doesn’t NATURALLY have platonic feelings for you, why are you asking him to twist himself into that? what kind of power trip are you on? that legit selfish as fuck. you know damn well you wouldn’t want anyone trying that shit on you.
also didn’t y’all learn the difference between platonic and eros in school? you know these are natural desires for human beings to have right? and trying to force one into the other is stupid. stop vilifying men who don’t want to lie to you and pretend to have strictly strictly friendship feelings for you if they don’t. that shit is foul. imagine trying to make your platonic friend develop a desire to fuck you. ugh.
i seriously think only childish people don’t get this. don’t ask people who don’t have platonic feelings for you to be your platonic friend. if you do, there’s an impure motive there.
LADIES JUST ASK YOURSELF THIS. DO YOU WANT A GUY WHO HAS GENUINE PLATONIC BROTHERLY LOVE FOR YOU OOOORRRR DO YOU WANT A GUY FORCING IT AND/OR PRETENDING? IT SHOULD BE A SIMPLE ANSWER.
also guys… GUYS!!! why are you allowing yourselves to be placed in a friendzone? if she’s not down, move on!! it’s so weak. SO WEAK!!! there are plenty of fish in the sea. don’t you already have friends? you know damn well you’re feelings for her isn’t strictly friendship. you know damn well when she starts dating someone you’re going to feel stung. you know damn well you’re hoping she changes her mind about you. you know damn well you’re just waiting around to trying an convince her to feel the same way about you that you do about her. that’s so weak man. you’re just setting yourselves up for heartache. don’t do that shit.
with all that being said fellas, it’s important and healthy to have female friends. i don’t want this to make you think it’s healthy that the only platonic relationships you have with females are family members. to be a well rounded human being, it’s important to have female friends. women in your life who aren’t family but you genuinely feel and see them as sisters. that’s a mark of maturity that you do not see all women as sexual objects and that’s hella HELLA important. however let it be real. don’t fake it.
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