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Plaid | mid-20’s | Gay Male | Puppy | ABDL (more DL), Incontinence, Medfet writing | ASD | pfp by Nagabe | under-21s dni

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Plaid's Intro!

mid-20s / he/him / gay

Hi! This is my first time dipping my toes into participating in the abdl world after years and years of secrecy and shame. I've finally decided that acceptance and peace is the better choice for my mental health. I am more DL than AB but enjoy the thought of being demeaned, dominated, manipulated and cared for.

You can call me Plaid! (not my real name ;)

Tags and preferences beneath the cut!

I am into: Medical settings, medical diapers, 24/7, unpotty training, incontinence, straitjackets/medical restraings, casual diapering, bedwetting, external control, vague littleness, reluctance, regret and acceptance.

Not so much into: Mommy stuff, Children's Cartoons/TV, messing.

My Tags:

#my fic - My writing

#shorts - My short posts

#psychoreverse - Short for Psychoregression universe, my writing set in a world where psychoregressive therapy is a widespread treatment with dubious results

#untraining - For reblogging posts about unpotty training

#retraining - For reblogging posts about re-potty training

#incontinence - For reblogging posts about incontinence

#fic - For reblogging others' fics

#art - For reblogging others' art

others: #medfet , #furry , #bondage

Please feel free to DM me to say hi, or give feedback on my writing/blog! (please be respectful/normal)

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Just A Month (ending) - What happened

So sorry for my radio silence.

I set out at the beginning of april to spend the entire month in Diapers. I destroyed all of my underwear, bought a bunch of supplies, and got strict with myself. And I was loving it. It was easier than ever to use my diapers, and I could really see myself in it for the long haul. I experienced many firsts, including messing myself, getting my first trest diapers (amazing!), wearing comfortably around friends, and even bedwetting. I certainly felt my capacity to hold my bladder beginning to slip a little. The feeling of any pressure was becoming a total nuisance, and triggered an overwhelming urge to let go.

So what happened?

Well... It basically just came down to Logistics. A friend suddenly asked to come and stay with me, and with myself feeling a little shy I wound up having to hide all of my diaper stuff and buy myself underwear again. I was also beginning to feel a little tired of the constant wearing-- less the wearing part, actually, but more that some of the diapers I had bought were simply not thick enough to keep up and would leak fairly often. In the end I had to end the challenge after only two weeks.

However, before that, there was one very exciting (and slightly concerning!) incident that I want to share. One night, I woke up and felt my bladder full, so released as I had been doing so for the last couple of weeks. It was only for a few seconds before I realised that I was not wearing diapers at all, and had chosen to wear underwear purchasing a pair that day– I had had a genuine accident where I was so used to wearing diapers that I'd pissed myself unknowingly. What followed was an embarrassing effort to strip my bed, hang my clothes out, put on a diaper, and sleep while avoiding the wet spot on my mattress. I took my sheets to the laundromat the next day.

It was such an amazing combination of fear and excitement that this kind of 'slip-up' could happen after only two weeks– especially as bedwetting habits are notorious for their permanence in the untraining community. However, this incident did make me reflect and decide that I'm not quite willing to develop such a habit... yet. Who knows what I find myself up to in the future.

Anyway, so sorry to disappoint anyone hoping to see me last the month. I really wanted to make it to the end as well, but the fact is that life is messy (no pun intended) and unexpected things occur (hey!).

[fly4adiaperguy]

[247untrainingdpadikt]

Tips on staying Committed to Diaper Dependency.

One thing I struggled with was the small moments where inconvenience and laziness made me break my streak and commitment. This created a lot of dysphoria and guilt, and I have not read a lot about this topic besides the very useful from members in our community such as @kalikalahansa @serah-in-diapers , and BlakeJordan on DD. I wanted to contribute a tiny piece from my own experience. I hope some of the following scenarios will help encourage you to not falter in these moments.

This path isn’t just about physical change—it’s about rethinking who you are and how you see yourself.

You’ve got to start imagining yourself as someone who is incontinent, not just someone who might be someday. It’s a shift in identity, a way of letting go of the old you who clings to control . This mental leap is everything.

And I would also like to add, as mentioned by others before, that you sort of have an ethical obligation to yourself to never, ever hold back. I know that sounds dramatic but holding back isn’t just a delay tactic, t’s a betrayal of your values. If you want to be truly incontinent you can’t flirt with restraint. That hesitation and clenching is a step toward exhibitionism—a performative act where you’re more focused on controlling the narrative for others than living your truth. Incontinence isn’t about showing off or proving a point; it’s about surrender. So, commit to this fully. Let go every time, no matter what. This won’t always feel easy, but it has been the only way forward for me. The following are some scenarios that helped me get through the social aspects of being 247.

FIrst, as stated earlier and by many others, you have to internalize these facts:

I am incontinent now. I don’t have a choice. I simply let go, no matter what."

“Diapers are the way I manage my incontinence, not something I wear for fun.”

“I don’t hold back, even when it’s hard. I simply can't”

I wanted to expand on the details on the behaviors as a consequence to these realities as they come up on your journey.

Having rehearsed these events in your mind (many of which will definitely happen if you are truly committed), you will better be able to handle the inevitable stress that it can bring, especially if you are new or are prone to the "binge purge" cycle that I have personally struggled with for many years. These are just some that I came up with, please let me know your thoughts, I would love to hear what you think.

Scenario: Roommates/Friends - living room hangout, no diaper, urge Hits

Situation: You’re on the couch with two roommates, with no diaper—you didn’t change after a leak earlier because you were too exhausted from a long day of classes/work. You're not thinking about your training at all, then you feel a need to go.

Internal Thoughts: “Oh no, not now—they’re right here. I don’t want to wet myself—they’ll hear it, see it. I’m scared they’ll think I’m gross and bail on me. I’m so tired, but I can’t just skip this—it’s not optional.”

Self-Talk (Pushing Through): “Incontinent people don’t get to wait—I don’t either. I can’t control my bladder—it doesn’t matter where or who’s around, I let go. I’m not flashing it—I have no choice anymore. Just stay present and don't think, I know what I need to do. Everything will be okay.”

