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This is what a real, qualified OBGYN will tell you about what women feel when they get an abortion

Dr. Willie Parker, who is trained as a gynecologist and OBGYN, is a hero for the pro-choice movement because he’s honest about the undiscussed aspects of getting (or not getting) an abortion. Watch how he gives a consultation.

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That last statement about regret is so important, because so many people don’t understand what it is or what causes it. Anti-choicers exploit this by manipulating pregnant people and creating doubt, which only increases the likelihood of regret, no matter what decision the pregnant person makes. You know what is best for you, even if it takes some time to figure it out.

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Willie Parker is a HERO among common people!

eclecticmuses

Dr. Parker is one of the few things I like about Alabama and we are so fortunate to have him here.

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Wow god looks just like how I imagined

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Also:

YES to all of this.

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pack soft Dahyun (twice)

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bloodytales

Dear people who say statements like the above scare away good men,

It fucking doesn’t.

When I started dating my current boyfriend we talked for 6 hours on our first date and 7 hours on our second. We talked about a shit ton of different topics, and one of those topics was politics and the #metoo movement. We talked about sexual harassment and sexual assault.

Every step along the way towards us having sex he asked for my consent. The first day we actually had sex he made sure I was ready and checked in on me several times to make sure I was still enjoying myself. He was amazing.

I had men who were trying to flirt with me grab at me before I even knew who they were. I’ve had creepy old men decide giving me a shoulder massage while I was sitting down the perfect way they could introduce themselves. That is the type of touching we want to stop.

Any of the guys that are scared off by women saying “don’t touch us unless we ask” are the exact type of guys that need to learn about consent, women’s bodily autonomy and personal space.

If you are concerned that becoming friends with a women in the Me Too era will read to someone accusing you of sexual harassment, you need to rethink how you interact with women.

I have a bunch of guy friends, and none of them are afraid I’m going to accuse them of anything. Do you know why? We are friends. We treat each other with respect. Any of them can hug me goodbye or put their arm around me and I know they won’t touch me inappropriately. But when we first met that wasn’t true. We built a friendship of trust.

I am a hugger, I like hugging people. My friends know this about me, but when I meet new people I always ask them if it is okay that I hug them. I have had people say no, and I respect that and do not hug them.

It is not hard to ask for consent.

moniquill

If you think “Don’t touch a woman without her consent” is scary or difficult, YOU ARE NOT A GOOD MAN.

deputy-shayy

Shortly after women were finally getting heard about how unsafe our world is, how we fear male violence, how we’re disproportionately affected by male violence, how awful men treat us, suddenly, there’s no such thing as sex. Suddenly, you can’t tell men and women apart. Suddenly, a man isn’t actually a man if he “identifies” as something else. Suddenly, you “can’t assume someone’s gender”.

Do you all fucking think its a coincidence?

bluejaynoises-deactivated202104

Why is every time an OBVIOUS trans man comes up in history ya’ll are like “omg lesbian.” Like, Joan of Arc literally said he got a message from God to take the role of a man and people still parade him around as a lesbian symbol.

ace-feminist

Wait, Joan of arc was TRANS?!?!?!?!?

How the fuck did no one tell me this?!?!?!? I’ve only ever heard him referred to as a woman!!!!!

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“As long ago as 1705, the philosopher Mary Astell observed that women who made great achievements in male domains were said by men to have “acted above their Sex. By which one must suppose wou’d have their Readers understand, That they were not Women who did those Great Actions, but that they were Men in Petticoats!” Likewise; a few centuries later intellectually talented women were “said to possess ‘masculine minds.’”

Cordelia Fine, Delusions of Gender

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every time someone says an incredible woman of historical prevalence was actually a man I lose 3 years off my life

female-feminism

This makes me want to scream. Or cry. It makes me just lose all hope.

Feminism is dead. Women’s history is being rewritten again after millennia of our achievements being hidden in the first place.

If a woman in history was dressed as a woman and recognized as a woman while accomplishing great things, they claim she was probably a trans woman (as I’ve seen them pull with Sappho).

If a woman in history was dressed as a man because women weren’t allowed to do what she did, they claim she was probably a trans man and don’t recognize that she was disguised as a man because she had to be (as they are now pulling with Joan of Arc).

