On March 13th I was sexually assaulted by my sisterās boyfriend while I was staying at her apartment.The assault happened when my sister was at work and I was left alone with Bo R Abbott who is the guy that assaulted me.
I was dumb to let my guard down in front of him while my sister was away.I helped myself to a small amount of vodka to mix with my sparkling water and when Bo realized I made a cocktail;he pressured me to drink more alcohol because āhe never gets to drink and didnāt want to drink aloneā I kept trying to turn him down but insisted I did so.So I made myself another small glass and he kept making me drink and even shoving the bottle of vodka in my face to the point I was intoxicated.
In the past when I was around the ages of 17 to 18 he use to grope my chest and every time he did so he would reach father down into my shirt stretching out the neck hole in my T-shirtās.Heād buy my things and bribe me for my silence because at the time he was my sisterās friend and didnāt want her to know.I didnāt want her to know either because it was embarrassing.
The only way I was able to get him to stop groping me was to say I was in a relationship with someone else. How awful it is that I had to be someone elseās āpropertyā to get him to leave me alone. Bo has a boob fetish,itās his favorite part of a woman and it not surprising that my sister who was relatively flat chested got a boob job and soon after started dating Bo.She claims she got her chest done because she was tired of us making fun of her but I believe deep down she went through the surgery for Bo.
Soon after finding out my sister and Bo were in a relationship I lit up with rage because my sister didnāt know what I had to go through with that guy and so I eventually gathered the courage to tell my mother and soon after I told my sister.I texted her the shit bo did to me so I didnāt have to deal with the repercussions.She was mad and I was hoping that sheād put my experience and feelings into consideration and break up with him..But ultimately said she didnāt see a reason to break up with him and blamed me for letting bo do what he did to me.I stopped talking to her for a while but in the end I didnāt want to lose my sister,but I made conditions to us hanging out and it was simply to keep bo away from me,but she bribed me with a Disneyland passport and made it to where i had no choice but to be around him.I held and still do hold deep resentment towards the both of them.I hate their relationship more than I can hate anything else.In the end I was forced to keep my feelings to myself and my mother said that bo was a nice guy...Despite the months of being molested by him.
Overtime I let go of my anger and figured that my sister would break up with him in the soon future but as the years go by that never happened yet and now my sisterās whole life is interwoven with the Abbott family. She lives with Bo in an apartment on his god parentās property,her only friends are married into his family,his two sisterās work at my sisterās bar,and because his family is well off she gets to go on tropical vacations and cruises;something my family could never afford.
Iām scared that when I get the chance to tell my sister the stuff her awful boyfriend did to me she wonāt take me seriously or sheāll be too comfortable with her current lifestyle she wonāt give it up despite my distress,because she didnāt see a reason to break up with him the first time I confronted her about the sexual assaults,but this time is so much worse.
He made me get drunk,took advantage of the type of drunk person I am which is friendly;Iām literally incapable of being mean when intoxicated. He buttered me up with a buddy talk then shoved information in my face that I didnāt want to know about like his sex life with my sister,took advantage of my insecurities,he wanted me to show him my bare chest and I kept saying no because I didnāt want to and that he was dating my sister,but he sent money to my bank account and said he really wanted to see my chest and he made me feel inclined to do so because my intoxicated self couldnāt find a way out of the situation,he then pulled me into the bathroom where he waited for me to show his my chest and when I did he managed to also somehow get me to pull down my pants where he then started to grope my ass and told me that he can tell when I am and am not doing squats.When Iād try to cover myself back up heād ask what I was doing and when I told him I already did what he wanted and more he then sent more money to bank account saying he wanted a video of me groping my chest while he jerked off in the shower..Once again because he sent me money my intoxicated self felt inclined to do so..So he puts me in the corner of the bathroom where Iām standing outside the shower,shirt over my face because I didnāt want to be there and just had me grope my chest.He kept begging to suck on my chest and even more so wanted to cum on me but I was lucky that he didnāt get to do that.I donāt know what the video looks like nor do I want to,but I know itās hidden on a fake calculator app.
After all was said and done he asked if he could do the stuff I wouldnāt let him do another time.
I didnāt answer because there would never be a next time. I donāt want to see his face or hear his voice,I just want him out of my life.
My sister came home from work soon after the assault happened but she never could have guessed what happened moments before she came home.Im pretty good at hiding my feelings and my sister is shallow enough to only understand surface feelings.My friends who I was on the phone with that same night was able to tell I was drunk out of my mind,but even she didnāt know what happened until a couple days later.
The next day I asked my sister if she could take me home and what would you know,she had Bo drive me home in my car that my sister bought me but wonāt give to me for whatever reason...Heās been driving my car since Christmas..At this point I donāt even want the car.His predator ass can keep it.
I came home and I cried,I told two friends who werenāt the ones I was talking to the night before
I had to tell somebody and I felt the most comfortable telling them first because they are the least judgmental people I know.
The next day my mom came home from work and I greeted her at the door.She asked if I was alright because this was the beginning of quarantine and when I told her I wasnāt alright I told her what happens when I was staying with my sister and for the first time I saw rage in her eyes,she wanted to kill bo but because of the current state of the world we agreed to not tell my sister anything because it might put her in a position of being stuck with a predator because of the quarantine that just started..But now my mom is telling I canāt tell my sister ever because I shouldnāt interfere with their relationship and that my sister will never believe me anyways and thatās so stressful to hear,but Iām determined to tell her as soon as the stay at home order lifts,because I refuse put my feelings aside for someoneās elseās happiness.If she does breakup with him and leaves him and his family then HOORAY Iāll finally find peace,but if she once again chooses her relationship over me and my experience then I donāt need her in my life anymore.I love my sister,I truly do but I canāt be around her if she thinks itās okay to be with a man who takes advantage of her little sister behind her back.
When I keep thinking about what he got away with that night it makes me want to vomit and cry and Iām tired of it all
Family needs to stop protecting predators.