Resistance Feelings: “I don’t want to—they’ll notice and hate me. I’ll try later.” Counter: “That’s the old lie talking—I’m incontinent now. I can’t choose. Just relax, its simple, just do it.”

Steps:

Pause internally. Think: “This isn’t up to me—it just happens.” Take a slow breath, let your hands relax —don’t tense up.

Force the release. Relax your pelvis—sink into the couch. If it’s stuck, bear down gently, shift your hips slightly. “I can’t stop it—let it out. You’ve got this.” If it stings in the urethra, tilt forward—flood soaks the sweats fast.

Feel it happen. Warmth spreads, gray darkens—“There it goes, automatic like it’s meant to be. Focus—stay in the game.” Continue with what you were doing.

Roommate Notices (Two Paths):

Subtle Ask: One glances over: “Hey, your sweats—are they wet?” Your throat tightens: “Uh, yeah, knocked my water bottle over a bit ago—didn’t notice it soaked in.” “Keep it low-key—they don’t need more.” Say: “Sorry, I’ll grab a towel"

Direct Confrontation: One pauses: “Wait, did you just pee?” Your heart races: “Yeah, uh, I’ve got a medical condition, I'm incontinent. I can’t control it, I'm sorry I didn't tell you earlier.” “They pushed—I’m straight with it.” Add: “I’ll clean it up—give me a sec, okay?” Stand carefully, head to your room.

Clean up. Grab a towel, wipe the couch if it’s damp, swap sweats. “I let go. Good job, I’m handling it. You’re okay.”

Post-Action: “That was tough but you did what you needed to do, and that should be commended. They’re still here—it’s not so bad. What do I want to do that’s fun today?”

Friends - Café Chat, Diaper Leaks

Situation: At a campus café with three friends, mid-afternoon, diaper under jeans—it’s been a hectic day, and the diaper’s already full from a leak during a lecture, now seeping onto your thighs while they chat about weekend plans.

Internal Thoughts: “Damn it, it’s leaking—I can feel it spreading. They’ll see the wet spot—I don’t want this now. I’m scared they’ll laugh or stop texting me. I’m wiped out, but I can’t stop letting go.”

Self-Talk (Pushing Through): “Incontinent people don’t get to wait—I don’t either. I can’t control it—anywhere, anytime, I let go. This is normal. You’re strong for this—keep it up.”

Resistance Feelings: “I don’t want to—they’ll see it. I’m too tired for this.” Counter: “That’s the false belief—I’m incontinent now. Release it—you’re doing great, it’s okay.”

Steps:

Steady yourself. “This isn’t my call.” Sip your coffee—keep your legs close together.

Force the release. Another urge? Relax—shift forward a bit, press your lower belly if it’s slow. “I can’t hold—let it out. You’ve got this.” Wetness grows—jeans darken more.

Stay in it. Nod at their story—“It’s normal, just listen.” Rest your hands on the table, steady.

Friend Notices (Two Paths):

Subtle Ask: One squints: “Hey, your jeans look wet—what’s that?” Your voice wavers: “Oh, uh, the chair was wet when I sat—didn’t catch it till now.” “Deflect—they don’t need it all.” Say: “Sorry, I’ll grab some napkins,” head to the counter.

Direct Confrontation: One leans in: “Is that pee?” You swallow: “Yeah, uh, I’ve got a medical condition—incontinence. I can’t control it. Sorry about that.” “They asked—I tell it straight.” “I’ll step out and deal—be back in a minute.”

Exit. Finish your drink: “Gotta run—see you later.” Bag over your lap, slow walk out. “I let go—I’m managing it.”

Post-Action: “That was hard but you handled it well, good job. You’re okay—it wasn’t so bad. What’s something fun to do later?”

Family - Visiting/Hanging out, Messing Urge

Situation: Parents visiting, talking, you’re in shorts, no diaper—your last one leaked during lunch, and you didn’t have time to grab more from your drawer. Bowels churn—loose and urgent.

Internal Thoughts: “Not now—I don’t want this with them here. They’ll smell it—I’m scared they’ll freak or treat me different. I’m so done today, but I can’t wait—it’s not up to me.”

Self-Talk (Pushing Through): “Incontinent people don’t get to wait—I don’t either. I can’t control it—anytime, anywhere, I let go. I’m not blasting it—just being me. You’re doing the right thing—keep going.”

Resistance Feelings: “I don’t want to—they’ll judge me. I’ll hold off.” Counter: “That’s the old lie—I’m incontinent now. You simply don't have a say in this anymore, just relax and release, think of nothing else, you’re okay, it’s fine.”

Steps:

Settle in. “This isn’t optional.” Sit on your desk chair—don’t clench your gut.

Force the mess. Relax—bear down a little, shift if it’s stuck. “I can’t stop—let it go. You’ve got this.” It fills your shorts—warm, sticky.

Stay present. Nod at their story—“It’s automatic—focus on them.” Keep your hands loose.

Parent Notices (Two Paths):

Subtle Ask: One sniffs: “What’s that smell?” You: “Ugh, yeah, trash’s been sitting—sorry, it’s gross.” “Cover it—they don’t need more.” Say: “I’ll take it out in a sec,” stand carefully.

Direct Confrontation: One frowns: “Did something happen?” Your chest tightens: “Yeah, uh, I’ve got a medical condition—incontinence. I can’t control it. Sorry about that.” “They see—I own it.” “I’ll clean up—give me a minute.”

Handle it. “Be right back,” head to bathroom—wipe down, new shorts. “I let go—I’m on it.”

Post-Action: “That was hard but I did the right thing—this is only ethically permissible if I’m truly committed to being incontinent, not just when convenient. I’m okay now.”

Party/Hangout/Coworkers, Diaper Leaks on Floor

Situation: Multiple people, You’re in jeans with a diaper—overloaded from not changing since afternoon setup. It leaks down your leg onto the tile while you’re pouring drinks.

