Sonia Writes

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Might be a phase, might not.

We have all probably said something along these lines; "I'll get over it", "It's just a phase", "I'm probably just stressed out".

Sadly, many of us are not aware of our mental state until we reach a breaking point which causes us to realize that what we are going through isn’t “just a phase” but is something that needs to be taken care of asap. 

There are people out there who reach that breaking point, go through that “phase” and still have no idea about what they are experiencing until the phase ends and things go “normal” again. Unfortunately, for some people, the phase does end, but it ends them. 

As brutal as that sounds, it is something to pay more attention to, because unlike a physical wound, a mental health issue is not easily spotted.

Just like how we are urged to go for a physical check up at least once a year, it is of no harm to visit a mental health professional from time to time, just to get yourself “checked”.

Your mind is also a part of your body, treat it right.

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Because Of Miss Bridgerton: A Book Review

Genre: Romance

Series: Rokesby (Book 1)

Pages: 375

Rating:  ★★★★☆

Note: Spoilers ahead! I tried to minimize the spoilers as much as I could.

"And he kissed her tenderly, because this was Billie, and somehow he knew that no one ever thought to be tender with her."

Everybody loves the Bridgertons, and Julia Quinn’s fans wanted more of them, more of Julia Quinn’s historical romance writing. So, she created the Rokesbys, a family that lived in the late 1700s at Crake House who happened to be neighbours and close friends with the Bridgertons who lived at none other than Aubrey Hall.

This is a prequel to the Bridgerton series. However, if you have not read the entire Bridgerton series, fret not. The Rokesby series can be read and well understood without reading the Bridgerton series as each book focuses on the romance of each son in the Rokesby family.

Because of Miss Bridgerton is the first book in Rokesby series and it starts off with a very cliche love-hate relationship between Billie Bridgerton (Sybilla Bridgerton), who happens to be Edmund Bridgerton’s older sister (you’ll recognize the late Edmund from the Bridgerton series) and her neighbor, George Rokesby, Viscount Kennard. Son and heir of the Earl of Manston, George is around five years older than Billie, who used to run wild with his younger brothers, Andrew and Edward, while George was receiving the education befitting the heir to an earldom. In other words, Billie had a very close relationship with Edward and Andrew and for some reason, she could not get along with George. 

The book starts off with Billie, a tomboy, being stuck on an abandoned roof, midway between Aubrey Hall and Crake House, trying to save a cat. Since Edward and Andrew are usually at war, serving their country, while George was not allowed to do so because he is the heir of the family, George was the only available Rokesby to notice Billie being stuck on an abandoned roof.

George, being a gentlemen like he is, will never leave a lady in distress. It was just not the way he had been raised. George did not fancy Billie, and Billie certainly did not as well. When put together on an abandoned roof, with both of them having a good sense of sarcasm and wit, things did not turn out to be pretty. I must be honest, I did not quite enjoy the first three chapters of the book that were plotted by Quinn. However, it gets better.

Andrew comes back from war, as an order to recuperate his injured arm. Lady Bridgerton suggests that since Andrew is back, and the two families are basically one big family, she ought to throw a house party and invite other guests as well. Billie strongly disagrees with her mother because being the eldest in the family she would have to be dutiful daughter of the hostess, stuck in frocks all day. Plus, she had injured her ankle.

The house party brings a lot of jealousy in the eyes of George Rokesby towards the absurdly handsome Sir Reginald who was occasionally being flirty with Billie. Billie, on the other hand could not stand the sight of Lady Alexandra who was all over George.

At this house party,  George is bewildered at the strength of the attraction he feels for Billie, having spent so long regarding her almost as an annoying younger sister. Everyone would expect Billie to marry either Edward or Andrew as Billie was much close to the both of them, comparing to George.

The house party ends in an abrupt, in midst of a game of called pall mall when an urgent letter arrives for the Rokesbys. Edward, who had been at war, was missing.

The tale takes a twist and George flees to London to retrieve information about his missing brother. They all had hope that Edward was still alive, especially Billie who seemed very close to Edward. George starts to suspect that Billie might have feelings for Edward, and this started to bother him.

