I donāt wanna clog your dash with this, but Iām leaving this blog. This probably⦠isnāt very surprising to some of you, and no, itās not running from issues, or whatever. None of you know me well enough to know the kind of person I am. Or at least there are very, very few of you who do. But let me tell you a little bit about them anyway. I am the person who takes responsibility for the things they say and do. Iām not perfect. Iām not trying to be anyoneās perfect but my own, and that includes being flawed, but trying my fucking hardest to do better every day. My kind of perfect holds love for as many people as I possibly can. The person I try to be is someone understanding, sometimes to a fault, yes, but thatās how I like myself. Thatās how I connect best with others, and even then, sometimes I overdo that, too. Because the kind of person I am sees little pieces of myself in everyone. But that isnāt really what Iām here to talk about. Well, I guess it kind of is.
Iāve been called transphobic, an undercover racist, sick, strange, horrid, a lot of things really. And if you happen to be reading this and agree with any of that, well, I am sorry for what I might have done to upset you. But Iām not sorry for being the person I am and you not knowing that person. A snap judgement and skewed perception of me isnāt something Iām inclined to take to heart, because nothing I ever say or do will ever really be good enough for everyone. Whatever kindness I might show, no matter how little, will be twisted. Whatever I say in defense of myself will continue to be used against me with no regard for why Iām saying the things I say or why I feel things the way I feel them. And really, that isnāt anyoneās fault either. Thereās a lot to unpack there and I donāt have the time, the mental capacity, nor the want to put it all out there for anyone to maybe, possibly understand. So itās fine. Whatever. Genuinely, I am very sorry to the people I have upset through my own missteps, especially any mutuals I have estranged, or no longer feel safe in my presence. That, I am truly and deeply sorry for. But Iām not sorry for being human, or for learning at my own pace, or setting healthy boundaries for myself and for how I deserve to be treated by others, or literally anything else after that. But an apology with stipulations will also never be seen as good enough. Again, itās whatever. Doesnāt mean that I mean it any less just because some people donāt like how itās said.
But anyway, because of everything that has happened over the past month, I donāt feel comfortable here anymore. Writing is a comfort hobby for me, something I have leaned on heavily for years, something I pour my heart and soul into because itās one of the only things Iām able to freely do that with. But itās no longer something I feel like is possible in this space, no matter how much I might want to. If you have asks in my inbox rn, sorry. Iāll be taking them with me to the blog I already have set up, and I do intend to answer them all at some point like I did here. Itās just still kind of a mess over there. This was a very sudden decision on my part, didnāt give myself very much time to prepare cuz I was already halfway decided before this.
Close mutuals can ask for the @, or people I know are regulars on my blog, but I reserve the right to tell anyone at all. I am in a very vulnerable, destabilized position right now, and unfortunately that comes with a lot of suspicion and mistrust on my part. Sorry for that, Iād say itās nothing personal, but it actually is, cuz thereās probably a reason I no longer feel comfortable with you. Anyway. This has gotten a lot longer than I wanted it to.
This is goodbye, whether for now, or forever. I hope the world smiles on you and kindness is shown in your greatest time of need. I hope the love you are shown by yourself and others is unconditional, and I hope you know your worth as human beings and never lose sight of it. Take care of yourselves.