Internal Thoughts: “Oh no—it’s dripping now. They’ll see—I don’t want this. I’m scared they’ll call me out or ditch the party. I’m beat from today, but I can’t stop—it’s not a choice.”

Self-Talk (Pushing Through): “Incontinent people don’t get to wait—I don’t either. I can’t control it—anywhere, anytime, I let go. I’m not showing off—just staying real. You’re doing great—keep it up.”

Resistance Feelings: “I don’t want to—they’ll notice. I’ll skip it.” Counter: “That’s the false belief—I’m incontinent now. Release it—don't think, it’s okay.”

Steps:

Ground yourself. “This happens—I don’t pick it.” Stand steady—don’t shift too much.

Force more. Urge again? Push down—rock your hips slightly. “I can’t hold—let it out. You’ve got this.” Wetness pools—puddle spreads.

Stay in it.“It’s normal—keep going.”

Friend/person Notices (Two Paths):

Subtle Ask: One points: “What’s that on the floor?” You: “Oh crap, uh, spilled some soda when I grabbed it—my fault.” “Deflect—they don’t need it.” Say: “Sorry, I’ll wipe it up,” grab a rag.

Direct Confrontation: One stares: “Is that from you?” You: “Yeah, uh, I’ve got a medical condition—incontinence. I can’t control it. Sorry about the mess.” “They asked—I tell.” “I’ll clean it—hang on a sec.”

Fix it. Wipe the spot, change later. “I let go—I’ve got it.”

Post-Action: “That was tough but you handled it well, good job. You’re okay—that wasn’t so bad.”

Friends - Walk, No Diaper, Double Hit

Situation: Walking with others, about to leak, or no diaper —forgot to restock after gym because you rushed out of the locker room. Bladder and bowels hit hard—simultaneous, urgent.

Internal Thoughts: “Both at once—I don’t want this here. They’ll see, smell—I’m terrified they’ll walk away. I’m so drained today, but I can’t wait—it’s not up to me.”

Self-Talk (Pushing Through): “Incontinent people don’t get to wait—I don’t either. I can’t control it—Never hold back, its simple. I’m not flaunting— It's not up to me, You’re strong—you can get through this.”

Resistance Feelings: “I don’t want to—they’ll hate me. I’ll try later.” Counter: “That’s the old lie—I’m incontinent now. This is not up to me, I'm releasing, stay in the present, relax, everything will be okay.”

Steps:

Accept it. “I don’t decide this.” Relax everything—don’t clench anything.

Force it out. Push bladder and bowels—shift your step if it’s stuck. “I can’t stop—let it go. You’ve got this.” Pee floods down, mess weighs your jeans.

Keep moving. Match their pace—“It’s automatic—stay with them.” Ask about their day.

Friend Notices (Two Paths):

Subtle Ask: One says: “Hey, your jeans—what’s going on?” You: “Ugh, uh, stepped in a puddle back there—didn’t dodge it.” “Cover—they don’t need more.” Say: “Sorry, I’ll split soon.”

Direct Confrontation: One stops: “Did you just—?” You: “Yeah, uh, I’ve got a medical condition—incontinence. I can’t control it. Sorry about that.” “They see—I say it.” “I’ll detour—catch you later.”

Break off. “Gotta run—see you in class.” “I let go—I’m handling it.”

Post-Action: “That was hard but I did the right thing—this is only ethically permissible if I’m truly committed to being incontinent, not just when convenient. I’m okay now.”

[doggers05]

Not all puppies are house broken.

[covered-up-bondage]

[adultbabystories]

You found yourself in that dark room, again, for the third night in a row. It’s been the third day since you got to the man’s house. The man who told you about his need for total control, primal control. The man who got you so interested, you decided to meet him at his house.

Toys? Diapers? PJs? A nursery? A crib?

He wanted to be a daddy, a dad, a father, a strict father. He wanted to discipline a grown man into submission. Discipline so intense, you’ll wet yourself from the fear of not obeying. You’ll need a pacifier to calm yourself down. In front of him, you’ll be broken. 

You agreed to get into the crib, and now it’s your third night. If time with your new father was intense, your crib time was the subdued time. After being punished, spanked, scolded, and broken down, crib time was when everything went quiet, the lights were shut off, and only the small screen came on.

You ignored the screen on the first night. But it got your attention on the second night. On the third night, the screen became your escapement, your tranquility.

The colors were soft, and the voices were soothing. The teddy bears and animals were nice to you. Encouraging you to be a happy baby. When father was degrading, the screen was building.  When your father was hurting your bum cheeks, the voices told you how nice the diaper felt. When your father used your mouth, the dancing bears sang how relaxing your pacifier was.

There was that silly video, “The Wet Boy” song. On the first night, you barely heard it. On the second night, you tried to hold it. On the third, you couldn’t make it, and wet yourself in the middle of the song.

When the sleepy lullaby began, weird shapes appeared on the screen. You curled into a nice position, sucking your pacifier, drifting to sleep.

Father knew that tomorrow, there would not be much to break anymore. Another man will be reduced to a baby by the special program he invented. 

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@dprboy4daddy is getting ready for another dark night.

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Just A Month (JAM) #1 - One week in

It's already been a week! I think this makes it the longest I've spent 24/7. I certainly feel a level of normalisation and comfort to being in diapers. I've become used to carrying a kit with changes, as well as performing those changes in public bathrooms. I've found that a velcro waterproof cover has been doing wonders for my security with knowing things won't get leaky.

There have been a couple of instances where I've gone with a pullup around friends, and I've definitely felt frustration at not being able to just empty my bladder at will in those times. Likewise, I've had to use the toilet on a couple of occasions to ration the absorbency of those pullups, and have found that the volume of urine producing the feeling of urgency is often surprisingly little when voided.

That said, I'm getting less shy about messing. There have been a couple incidents where I've gotten up to use the bathroom and found myself, for whatever reason, just pushing it out on the way there. Cleanup is becoming more of a non-event as well.