Lady Manston learns that Billie has only been to London once, and it was not for a season. Lady Manston insists that Billie follows herself and George to London. While George looks out for information regarding Edward’s whereabouts, Billie can accompany Lady Manston to a ball she was invited to.

Billie usually has awful experiences with frocks, balls and men. Lady Manston makes George promise her that he will dance with Billie to get the ball rolling for other men to dance with Billie. At the ball, other men starts to approach Billie for a dance, George gets defensive and says that Billie has already promised him a dance.

This first book in the Rokesby series ends with George and Billie realizing their love for each other. Although it was fairly slow-moving in the beginning of the story, I did enjoy how proximity and a well developed plot brought two people who compliment each other together.

Julia Quinn has once again, successfully created a well-matched pair. I cannot wait to read the second book, that revolves around Edward’s love story.

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Heal Your Mind: 5 Ways To Get Started.

You know what everyone says? Life is full of ups and downs. But you know what they never say? How to pick yourself up once you’re at the bottom.

Someone close to me once told me, when you’re feeling so down, and you think that you are at the bottom worst, there’s no way you can be more down than that. You have no where else to go but to get up. You have no option but to rise. But before you can soar into big dreams or accomplish daily tasks, you have to heal from it all.

I am no healing master, neither do I have a healing potion (wish I did). But I would like to share a few ways to get started in this mind healing process..

1. Acceptance.

The first step you can take is to accept whatever that has caused you to be feeling this down. Own up to your mistake, apologize. If it was a situation that was unavoidable, stop blaming anyone for it. Just accept it, grieve about it if you must. No tragedy is big or small. If it hurts you, it hurts you and don’t let anyone tell you other wise. Easier said than done, but if you can train your mind to accept, only than you can train your mind to think forward.

2. Get out.

Get out of wherever you are. It can be difficult if you’re committed to an environment like your home and it maybe difficult to have a day out. But honestly, keeping yourself in four walls is not going to make you feel better. Sometimes, you will feel like you don’t want to wake up in the morning and carry on with life. And that’s okay because you’re at your bottom worst, and that’s how you are supposed to feel. If people don’t understand that, its okay. They’re not going through what you are going through, do not expect much from them but do expect yourself to take this step. Have breakfast alone, go shopping, or sit at a park. Whatever it is, drag yourself out.

3. Write.

You don’t have to be good at this one, just write how you feel. Keeping a journal is really helpful when you’re trying to heal yourself. If you want, you can lash out and rant as much as you want in your journal. Or you can jot down the progress you make everyday. For example, jotting down a list of positive things you did or said today is self-motivating to have a better tomorrow. Everyone has their own style of journaling, some people only write when they’re fustrated while some people write to count their blessings. I suggest doing both as you will be able to look back and see how far you’ve came.

4. Pick up a hobby.

You can’t keep sitting around and tell yourself that not doing anything is part of healing. Not doing anything is NO PROGRESS which means NOT HEALING. This relates to number 2, find a hobby that makes you feel like you’re becoming a better person. It could involve outdoor or indoor activities. Some people like to sweat it out, so they go for jogs or hit the gym. Some people like yoga, it helps them calm their mind. Some people like to cook! You can only heal if you allow yourself to do something that will benefit you. Something that will change you and the situation you are in, something that will make you want to get up in the mornings.

5. Make Others Feel Good.

“But how do I make others feel good when I don’t feel good?”.

You know how they say love yourself only then you can love others? Sometimes, to heal yourself, it is the opposite. When you make someone feel good, you’ll feel good for sure. This is because you have the power to make someone happy, which means you can make yourself happy as well. If you can genuinely compliment someone, then you will realise that you too have something amazing and you’ll give yourself the credit. If you are able to see the beauty in others, you will be able to see the beauty in yourself. You will understand that someone elses plus points, isn’t your minus points. And if you can do this, you’ll love you and most people around you. This circle of love and positivity will heal you. Sounds cheesy? Not once you try it.