They were women. They were female. Stop rewriting our history.

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Joan of Arc was repeatedly sexually assaulted and she combated this by wearing men’s clothing to physically protect her from harm. I’m going to scream a woman trying to subvert oppression buy clothing herself in “men’s clothes” clothing does not make her a man. Y'all are just so idiotic.

thevaginamonoblogs

“If a woman did something not traditionally feminine that actually achieved something SHE MUST BE A MAN!” Transing women of history who didn’t expressly identify as that themselves is misgendering - I thought the genderist crowd hated that.

spookyterf

lol Joan of Arc wanted to fight with the French army in the 15th century, of course she wore chain mail and armor instead of a dress and an apron.

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She called herself “la Pucelle d’Orleans”, the “Maid(en) of Orleans.”

Honest to fucking god, do these kids even read??

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Can women have one thing or is everything a man

artemiswasamerf

Women in history are not fucking fictional characters that you can headcanon or rewrite, either. These are real people. They had real lives. They are real women who did extraordinary things and often had to protect themselves from male violence anyway they knew how.

thesinisterspinster

“I don’t speak to unsupervised men” Is one of the best ideas I’ve heard in a while & I’m making this a new rule.

No joke it will change your life.

bloden

“Discriminate and infantilize men; it’ll change your life”

thesinisterspinster

When men take responsibility for their own actions then i will trust them. Until then nah. Why do yall always get pissy when women take steps to lessen their exposure to abusive people?

bloden

Because you’re not lessening your exposure to abusive people, you’re lessening your exposure to people you assume are abusive because of your prejudice against them, dipshit.

It’s like crossing the street in the middle of the day when a black person is walking in the opposite direction as you. Your statement is sexist just like my scenario would be racist.

Also, you’re asking people to take responsibility for the actions of other people, you egg. Men are individuals, and as such, shouldn’t take the blame for other people’s actions or crimes as if they were theirs, and they especially don’t need to be told to do so by someone who hates them simply for being men.

girlsmoonsandstars

Serious question, why do men always compare themselves to black people instead of white people?

gorgonology

bc they love to victimize themselves and pretend that women are the big mean oppressors

actuallyhashtags

When i took my African American history class my Black male teacher asked me this “ would you be scared of walking down a dark road with a Black male behind you?” My answer. “Yes. But not because hes Black but because hes male. Would i be scared of a Black womxxn… Absolutely not” so yeah yall can be racist…. Like legally… And yall can be sexist legally… But us womxxn who actually have ti deal with your abuse . yll act like its illegal for us to have opinions like yall. Too bad.lol and fyi as long as all males generalise womxxn as gold digging bitches… Then i can generalise males and say they are all the same. The difference is I ACTUALLY LIKE BEING LIKE OTHER GIRLS… MALES HATE EACH OTHER!!! THEY WILL LITERALLY TELL YOU THAT THEY ARE “NOT LIKE OTHER MALES” bahahahhahah all males are the same… Just like all womxxn. So stop

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Men are absolutely not individuals.Why why do they ALWAYS compare women being rightfully annoyed and scared by men with racism?It’s not the same buddy, if I cross the street so I don’t walk past a man is becauss the high chances of being cat called, harassed, grabbed, harmed in many ways, meanwhile what valid reasons would anybody have to do that to a black woman, or any woman in general? None, that’s the line between prejudice and being rightfully aware

wouldvebeensweet

“The only thing cut and dry in this hedge-maze life is the fact that their words will cut, but your tears will dry.”

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If I (as a lesbian) saw these three people in public I probably would’ve been attracted to them before I was informed they were trans. I wont even lie, and I’m sure a lot of women or men would agree. BUT once id find out that they were males my attraction would immediately go away. I am not attracted to males, even if they are 100% “passing” or look like women. Im not attracted to penis’s or people who get their penis’s “turned into vaginas” and tbh these people are the same as these people who don’t pass

They are all males. Not everyone is bisexual. There are people who only like vaginas (ie straight men and lesbians) and people who only like penis (ie straight women and gay men). Let people be attracted to who they want!! The fact that yall would say “oh you were attracted to her before you knew she was trans so why does it matter if she has a penis?” Sounds so entitled

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TRAs: ”Listen to trans people!”