I am definitely enjoying the way things are going!

[fairiesthesecond]

She’s finally finished with her meeting and rolls her chair back from her desk. He hears her soft footsteps coming over to his corner but doesn’t take his eyes off his book.

“Are you all finished?” She kneels down behind him, folded legs on either side of him, and reaches around to gently press her hand against the front of his diaper through his pants.

He gets squirmy, still trying to pretend that he’s reading even as he rocks from side to side.

“You don’t need to get shy. It’s just me. Did you finish going in your diaper? Can we get you back in undies now?”

“Nobody heard on your meeting, right? When I didn’t know you weren’t muted at first and I said ‘Mom, I need…’”

“No, buddy. I don’t think anybody heard you tell me you needed me to help you put a diaper on so you could poop.”

He puts his face in his hands and she stands up. “Come on, you can get up. You don’t need to be embarrassed.”

He pouts as she pulls him to his feet and away from his book.

“And you don’t need to whine. You’re almost all the way big, remember? You don’t need to whine or carry on. You even wear underwear most of the time now. You just need to use diapers for pooping still and we’re working on that.”

She doesn’t bring up the fact that he needs “lap time” every evening and usually sucks his thumb while he sits on her lap with his bedtime pull-up on, or that he calls her Mom or Mommy all the time, or that he eats off of sectioned plates and something spills cereal and goldfish crackers on the floor, or that he had a big accident in his pants last week, or that he leaks in bed sometimes, or that…

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Apoptosis

They say that it takes only three to four weeks for every one of your outer skin cells to be replaced. For your blood, the process takes around four months. Pancreas cells are replaced every fifty days, and Liver cells take about one hundred and fifty. The common belief is that over the course of seven to ten years, the matter that your body consists of has been completely replaced, your former self existing only as a memory in your head. In other words, your current body has only existed for that long.

You look into the mirror as you think about that fact. It had been a slow, then fast, then unrecoverable descent along the slippery slope. It had been the slowness of the process that had made it so effective, the gradual changes too subtle to notice until too late. There had been an attempt to undo your actions. Then another. Then a surrender to gravity. Now, it was ten years later. Perhaps you would have been able to make some kind of metaphysical argument that the consequences of your actions were temporary. Not even that was the case any more. Your body — the current one, without matter in common to your previous one— had known only incontinence for its entire existence.

This was a kind of permanence you hadn’t expected to encounter. Until now, you’d thought you’d experienced every possible kind. The beginnings of the first had been when, after five or six months of nightly wear alongside copious hydration and active hypnosis, you had managed to sleep through the night and awake to find your diaper wet. It had taken another five or six months from that point before the majority of nights were damp, and a tentative week in underwear on plastic sheets had proven reversal would be an uphill, unhygienic battle. Better just to leave things be — you had already grown used to the way it was, and you were still naive about the realities of how reversible the changes would be. You would get to it later.

The next in the chain of events had been the dark spot on your jeans — the moment you’d realised that, surprisingly, spending hours every day leaving an important muscle relaxed would cause it to weaken. Diapers had been a comforting habit during the daytime, but you’d decided to give yourself a break. All you had accomplished was proving that that was no longer an option. You had tried, of course, to change direction there and then, but after a month or two found that all you’d achieved was some public embarrassment and a lot of laundry.

It was a year or so later that, having pretty much made your peace the whims of an increasingly independent bladder, that you had messed yourself unwillingly. This one still makes you cringe a little, but you were deeply thankful that you’d been diapered at the time. This was how you’d learnt that there was really no hope of a return to underwear, despite everything else: Dampness you could abide by, even if managed by a constant exchange of pads and shields in your imaginary escape from full-time diapering. But that would be impossible, foolish even, if you’d simply fill your pants at the slightest irritation of your stomach. 

And then of course had been the eventual disclosure to your friends, family, and employer. You’d made it seem medical, which was half-true: your muscles really had eroded enough to the point of incontinence, regardless of how they’d wound up that way.

You looked in the mirror, really looking yourself over and considering the course of things that you’d come to accept as a natural and unavoidable. Of course, you’d done it to yourself. A deadly combination of Naiveté, comfort, habit, and embarrassment had locked you into the path. There had really been plenty of opportunities to stop and turn around, but at every one you’d chosen to simply surrender to the pull of gravity until it was too late– you’d slipped past the event horizon. And now there was nothing recognisable of your former self– even the memories of continence were fading, becoming alien, un-you. This was the rest of your life.

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Just A Month (JAM) #0.5 — Change of Plans

So… I made a mistake.

A few days ago, while ordering supplies to get ready for the challenge, I purchased @hypnocatabdl ‘s “The Incontinence Spiral” hypnosis session. I hadn’t intended to start the challenge until the first of the month, but let’s just say my curiosity got the better of me and I gave it a listen. I shouldn’t have done that.

Unbeknownst to me, the file comes with a catch to make sure you stay diapered: the moment you put on a pair of underwear, you will become progressively desperate to wet and mess yourself until you have an accident. Likewise, you’ll be unable to make it to the bathroom as the sight of a toilet causes an instant accident before you can take your trousers off. I was in a diaper when listening to the file, and for safety’s sake I’ve been too worried about having an accident in underwear to wear any since then. That means I’ve been 24/7 since Friday night, four days earlier than my intended start of the challenge.

Something I’d imagined becoming a hinderance to the challenge was the prospect of wearing in front of friends, which is why I’d carved out the allowance for three pairs of underwear. The weekend after Friday’s hypnosis, I’d been scheduled for two picnics with friends… I wound up going diapered to both. And guess what— to my knowledge, nobody noticed. You can say that this has been pretty effective exposure therapy, since the thing I thought would keep me out of diapers wound up to be a moot force.

Likewise… I’ve, um… messed myself fully for the first time today. Previously, I’ve been to shy to go further than slightly staining the rear of my diaper, making it unsuitable as a long term thing since I’d always get uncomfortable constipation during an extended period 24/7. I have to say, it felt pretty good… and cleanup wasn’t as dramatic as I’d imagined. Since Friday, I’ve been listening to the file daily, not thinking it was having much effect. Looks like I was pretty wrong about that.