I will say that there are many other ways to make a comeback in life and not everyone will find this helpful. However, these little ways has helped me for a start, and I hope it does for you too.

We will never be good enough, but we can be a better person to ourselves, and the people around us. That’s good enough.

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7 Times You Can Say “I did it!” If You’re A University Student.

1) The time you cleaned your room.

I’m gonna be real here, if you sweep and mop your room on a daily basis then I’m going to make you my motivation to do the same because guess what? I don’t. And if you’re disgusted by that then know that most students can only afford to clean their room on weekends (I hope). Most of us are only in our rooms to sleep and sleep is something we all crave for because we don’t get enough of it. So if you clean your room, no matter how often it is, I know the struggle. Just be proud you did it!

2) The time you were punctual for class.

So you have a 9am class and you set your alarm at least an hour or a couple of hours before to get up, get dressed and make way to class. The effort is great but after a week, you’re going to be getting up at 8:30am, bathing in 5 minutes, rushing to get a bus, get on a bus if you’re lucky or wait for another because it is packed with students just like you. By the time you reach class, it is most likely 9am. You probably did not have your breakfast, forgot a thing or two, and maybe did not even comb your hair but hey, you were punctual!

3) The time you went to the library.

The library is the best place to study. Why? Because it is quiet, plus everyone is studying which motivates you to study as well right? Going to the library during study week is such a good effort made. The library will be full of people, which means it won’t be as quiet as it is supposed to be, you might even pull off an all nighter! With a pillow, blanket, and a movie on your laptop. But hey, at the end of the day, being in the library is much more productive than being in your room. At least you’re not sleeping and you did a couple of chapters!

4) The time you ate healthy.

Eating healthy is not very difficult if you’re a university student. You just need to watch what goes in your mouth and it’s nutrition value. You might get used to KFC (which contains a lot of protein since it is chicken and the coleslow is vegetables you know), McDonalds (which has everything you need, carbs, protein, fat, veges and fruits too!). Sometimes, as a student you try drinking more water but then you read that coffee is said to lower risk of heart diseases, so why not? You did a great job at trying to be healthy.

5) The time you slept on time.

And by on time, I mean like 3-4am. If your bed time is much more earlier than that then please do feel free to share with me, how do you manage to do every single thing on your to - do list (which does not exist on certain days, and sometimes months) by 11pm?! 

6) The time you saved money.

When one textbook causes you your bank account, you try getting those books from seniors, the library or even photocopy them (which is wrong as it is copyright) but then after that you go on a Sephora haul which is understandable, you need those dark circles concealed so that you look a tiny bit more alive in classes. 

7) The time you loved yourself.

The time you didn’t let negative people get to you. The time you took care of your mental health and gave yourself a reminder that you’re strong and you can do whatever requirements to get good grades. The time you stood up for yourself despite knowing that you might lose certain people. The time you attended activities because you wanted to build yourself. The time you allowed yourself to cry and give yourself time to heal. You did all that, right?

If this post has offended you, know that it is okay as we are on the same boat. Know that all of us are same, but different. 

We all want good grades, popularity, happiness, wealth and everything else we can get by going to a university. But don’t forget to do all these things, because during the holidays you’re going to have at least a tiny bit of regret and promise to be a better student (most importantly person) when university re-opens again.

It is hard being a student, there is no shame if you can relate to all seven points and realize that you should try to do it right the next semester. But wherever you are, whatever you do, number seven should be your number one.

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Her mind keeps running, Running into eight different directions, They say her mind is a mess, That she’s lost in her thoughts. But just like trees, Her mind branches out, Into eight different directions, Every branch holding a thought. It maybe fruitful or not, But yet she lives, From her roots, All the way to her fruits, Standing tall, Accepting growth, Adapting to the environment, Surviving pollution. Her mind keeps running, Running into eight different directions, Her mind might be a mess, But she is blessed with strength.

-S.S (Blessed With Strength)

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Unrequited, Unconditional And Obsessive Love; Know The Difference

Written by: Sonia Singh

A couple of weeks back, I saw a facebook post. A post describing how unrequited love is not sweet or romantic but annoying because it is obsessive. Well, I did not completely agree with what I read because unrequited and obsessive love are two different things.

