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today my therapist told me that sometimes negative feelings like guilt, anxiety, self loathing, etc are like the hiccups. they’re uncomfortable, we don’t like them, there’s no way to turn them off; they can even be incapacitating for a while. we don’t always know where they came from or when they’ll go away, so sometimes instead of focusing on why we feel a certain way we need to get better at recognizing its temporary nature, keeping perspective, and enduring discomfort. i feel like a lot of self-improvement rhetoric is about pinpointing specific causes for negative thoughts/behaviors so you can eradicate them, but people with chronic mental illness really need to work on allowing themselves to experience these feelings without going into a downward spiral.

cumaeansibyl

with the caveat that mindfulness isn’t for everyone, it can be useful here. “oh crud, I’m feeling X again. well, there it is. this sure is happening right now.” acknowledging without interrogating or trying to draw conclusions.

what I like about it is it gives me room to feel the feeling, but also to step back one and say “yep, that’s a feeling I’m having,” which is better than “I am this feeling and this is forever.”

(how much time have I wasted trying to figure out WHY I’m feeling something when it was really just the equivalent of a random muscle cramp?)

thateagleguy

fatsexybitch

This is funny, but I can tell you why right now without a study

Glasses give you an immediate and blinding indication if your mask is not worn properly. If you wear glasses you are more likely to secure the mask tightly to ensure you dont fog up your glasses.

And 2, no one can sneeze or cough on ur eyeballs

snipertrifle

I know the study hypothesized that it’s because glasses wearers don’t touch their face as much. But as a glasses wearer, I think Fatsexybitch is onto something with #1.

wistfullycountry

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niggazinmoscow

THIS RIGHT HERE

afronerdism

You guys are dangerously close to realizing specifically what kinds of people they keep from voting and why.

molothoo

I want to drill this into everybody’s head:

The United States of America has the highest prison population in the world

Black Americans and Latin people make up the majority of this population (many of whom are non-violent offenders)

Federal Prisons in America require that their state keeps their prisons at a maximum occupancy at all times.

The 13th amendment did not entirely abolish slavery…just one form of it. It remains legal through industrial prison system

scretladyspider

Oh and we have privatized prisons which allow companies to actually make money off of keeping people incarcerated

dantalaois

odinsblog

Here’s what’s really perverse: prisoners, who cannot vote, still get counted in the U.S. Census. The more prisoners a county has, the more representation it gets, even though the prisoners cannot vote. See how that works? The more black and brown people they lock up, the more government resources and political representation they get. Even though those prisoners have no say and cannot vote.

If county-A has a population of 50 voters but no prisons, and county-B has a population of 50 voters and 50 prisoners, the county with the prisoners gets more government funding and more political represention. This is sometimes called “prison gerrymandering” and it is used in redistrictring.

Not so fun Fact: Southern states that reliably vote for Republicans also have the highest prison population in the United States. (source). So mass incarceration is a double whammy. It’s both a form of voter suppression and a tool to strengthen white people’s political power.

original-honeychiles

I am so glad this jumped out of the closet and out from under the rug..

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grubloved

if you live in washington state, please take down & deep-clean your bird feeders! there is an outbreak of disease and we dont want to spread it <3

februrary 14 2021 -- western WA they should stay down until march; if you live in eastern WA, keep them down until april. this includes hummingbird feeders! it's not dangerous to humans, just birds. thanks for doing ur part to keep birds safe :)

State fish and wildlife officials are very confident the hummingbirds will be able to survive without human intervention, even through a col

grubloved

update: the outbreak is affecting essentially the entire west coast of the us. put those feeders away!!!!

oregon california nevada

take good care of your neighbors!!!!

meangirlnurse

socially distance your hummingbirds

jp

science-junkie

The hard science of oxytocin

Oxytocin has been of keen interest to neuroscientists since the 1970s, when studies started to show that it could drive maternal behaviour and social attachment in various species. Its involvement in a range of social behaviours2, including monogamy in voles, mother–infant bonding in sheep, and even trust between humans, has earned it a reputation as the ‘hug hormone’. “People just concluded it was a bonding molecule, a cuddling hormone, and that’s the pervasive view in the popular press,” says Larry Young, a neuroscientist at Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia, who has been studying the molecule since the 1990s.

That view has led some clinicians to try oxytocin as a treatment for psychiatric conditions such as autism spectrum disorder. But the early trials have had mixed results, and scientists are now seeking a deeper understanding of oxytocin and how it works in the brain. Researchers such as Froemke are showing that the hormone boosts neuronal signals in a way that could accentuate socially relevant input such as distress calls or possibly facial expressions. And clinical researchers are starting a wave of more ambitious trials to test whether oxytocin can help some types of autism. The work is leading to a more sophisticated view of the hormone and its complex effects on behaviour — one that will take many types of expertise to refine.

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powerblais

Good morning! Gonna interrupt your doom scrolling with some GOOD politics news: St. Louis has elected Cori Bush, its first Black Congresswoman, who is not only a democratic socialist, but got her start being an activist during the Ferguson Protests.

Good change is happening, it just takes time sometimes. ♥️

fitness01993

Things they don’t tell you about top surgery

- Talk to the surgeon about the size you want your new areolas/nipples (don’t be afraid to ask)

- Numbness. No one talks about this for guys who are about to have surgery. You’re going to be numb all in your chest area, especially where the incisions were. They cut nerves as they pass along your chest, and it can take up to a year to regenerate those nerves. Still, feels super foreign for the first two weeks

- Make your bed into a pillow chair, body pillow, two on each side, and two for your head.

- Sleep alone. I tried to sleep with my girlfriend and it was miserable. You really do need the entire bed for yourself

- Go on Groupon, & get yourself a 10 foot lightning cable iPhone charger, BEST THING EVER, can reach from wherever you are

- Don’t take a week off from work, take two. You will regret the one week, and love the extra time

- When they say “don’t move too much, even after the first week”. LISTEN. I moved way too much and got so sore super quickly.

- Drink lots of water & eat if your taking the pain medication, otherwise your stomach feels super funky.

- Get stool softeners, & don’t be afraid to take those babies. Don’t wait a week to poop. you’ll surely regret it.

- The drains are scary & they may hurt while draining or rewrapping your dressings, but once they come out, the second they do, its no more pain, its crazy.

i hope this helps someone, because i wish i knew all of this when i was having mine a month ago. Looking back its like everyone forgets all the real negatives, its a great experience, & i healed very well & quick compared to most, but the first few days are crazy. They hurt, suck but it gets better.

fitness01993

To the few guys I know having surgery this week!

sabertoothwalrus

-the headache you get a couple days after the surgery because the anesthesia is leaving your body hurts 200 times more than the surgery itself. And even that isn’t too bad.

-after a week or, you ITCH. It’s awful. Try not to touch your stitches too much. An ice pack will help.

the-jingler-deactivated20190219

Here is a guide from a hospital’s website on how to take care of your stitches

boy-milf-supreme

keeping this for when i get my surgery eventually

lemonade-drinking-ghost

Tips!!!

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nowthisnews

HISTORIC WIN: Mauree Turner has been elected to Oklahoma’s state House, becoming one of the first non-binary state lawmakers in America and the first Muslim to serve in Oklahoma’s state legislature. Turner is a criminal justice reform activist with the ACLU and was aided by Run for Something, which has helped hundreds of diverse millennials and Gen Zers run for local office.