I guess I don’t really need those underwear after all, right? Which means… I’ve gone ahead and cut them all up.

This is seriously a moment I’ve been dreaming of for years.

As of right now, I don’t own any underwear. I’m in diapers for the foreseeable future and I can’t back out.

It’s hard to describe what a thrill it is to write those words. It’s looking like things are going stronger than I’d anticipated to begin with, the thought of which really makes me blush. Stay tuned to see how things go… this might just get a little out of hand.

[diaperdiscipline-deactivated202]

Making the decision for them

The biggest mental health issue we see when speaking with ABDL’s and littles is the shame/desire cycle with regard to wearing & using diapers. This is especially pronounced when they believe they’d be happier if in diapers all the time but have struggled to make it work.

Feelings of shame often are the catalyst which temporarily kills ABDL desires only for them to return stronger than ever a few hours or days later. This leaves your partner feeling both guilty about not committing to what they know would be good for them and guilty for having the desire to start with.

The good news is them having a supportive partner is the biggest advantage possible and you as their partner have the ability to transform their lives for the better.

Ask yourself if the following are true:

- They seem to be happier and/or less stressed & anxious when diapered

- They’re wearing diapers several times a week and often for multi-day periods

- They’re comfortable using them for #1 & #2

- They’ve worn in different public situations

- They’ve mentioned a desire to be 24/7 before

- They may have even tried 24/7 for a period before.

- You are comfortable with them wearing and using diapers

- You are willing to make some changes to your life if it makes them happier

- You are willing to be involved in their diaper wearing

- You can afford $200+ a month for their diaper supplies

If you answered yes to them all, using diaper discipline to “force” them into the situation they actually want can be extremely beneficial.

We have talked about many ways to use diaper discipline and although this may feel like one of the more extreme options it has proven to be very effective for couples we’ve spoken to and to us directly.

So what are we suggesting? Well in short, you return your partner to diapers full time and stop this negative cycle for good. Think of this more as an intervention than a discussion.

Yes this will be hard at first and there will be times they resist but I guarantee if you stick to it the positive results will speak for themselves.

For this approach I don’t recommend any half measures as this leads to gaps which can cause you and them to waiver and lead to the collapse of the benefits.

So if you’re willing and ready to take on some challenges to help your partner what should you do?

First decide a date from which this will start.

This should be 1-2 weeks away to give you time to prepare and the absolute ideal would be if they’re away for a day or two immediately prior to this date.

Second is to get yourself fully comfortable with the rules you’ll be setting out for them.

These are:

1. They will be diapered 24/7

2. The only exception to this is at work and with friends and family where they can wear pull ups but otherwise they’ll be in high absorbency medical or ABDL diapers.

3. When in diapers the toilet will be fully out of bounds, including at home, in public and on vacation.

4. They should now be treated as having bladder and bowel incontinence.

5. This isn’t a short term change and will likely be permanent.

Also decide on these three rules which we highly recommend but are optional:

- At home all checks and changes will be carried out by me.

- All diapers must be worn until full or have been messy for over an hour.

- At home diapers aren’t to be hidden and should be either be fully exposed or obvious through ABDL clothing.

Third, prepare for the change:

- Make sure you have a good stock of diapers for them.

- I’d recommend having around 200 in stock with a mix of high quality but thinner medical diapers (e.g. Tena Slip Ultima), thick medical diapers (e.g. Megamax) and ABDL themed diapers.

- Gather diaper changing essentials including adult sized wipes, powder, barrier cream, disposable gloves & disposable changing mats (bedwetting mats are perfect)

- To help things along get a stock of suppositories, mini-enemas, laxative tablets, fibre supplements and I’d also recommend devrom to be used to reduce smells.

- Buy some ABDL clothing essentials if they don’t already have them:

- A couple plain onesies to be used in public

- A couple of ABDL onesies for at home and nighttime

- A few ABDL outfits for use at home for example a romper, play dress & baby style tshirts

- Create a dedicated diaper changing room for them including at a minimum:

- A changing table. Ideally this would be built but a dedicated bed with a changing mat can work ok as well.

- A diaper pail (try buy a big one as otherwise you’ll be emptying it daily)

- Shelving / storage for their diapers and other supplies where they’re not hidden.

- A good air freshener or air purifier

- Having a full day or two to prepare can be extremely helpful if you can time it to be around them being out of the house

- This is optional but some light restraints can be fun and a big help, primarily:

- Wrist and ankle restraints on the changing table

- A locking diaper cover

- Padded mittens

- Straightjacketshop is our favorite for these

The big day

This day is going to change both of your lives for the better. Make sure you have everything ready for when they come home. In preparation also do the final step to commit to this and throw away all of their underwear.

Upon arriving home tell them you have a surprise for them leading them up to the diaper changing area. Help them strip down and importantly dispose of their underwear into the diaper pail before getting the to lie down on the changing table. Attaching the wrist restraints are a good idea at this stage if you’ve opted for them.

It’s likely they will actually be excited at this point with this development so don’t expect much resistance.

Diaper them into a thick ABDL diaper before telling them what you’ve decided. It’s best to give the background to your decision and focus on how you think this will be best for them and how you know deep down this is what they want.

Next, run through the rules slowly and a standout moment for me was reinforcing these to him by saying that this meant he’d be never using the toilet in our house again. This will be a lot to take in, and expect them try negotiate some changes to the rules but you should stay firm on all the major points.

Once they’ve calmed down from the excitement and nervousness of it all, dress them in ABDL clothes and try have the best possible evening. Cook their favorite meal, watch their favorite film, etc and keep them relaxed.

Likely more questions and worries will come up but you can normally handle these easily.

The question you will certainly get is “How long will this last for” and it’s important for both of you to accept that this isn’t a game or short term experiment but a permanent change. It’s very important you highlight this but you can provide a review period after a significant period of time.