Firstly, let us look at the definitions.

Unrequited love is when you feel a certain way towards someone and it is not mutual, or the feeling is not returned back.

Obsessive love is the state when someone claims to be very in love with another person and does not want to accept rejection. A person in this state might keep trying to get the acceptance of the person he loves. This might come off too strong and is often abusive mentally and in certain cases, physically.

Unrequited and obsessive love is NOT the same. 

If a person truly loves another person, and accepts rejection, only then it is called unrequited love. His/her love story may not be complete as it is one-sided and there no forcing done upon the other party. You may have rejected him/her, but he/she is going to keep loving you (without any harassment) eventhough you have clearly said NO. You do not have any control over how someone else feels. However, what you can do is control how you feel. Let the other person keep loving you if he/she wants to, as long as it does not bring you or anyone harm, then let it be. 

Now, what happens if the person has already been rejected, claims to have ‘accepted rejection’ but is still trying to win your heart over? This can still be called unrequited as it is one-sided. But if you or the person who ‘loves’ you is mentally or physically tortured, then it has gone a little too far. This is called obsession.

Maybe this person keeps texting you things you do not want to receive. Or keeps calling you, wants to meet you, wants to be part of your life in a romantic way although you have already said NO and is causing some mental abuse. 

See the difference? In today’s world, both situations do exist. 

So what about unconditional love? Unconditional love means loving a person with no conditions. For example, you do not care about the person’s financial status or the person’s appearance because you will love their soul no matter what happens. Unconditional love is possible if the feeling is mutual or not. 

Basically, these three terms are very different and people often confuse them and it irks me. So if you do not understand the differences, I hope you do now! If you still don’t, you can always GOOGLE it. There are many articles on this topic and I have also done some reading before writing this article.

Again, I am not a love guru. Yes, I watch a lot of hindi movies. No, this is not inspired by Ae Dil Hai Mushkil (though I really liked that movie).

Would you like to share your thoughts with me on this topic? Or ask me any questions based on this article? Click here.

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Shit you went through this 2016.

Written by Sonia Singh

If you haven’t realized already, 2016 is coming to an end. I know! You’re not alone, I came to a sense of realization that 2017 is only a few days away. Do you know what this means? It is time for you to take out a brand new notebook and start of the first page with a list of new year’s resolutions. I do that too. A list of things that I intend to do, but ends up fading away after the first couple of months into the new year (okay, maybe a couple of weeks into the year).

Most of us look forward to the new year, but how many of us actually look back at the past few months of the current year? Social media has been implying that 2016 was a shit year for everybody.

So, how much of shit did you go through this 2016? (Count them)

1) Fell in love with someone you couldn’t have

2) Failed a test

3) Physically got injured

4) Mentally disturbed

5) Someone fell in love with you but you didn’t love them back

6) Got high on alcohol and ended up bad

7) Your pet died

8) Moved out home and had to adult

9) Placed into a society you could not fit in

10) Underappreciated for your effort

11) Discriminated because of your race

12) Discriminated by your own race

13) Discriminated because of your sex

14) Discriminated because of what you are studying in college/university

15) Body shamed

16) Been physically involved in a fight

17) Been used

18) Been sexually abused

19) Went through a break up

20) Lost an precious item

21) Dropped and cracked your phone screen

22) Dropped your grades,, whoops

23) Dropped yourself

24) Lost a family member/friend

Did you count them? Great. If you went through more shit and it is not in the list above, i’m truly sorry for not being able to put it up there and also because you had to go through it.

Next, take out a piece of paper and a pen. Tear the paper into little pieces and write 2-3 sentences on each shitty experience you went through.

Go on, i’ll wait.

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Are you done? Need more time? Feel like writing an essay instead? Lol okay.

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Finally! How do you feel? Are you tearing up? That’s a good sign. It shows that, you’re human and when shit happens, it is going to effect the way you feel. If you’re not crying then.. you’re just probably strong af.

