Look I know this is nothing new to tumblr users specifically but I still need to say it:
I think we should have sex with friends more often. Not just because some of my friends are real hot and I'm jealous of their partners. But most importantly because it's up to us queer people (especially the poyamorous, ace and aro folk) to challenge the preconceived notions about what normal expressions of sexuality and romantism look like. Because who we are already challenges the deepest roots of the way people think about intimacy (that you're expected to have a single person in your life that is your one favourite person and you want to have sex with that same person and nobody else)
I'm real done with the idea that certain ways of expressing care are only for one person in one's life. I hold my friends' hands, I compliment them and yes, I would 'go further' (interesting that sex is seen universally as something more intimate than let's say kissing. When I can think of multiple people with whom kissing would be peak intimacy)
Also it's a much safer way to explore your sexuality than hooking up with strangers from dating apps :] (No shade if you like that though, it's just. With a friend you at least know them enough to know what to expect when you act a certain way)
Also also we don't need a label like friend with benefits. It's just a friend. The fact that one has sex with said friend shouldn't be any different than a 'bake pies with' friend or 'cosplay together' friend. Why is this one action deserving of a specific phrass? (It's because we put sex on a pedestal as an ultimate intimate act. And it doesn't have to be)
it's up to us all, but especislly those that already don't fit the mold, to carve out our own way of experiencing intimacy.
So yeah, if you want to, fuck a friend for me please and tell ne how it goes