I would recommend having a review after 6 months and decide if it should continue. 6 months is a good time period as it’s long enough to get through the initial challenges and far enough away to prevent them/you just waiting it out while not accepting the new reality.

First week

The first week is going to be a big adjustment as they realize you’re serious and you both get used to this new world.

As part of proving this isn’t a temporary thing get them to try on all their clothes while thickly diapered and get rid of all which no longer fit well. Follow this up with a shopping trip to replenish their wardrobe with clothing for public wear.

Make sure their diaper area is completely hair free, we find hair removal cream works wonders.

You should also use this week to ensure they know the rules are serious. I’d recommend using a suppository or laxative twice to ensure they fill their diaper and try make one of these be while around you.

Provide huge amounts of encouragement and praise all week. And reenforce that this is going to be great for them and you both.

Keep their diaper exposed at home or covered only by ABDL clothing, there should be no opportunity for them to not be wearing their diaper.

Finally try be as involved as possible in diaper checks and changes.

First month

With the first month try and get into the routine as much as possible and tick off different wearing and usage scenarios. Have meals out with them diapered, go on a day trip with a diaper bag packed, etc.

Continue to provide as much encouragement as possible and continue to check and change their diapers at home when you can.

You should also introduce daily fibre supplements for them as these are good for bowel health, can be used long term and although they will increase the volume of their bm’s it actually helps reduce the smell. Reducing red meats and fatty foods also helps keep the smell down.

This is also the perfect time to experiment with different diapers to see which are best for different scenarios. Try extending how long you keep them in the same diaper before changing to get familiar with their capacities. Expect several diaper leaks during this process and never punish them for these. A waterproof cover on your bed is a good idea.

Second month

Now you’re 30 days in you should be both used to the new situation and they should be now accepting this isn’t a short term change.

This month you should encourage them to begin diaper training and form a bedwetting habit. When diapered they shouldn’t be holding so check their diaper 30 minutes after a change and tell them off if it’s not already slightly wet.

Every night make sure they have 1-2 large glasses of water before bed and tell them you expect them to be wet in the morning. This process will take a few months but if you encourage them to relax and let go in bed and add punishments if you wake up in the morning and find them dry.

Finally you want them to become comfortable using their diaper fully even when out of the house. Have a day trip where they’ll be using their diapers a lot

Third month

This is the perfect time to go on a vacation together so if you’re able to, book a 1-2 week vacation. As they’ll not be around friends or family this whole period should be in diapers only from leaving your house to returning. When going through airport security a dry diaper is recommended to avoid setting off the scanners.

A vacation is a great time to get them even more comfortable with their diapers in public as they won’t be worried about meeting people they know. Experiment with them wearing thicker diapers than normal especially if you’re going on a longer day trip.

Also remember you should be treating them as if they’re fully incontinent so this means swim diapers are a must. If you have your own pool then I recommend using an ABDL swim diaper but also take a discreet adult swim diaper option for use in public.

A vacation is also the perfect time for you to take 100% control of their diapering. Even if you’re not doing this at home I’d recommend you doing all their diaper checks and changes for the whole period and make it clear they can’t ask for a change.

Do not make any exceptions for toilet usage and if you have a day where a messy accident would be very inconvenient use a suppository in the morning or some ducolax tablet the evening before to ensure they’re emptied out prior to the day’s activities.

Forth month

They’ll pass 100 days diapered this month so make sure to celebrate and congratulate them on the achievement.

You both might still be a bit shy about messy diapers at this stage and now is the right time to try change that. If you’ve noticed they hide away from you when messy tell them this and that messy diapers are normal and not something you expect to change your activities together.

If you’re not checking and changing all their diapers already at least start a rule that they must ask permission to change. When they ask, conduct a complete diaper check where it’s fully exposed and either pull back the rear waistband or use your hand on the back of the diaper to check for messy accidents. The other key thing is don’t always give permission, for example if it’s just messy and still has capacity tell them that it looks like it can hold more and to come back in an hour.

To help them get used to messing in your presence force the situation:

- Give them a suppository before settling down for a movie and don’t allow them to getup or change until it’s finished.

- Make them take 2 ducolax tablets in the evening which will result in them messing overnight.

- Use a suppository before a drive or trip to go shopping


Finally, they shouldn’t be associating a messy diaper with an instant change. It’s important that the state of their diaper doesn’t influence your activities too much. Once they’ve messed try continue your plans for an hour or two until there is a convenient time to change him / let him change. For example if he messes in the early evening, his change can wait until after you’ve eaten dinner together. Devrom and plastic pants really reduces the smell.

Fifth Month

Their diapered life will be feeling very normal now.

Now may be a good time to experiment with swapping out pull ups for thin diapers for work, friends & family. I’d recommend maybe a cloth backed option so they’re completely silent to build up their confidence. Make sure to give lots of reassurance that it is discrete.

Sixth Month

This is the review month so make sure to have a conversation about how they’re finding things. I’m sure you’ll both agree it’s been positive and will want to continue.

Avoid reducing the rules at all and I’d recommend now is the time to commit to them being diapered fully and phase out the pull ups completely.

I think it’s worth calling out to them that this means you’re committing them to diapers permanently. Now is a good time for you to increase your involvement to be checking and changing all their diapers at home.

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This post ended up longer than we expected but hopefully it’s will be useful to you as a partner of an ABDL. As always my DM’s are open and I’m happy to chat with anyone who is thinking about this for their partner and wants some advice.

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Just a Month (JAM) #0

So...

I moved house recently and suddenly have a fair deal more privacy and autonomy than I did before. Likewise, April is typically one of my least favourite months, so doing something fun for its duration would make it a lot better. I've had a long-running interest in untraining, but the longest I've gone 24/7 was roughly one week before losing steam. I've been thinking a lot about my psychology and making myself the best environment I can for my goals on other projects, and finding out a lot about what works for me.

All this to say... I've decided to go 24/7 and actively untrain for the next month. At the end, I can go back to underwear. Just a month couldn't hurt my control that much... right?

