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cardinallomelisprostate

booknítez my ray of sunshine

eternalgirlscout

it's aulding absolang syne

oodlenoodleroodle

I’m getting fed up with this whole “feminism as an identity” thing. Time for “feminism as an action.”

So instead of asking “can a feminist do x?” ask “is doing x a feminist action!”

Can a feminist take her husband’s last name? Mu. Null. Question un-valid, please un-ask question.

Is taking your husband’s last name a feminist action? No it isn’t. It doesn’t challenge the patriarchy in anyway, it is the status quo thing to do, it is what is expected of women, and it carries a lot of historical baggage about ownership and shit like that.

But that’s okay, your life choices don’t have to be 100% dictated by your politics unless you want them to. And it’s okay to really want to take his name while recognizing that you also want to do the feminist thing and keep your own, and it’s okay to feel conflicted and have a hard time making the choice. But no more of this enabling “as long as I made the choice myself it is a feminist choice” -bullshit. Own your choices, even the ones that aren’t informed by your feminist politics. You are still a human being and people do shit that contradicts their politics and even interests all the time. Just stop pretending that everything you do is feminist because you are a feminist, that’s not how it works.

hauntedpamplemousse

^^this is why bell hooks challenges us to say “i support feminist movement” or “i support feminist action” rather than “i am a feminist.” she says that once we say “i am a feminist” and make “feminist” an identity rather than a political movement or a set of beliefs and the actions resulting from those beliefs, we can become complacent and think the battle is over.

garlic-slut

People get caught up in trying to make things feminist, and I consider it the fallout of choice feminism. Not every action taken by a woman is a feminist one, but that doesn’t make it inherently anti feminist. Stop trying to make everything feminist to validate it, you’re not helping anyone.

kat-rose-griffith

Bridgerton season 3

bobbiedebruyn

i’ve only had michaela stirling for two minutes (two hours) but if anything happens to her i’m killing everyone in this room and then myself

thorinlandscaping

waaaaa they took away my male lead in the Only Straights Show from 2-3 seasons from now and made him a girl for some sort of WOKE AGENDA they're changing my badly written misogynist book series woe is me we need more straight rep!!! this is because i like their story not for any other reason!!! i'm bi as well!!! more straight romance!!!! no nonconformity!!!! the books!!!!!!!

itspileofgoodthings

“No one could feel sorry for Swift. It would be kind of vulgar. But watching her, in that big room, huddled up in a blanket, I felt an incredible sadness - loneliness, even - about her.”

— Jo Ellison, Taylor Made for Vogue