what 10+ years of separation does to a "divorced" couple
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what 10+ years of separation does to a "divorced" couple
co-AU creator: Folio Trn
Day 1: Fantasy AU Sparknotes
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damn bro is he really that funny
someone’s got a fever
Continuing to attempt art… getting ready for MHA Rarepair Week!! Are you doing stuff too?
See the event details here!
Who else called it a Koosh ball but had no reason to believe that it was legitimately named that?
“Kids shouldn’t have to know about that.”
Okay so actually letting a serious topic be vague and confusing is much more scary for a child than explaining it in calm language they can understand.
When you are in a safe place, explain the serious topic in a way the child can understand.
The fire alarm went off at school today because of a mistake, but your teachers did the right thing to take you outside to be sure it was safe.
Some people use wheelchairs because their legs don’t walk very well. It can happen because they are old and tired, or because they got hurt, or because they were born that way.
Your Uncle Jerod talked to mom and dad, and wants you to call her Aunt Kari now. We will call her Kari too, and we can all practice together if it takes some getting used to.
Anticipate age-appropriate fears the child might have so you can assuage those that are not a threat.
Yes, Kitty died at the vet, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not safe for Puppy to go to the vet.
Yes, Peyton and Jo are getting a divorce, but they are both still part of our family and love you very much.
Yes, Grandma has cancer, but cancer is not contagious, so you are not going to get cancer by visiting her.
Anticipate fears that are realistic, and give the child clear direction about what to do, and what happens next.
If someone asks you to get in their car without permission, find Mom, Mama, or a teacher and tell them right away. We will make sure you are safe.
If Sparky’s sickness makes him hurt very badly, we are going to take him to the vet and she will give him some medicine, and he will die, but then he won’t hurt any more. Because Sparky is very sick, we are going to spend some special time with him over the next few days.
If the fire alarm goes off at school again, follow the teacher’s directions. If the fire alarm goes off and you are somewhere alone, go outside, and ask a grownup to call 911.
Reassure the child that they’re safe and loved, validate their feelings, and see if they have follow-up questions. Give them the option to take space to process, or to stay near you to feel safe.
I’m sad about Sparky too. Do you think we could make his favorite peanut-butter treats, while we are spending special time with him?
I understand why Grandma’s cancer makes you feel angry. It doesn’t seem fair that people we love get sick. Would you like a hug?
You were worried about calling 911 if there’s not a grownup around. I wrote down some important things, like our address, and we can go over these together so you are ready if anything like that ever happens.
These things are principally the job of the child’s parent or guardian, but in some cases directing the child to that caregiver is difficult or impossible (parent refuses/confuses the child, parent is absent, child’s questions are specific and relevant to a situation their parent was not present for, etc.) so I think all adults should be prepared to have these conversations with kids.
This is all great advice, but I want to look back at that initial "shouldn't have to know about that" concept because I think people get stuck on it in a way that's very unhealthy.
The problem with "shouldn't have to know that" is, well. That's a nice theoretical and abstract statement, but the reality is that sometimes they do have to know that.
We live in a fallen world, and what that means is that you cannot have everything be perfect because something has already gone wrong, and pretending it hasn't just makes it worse.
Children, ideally, shouldn't need treatment for injuries, because we would like them not to be getting injured. However, they will get injured, and then we should treat the injuries. That they "shouldn't need to" doesn't really buy you anything!
Children shouldn't have to know what to do if someone tries to molest them, but some of them will have to know about that, and it's really important that those children do.
children shouldn't have bad happen to them, however, because bad stuff happens to children all the time, they should know what to do if and when it does.
guys look at this wonderful thing i just made
swug
dude when did swug get notes i wasnt here for it
I just remembered that this was a thing that was HILARIOUS in 2006 and apparently that was ten years ago now.
Old people: join with me in remembering how funny we found this on LiveJournal.
Young people: look at this lolrus, it’s so happy, it has a bucket.
And then they stealed away the bucket and we realised we had fucked up a perfectly good elephant seal and given it anxiety.
listen this vintage meme is high quality and i will hear nothing said against it
20 years. I am not happy about this.
I’m delighted at the bucket reappearing but dismayed at the passage of time
Happy 20 years to Lolrus and his bucket!
by Resonant
I haven’t read this essay in… twelve years? I think? But someone (ETA: that someone was @whetherwoman who deserves the credit) linked it today and rereading it was a) a treat and b) honestly really helpful. If you, like me, want to write smut but often find it difficult, this essay may help a LOT.
Reblogging this as I periodically do because it’s still relevant (especially with so many new writers coming into fandom spaces who are SO ENTHUSIASTIC but maybe need some pointers?) and because I myself need the reminder. Wherever you are, Res, I hope you’re doing great.
yay! Thanks, @leupagus !
The tips are on ao3 now, and I’m Res but on tumblr.
How To Write a Sex Scene (2619 words) by Resonant Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Original Work Rating: Explicit Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Additional Tags: Meta, Don’t copy to another site, Writing Summary: Four tips for creating better sex scenes in erotic romance.
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full version is on AO3 and Twitter! tumblr has been sliming the posts despite the mature content label 😭
The most important thing in a relationship is mutual understanding 🤝
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Um. I’ll just leave this here.
who is your favorite member of the gaang?
aang
katara
sokka
suki
toph
zuko
momo
appa
please reblog if you answer so we can get a wider range of answers.