Now, separate the papers into two groups. One, the experience that made you stronger. The other, the experience that made you feel weak or disturbs you in anyway.’

GET RID OF THE EXPERIENCES THAT MADE YOU FEEL USELESS/WEAK/UNWORTHY.

Here are a few ways:

1) Burn it with a candle. But for that, you’ll need a cake. Treat yo’self.

2) Take a shit and flush it down the toilet bowl.

3) Recycle it. Save the earth. #greenerandbetter2017

4) Or just reuse the paper by using the back of it to do your maths workings or whatever so you don’t fail another test in 2017.

5) Tear it into little pieces and you’ll have confetti! All you need now is food, guests and a party or all those confetti will go to waste. :(

And what about those experiences who made your stronger? Keep in your drawer, journal, wallet, or anywhere where you can have easy access to it. You know why? So that you can remind yourself how much of a strong person you are. 

There was a time you said you wanted to give up, that you wouldn’t make it. But hey, you lied. You’re right here reading this right now. The year is ending, wake up! Shit happened, that’s okay.

You handled 2016, and you WILL handle 2017.

Promise yourself that.

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Thoughts

Writers would probably say that words are the most powerful weapon used to get various things done. Yes indeed words are powerful, but it is your thoughts that form those words.

You create your thoughts. These thoughts then create feelings, which are often expressed through words, music, or any sort of art.

Something abstract, that exist only in your heart, mind and soul can be made concrete. Now that is the beauty of your thoughts.

If you can think, you can create.

This works two ways, just like everything else in this world. Positive and negative thoughts. At times, you need to be negative in order to know how does positive thinking feels like.

What goes on in your head, will control you and how you run your life. What you think about yourself will make you feel a certain way towards yourself and then influence your actions towards you and the people around you.

If you haven’t realized already, your thoughts or you can say your imagination can either be a gift or torture. It depends on how good you are controlling your thoughts, before it controls you.

Life doesn’t happen to you, it responds to you. It responds to how you feel and what you think about all the time.

This is something that I have been thinking about all week. Yes, my thoughts on thoughts. 

And I think we are all complex human beings, mind running in different directions, slowly branching out into good and bad thoughts, causing us to feel a certain way every day. It amazes me how complicated yet simple the mind is.

I guess it takes time for every individual to master the relationship they have between their thoughts and the vibes that they give and receive.

“The mind acts as an enemy for those who cannot control it.” -Bhagavad Gita (Ancient Hindu Text)

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We don't get sick to the songs we hear, we get sick of the memories attached to it.

S.S

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What I’ve Learned In The First Month Of University Life

Written by Sonia Singh.

It has been more than 30 days since I’ve been enrolled into a university and course of my choice.

Currently, I am living the hostel life even though my home is approximately 3-5 minutes away from campus. You might be wondering why not just stay at home? Life will be easier as I am able to get my mother’s home cooked food, I won’t have to do much other than focus on my grades. 

Unlike several university students who wish they were closer to home, I want to go through the hostel life. I chose the hostel life in order to be a more independent person. I like the idea of doing things myself, going through a certain amount of hardship and yet excelling in anything I give my commitment to. You don’t have to go far away from home in order to be an independent individual. The only person that is stopping you from being self-sufficient is you.

Making new friends was never a challenge to me as I am quite a sociable person. However, I realized that I am having trouble in expanding my social circle for the past few weeks. I do not let people in so easily, neither do I reveal myself completely to everyone around me. I find it difficult to ‘fit in’. If you know me personally, you would know me as the loud and opinionated girl who will never shut up. Though, it is strange because shutting up is what I have been doing best for the past few weeks. I have tried being around people of my age, seniors, people of the same and different race, yet I do not feel so comfortable being around them. Since it is just one month in university, I am convincing myself that it takes time finding the right group of friends and maybe it is okay to not fit in. 

Also, do not be shy to ASK if you are not sure about something since you are new to the people and environment. Unlike school, you will have to put yourself upfront if you would like to participate in anything. No one is going to handpick you or notice your talent immediately. You will have to show them what you are capable of in order to give your very best to whatever you participate in.