Psychology

How will I stop myself from backing out this time?

Three ways: Leeway, Circumstance, and a deadline. Previously, I've been prevented by being too much of a hard-liner, taking the first return to underwear as a mark of failure. I've learnt that that kind of absolutism only scuppers a habit-forming goal, so I'll need to both discourage underwear usage and build a certain amount into the system.

On April 1st, I will be taking my fabric shears and destroying all but three pairs of my underwear. For the next month, those pairs will be the only ones I can use, but after the day that I choose to wear them I must destroy them too. This means that each time I choose to wear underwear, I'll be consuming an opportunity in which I might need them later in the month.

Further– I'll purchase some pads that must be worn under them, so the 'kayfabe' of having control issues doesn't disappear. (Depending on how things go, they could be useful once the challenge is over as well).

Once the challenge is over, I will purchase a new set of underwear. This is another way the challenge remains 'sticky' – if I want to back out, I'll need to pay up and wait a few days for delivery.

How will I untrain?

Let's use myself as a guinea pig to test how effective 'permanent' hypnosis really is. Every day, I'll listen to @hypnocatabdl 's 90-minute Incontinence Spiral file, which is supposedly maximally effective at 30 days. Once the month is over, we'll find out whether my accidents have become genuine or not. I'll hold on to some pads just in case – I might be needing them.

Otherwise, I'll keep well hydrated, carry changes, cream, and trash bags with me, and try to wet the moment I feel the urge.

Keeping Track

I'll keep myself accountable by updating this blog with entries on the process every week. Likewise, I'll perform a quantitative test once the month is over, timing the difference in time between drinking a glass of water and being forced to use the bathroom or risk leaking. This will be a good indicator of my bladder's volume reduction and habituation, if any changes do occur after a month. Testing currently with an empty bladder followed by a tall glass of water my ability to hold is a maximum of 2 hours 37 mins.

Predictions

Consider this an experiment on how effective a single month of untraining can be. Even if the psychological effects are minimal, I'll discover what effect a month of habituation will have on my lasting toilet habits.

At minimum, I'll go back to normal with no change. At a mid level of effect, my bladder will shrink and muscles weaken, and I'll need to use the bathroom more regularly. At a high level of effect, I'll be at risk of wetting myself on a daily basis, and need to retrain. And that's not to mention the potential psychological effects of daily hypnosis, habituation, and desensitization.

Just a month couldn't hurt that much... Right?

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The Timer Method: a simple technique for Untraining, backed by real psychology

I have developed an incredibly effective technique to encourage and enforce simulated (and eventually functional) incontinence. I am only two hours into trying the method, and I've already found myself wetting without thinking every five to ten minutes. The best part is that it's something you can do anywhere, and all you need is your phone's timer.

If you're already familiar with the biology of incontinence, the typical wisdom around effective processes of untraining, and the psychology behind Operant Conditioning, feel free to skip to Section 4, which describes the technique. You'll get a stronger picture of what makes it so effective if you read the whole post, however. ;-)

Here is how it works:

1. What incontinence looks like

To properly understand this technique, let's recap on what urinary incontinence actually is. There are several types of incontinence: Overflow, Stress, Functional, and Urge.

Overflow: Caused by nerve damage or an enlarged prostate, the bladder dribbles constantly as the bladder is unable to drain in one go.

Stress: Caused by a weak pelvic floor or damaged sphincter, urine escapes the bladder during physical exertion such as coughing, sneezing, laughing, or exercising.

Functional: While no physical condition causes leakage, this type describes the inability to make it to the bathroom in time due to reasons such as mobility issues, cognitive disabilities, or arthritis, forcing them to urinate before they can get to a bathroom.

Urge: Urination is caused by a strong urge from the bladder, typically due to overactive detrusor muscles.

2. What Untraining looks like

Here's the thing: while overflow and stress incontinence are caused by physical degradation/malformation of muscles related to toileting, Functional and Urge incontinence can be simulated simply through behaviour.

For someone with urge incontinence, the sensation of needing to urinate is intense and unavoidable, but we can imitate this just by urinating the moment we feel the need to.

Likewise, seeing as Functional incontinence simply means 'not making it to the bathroom on time', you can already simulate this by wearing diapers and using them.

By repeating these two behaviours long enough, they will become psychologically normalised and reinforced into reflex and muscle memory. What you are trying to do is break the hold -> release pattern ingrained during potty training, and slowly shift it into an urge -> release pattern that can occur subconsciously. As this happens, urge incontinence becomes genuine, the command to urinate too strongly associated with the action voiding to postpone for long.

Eventually, urination becomes an automatic non-event, and as with any muscles, the system responsible for keeping the bladder closed will weaken and atrophy. This is when Stress incontinence starts to take hold.

So all we need is to wear and use diapers on a regular basis? Nothing revolutionary. However, this process is often a conscious effort, which is what we want to discourage. Simply leaving it up to ourselves can mean we lose track of our goal and slide back into holding our bladder until we remember to void.

To strengthen the process and make it unconscious– and eventually, involuntary– we can use one of the most powerful tricks in psychology: Operant conditioning.

3. Operant Conditioning

Put simply, Operant Conditioning refers to the process by which reward and punishment act as reinforcement in the training and maintenance of a behaviour.

What we have been conditioned to accept during potty training is that holding our bladder is the desired behaviour, with wetting ourselves reinforced as a negative stimulus. To counteract this, we simply need to flip the wires, with automatic wetting as the desired behaviour, and holding our bladder as an undesirable outcome.

Seeing as holding your bladder does not come with its the same repercussions that wetting your pants does, it has to become associated with a negative stimulus, i.e. "If I hold, something bad will happen". Likewise, the desired behaviour must allow us to avoid that punishment. Here is a flowchart from Wikipedia:

The brain is a machine that seeks convenience and avoids effort or pain. Often, when doing something new, we need to force it to exert effort until it learns that the new behaviour is not nearly as painful or effortful as it had imagined. This is especially effective if we can make the old behaviour desirable to avoid, with the new behaviour allowing us to do so.