20 y//o transgender: ”You need dysphoria to be trans”

TRAs: ”NO NOT THOSE ONES!!!”

60 y//o trans woman: ”Young trans people need to realize that a trans woman can never become a real woman and vice versa”

TRAs: ”NO NOT THOSE ONES FOR GOD’S SAKE!!!”

deuerrado

Honestly, fuck this. I know many women - myself included - that, as we were younger, didn’t fucking “want” to be “a girl”.

You know why???

BECAUSE WE ARE AN OPPRESSED CLASS OF CITIZENS. And we already felt it but didn’t understand it.

Were we transgender because we used to go on about wanting to be a boy ‘cause it was so much easier???? NO. We were recognizing they weren’t oppressed the same way.

You wanna do makeup, wear dresses, force yourself to be pleasant for every guy around the globe? Go the fuck ahead. That is not what it means to be a woman. You wanna say you’re a woman while fashioning your big ass beard around? Must be nice having all the privileges of being a man plus all the fun of being called a woman.

I mean….. do you really believe being a woman is a feeling? Do you really believe all women share this same ✨magical feeling✨ that determines that they are women??

There’s no feeling to being a woman, the same as there is no feeling to being latin or black. We share physical - biological - characteristics that dictates how society will treat us.

It is not about what you want, choose or feel. It’s about what you are taught when you’re a child, what people expect of you, how they act around you, how you were presented the world. That is something that takes a life time to build, something that comes as soon as they know “it’s a girl!” before you’re even born.

You wanna say “one of the symptoms of being trans is wanting to be a girl (when you’re a male)” sure, go on. But being “a girl” ain’t something you got “symptoms” for.

fishfem

tell me again that yaint defining women based off gender (roles, expression, whatever yall call it). “how much of a woman you are” is apparently determinable by whether you can win a beauty contest.

radicalromanov

sometimes i really just wanna sit down with a libfem and ask them what they know about ‘terfs’ because i guarantee that almost none of their ‘knowledge’ will be true.

“terfs want trans women to die” FALSE

“terfs want gender roles“ FALSE

“terfs hate sex workers“ FALSE

“terfs hate women who wear makeup“ FALSE

there is really so much propaganda all over this site that people are equating radfems to nazis, who had fucking concentration camps! (and by the way, no terf wants concentration camps so if you’re tryna reblog this to say that, it is FALSE)

radical feminism is just about the liberation of women from the patriarchy. y’all libfems hate on the patriarchy often but are too busy with your “empowerment” bullshit to actually challenge it.

liberal feminism literally gives men what they want. men want women to wear makeup and have sex with them, and all your cries for “empowerment” are giving them easier access to those things.

no radfem hates prostitutes. we hate prostitution as a whole. we hate that we live in a world where women are forced to sell themselves to make ends meet. we hate that women and children are sold and abused and murdered. we hate the men who buy women and children.

no radfem hates trans people or wants them to die. we just hate that trans activism has erased the struggles of women. we believe in sex-based oppression, because we recognize that you can’t just identify out of things like female genital mutilation and rape. and we’re anti gender roles too.

look, if you’re gonna hate radfems or “terfs”, you do you, but get your facts straight. you don’t know shit about this movement, and if you do and you’re choosing to ignore the facts and continue to spread misinformation, then you’re a piece of shit.

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I’m gonna assume you’re a radfem. What is the ultimate solution to what you believe is wrong with the issues that’s bothering you. Also, do y’all believe that NATURALLY women are just as capable as being soldiers or doing construction and things of that nature that are typically deemed male oriented jobs throughout history? Until tumblr decided to ban porn I didn’t even know there was such a divide among feminists especially about pornography.