Being mixed race is a struggle especially when you are in university. Don’t get me wrong, I love being mixed race! I get to experience the best of both worlds. However at times, not being able to belong a hundred percent in a particular ethnic group is a challenge. Having to explain yourself to every single individual you meet can be really tiring. In case you didn’t know, I am half Punjabi and half Sindhi. At times, society doesn’t even know that the other half of me exist. I’ve never gotten such weird questions on my racial identity until I was enrolled in university. I get questions such as, “are you an international student?”, “are you Hindi?”, “Sindh is part of Pakistan, so you must be Pakistani?”.

The best question of all would be, “are you bollywood?”. Hell yes.

The more confusing part for me would be religion. But that is whole other topic that would take hours of discussion. I am a 19-year-old girl who does not know what to fill in forms when it comes to blank spaces such as ‘race’ and ‘religion’. I never felt the need to explain myself back in high school or matriculation but I am feeling it now. My body is just a host. My racial identity does not define my soul. When will my reflection show, who I am inside? Shout out to all the mixed raced people out there who spend years figuring out who they truly are and where do they belong. For those who aren’t mixed raced, well now you know how we feel.  

It has been only a month here in university. For now, the studying part doesn’t seem the hardest yet. I am aware that university life is not only about hitting the books, it is about how you handle daily situations. At times, daily situations might make you doubt yourself. You might question yourself if you are doing the right thing. Remind yourself that nothing easy is worth it. You’ve made it this far, it would be irrational to give up now. People will judge you in whatever you do. Since they love being the judge of everything, give them a performance and slay whatever that comes your way. At any given moment, you have the power to make a choice that will affect you in a certain way. True enough there will be some situations that you cannot control. But then again, i’ve always believed that you are the author of your life, you decide on how your story goes.

Cheers to the coming months of university life.

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Not all mistakes are bad. Sometimes, they can be blessings in disguise.

S.S

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How To Be Confident Before Entering University/College

Written by Sonia Singh

“University or College life is the best life you will ever have.” That is what you will hear from every working adult. This one sentence sends the chill down my spine. University life is a big deal. It is that time of your life where you either build or break yourself. Just like you, i’m really excited but nervous. Before you judge, do not assume that I am the guru of confidence, teaching you on how to be confident because let’s be real, we all have times in life where we fall and it is so hard to get up. In fact, you and I will both try these simple hacks in order to gain more confidence before we enter a whole new world of challenges.

Firstly, love yourself. Did you know that there is no one like you in this universe? I’m not sweet talking, i’m stating a very important fact. You inherit genetic traits from your mother and father that makes you different. That is why you cannot compare yourself to your siblings even though they are from the same parent as you are. This is because no two humans on this planet earth can have the same genes. The cells in your body are working hard every single day to keep you alive. Next time you feel unloved, think again. You are special and you deserve to feel special. However, do not expect other people to make you feel special. Self love or self worth can only come from within yourself. If you’re feeling a little down lately, there are many ways to love yourself. For example, read a good book that will educate you with a hot cup of coffee, or go for a walk in the park and embrace nature’s beauty. You can even go on a shopping spree! If sleeping helps you love yourself then sleep. As long as you feel good on the inside, you’ll be able to feel confident.

Next, wake up early. Sounds dreadful, but trust me it helps you feel much better about the day. Start your day early, not at 1pm. Wake up from 8-9am. This is a really good habit as it will buy you more time in a day. You will have more time to have your breakfast and finish certain task in the morning itself. Also, the weather at this time is really good and sends positive vibes. Practice this for 21 days and it will automatically form a habit. If you have less than 21 days, practice this for a week. This habit will be really useful in university or college as you might have morning classes. You definitely want to go to class on time, not looking like a hot mess. This will make you feel more confident and ready to own the day like a boss.