An optimally efficient technique for conditioning untraining would utilise all four types of reinforcement and punishment, but we can get by simply with a small, repeatable punishment and the desire to avoid it.

This is where the Timer Method comes in:

4. The Timer Method

The difficulty with conditioning yourself using a punishment for undesirable behaviour is that it requires discipline to enact that punishment, especially at times when it is inconvenient or just too undesirable to do so. This means that a harsh punishment is actually less effective with regards to discipline than a small one.

What we need is something we can set in motion that will cause the punishment without any action on our end, with the desired behaviour allowing us to actively postpone the punishment (Negative reinforcement through Active Avoidance).

What about a countdown timer that will play a loud and annoying noise at the end of a set period, with wetting allowing us to reset that timer? This is the timer method.

The Timer Method:

Set a timer for 20 minutes. Make the alarm sound a loud and irritating one that you will want to avoid.

When you wet, reset the timer. Allow reset for even the smallest release of urine. Don't have any to work with? Better drink some water before time is up.

Repeat indefinitely. This will train you to release automatically when you have even the slightest amount available. Change your diaper when full, or develop a set schedule based on your average usage.

If the alarm goes off you must let it ring until you have wet yourself, then reset it.

As you become more adept at releasing your bladder automatically, you can reduce the window on the timer by 5 minutes every week, going from 20 to 15, then 10, then 5. With enough time, your bladder will shrink, your muscles will weaken, and your brain will have developed a heavily reinforced reflex to wet whenever it can.

This method makes immediate wetting a desirable behaviour with the reward of resetting the timer, while holding becomes an undesirable behaviour with the consequence of getting shocked by a loud and irritating alarm. This is annoying on its own, but especially effective in public where it may disturb others.

Here's another great thing about this technique: You don't even need to wear diapers to use it. Just as a person with real incontinence must schedule regular bathroom breaks to avoid wetting themselves when not wearing protection, you can use this technique to force yourself to experience the urgency of needing the bathroom frequently, continuing the conditioning of your bladder. Plus, this experience will only reinforce how comforting and convenient it is to wear proper protection.

Anecdotally, I have been testing the technique since this morning, and have wet myself at a rate of roughly once every five to ten minutes. The nagging stress of the impending alarm has been an extremely effective motivator to complete the task (wetting) before time runs out, with the action creating an additional sense of relief to have avoided the punishment.

5. Pros and Cons of the Method

No method is perfect until refined, but I believe that this technique has many Pros, while its Cons are mostly points for improvement.

Pros:

The technique closely simulates the real experience of people with incontinence, who often phrase the condition as living with a stressful 'countdown' until an unexpected wetting. Through this technique, the action of wetting becomes its own reward

People using the technique will become habituated to wetting themselves as soon as possible, with a natural punishment for holding their bladder that is typically absent in other techniques.

The punishment state is relatively minor and more psychological than physical, allowing for sustained adherence to the technique.

The technique is discreet and can be performed anywhere with a readily available device. If anyone asks what the timer on your phone is for, you can say that it is for concentration on a task or goal (this is true).

Likewise, proper adherence to the technique will mean that nobody has to know that it is happening, as the action (wetting) is invisible, as well as the reward (avoiding a jarring alarm). Furthermore, the failure to wet is more conspicuous than simply wetting silently and resetting the timer.

The technique can be used as a concentration aid on all sorts of other tasks, such as typing a certain number of words within a time limit allowing you to reset the clock, etc. This is a sign that the concept 'holds water' outside of this one context.

Points for Improvement:

The system only utilises two of four processes in Operant Conditioning: Negative Reinforcement (Active Avoidance -> delaying the alarm) and Positive punishment (the alarm). A holistic system would incorporate a Positive Reinforcement (pleasurable reward for behaviour) as well as Negative Reinforcement (removal of a desirable or pleasant thing as a punishment).

The first could be achieved by some form of reward at the end of a day without an alarm being triggered, while the second could see the destruction of a pair of underwear or other precious item after a set number of alarm triggers each day. However, the simplicity of a two-state system could also be a positive to the technique, allowing adherence to the process with fewer activities to carry out for various states of adherence.

While the descending 'ceiling' described in step 5 of the technique is effective at reinforcing progress over time, the process does not include a variable interval schedule for reinforcement, which is effective through the 'slot machine' effect to wean the subject off of active reinforcement into self-management. However, this is dependant on an outside force.

If some kind of resettable countdown could be developed for a programmable shock bracelet, this would be an even stronger deterrent for the holding behaviour.

Some kind of purpose built application could be developed for the timer, with the descending ceiling described in step 5 built into its schedule. Likewise, the variable interval schedule could kick in after the second week, with the length of the timer varying between e.g. 20 minutes and 7 minutes each time it's reset. This would further reinforce the subject to wet themselves as soon as possible in a less predictable environment.

6. Background and Acknowledgements

This concept is largely intended as a simple behavioural substitute for the conditioning device described by justforfun in his story 'The Trainer', as well as the actual version of the device that he built in 2024 and demonstrated the efficacy of– simply by automatically rewarding urination events and punishing the subject after a set period without an event, it took several days of accidents to return to normal continence while wearing underwear after only a week of conditioning. Over the course of that week, justforfun went from wetting in intervals of roughly 50 minutes to roughly 15 minutes. While the high-tech system described was extremely effective through its ability to administer shocks as well as built-in variable intervals for the training stage, it is difficult to manufacture and program without prior engineering knowledge. This behavioural substitute builds on the techniques described, with the bonus of only requiring a timer.

This post is also indebted to @Serah-in-diapers, who has described the process by which she effectively untrained herself, which is summarised in section 2 of the post. Her blog is a bible for anyone interested on the subject, especially since the deletion of kalikalahansa's blog on untraining.

Thanks for reading! Please let me know if you try this technique, and whether it was effective for you. I'll be attempting an extended period testing the technique soon and report on my findings.

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From "Punishment for Perfect Body" Ft. Mistress Miranda and Ayli Katt