PART 1 OF THIS ASK

‘’issues’’ that are bothering radfems in no particular order and without my personal opinions on them:

prostitution - because purchased consent is not consent, it’s coercion. sex work is dehumanizing and traumatizing for women.

pornography - which is prostitution on camera. it harms not only the women involved in the videos (physically and mentally) it also harms the viewers in the long run. (also 90% of sex workers want out of the sex industry).

surrogacy - similar to prostitution and pornography in the sense that women’s bodies become acquirable products for sale or rent. inhuman unethical and unnatural.

capitalism - which is the system that allows the commodification of women and their bodies. in a truly social society (ironic) women wouldn’t have to sell or rent out their bodies in order to survive.

bdsm - wherein the majority of subs are women and the majority of doms are men. that results in: power imbalances, physical and emotional abuse and trauma.

patriarchal religions - all holy books were written by men and serve to maintain and legitimize patriarchal power structures. FURTHERMORE. patriarchal religions falsely attribute the gift of creation to men when in reality every man on earth was molded from the flesh of women. (Adam you know where to stick that rib)

gender roles/femininity aesthetic as well as behavioral performances of femininity also serve to perpetuate patriarchal power structures. a woman who has been taught since birth to adorn her cage is too busy to reflect on what exactly she is adorning.

postmodernism/queer theory - radical feminism is based on materialism. women are oppressed because of their biological reality, which is not subjective, subjectable to changes or personal interpretations. postmodernism and queer theory are. according to queer theory one can identify into whatever class one wishes to, as long as one feels, or says one feels like a member of that class… wild.

the beauty industry - fills up the pockets of old wrinkly men. keeps women insecure, low self-esteem. their value and self-worth forever dependent on their physical appeal (to men). big bad.

marriage - marriage would be described by some as the wheels on which patriarchy is carried onwards. historically, marriage has been nothing but a transaction: a daughter, who belonged to her father now belongs to her husband, her reproductive labor, domestic labor, emotional labor and physical labor all at his disposition. (until death do us part!)

individualism - as opposed to class analysis. arguably the most overlooked and hardest ‘’issue’’ to overcome. it’s understandable that most women gravitate towards liberal feminism because they don’t have to analyze the reasons behind their actions, they don’t have to come to difficult and unappealing conclusions, they don’t have to feel the need to take action and stop engaging in whatever they are doing that’s harming women as a class. after all it’s their choice!

PART 2 OF THIS ASK

‘’solutions’’ to the issues

you say ultimate solution i say possible solutions. Depending on which radfem you ask you’ll get the following ones (again no personal opinions)

male exclusion - simply deciding to center one’s life and actions around females in all possible aspects.

refusing to birth male children

introspection - analyzing one’s actions and maybe asking oneself: is this something andrea dworkin would want me to do?

raising awareness - of all the issues mentioned above. spreading the radfem gospel.. not a solution but a step towards finding or creating a solution as a community.

being politically ACTIVE - political agency and action is essential for female liberation; especially concerning topics such as reproductive rights, legislation of prostitution, electing representatives ETC.

investing time and effort into making men aware of the issues, in the hopes that they’ll do their part for the liberation of women and do the same with their fellow men.

creating a virus that only affects the y chromosome, thus wholly decimating the male population within months or years.

PART 3 OF THIS ASK

‘’do y’all believe that NATURALLY women are just as capable as being soldiers or doing construction and things of that nature that are typically deemed male oriented jobs throughout history?’’

the question here isn’t if women are capable of being soldiers or construction workers or performing well at jobs that are commonly deemed ‘’male’’ the question here is, why do you see men as the norm and women as the other? why do women have to reach the male standard and not the other way round? are men *naturally* capable of being healers? carers? men have been waging war against men since times immemorial, women have been suffering the consequences for as long. what makes you think that women, as a class want to be soldiers?

answer: you think because men have killed and maimed and tortured men, it must be an objective for women as well. you believe that whatever men do, it must become the example, the goal for women. that’s your libfem-fueled distorted sense of ‘’’’equality’’’’ between the sexes. the truth is, there is no equality to be achieved within a system that is controlled by the class we aim to be equal to. it’s not about equality but liberation.

ask yourself how much better would things have been, if there were less female soldiers and more female political leaders, how much better would things have been if the fates of whole continents and countries had not been completely determined by men, aka 50% of the population? how many wars would have been avoided? how many lives spared? we will never know.

the question is not: are women capable of destroying? the question is: are men capable of creating without destroying? will they ever reach the female standard in that respect? will they ever be equal to us?