Besides that, some of us might have to stay in campus. In other words, you’ll have to move out and be independent. It takes a lot of confidence to convince yourself and your parents to trust you that living alone or with a roomate will be fine. It is advisable to make several check lists on the things you’ll need to pack from clothings to toiletries. If you are being enrolled into a education institution that will be away from your hometown, it is better to pack everything you need 4-5 days before you leave your hometown. This is really important in order to feel confident. Once you are done with your packing, you feel as though the time has come to start a new life. Also, packing early will buy you time to recall everything that you need.

Lastly, be a goal oriented person. It is now or never to achieve your dream. As long as you have a clear mindset on what goals you want to achieve in university or college, you will feel more confident because you know what you want and how to get it. Remember, a dream without a plan is a wish. A dream with a plan is a goal. That is why they say if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. The only person in your way to reach your goals is you. The sooner you understand the importance of having short or long term goals and a way to achieve them, the more confident you will become.

So here it is! A few simple steps to feel more confident before starting a new phase of life. I know that most of us already know these tricks to be more confident, but at times we could all use a little reminder (including me). You deserve whatever you desire. Set no limits to what you want to achieve. You can do it. And if anyone tries to bring down your confidence then remember that you are not some every day dal chawal. You are biryani.

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4 Times You Were Tired Of Being The Eldest

Being the eldest child has its ups and down. At times, being the eldest is so tiring and the worst part is that we don’t even get paid nor allowed to resign from this position or even a holiday from our responsibilities. Sad to say that our parents and younger siblings do not realize that being the eldest is hard.

Here are four times when you were tired of being the eldest;

1. Being the trial and error child, always.

Being the eldest child means going through all the failures and pain FIRST. We had to figure out everything ourselves! We had to make mistakes and learn from them. Yes, younger siblings also make mistakes but less mistakes compared to us. You know why? Because they have seen it all and they know what to do if they were ever in our position. This is why at times the middle child tends to be more “reliable” or “perfect”. Our parents also make us their lab rats. We get thrown around everywhere, as though we are some important experiment. Oh wait, of course we are an important experiment! We are the trial and error kids! Only then our parents will have the experience to raise our younger siblings the right way.

2. Getting blamed for being the bad influence.

According to most parents, everything bad that your siblings do is definitely your fault. They use the phone too much? Your fault, because you use the phone too. They aren’t good at maths? Your fault, you are bad at maths too and cannot teach them. They talk rudely to you? Your fault as well because you must have provoked them to do so! As the eldest, we already get blamed for our own mistakes and now we have to take the blame of someone elses mistakes? Not fair.

3. When your younger siblings EAT YOUR FOOD.

Stop. Just stop. This is the most furiating factor. At least leave our food alone! Respect the fact that you cannot eat our food without permission. This factor usually causes a war at home. Younger siblings have to stop taking advantage of us. This is what our parents have to say to us, “It is okay, the more you give the more you get.” Dear parents, no.

4. When your siblings team up and hate you.

Hate is a very strong word. But of course there are times where your siblings are totally against you and will try to make sure to put you down in front of your parents eyes in order to get anything they want. Whether it is to steal your food or debate on what tv programme to watch which leads to the TV remote as a battle weapon, your siblings will try to destroy you

At times, it hurts being the eldest. However, where there are disadvantages, there will be advantages too. Being the eldest sibling is hard, but it is an honor to serve the family and carry out responsibilities with pride. Also, can you imagine your world without your siblings? It might feel good for a few days, but eventually, you will miss them. You know why? Because you are human, you have a heart that is meant to love. You love your siblings, and you know that. 

Inspired by: Neha and Aryan. My lovely yet annoying siblings.

[beautyonapage]

You don’t need a long line of admirers behind you. You just need that one person in front of you that is always ready to protect you.

S.S (via beautyonapage)

[beautyonapage]

If there’s a little spark in you, Never extinguish it, It might become a flame, And finally become a fire, That burns with pride.

S.S (The spark in you)

[beautyonapage]

People will not treat you as well as you treat them because they don't have a heart as big as yours. And that's okay, you are the one with a bigger heart for a reason.

-S.S

[beautyonapage]

Life is a jigsaw puzzle, you gotta twist and turn the pieces, to find out what fits where, but in the end, it will result to be a masterpiece.

S.S  (via beautyonapage)